Arosa:

tivta:

Do you thank god for blessings? Then why not humans? Remember the golden rule' do unto others as you want them to do unto you.'

pro01: Nothing wrong with helping one's sisters, aunties, nieces, and other female relatives without expectations of gratitude. As for 'external' females, there is also nothing wrong with helping (older) women or sexually unappealing women in some form of distress, especially when children are involved. For the former, family is always family, and for the latter, it always feels good to be humanitarian.

HOWEVER, it is SHEER FOOLISHNESS to render any significant assistance to any unrelated nubile female without smashing her kongo before or during the process. Don't even bother to help them 'because of God'. Even God Himself would shake His head in pity at your muguness. There are millions of people out there (distressed families, sick children with hapless mothers, poor GUYS in dire need of employment, your own relatives in dire need of help, etc) who are better qualified to receive your help 'because of God' than one random nubile babe with an overbloated sense of entitlement.

Kanwulia: Because familiarity aka 'see finish' ALWAYS breeds contempt!
Ask dati una Jesus Christ wetin Judasky do am!
I nor dey near NAIJA WOMEN O!!!!
Sam-Sam!!!!
Tufiakwa!!!!

Kpor!
Kpor!
Kpor!

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bigheart2013:


Thanks and God bless you for addressing my questions. I want to keep helping but asked the questions to know how to avoid the pitfall of others. I have a little 26yrs old sister. After the death of our mom, being the last born and only girl, she became the queen of the family. I saw her through university in Nigeria. She's in Canada now doing her masters at almost $36,000 USD. Being the oldest son I sold one house, and going through 'hell' now to pay her tuition in Canada. I just don't want to ever think she will be ungrateful to me one day after this. I haven't even married because of carrying the burden of others. Maybe my expectations from them is high. I just don't want to regret all this one day. This is why I'm asking experienced people for guide. I got some points already. God bless you all.

obadiah777: so you sold a house to get $36,000 to pay for your sister to get her masters degree in canada ? are you crazy ? you sold something that is solid for something flimsy and stupid. masters degree for $36,000? wtf is that ? some piece of paper saying you spent 12 months learning rubbish from oyinbo uni abi ? yo mama go swear for you in her grave

Khalessi: Can these jobless douchebags on nairaland stop making the Nigerian female look bad!!!! This nonsense points you've just listed ain't exclusive to Nigerians ladies only, people from all over the world do it.

bigheart2013:

You may be right, but she's the 'Queen' of the house. Our late mom would have sold even her clothes to see her through her dreams...in my part of Nigeria a family does not joke with a first daughter because she is the chief Ambassador of the family, and plays a vital role in the family. My late mom would have even been more disappointed wherever she is if I didn't do that. That's the only sister I have and we can't let her ambitions go to drains, or have a man disrespect/ take advantage of her because she lacks..My mom will weep in her grave for that.

bigheart2013: Update1: I wish we don't turn this into bashing of Nigerian women. I asked 3 specific questions to see how we can train the mind of some sisters to see the benefits of being grateful, to teach brothers how to give the right way, and how to handle disappointments when they come. I pray we focus on that to make this thread more constructive.

luvola: @ op - the thumb rule is never expect a return whenever you help a lady ..that is the fact !! Assume i approach you to help me get a job , you will not but if a lady should approach you , you wil quickly help the person.. I need a job seriously : course - accounting , grade : 2.1 . Finished nysc 4 months ago , email - olaklives05@yahoo.com. Expecting your beep. Thanks and God bless

bigheart2013:

This is a blog for Nigerians, who discuss issues peculiar to Nigerians...please go back and check the name 'Nairaland' . You absolutely have the rights to spend more time on foreign blogs. But if you wana 'waste' your time here, be ready to hear Nigerian gists. We are Nigerians, and discuss Nigerian stuff, sometime not necessarily what you may like to hear. Our great country recently passed 'Freedom Of Information Bill'. We are free at last to air our views without intimidation, thanks to GEJ ! Remain blessed!

buoye1: Help and never expect anythin in return!!Cikena

Ngokafor: @op i think there's something seriously wrong with you,worse with touts that agreed with you..
...so being ungrateful has now been narrowed down to gender??...you guys really need to grow up and act your various old ages you idiots!....the fact that you are idle doesnt mean you should be stupid.
... you gave few examples and viam!, you and your cheerleaders(mostly kids incapable of wiping their a***s after pooing how much more helping anyone) concluded in your pea-brains that most Nigerian women are ungrateful...ill-mannered twats always quick to insult women and girls like they dont have mothers,sisters,aunts....

....however,i find solace in the fact that my brothers,father and my man are not n a way like most of you..that i am eternallly grateful for!

Brymo: calm down,women r d most grateful personality,in d whole wrd.

appelmoieddy:
On the other hand Maybe she faced repatriation and hoped u'll understand

kokoye:

Answer to 1: That's the way most of them are wired. Ask God.

Answer to 2: Help and dont look back ...dont expect anything in return, including appreciation. Do it for God.

Answer to 3: Refer to the answer above (for question 2).


You're welcome

bigheart2013:

My sister, from your rant bolded here you have betrayed some level of dignity and decency educated ladies are known for. Decent ladies don't fight in the public no matter the provocation...your dignity must stands out at all times! Please No insults on people even if u disagree! Put in some thoughts before typing next time. Millions are reading. The post clearly said "Most Nigerian Ladies (Not all)". There was no generalization.