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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:53pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GoodFaith: It's almost impossible to help without expecting one form of reward or the other, unless you're helping strangers or people you do not expect.to meet again. Even then, at least you know they would pray for you and wish you well for helping them. that counts for something Heck, even God expects you to praise him (thanksgiving) both when He helps you and when He refuses to help you. That's why the Bible says, "in all things, give thanks". If Almighty God expects something in return for helping (and even not helping) us His children, how much more mere mortals who are fundamentally selfish and self-centred by nature? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 7:54pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Ishilove:well maybe he had to ask cuz this guy was not saying anything after he got the job. after you get the job you should be the one hinting that i really appreciate this gesture and i am going to get you a gift with some of my first salary for this kind gesture of yours. this guy sounds just like every other ungrateful and entitled woman spoken about in this thread. shyttt someone gets you a job ? thats a life changing incident. you owe the guy bigggggg timeeeeeeee. and he is here bitching about the guy asking him for ten percent ? ingrate 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Mantiza(m): 7:55pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Emzybrown] How can i stay out of women?? LMAO How? BUY OTAPIAPIA drink it and die. Goat |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by olubukola07(f): 8:01pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
@OP, nawa 2 u o. U mean all these scenario does not occur between men helping fellow men? Showing gratitude does not have anything 2 do with gender but it all depends on a person's personality |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 8:03pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: [b]in the ideal world ? yes. this is not an ideal world. nobody owes you nothing in this world. if someone is generous enough to help you out, you have to have the decency to reach back and touch that person. anyone who you help and they just move on without reaching back to thank you and reciprocate in any kind of way ? that is a wicked person. this guy is a wicked person because he had to wait for his friend to demand 10 percent. if someone got me a job, i would not even wait for the person to demand anything from me. it would be in my heart to buy the person a generous gift with part of my first cheque to show that i really appreciated what he did for me. anyone who does not do that ? thats a wicked cold person. life is all about favors. you do me a favor ? i owe you one. nothing in life is free. unless of course the person is a family member then thats different. now of course if the person helped is in no position to help back then a thank you is enough. but if i got you a lucrative contract, would you not reach out to me ? its how life is. lets quit pretending that people do stuff for free. [/b]and he finkz i'll read dis. *spits on this part of his* |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:03pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Just because you help somebody does not mean they ought to be forever indebted to you! While common courtesy demands a simple thank you when someone offers you help, but i find that most Nigerians expect you to remain indebted to them! phuckin bull-crap!.....This is one of the reasons i despise Nigerians.....when they offer help (no matter how small or inconsequential), they expect something in return! It defeats the whole purpose of offering help! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Ishilove: 8:07pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Another woman bashing thread. Nonsense |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by drnoel: 8:15pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013: Sorry to bother good nairalander again with another thread back-to-back. Please help me solve this puzzle. Why is that each time someone helps most (not all) Nigeria woman it ends up either in a drama, scandal, enmity or chaos?It has nothing to do with Nigerian women but women in general. Also those people that have problems are those that expect something in return from people they helped. My advice, if u feel bountiful and want 2 help someone please do but do so without expecting nothing in return, do so with a clean heart. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:15pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
some of you were not raised right. i remember my first ever summer job. this guy, a family friend, his dad was one of the general managers at guiness oba akran avenue ikeja. the man got 3 of us a summer job at guinness. 3 month job. our first salary, all 3 of us, our mums collected all the money from us. combined all the money and went to buy the man a wrist watch to thank him for getting us the job. thats just how i was raised. keep in mind this man was stinking rich and did not need the wrist watch 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Gnexplore: 8:19pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Women or men don't ever offer help you expect appreciation or 'thank you' 90% of the time it NEVER happen, even family members... .telling from experience, bro! Since you are referring to women..... Take Comfort in Stephen HAWKIN experience.. Stephen Hawking admits he finds women 'a complete mystery http://www.theguardian.com/science/2012/jan/04/stephen-hawking-women-complete-mystery ALLWAYS HELP WHERE YOU CAN, YOU WILL BE REWARDED DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY That life!!!! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GentleMimi: 8:22pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Tiiihahahakikikikhahahaha! Abegi! Guys dey here dey vent! You are the cause of ur problems.If u like para frm now till 2090,many of una go still fall mugu today! The babe will eat u for lunch....and u'll come here buzzing into my dainty ears! But,jokes apart! Most Naija guys dn't know what ''no strings attatched'' means when they are generous.They give u #100,they expect a kiss.#500,cuddle.#1000.........okay.U vent and rave,ask urself why u were helping out in the first place? So that she wld be eternally grateful and dedicate her body to u as a sumptious sacrifice? Guys,get over it! A smart guy gives wisely wifout high expectations.The mugus/magas will always expect,and when they dn't get it,they come to NL to pour out their fustrations.Get real! All these ones forming ''i will never help a girl in my life again'' na wash! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 8:23pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: hmmn. [s]Women of Nigerian(Nigerians' women)[/s] women of Nigeria(nigeria's women). Are you serious with this? |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 8:29pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Arosa:more dan serious son |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by RealSleek(m): 8:30pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I dnt knw wt they(women) always feel lyk..maybe they think all priviledge is their God given right...they be like" we are weaker vessel, ladies first...bla bla"....the most annoying part is when a lady is tryin to use her charms on me to do stuffs e.g like making face or talk slow or touchin my laps , and when u obliged them, u will be called mumu behind ur back....The eyes of mercy for women has gone blind tay tay.... To the extent dt if I see a woman with a flat tire on the road..I will jst whistle pass her...Nonsense! Nigerian girls..thunder fire all of una 2 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 8:31pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
pro01: I have done favor for a person from different Country I would have made 1500 from this dude Did I need the money at the time YES He was going to pay for the photocopies of the documents, I was help him with I told him no, that I am doing it for completely free, I paid About a year later, I think he saw me through his window , I was doing some voluntary work , On my way out I got a call from him, asking he if I need any thing from his country I said NO, That my help was free I am glad that he has his family now That was the last time I heard from him I have paid for gas for people, I did not ask for phone number Over the year the lord has bless me too |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Ishilove: 8:31pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: well maybe he had to ask cuz this guy was not saying anything after he got the job. after you get the job you should be the one hinting that i really appreciate this gesture and i am going to get you a gift with some of my first salary for this kind gesture of yours. this guy sounds just like every other ungrateful and entitled woman spoken about in this thread. shyttt someone gets you a job ? thats a life changing incident. you owe the guy bigggggg timeeeeeeee. and he is here bitching about the guy asking him for ten percent ? ingrateI get your point. The thing is the guy is supposed to know that he ought to appreciate his helper. If someone helps me get a job, heck, I'll buy that person a bag of rice if possible. You ought to know that you should show appreciation. However, if you as the helper is not appreciated, I feel you shouldn't ask to be appreciated. Rather, leave that person to God. He sees every hidden and open thing and He will recompense accordingly |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 8:36pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: [b]in the ideal world ? yes. this is not an ideal world. nobody owes you nothing in this world. if someone is generous enough to help you out, you have to have the decency to reach back and touch that person. anyone who you help and they just move on without reaching back to thank you and reciprocate in any kind of way ? that is a wicked person. this guy is a wicked person because he had to wait for his friend to demand 10 percent. if someone got me a job, i would not even wait for the person to demand anything from me. it would be in my heart to buy the person a generous gift with part of my first cheque to show that i really appreciated what he did for me. anyone who does not do that ? thats a wicked cold person. life is all about favors. you do me a favor ? i owe you one. nothing in life is free. unless of course the person is a family member then thats different. now of course if the person helped is in no position to help back then a thank you is enough. but if i got you a lucrative contract, would you not reach out to me ? its how life is. lets quit pretending that people do stuff for free. [/b] I have done favors without expectations At the same time the good lord has look out for me i need to do more good to the people that need it If it is lunch for homeless person Yes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Ishilove:leave the person to God ? . oh well. people need to adopt my way of living. i dont accept gifts or help from anyone because i would feel indebted to you. anything i accept from you i would offer a service for it. i dont accept free gifts, birthday cards or anything from anyone. thats the only way you have freedom in this life. 4 Likes |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Sike(m): 8:39pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
It's in their Blood. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Gnexplore: 8:40pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: some of you were not raised right. i remember my first ever summer job. this guy, a family friend, his dad was one of the general managers at guiness oba akran avenue ikeja. the man got 3 of us a summer job at guinness. 3 month job. our first salary, all 3 of us, our mums collected all the money from us. combined all the money and went to buy the man a wrist watch to thank him for getting us the job. thats just how i was raised. keep in mind this man was stinking rich and did not need the wrist watch Lucky you.... your mom is among that small PROGRESSIVE number. There are very greatiful people and when you very close, in there lives, they are successful and happy. Guess why MOST SELF MADE MILLONIERS have charity organization.... most ..not all 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by WackyJ1(m): 8:41pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Ngokafor: @op i think there's something seriously wrong with you,worse with touts that agreed with you..I keep telling you, you don't have sense. Ngokafor:See your rubbish excuse. Where were you when this topic https://www.nairaland.com/1497290/ladies-beware-everyman-suspect/ Reached front page from your fellow lady no less. Because you thought it was sexist and condescending, you went emotional and started ranting like a rabid do.g and your logic center just went dead. Next time read twice and don't rush to reply based on emotions. 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 8:43pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
lirusehn: more dan serious son Dude it's standard English to say Nigerian women. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:44pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
GoodFaith:helping the defenseless and homeless and disabled and downtrodden is a different issue brah. this thread is about helping abled people |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Kelyto: 8:45pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
sometyms after helping som. Ungrateful,i jus feel lyk beggin God to make my heart harder.......some pple can be soo ungrateful dat u regret helping den in d firat place and concludin not to help any oda person in such situation....tho its not jus d women,men are also involved in dis trait....i tink d solution is while helping,do it as if u r blinfolded,lyk expectin nufn in return.....and wen u feel som1 u helped is ungrateful,try to put urselve in dat one's shoe and imagine wat u would av done in such situation...perharps,u mit see dat person u feel is ungrateful is really not.... |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Arosa(m): 8:46pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
chess guru: Heard of a case a man gave a lady a lift one good morning on his way to work. This one happened in glamour girls. Nollywood. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by Nobody: 8:47pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
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Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GoodFaith: 8:51pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: helping the defenseless and homeless and disabled and downtrodden is a different issue brah. this thread is about helping abled peopleI understand Help is help Over the time I have learn to help people with out expectation I remember speak to a lady that was so mad because the Christmas gift she gave to her friend Cost her way more than I friend gave her I told her even to expect equal return of gift from people After the talk, she told me thanks |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by lirusehn(m): 8:53pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
Arosa:i wud rather u looked at wot fluency demands |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by GentleMimi: 8:54pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
RealSleek: I dnt knw wt they(women) always feel lyk..maybe they think all priviledge is their God given right...they be like" we are weaker vessel, ladies first...bla bla"....the most annoying part is when a lady is tryin to use her charms on me to do stuffs e.g like making face or talk slow or touchin my laps , and when u obliged them, u will be called mumu behind ur back....The eyes of mercy for women has gone blind tay tay.... To the extent dt if I see a woman with a flat tire on the road..I will jst whistle pass her...Nonsense!You get sisters,abi? Female cousins,nieces,female friends.....u go born female children,baah? Issokay.When thunder don fire all of them finish,we go begin fear for ourselves.But for now i fear for u b'cos thunder don dey come ur side oooooo! |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by ChiSun27(m): 8:55pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
I help because I want to not because I expect anything from them...same thing with my fellow guys. I don't need anybody's thank you or appreciation of any kind to be blessed. Cause on several occasions I have been helped countlessly by people I never expected such gestures from. Just help and forget. |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by tomtyte02(m): 8:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
obadiah777: but you sef you take style stingy sha. so this man actually got you a job. meaning without him you would have no pay, right ? and he is asking you for 10 percent. so what is the big deal ? if you are not comfortable giving him cash buy something with the ten percent like an iphone or something. you crazy mahfukaz i bet if your pastor asked you for 10 percent tithe to praise God for getting you that job you would be so happy to give it to him. chei. naija people shaThanks dude. But i had d idea of buying a gift for him. He took it all up as if he owned or worked for d money. I tell you dere r better ways of asking for an appreciation. Not by askin a 10% pay off straight up. Its rather absurd. 1 Like |
Re: Helping Most Nigerian Women End In Drama: Why? by luvola(m): 8:57pm On Nov 04, 2013 |
bigheart2013:the reason i gave you the aforedmentioned email was because i do not use the e-mail i used in registering on nairaland again .. The valid one is olaklives05@yahoo.com . With respect to experience , i said earlier in my post that i recently finished my Nysc therefore i have little/no experience for now. |
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