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Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 12:39pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I have read everyones reply. And I'd like to thank everyone for their input. I've made the decision to stay with my husband. And put this part of my life behind me, look to the future with my husband, starting our family. I do love him dearly and deep down I believe it's worth fighting for. Marriages aren't supposed to be easy, especially a mixed race & mixed culture one! I'm glad I asked for people views, at least it gave me the chance to hear other people and take opinions on board before making mine. I feel good about my choice (It's me who will live with it), Now I must forget the past, and look towards the future ![]() |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by JustGood(m): 1:00pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
Na because he give you disease wey you take know say he cheat on you. You think say na only one time? mumu |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by seyibrown(f): 1:04pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
@Hurtin It's up to you to what you decide. Whatever anyone says on here will not make up your mind for you. Your heart knows what it wants to do! However, I am concerned about 'we seem to spend a lot of our hard earn money on family in Nigeria' If you part ways in 5 years time, how would you feel about having spent a lot of your money taking care of 'his family in Nigeria'? I hope your marriage works but please love this man with your head screwed on! Let him take care of his family in Nigeria with what is left of what he earns after you have both taken care of your living expenses! 'Loving you, cheating on you and leaving you' hurts a lot less than 'loving you, cheating on you, spending all your money on his family and then leaving you'! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by JJYOU: 1:05pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
rockhaven: hurtin:you just showed you are a better person than most people here would give you credit for. thanks and pls tell him to be carefull. no toto is worth dying for and no jezebel is worth loosing a good wife for. JustGood:you are just bad. she stands taller than you and your likes. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by JJYOU: 1:08pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
seyibrown:is taking money from your mrs to give your folks in vogue? i have seen this in some other thread recently. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Papasmith: 1:37pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
If you truly love him, want your marriage then stock your freezer with his type of drinks. Encourage him to drink at home mostly and once awhile at the club. Give him another chance and believe his word. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Druss(m): 1:52pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
If he was serious he would stop drinking. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Ifedisky(m): 2:01pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
He has as much SACRIFICE to make as you have. Now that he has proven incapable of handling FREEDOM, is it not time he's a wee "GROUNDED"? For a start, he's been a naughty boy so no more clubbing or going to places that might jeopardise his FRAGILE self discipline.Or in lieu, can you go with him?. Could you put a, "tail" on him if you can't stop him from "crawling"? Personally I think being drunk is a rather weak excuse for a man to cheat given the thought processes of a man. Women? Maybe. Not a man. And i think he confessed to you because he brought a PACKAGE back to the house with him and not from remorse. I won't say you should leave him. You just have to recognise you have a JOB to do!! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by saraj(f): 2:08pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
What a coincidence that the first time he cheated on you in 4yrs, that he picked up an STD? And he gave it to you. If he really was sorry he wouldn't have slept with you after sleeping with that tramp. The first thing he would have done is go to the STD clinic and treat it straight away. Its very straight-forward really. He knowingly put your life at risk. And by the way I hope he hasn't destroyed your fertility because for all you know he could have given you Chlamydia years ago!! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by crownroyal(m): 2:25pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
am not sure he's been truthful to you their's more than what he told u,just try n sit him down,plead with him to open up to you what really is his reason for wanting to leave and also pray for him.am sure if u are sincere God will answer you. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by JustGood(m): 2:32pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
JJYOU: being stupid is not what it takes to stand tall sara j: Thank you jare. some people would rather not use their brains and then they will cry foul later crownroyal: Thank you jare. The woman is scared of losing the guy and so she is not wanting to think about the fact that a clubbing man who says he's only cheated the time that he transmitted a disease to his wife is most likely a cassanova who's been playing around all the while. Besides, he still goes clubbing . . . no doubt he's still doing same things |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:47pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
sara j: To be completely honest, I Knew something was wrong (I had no idea what, just that something wasn't right) the night he'd done it , as I'd called him the morning after and he wasn't his normal self. Then a few days later he confessed it to me. I wouldn't of found out about the one night stand, had he not told me. As it hadn't happened in our local area nor was he with any of our friends when it happened. we'd slept together the once before he'd told me. So I suggested the GUM Visit - to be safe! Then we had to wait for 10days to pass before we could get tested. And we'd both got Chlamydia, all other tests came up clear. So I think I'd know if something was wrong - if it happened again - Even if I didn't know what the problem was. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by toosoon(m): 2:54pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
hurtin: Do you mean you guys have being avoiding pregnancy by protecting yourself when having sex? how the hell did you contact Chlamydia? And have only just started to try for a family now. so now you guys are having sex without condom? |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Outstrip(f): 2:54pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
36 years old and still clubbing. I did not want to say it but I will say it now. He IS PLAYING YOU. It is not the first time he has cheated on you. He probably caught an STD and used it as a way to let you know. Almost 40 and still hopping from club to club. Keep making excuses for him |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:56pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
too_soon: No I was on the pill. Now I'm not. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Outstrip(f): 3:02pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
justgood and saraj thank you very much. This last one she added has even put another layer on it. So you held off having kids to take care pf other people's children in Nigeria. What is wrong with you. He gave you chlamydia which by the way can cause infertility. What exactly is your gain in this whole thing? I can tell you one thing for sure I do not know any Nigerian woman that will tell her husband that it is okay for us to hold off having kids so they can take care of other family members. He will not even dare say it to a Nigerian woman. I was going to say the man was stupid but unfortunately that will not be true. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 3:06pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I didn't mind waiting to start a family. I'm only 28! As long as I have 1 - 2 children before I'm 35, I'll be very happy. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by toosoon(m): 3:08pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
hurtin: good, that is the solution to a successful marriage, Stop using pills and start having babies. Thank You |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by toosoon(m): 3:13pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
hurtin: and your husband will equally be happy too, I wish you happy marriage life!!!No weapon Fashion against you shall prosper!!!Can i hear you say !!!Amen!!! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by pop247(m): 3:17pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I have read everyones reply. Nice decision. Happy to hear that. Gudluck |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Epi: 3:21pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
Why would a man risk his health, his marriage and his reputation for a little nookie (pussy) on the side and blame it on booze. Like I say “Tom drunk but Tom’s no fool” God I yearn for the day when I can read something like this from the women on this forum “My husband will never cheat because he is too fine and decent” instead of making idiotic excuses like “I love him, it’s the first time he cheated, I know he loves me, he said he’s sorry. . . . and the list goes on. It’s like their husbands cheat and they don’t seem to mind or even care. Then you have some good-for-nothing men on here cheering the lady telling her “yea, give him another chance, you are a wonderful lady because you forgive your husband, tell him next time use a condom” . . . oh spare me with your pretentious ramblings. And just when you think you have heard it all, here comes the “preachers” quoting scriptures to justify cheating husbands. Now let's turn the table for a moment. . . *turning the table* - I wonder what the reactions would’ve been if it was the woman who got drunk, had sex with a stranger and gave her husband Chlamydia Must admit that davidyland, gamechange and Justgood responses were honest 1 love |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by toosoon(m): 3:42pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
epi: open your own trend on this topic (MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME) and you will definately get our opinions!!! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by baduks(m): 3:55pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I understand what you are going through. However sorry to say this, He's likely to still cheat on you and it doesn't change the fact that he loves you. The truth is being drunk doesn't make you do what do not want to do, it only makes you high and bring out the feeling inside of you. He still loves you, just let him know that he needs to know his limit when he drinks. all the best!!!! |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Nobody: 3:56pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
Most of u here talk as if u do not know what u're sayin,how can u tell a grown man to stop drinkin?If u love ur man my dear,go to club wit him,do things he loves doin wit him,(but not drinkin if u do not want to)always make him feel he is d best,try to improve on ur bedmatics, but never ever make d mistake of makin him feel u have control over him or d marriage.All the people here advisin u to leave ur husband,its either they've never been married,or no man is willin to marry them because of their attitude or they do not wish u wel at all.Nobody holy pass.A gentle man is a person whose social ills have not been dug out.So that tells u that every man,one way or d other has his own lapses.U do not destroy ur marriage because he cheated,rather u try as much as possible to make him a better man |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by maddock(m): 4:08pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
@ Tiniyata God bless you my broda too many sad people in this thread, God help any body that brings up their issue here for advice. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by sweetpain: 4:53pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
Sorry, your husband has been cheating. If you want to get back at him and you happen to be in Nigeria, call me.See clean babe. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:58pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
sweetpain: Lol I'm a good girl ![]() There will be no getting back from me. I'm not a two timer, cheater or what ever else you want to call it. It's either in a relationship or not. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:02pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
@ dremoney ur nationality's trippin innit? british/american, u no well, kilo nwa kiri?, who u dey dull? My mother is British, My Father is American. I was born in Kentucky, lived their for 6 yrs, then we moved to Yorkshire as my grandmother got ill and needed round the clock care from my mother. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by 1luvkipsus: 5:23pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
Are you beautiful, sexy and romantic? I'm sure it's an internet-propelled married. He actually doesn't love you as such, he only wanted to get his green card, and I'm sure he's got that. Men are always men; we cheat once in a while. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by sweetpain: 5:35pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
hurtin: Of course you are, I can tell. You have to understand that any woman who has been involved in marriage for some time will always have a story to tell if they want to be honest. In marriage there is companionship and of course there is sex and they both dont necessarily appreciate at the same pace. I dont think your husband loves you any less regardless of whatever you've heard.Sometimes its a man's way of expressing freedom from the 'bondage' modern marriages impose.Many women make hasty wrong decisions because of this, and eventually end up with lonely and frustrated lives. I am glad you havent said he has not been forthcoming with his bedtime obligation. And of course he has no right to come home with chlamydia or any other.In time you will forget or probably joke over it. |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by sweetpain: 5:58pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
rockhaven:What kind of underground business is going on here |
Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by Infoseye(m): 6:26pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
@poster Pls find another man that will love you for who u r and forget about him after all he said he does not deserve u. |
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