freecocoa:
What sort of mentality is this? What if they haven't tried to get pregnant? Are you saying people can't control themselves or what?

philfrey08:
U say you are a Christian. That means you swore an oat in church to be faithful, loyal and honest to your wife and to love her for better or worse.

You didn't keep the sacred vow, you cheated on her and God wouldn't b happy with you.

Talk to your wife about it, she can adopt the child as hers. Be a real man and show her how much you love her. It would b bad to leave her after 14yrs.

chiteny:


Strictly prohibits ko. Strictly allowance ni.

Now u remember you are a Strong christian. but when u were busy frolicking with another woman who is not your wife you did not know.

mtcheeeew!

VickyRotex:


Ehn ehn, clever you right?

What's the meaning of this below?



Talk about fertility test, yea that's fine. Heard of it too. That's the reason why we need more awareness on that part. Lots of people dont know about it, and some just count it as irrelevant. Well truth is, I've never thought about doing it too.

Crude test run? That can come in the marriage. Most important thing is to do the test you advised.

ProphetUdeme:
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[quote author=Empress2014 post=36623643] from the way you potray the story,your secretary looks desperate, don't send your wife out because of her ,after all she knows you already have a wife before getting pregnant for you, so her idea of not wanting to be a second wife shouldn't be welcomed, try and calm her(secretary) to give you some time so that she won't end up terminating the preg or threaten to terminate it...your wife might pack out herself if she finally knows about this,thats a different case but if she doesn't move out, then u are already a polygamist....Mr Man,forget religion for this case o,u knew u were a deeper life before screwing someone else, no need to ask us again sef,u already have two wives...Congratulation

ifeoluwasegun:
Bluntly said NOT RIGHT!

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But now that you're into it already, I'll just advise that you always see your dear wife, your matrimonial first wife the mother if the house.

See her as owning everything you have, so the thoughts of sending her out won't come into fruition.

As for your lucky secretary, she's just a bearer. See her as a contractual bearer of your property. And after the contract successfully completed, terminate her appointment in and out of your office, but don't forget to compensate her heavily for that favour she's doing. E no easy to nurture sperm to foetus now.

Perhaps if you need the second child later nd U can't still not get it from home, you can still contact her IF AVAILABLE to renew your durable contract. Now this time, don't forget to put duration, possibly you can have a paperwork too, to help your family...all these with the direct consent of your Matrimonial woman!

My Candid Advise!

VickyRotex:
Since you said someone is pregnant for you, (ofwhich you cant be so sure the baby is yours) especially as it involves a secretary who already knows you're married.



Can you also allow your wife test run with another man outside?

#SURULERE

Midehi:

guy you nailed it, if i was the wife, i will gladly accept all you laid out here, i will thank the secretary for work well done...but the man should stand by the wife o cos traditionally at the end of everything the mantle might fall on the secretary cos she bare the apparent heir.

Truckpusher:
I was only messing around with VickyRotex nau.

Person no fit play again with una?

But on a second thought, why are you always trying to paint me bad all the time always picking out comments that was clearly a joke and highlighting it in a very bad manner? Why , what have I done to you ?

ProphetUdeme:
they had love escapades many times. So its obviously certain that he is the father of the unborn child.

Truckpusher:
Well, well! If you're dead sure that you'll end up with someone for life - what difference does it make ? After all people are doing it and even getting pregnant everyday.
I hope you're aware that it is not possible to date someone for over a long period of time without misfiring ?
No matter how clever you think you are unless you did a comprehensive family planning even without marriage on your mind - Abeg don't do pills o , it will finish you even before you started .

skyfullofstars:
Guys, have you noticed that the man who post it doesn't own the story? He copied and pasted it from somewhere else. So if I were you, I would stop saying "you" when answering...

Truckpusher:
The highlighted is one mistake that too many women make by taking into consideration this aspect when issues of this nature arises.Though a wise man would always keep her away from the first wife and bear the stress of running to and fro to fulfil his conjugal duties if not that one na another kasala.
Many women would be so fixated on who gets what in the future thereby losing sight of the grand plan by the new wife to relieve Her of her duties .
If I were a woman , I'll hold tenaciously unto my husband and make sure I control the source of everything after all she's a thief and will only get what gets to her with my consent of course . But some women will begin to kick up dust and finally lose grip of the man,the home and her place.
This isn't to support the man in question but now that the deed has been done one need to come up with plan B.
You can't allow one thief to steal your home from you.

elnino3:
Two quick questions
1. Is it wrong for a woman to marry a second husband if the first one cannot impregnate her?
2. How are you sure the baby is truly yours?

ProphetUdeme:
thanks for recognising that. Some of them push the blame on me as if am the person

kenedy175:
For better or for worst, till death do you path... how soon could he have forgotten?

Btruth:
It's simple. Go the Father Abraham way in the bible. Keep your first wife (which is your Sarah) and try and tame your concubine secretary and her child (which is your Haggai). Remember, we all have emotional feelings, don't say because of your selfish interest and hurt others.

It is well with you in Jesus name.

adedam23:
so, what's yhur conclusion o jae