Suga4ya:

My ex and I were together for 1year. He didn't treat me right in the beginning, but after I called him out on it he began to make amends. Nevertheless, the damage was done  and I resented him for his prior mistreatment towards me. In time he started to fall for me, but I couldn't get over his earlier treatment, so I began treating him badly as well. Eventually, he got tired of me not prioritizing him and he left. I was heartbroken, and went through the usual 'don't realize what you have until it's gone' phase. So I tried to win him back, but to no avail. He wanted to be friends, so I agreed. The friendship wasn't working, because you can't just switch from a relationship to a friendship immediately. Anyway, the breakup slowly started to take a toll on me, I couldn't eat, sleep, or function effectively. I realized that the only way I could get over him is if we went our separate ways. So I sent him a goodbye email. It was very sweet, wishing him luck in life and all the good things I'll miss about him, and I wished him Happy New Years to come. It's been 2 months since we broke up and 2weeks since I sent the goodbye email and still no response (he has his email account set up on his cell phone and I know he checks his email regularly). Fellaz, I need you on this, why would you not respond to a goodbye email? Why not even acknowledge the fact that you received it, and respond with a farewell as well? Please inform. Thanks.

Sisi Jinx:

Seriously, is there something in the water? What is with all these. . . .err. . . abeg forget about him.

Sometimes us women are our own worst enemy. Why won't they call us crazy when despite his shabby treatment, some are still lamenting over an email response.

Are you satisfied that you tried to take the mature route? If you are, then leave his behind to wallow in immaturity and if you aren't. . . . Well, You better start feeling it asap!

~Sauron~:

I don't respond to goodbye emails. . . . . .Whatz the purpose??
Once its goodbye, then it's eternal silence.

Suga4ya:

Stephen,

Thanks. You're probably right about chain emails. Life goes on.

Suga4ya:

Lmao @ dudu, I'm good, It is what it is, and it's OVER, so thanks anyway.

busybody honey,u know u can always tell me to interpret for u,whenever one writes in igbo

Magz:

Hey Topup, I like you! You seem like cool people for real.

Haha, I am just one thanks

~Sauron~:

@ StephenP,

Of course, one comes across the zany-acting chics once in a while. . . . .
The ones who realised late they have been dumped and send nasty emails after 3 months.

tope2000:

Ok i don't get this shite
Why would u break up with someone and not tell her its over, does those words scare u its over!

~Sauron~:

Let her use her church mind. . . . . . .
How do u tell a woman IT'S OVER??

~Sauron~:

@ Topup,

Do u write for a living??
How many lines there?? Like 40!!!

Lol! Just 13! I write a lot online, and have mastered the art of touch typing. .  

Suga4ya:

Topup,

I'm sending you a hug, hope you receive it  . Thanks for shedding some light on this. I'm going to move on and although it was hard in the beginning, it's slowly getting better. Thanks again Topup. I appreciate your response the most. Thanks.  

I received it ! One thing I realised was that you are saying that 'you're going to move on', for now don't give yourself any time limits, it can take longer than it took your friends or other cases you know (or less), I know it sucks to hear, but after a few months, it'll be easier, and you'll remember him less and less, but it might take more than a year to actually lose ALL feeling for him, some people will tell you stories of their primary school sweethearts and still they'll get lost in their imagination. Nobody is perfect and you sound like you have a lot of time to get yourself together and you're definitely not desperate. .

Try not to listen to people who tell you; "You should be over him by now!" It'll make you feel worse, by the way I don't predict you'll still be heartbroken and in pain in a few months, you'll probably still be hurt, but the feeling should fade. Take your sweet sweet time, and no rebounds!!

What you have to make sure is make a conscious effort to look in the opposite direction to him, just focus on you and yourself, as I am sure that he will do the same, it's almost automatical for guys to pick themselves up like this. I can almost guarantee that he will one day in future contact you but for the meantime, if you believe he has moved on and will never come back, it'll be a million times easier to let go.

Keep busy too and rest assure that if he loves you he will come back, though there is no time frame or method which this happens, just rest assure knowing that. If you're a Christian, maybe even one on one's with God will help you, or reading certain scriptures in the bible.

tope2000:

Why do deal with complicated women
Why can't u just tell her it aint working, its about time we move on with our lives Are u telling any normal woman wudnt know its over. stop dating maniacs

~Sauron~:

Stop dating maniacs??
Many of em were saints when i met em. . . . . . .They turn to maniacs after the shiznit.
Maybe i am too sweet to be left alone(food for thunk).

Suga4ya:

Topup,

Speaking of 'rebounds', Ummm, soon after we broke up, I went out on a date and my date said something that sounded just like what my ex would say, and I accidentally blurted out my ex's name in my response; thus, "Ur crazy (ex's name)", the look on the guys face was priceless, and I'm sure if I had a mirror with me my look was just as priceless. At that point, I knew I wasn't ready, so I'm staying clear of rebound relationships, they never seem to work, and it's not fair for the innocent party to be dragged into any emotional baggage. Thanks again Topup.

tope2000:

Maybe they didnt tell u they were on Anti-depressant when u guys were dating
I persoanally think u just keeping quiet n ignoring her calls or whateva shows u aint man enough to say its over