acting funny? Is he a comedian?

zealot4me:







Yh right..

But she loves him too right! why does he have to to future her feelings this way

I doubt if she ever did.
She married him out of convenience and the guy knows.

ConfessionsNgr:



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You posted:
"I made sure I changed his entire wardrobe and bought him trendy clothes so he would look presentable as my husband'.

He was good enough when you married him. Changing his "entire wardrobe and (buying) him trendy clothes so he would look presentable..." to who? Other women. Yep. A Millie Jackson lyric goes ..."you created a monster from a shy country (village) girl..."

You are the type of woman who will eventually control his life. You had probably started, but you won't admit the fact. Deal with the monster you created!

Analyse ur life first and ask ur self. What transformed this man from who he was before, make sure it not your behaviour. When do if your really clean get someone you know he listens to and respects and talk to the person. Pray for your husband.

change the skills of communication,

Hmmm... Ahhh! Nkan Nbe!

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Just saw your profile picture...fine geh!
Brains + beauty not stalking just curious when I read the above.
Back to the post OP in addition to everything written above, get yourself involved in a project or business you really like & throw yourself into it. I know you're not happy about the way things are and might (&still miss a couple of things with him - like the s3x) but you see you need to take care of number 1, which is you. it's quite worrisome it's gotten to the point of involving your family & telling them he wants out.

If truly he's only reason for acting this way is cause he wasn't the one you wanted to marry prior, clearly he's short sighted (minded?) He did eventually marry you didn't he?
I think he's just being stupid on so many levels. Bringing another woman to his home. My head says you should have just ignored them let the silent treatment now become his cause for worry lets see him have an errection with the lady around that my heart however asks don't you have a rolling pin or pestle?

Seriously just get a hobby or business you like & throw yourself 110% into it. Things 'll eventually work out for the better. Don't take any grudge or revenge steps. And when he does come around, please ensure he gets tested.

CSTR2:
I doubt if she ever did.
She married him out of convenience and the guy knows.

Hmmm at least he should pardon her for the sake of the kids...

ConfessionsNgr:



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do you remember the vow you took on the aisle, for better for worst?
Though you have every right to sue the hell out of him but if you want your home you need to be that woman who the bible said builds her home...
when last did you invite God into your home when things were milky?
God hates divorce but for the nature of our hardened mind, divorce was given with the condition of adultery which he did but that is not the best option...
take a time out and seek God but hold on to him in your marriage he never fails... A marriages aren't perfect and i know what i am saying.
Madam, please build your home for the joy of your children and in return yours... the children are worth giving the joy and not deprived and God has a way of paying you for the sacrifices...

Sorry for your challenge. It's really painful. My advice: pack up and hit the road. There's no use putting yourself in misery for the rest of your life.

prayer is the key... pray my sister... the Lord is your strength... you did nothing wrong... afterall, it's not just about 'marrying who you love", but also 'love who you marry'.

PRAY

Maybe u shuld'nt have brot dis issue here.many comments here wuld only mak u feel worse.tho few reasonable ones.I bliv dis forum is for help,assistance nd info.nt 2 catch sickening fun frm people's predicament.Personally,i dnt tink d circumstances surrounding ur marriage shuld be somuch of an issue ryt naw.esp after 2kids.afterall,people who claim 2marry for love face worse nd eventual divorce,in dier union.wat matters is how its been so far how it is ryt naw,nd how it wuld be in d near future...Sometin is wrong somwher nd hez jst using ur initial relunctance as an excuse. ryt naw,rely on ur parents for support and advice.pray nd fast witout ceasing.dnt let ur marriage go down d drain witout a fight.dnt allow urself 2b depressed.ur kids need u.U'll av him back.

Ama80:
Dear op,are u financially independent?if yes,then move out and mov on wt ur life.i mean enjoy ur life to d fullest,mak money,go shopping with ur kids n friends dat mak u laugh,eat wateva u wish,if u AR d type dat loves to hang out Fr few bottles of alcohol pls do dat.[size=13pt]u already hav 2kids so mission accomplished[/size].if I hear u think abt dat timid village novice who had mistakenly stumbled on a small change,I will spank u.dat fool will come bak but by then.just hav fun.

Are u serious?
Whose mission?.....u put it like having kids is the sole purpose of her marriage
If that's the case I don't think baby mamas would be looking for husbands anymore

option 1 .
never allow any man to abandon you and turn you into an old cargo!
scare him, by painting the picture for him, act like you don't care , tell him you will not carry any responsibility out of his house, drop the two kids and leave, he will come begging knowing he cant bath and care for the children alone, no girl friend will come to his life seeing him carrying two kids around, they know it will eventually become their responsibility if they marry him, don't ever leave his house with your kids because that will only make him so free and he will become new fresh and free bobo again, occupy him with the kids if he try to kick you out.

dues to social economy problem in the country now, most men have employed that tactic to run from their responsibilities.
they know the woman will carry one with the responsibilities, raising the kids alone! prove him wrong by painting the picture for him, tell him that is what you will do.

option 2
secretly pay tout to keep beating that girl anywhere they see her!


option 3

poison him, hes a wicked man, an ingrate , you shouldn't have opened his eyes, you should have encouraged him to be wearing his oversize old fashion shirts

Your blame : U made it known to him He wasn't your class/taste from onset ( u let ur ego overpowers his own self esteem ).This still shows from ur post and perhaps reflecting in ur home ...could still be much more than this
Solution : Try meet someone He really respect and listen to his/her advice to talk to him But you too must be ready to let go of this ego,love him for who He is ( u never mentioned love ) .But if the reconciliation doesn't work,pls leave b4 it will be too late ..... I hate divorce but an abusive marriage is not an option

refreshrate:


Just saw your profile picture...fine geh!
Brains + beauty not stalking just curious when I read the above.
Back to the post OP in addition to everything written above, get yourself involved in a project or business you really like & throw yourself into it. I know you're not happy about the way things are and might (&still miss a couple of things with him - like the s3x) but you see you need to take care of number 1, which is you. it's quite worrisome it's gotten to the point of involving your family & telling them he wants out.

If truly he's only reason for acting this way is cause he wasn't the one you wanted to marry prior, clearly he's short sighted (minded?) He did eventually marry you didn't he?
I think he's just being stupid on so many levels. Bringing another woman to his home. My head says you should have just ignored them let the silent treatment now become his cause for worry lets see him have an errection with the lady around that my heart however asks don't you have a rolling pin or pestle?

Seriously just get a hobby or business you like & throw yourself 110% into it. Things 'll eventually work out for the better. Don't take any grudge or revenge steps. And when he does come around, please ensure he gets tested.

be careful man, u r distracting my reading, i got to look @ pic of a cute girl because of u, bee careful o.

Ijaya123:
Lots of kids just polluting this thread just for the fun of commenting. Quite irritating.

do your own pollution na... shouu

Before i comment, i would like to hear from the other side of the story to avoid overrated stories.

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

.mature advice,nice one


ma

Please sister before its too late go for deliverance now....

NovusHomo:


You posted:
"I made sure I changed his entire wardrobe and bought him trendy clothes so he would look presentable as my husband'.

He was good enough when you married him. Changing his "entire wardrobe and (buying) him trendy clothes so he would look presentable..." to who? Other women. Yep. A Millie Jackson lyric goes ..."you created a monster from a shy country (village) girl..."

You are the type of woman who will eventually control his life. You had probably started, but you won't admit the fact. Deal with the monster you created!

On point my brother....she f**king married d man outta pity!....F**k this woman!....after marrying him, she realised he his a local rapper.... ...she then fine-tunned him into a foreign rapper like jay-Z.... ......The guy now got SWAG! and realises he has been such an old fashioned dumb ass...... to have married such a F*UGLY woman....Very funny bro....

islandmoon:
option 1 .
never allow any man to abandon you and turn you into a old cargo!
scare him, by painting the picture for him, do like you don't care , tell him you will not carry any responsibility out of his house, drop the two kids and leave, he will come begging knowing he cant bath and caring for the children alone, [size=14pt]no girl friend will come to his life seeing him caring two kids around[/size], they know it will eventually become their responsibility if they marry him, don't ever leave his house with your kids because that will only make him so free and he will become new fresh and free bobo again, occupy him with the kids if he try to kick you out.

dues to social economy problem in the country now, most men have employed that tactic to run from their responsibilities.
they know the woman will carry own with the responsibilities, raising the kids alone! prove him wrong by painting the picture for him, tell him that is what you will do.

option 2
pay tout to keep beating that girl anywhere they see her!

Flavour has two kids with 2 baby mamas
Yet girls still swarm over him like flies on poop...many are actually satisfied with the baby mama title...

This is the 21st century man...even I'm tired of being surprised

"after all I wasn’t planning to marry him initially that he practically begged me, so I can as well leave if I am tired"



You got what you deserve jor. This is your time to beg him. Shakara don end.

islandmoon:
option 1 .
never allow any man to abandon you and turn you into a old cargo!
scare him, by painting the picture for him, do like you don't care , tell him you will not carry any responsibility out of his house, drop the two kids and leave, he will come begging knowing he cant bath and caring for the children alone, no girl friend will come to his life seeing him caring two kids around, they know it will eventually become their responsibility if they marry him, don't ever leave his house with your kids because that will only make him so free and he will become new fresh and free bobo again, occupy him with the kids if he try to kick you out.

dues to social economy problem in the country now, most men have employed that tactic to run from their responsibilities.
they know the woman will carry own with the responsibilities, raising the kids alone! prove him wrong by painting the picture for him, tell him that is what you will do.

option 2
pay tout to keep beating that girl anywhere they see her!


option 3

poison him, hes a wicked man, an ingrate , you shouldnt have opened his eyes, you should have encouraged him to be wearing his oversize old fashion shirts

I think I should recommend you as special adviser on Women and Social Affairs to Mr President .... Hope you are married

The only thing that can arrest the situation now is prayer. so go for deliverance now...

DrSage:
You went too far!
Itz obvious he's nt acting normal at all,you would have taken dz issue to his family members so dat dey could at least talk to him.
But alas,u beat up his supposed girl friend,u went just too far.

. Which talk be dat? Hw can u say she went far by beating the girl? She never saw them outside. She caught them right in her home smooching and all of that. Pls,pray it doesn't happen to ur child or sister.

invite Christ Jesus into your home.

oochi123:
. Which talk be dat? Hw can u say she went far by beating the girl? She never saw them outside. She caught them right in her home smooching and all of that. Pls,pray it doesn't happen to ur child or sister.

You caused the problem. U made him stylish and trendy. My sister don't you know when u make a bush man attractive he will start baiting bigger bush meat.

The dude before ur marriage was never attractive to ladies because of his bush way of doing things and the only reason he felt u married him was out of pity. If u had left him the way he was with loads of ANKARA HE will not fit into the settings and class he just found himself.

Omo oko is now feeling like lagos boy.

My advise. Deny him sex, give him good food, leave him to himself, pray and deny him sex.

Never look into his phone, Never ask him why he is late, pretend like all is normal and deny him sex.

Always look attractive, play cool Christian songs when you hear his car sound.

Deny him sex, show more care and pray hard. May God help u

from your story, here is what I think;
1. You married him cos of age factor and not love and the fact that he mentioned that he begged you to marry him shows he's having inferiority complex.
2. You tried to change him to "d presentable husband status" by changing his wardrobe, not that its bad but he's a bold message to his male ego that his social status doesn't match yours. I guessed u joked about how his dress is old skul n he needs to get trendy.
3. He's an introvert that's easy going, lovely, caring but not social. You want the extrovert husband (fun, outgoing n social).
4. He had a psychological battle in his head n maybe got an advice from anyone that Ladies don't appreciate cool n nice guy. He was likely told ladies cherish and enjoy bad guys.
5. He flashed back his memory n maybe realised d 2 guys who were intending u before he married u n you did love from his assumption have d bad boy image.
6. In his attempt to let you know he's now the outgoing, social guy mks him stay late at night, drink. to even put the icing on the cake, he probably brought the gal home to prove to you he's being cherished by other woman cos he's now social.

Anyway my advice; tell him you understand the reason y he's doing all these, beg him you are sorry that you didn't mean to change him from whom he was that he got you wrong. As advised by others, get in touch with people he respected. Be good to him even in the midst of his predicament, he needs your he'll now cos leaving him will only ruin him. Above all, pray n God will see you through.

Well, I believe she should search herself. The man is obviously reacting to the way his wife has been treating him. He probably feels intimidated and unloved. Search yourself, woman. Stop rubbing the fact that he is local or naive in his face, stop making him feel like a third choice, and for Pete's sake, stop making obvious attempts to change him. In short, stop bruising his ego. Men are highly egotistical, and they love to feel like a man. You married him with your eyes open, so you have to love him the way he is, or if you can't cope with the way he is, you get out of his life. That said, to win him back, you need to drop your aggressiveness, change your attitude, pray heavily and hope for the best. Hopefully, he'll come back to you, and if he doesn't, don't take unnecessary shits all in the name of marriage. My 2 kobo.