Midehi:

hmmmm....this is a critical case, i pray not to have this kind of situation. Amen.

amen lol

freecocoa:
Dude am not picking on you, I even try to avoid you as you people don't hesitate to call names.

Well, it didn't come off as a joke and I've heard people say that a lot, so I was just wondering.

Hmmm.....interesting , humor me again.
I never called you any names but you and I know that you have this great dislike for my persona in here, even as the feeling isn't mutual.
Well, whatever .

nnafather:
Yes. BIG Yes. Inshort, marry extra two at once and join the first one to make them three. Pump them everyday until them belle blow. Relax and begin to harvest. You are equally doing a philanthropic work by reducing the number of desperately unmarried women in the society.

Muslims you "LIKE" this. This is bad advise. Pass this comment to joke section

VickyRotex:


I dont think theyre pushing the blame on you. Lots of us here know that you usually post people's story. I knew it was one of the stories.

They are using the word "You" doesnt mean theyre referring to you. They are only referring to the content of the post.

Or better still, modify your post and state it there, to avoid other blames.

lol thanks dear

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Bro. where have you kept the teachings of Deeper Life Bible Church?
Have u thought of life after death?,
Have you thought of vanity upon vanity?
Have you forgotten the vow you made with The Holy Bible, "for better for worse"?
Did you think God is not seeing your tears?
And did you think God is not seeing ur wife's sleepless nights & tears?
Are u to tell God when to give u Children?
U have waited for 14yrs, does that means God cannot still bless u with children?
I AND MY TWIN BROTHERS WAS GIVEN BIRTH AFTER 18 YEARS OF MY PARENTS' MARRIAGE, GOD CAN DO SAME FOR YOU

Wait let me tell you something in case......:

****The way the girl made "amorous advances" towards you is the way she will still do to other men, mark my words****
**** Don't Chase Ur wife away, u will regret your actions soon****
****Don't marry that girl, she's not your wife, if you marry her, soon, she will have miscarriage and will never bear you a child, she was sent to ruin your life, your miracle is almost here ***
**** Go for adoption, your biological children will come soon****

Remain blessed

one reason u should confirm ur woman pregnant before married

VickyRotex:


lol
You cant be dead sure. And ofcourse, It sure makes a lot of difference.

It is possible to date someone over a long period of time without misfiring. But even at that, why stress yourself to fire in the 1st place?. Why stress yourself over family planning when you can equally abstain, and do your family planning when married?.

Remember the word says "Family" planning.

Its good to have a knowledge of these stuffs, (i.e FT, and FP) and use it when necessary.

Let's not deceive ourselves here by trying to sound 'holier than thou' on this thread.
If we pick 10 lovers at random not even upto 1 is abstaining from sex while in a relationship.So?

Op I believe you were impatient here.In my parish last Monday,a woman brought a son she conceived after 25 years.And I was like yes really God can do all things.Luke 1:37,matt19:26,numb14:28

Midehi:

hmmmm....this is a critical case, i pray not to have this kind of situation. Amen.

That's exactly where the op is headed to .

Truckpusher:
Let's not deceive ourselves here by trying to sound 'holier than thou' on this thread.
If we pick 10 lovers at random not even upto 1 is abstaining from sex while in a relationship.So?

No one is sounding "holier than thou" tho

Not even up to 1? Maybe 1/2 then

wait upon d Lord cs thousands of yrs in d eyes of man is like seconds b4 God

ProphetUdeme:
they had love escapades many times. So its obviously certain that he is the father of the unborn child.

Listen to yourself, what if the Secretary was also having love escapades with another man at the same time she was having with him..... Men eeh, in one other thread just recently i tot u guyz established dat even married men shuld start having paternity tests done on dia kids because Nigerian wives wr not to b trusted anymore, now because (in ur words oo) ... "they had love escapades many times its obviously certain that he is the father of the unborn child" ok ooo

Empress2014:
from the way you potray the story,your secretary looks desperate, don't send your wife out because of her ,after all she knows you already have a wife before getting pregnant for you, so her idea of not wanting to be a second wife shouldn't be welcomed, try and calm her(secretary) to give you some time so that she won't end up terminating the preg or threaten to terminate it...your wife might pack out herself if she finally knows about this,thats a different case but if she doesn't move out, then u are already a polygamist....Mr Man,forget religion for this case o,u knew u were a deeper life before screwing someone else, no need to ask us again sef,u already have two wives...Congratulation

A lady!!!?
So shall it b unto u as u've said

VickyRotex:


No one is sounding "holier than thou" tho

Not even up to 1? Maybe 1/2 then

Well, like you earlier said people should be enlightened and sensitized on the need for fertility test during their formative age and as young adults at least every three years.

I don't want to hear stories that touches - My people said that a man that wants to look for his dark goat must start before nightfall.

[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=29897097][/quote]

You should be discussing with your wife and not us

Glomoni:



Bro. where have you kept the teachings of Deeper Life Bible Church?
Have u thought of life after death?,
Have you thought of vanity upon vanity?
Have you forgotten the vow you made with The Holy Bible, "for better for worse"?
Did you think God is not seeing your tears?
And did you think God is not seeing ur wife's sleepless nights & tears?
Are u to tell God when to give u Children?
U have waited for 14yrs, does that means God cannot still bless u with children?
I AND MY TWIN BROTHERS WAS GIVEN BIRTH AFTER 18 YEARS OF MY PARENTS' MARRIAGE, GOD CAN DO SAME FOR YOU

Wait let me tell you something in case......:

****The way the girl made "amorous advances" towards you is the way she will still do to other men, mark my words****
**** Don't Chase Ur wife away, u will regret your actions soon****
****Don't marry that girl, she's not your wife, if you marry her, soon, she will have miscarriage and will never bear you a child, she was sent to ruin your life, your miracle is almost here ***
**** Go for adoption, your biological children will come soon****

Remain blessed

Nice one brother but be a good testimony to your parents for waiting 18yrs ooooooh or do the needful

elnino3:
Two quick questions
1. Is it wrong for a woman to marry a second husband if the first one cannot impregnate her?
2. How are you sure the baby is truly yours?

Number one question. So on point.

Most times in Africa, if there's no child in a marriage, it is the women' fault, which is why they are always the ones in church praying and praying for fruit of the womb when sometimes, the ground is fertile but the seed has refused to sprout.

Assuming the problem is ur wife's Mr Udoh, remember to carry out a paternity test as soon as the child is born, to avoid tstories that touch. You are engaging in adultery. How would u feel if ur wife did that? Now u r asking if it is right to marry a second wife. I'm sure you already know the answer. Just want to see if u will get small moral support. Smh. If the child is urs, congratulations.

Op so you attend Deeper life and you are busy galivanting with other women
That aside
Have you exhausted all fertility aid options?
Ivf ,surrogacy are all options
If you really love your wife you wont even consider marriage to some olosho
Nuff said

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My friend go n read ur bible. The bible allows a man to marry either one wife, 2 wives or as many wives as possible.

[quote author=ProphetUdeme post=29897097][/quote]
This is my advice to you
If you met your wife a virgin, have children outside, and seek for her understanding. But if she is not, have your children and flaunt them. She can go to hell!
No one should quote me pls. That's what I ll do if I were in op's shoes

elnino3:
Two quick questions
1. Is it wrong for a woman to marry a second husband if the first one cannot impregnate her?
2. How are you sure the baby is truly yours?

Exactly at question 2, you must have told her about your childlessness in a desperate tone
Don't father a bastard

As for throwing your wife of fourteen yrs away
Karma will definitely catch up with you

Give your wife the support she needs, don't marry that woman or you will totally regret it, I feel she is evil and will cause you pain.
Tell your in laws to stay out of this that you can handle it, they should not meddle in every of your affairs

ur mumulity nr get mate

moca:
Nonsense!
Assuming u r the one who couldnt give ur wife belle nko?
Can she go outside?
Can she tell d world her boo is impotent?
Warped and myopic nigerian mentality.
What happened to adoption?
Jeez!
What is wrong with these folks. SMH

I can give you a pass for falling into temptation once, and subsequent 'jolly-jolly', but to think about sending your "loving wife" away for an "olosho" . . . I have very bad words to call you . . .

For a reason or the other, stories like the OP's story still abound only in the sense of pleasing people. We believe others would be judgemental against us because we do same to others. A child is a child and especially in this world where many a child still lack basic love and care.
These steps could be taken for couples yet to get children.

1. Get the results from a certified fertility specialist. To be sure make it two specialists.
2. https://www.nairaland.com/1867747/simply-applied-method-getting-pregnant could be the simple answer for healthy couples.
3. Should the hubby be infertile, insemination for the wife could be done.
4. If wifey is infertile, sperm could be gotten from the husband and a female egg donor provide eggs which could be implanted in the wife.
5. If the wife has a problem with keeping a pregnancy, the services of a surrogate mother could be employed for womb rentage.
6. If both are unhealthy childwise, they could chose whom to love via adoption.

All these does not disprove the place of prayer but better alternative than what the our deeper lifer did.

elnino3:
Two quick questions
1. Is it wrong for a woman to marry a second husband if the first one cannot impregnate her?
2. How are you sure the baby is truly yours?

ma bruVa .. Chai! U ehn .well someHow you're right

You have committed adultery by impregnating a lady that is not your wife.

You should be seeking forgiveness from God than talking trash.

From your post, you have not married her yet, but you had being sleeping with her for a long time.

You are the cause of your problem.

Marry them both. Call it any name you like, polygamy or whatever. Prophets did it in your Bible and God sanctioned it. Read about Sarah on one part and Hannah on the other. There's nowhere in the Bible that forbids you from polygamy. I think the passages even favour polygamy over monogamy. Monogamous marriage is simply western idea indoctrinated into Christianity , don't be slavish about it, it's never part of your religion.

Dont send ur wife out. Wait until ur sec give birth to d child. Do a DNA test, some ladies are very desperate. If d Child is Urs, then adopt it. Tell ur sec dat she kno U av a wife b4 catching fun wit U. What if d pregnancy later had miscarriage or d child later die. U need Godly Wisdom here bro. What God has join togeda, let no barrenness or secretary put u both asunder. Be spiritually minded, if u die today, do u want to go to hell. We came dis world empty handed so empty shall we returned. Afta she give d birth, plead wit ur wife to adopt d baby & seek her forgiveness. And also both of u shuld go for deliverance @ Mountain of Fire. She ll av her own children for U after d Curse has been broken. Gudluck sir. 08060980010 for more counselling.

Truckpusher:
Well, like you earlier said people should be enlightened and sensitized on the need for fertility test during their formative age and as young adults at least every three years.

I don't want to hear stories that touches - My people said that a man that wants to look for his dark goat must start before nightfall.

Yea, very important!

Lol. Nice proverbial quote Btw.

elnino3:
Is it wrong for a woman to marry a second husband if the first one cannot impregnate her?

1. To be honest I don't see anything wrong with this. ..sure adultery is involved but I think if the man can't give her a child she should be allowed to a man who can

@elninos3 i love ur comment,my opinion is that man is still a boy ,cos no family members pushes a man around,secondly that man isnt a deeper life,tutored by daddy kumuyi, i doubt ur salvation experience,thirdly u dont love ur wife as u profess