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Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Emmyefe1: 9:32am On Apr 12, 2018 |
That means me when dey 26 and one marry oyibo woman when be 51 years nor need talk be that na 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by mikejj(m): 9:37am On Apr 12, 2018 |
supereagle:. 20%out. of 100% |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by olowobaba10: 9:38am On Apr 12, 2018 |
BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER, NO WONDER. Arondizuogu: 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by jaxxy(m): 9:39am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Safiaa: Ok maybe not UK bt in the US in certain. Men move in with ladies it's not a big deal really. Bills shud be shared not one person doing it all c'mon. Respect for a person shudnt just come because they are capable of paying ur bills pls cos it means anytime dat person can't the respect goes out the window. Lol 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by boyency: 9:41am On Apr 12, 2018 |
My man which experience do you have in marriage, are you the only son? Marriage now is not alone for love but it is all about maturity mind and money.. Age is not barrier but you must consider many things including life after marriage... Let me advice you whatever that is sweet don't last.. She gave you a house,money and other things.. What did you gave her nothing but sex... My brother we are Nigerians not white,since you are 24 yrs .I beg you to go have more experience in life leave the gal with her money..take advice of your mom.. There are more to see than to talk....thanks |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 9:44am On Apr 12, 2018 |
My brother , and to others viewing this thread ...good day . I strongly believe you guys are going about this the wrong way . It's not an issue of age difference or financial incentive that concerns me but rather ...the personality of the OP and if he has the tools to survive in a marriage to such a woman . Ordinarily I am strongly against the idea of marriage where the man is not an alpha male who uses his " frame " to control the relationship . I strongly believe that the only reason one should marry is only for legal convenience and children . So to the OP may I ask a couple of questions ? What is your relationship with this woman like ? Who is more dominant most of the times in this relationship ? ( I say most of the times because dominance shifts subconsciously or otherwise ). The fact that you have to bring this to this forum ...tells me that you are severally lacking in the relationship mental department but don't worry you are not alone . You as a man there are certain things you must constantly exhibit in your relationships and that is covert and overt control ( frame ) . Truth be told if you have a beta mindset as against an alpha mindset do not go into marriage . Not saying it won't work . Just saying you won't know how to handle issues . Which could lead to regret . I've been with women older than me before ...and it's no different . You are the only constant factor here . At age 24 what are you getting married for tho ? What have you achieved in life ? I clearly see you are suffering from " onenitis " ...she is the one syndrome . These are all signs of a beta mindset ... If you think I'm wrong ...go read up on the red pill theory . Read the book ' the great female con ' . Read www.therationalemale.com ... The teachings of Rollo tomassi . Unplug yourself from the matrix of social convention . All the best . 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by 4C2215131: 9:45am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: It's the best advice you've gotten because it syncs with the decision you've made already; the decision to defy your mom and go ahead with the wedding. Not knocking your hustle, just telling it like it is. Again, good-luck and all the best. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by ChristineC: 9:51am On Apr 12, 2018 |
You's the biitxh of the house boy. Have that in mind from the start. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by khiaa(f): 9:52am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: My goodness, you are already shacking up with her, you love her, she loves you and you both are financially stable enough to get married. Follow your heart and marry your love just like your mother followed her heart and married your dad. This is so senseless, making a five year age difference the reason why two people shouldn't build a life together. ![]() |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 9:59am On Apr 12, 2018 |
chihes: and so? I've my own money. she choosed to do those things by herself |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by 4FACEADELEKE(m): 10:00am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Bro go ahead and marry her if you think she is your kiind of woman.Stop listening to some of this enemies of progress on nairaland,who would jump at the slightest opportunity,if they were in your shoes.Bro know these today that,Nigerians are the greatest hypocrites on earth.Remember when you get married to her,hustle harder so that you can provide for her as well,not just only her providing for both of you.Close your eyes off your to be's wifes wealth and work hard like a street hustler who has nothing to his name.Remember if tomorrow your hustle your way up and become rich,her respect for you will rise to its peak,she will truly be convinced that she indeed made the best decision by marrying you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:00am On Apr 12, 2018 |
khiaa: thanks khiaa |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:01am On Apr 12, 2018 |
4FACEADELEKE: thanks bro |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:03am On Apr 12, 2018 |
fancy4eve: take your bad advice away. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by charlisco(m): 10:03am On Apr 12, 2018 |
What I'm reading here is nt making me feel happy. Is it wrong for the girl he want to marry to be rich Is all finger created equal What is the basis of a happy Marriage Guy if you genuinely luv that lady go ahead and marry her. Happiness is nt easy to come by. Stop lestening to story, telling you she will nt respect you. As you hv know now now the things you will face in future to come prepared ur mind toward it and how to deal with the situation if it present it self. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by smile4excel(f): 10:05am On Apr 12, 2018 |
I noticed that there's a type of advice you're actually looking for. You've already adviced yourself and you come here come dey disturb person. Pls I'm at work and you're distracting me. Grabs popcorn prechbills1:But don't come back here again looking for another type of advice when you finally become a houseboy!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by 4C2215131: 10:06am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Safiaa: Hear ye! Hear ye!! |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by khiaa(f): 10:07am On Apr 12, 2018 |
fancy4eve: That first sentence you wrote is total crap. Everyone doesn't grow wise with age. Just because someone is your elder doesn't mean they are without fault or wise. In your mind, what is wrong with the woman he loves? What has she done that makes you feel she is showing him a false character? What makes you think that he won't have a say in their home? One of the reasons that can cause a divorce is problematic, negative, nosey, people meddling in their marriage. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Nobody: 10:07am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: Marrying an older lady needs some psychological maturity. You won't realize it now but in the future. Women generally age faster than men, though genetics have a lot to do with this. At 24, you are still maturing and still have a long way to go. There will come times you will question your choice, when you will ask yourself why you married her. I am not saying that the marriage will not work. Why do you wanna marry her? Her money? She is your benefactor? Do you have a job? 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:07am On Apr 12, 2018 |
ariesbull: thank you. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by Realhommie(m): 10:09am On Apr 12, 2018 |
zicoraads:Spot on. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by khiaa(f): 10:13am On Apr 12, 2018 |
prechbills1: Don't let anyone keep you from the woman that you love and loves you. It's your life to live. You are welcome. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:13am On Apr 12, 2018 |
dominique: @bolded.I didn't highlight that ,someone made that suggestion. I've my own money and I'm also from a wealthy family. I want to marry her because I'm a graduate already and I love her. Thank you for your advice. I'm now a gold digger? I think mods should be requesting for permission before pushing topics to homepage. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:15am On Apr 12, 2018 |
showafrica: what do you mean by marry herself? stop talking like a kid, if you don't have reasonable comment pls don't comment. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by 4C2215131: 10:16am On Apr 12, 2018 |
tobianthony: Add to OP's pre-marriage literature the classic titled; The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar. Regards. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by guardian47: 10:20am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Hey guys, I have read many comments and I think some comments were not made after a deep examination of this young man's situation. That been said, bro I see that you guys have been together for 3years, both parents were aware of your relationship and your mom didn't oppose you moving in with this lady. Also I know at some instances the lady would have bought stuffs for your parent which were appreciated and taken... If your mom has an ill feeling about you settling with her, ask your dad to speak with her and enquire why she was om with the relationship but not marriage. It might not be your lady's age that she is worried about, but yours and your maturity. Get the facts before concluding what it is for sure bro. Also, what do you see in her that makes you want to marry her, regardless of who suggested the idea between you? If this lady wasn't rich, or live in her own house, would you still love her and want to settle with her despite her been 5years older? Then, are you financially ok enough and emotional ready to give her the good life she is use to say she suddenly becomes broke and loose her house, I mean is your income good enough to take care of a family without her massive support just in case. Lastly, marriage is an eyes opener bro, be sure you love her enough to marry her and stay married come what may. Thanks |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by 4C2215131: 10:20am On Apr 12, 2018 |
khiaa: California, USA. I understand. 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:21am On Apr 12, 2018 |
Austinoiz: the only advice I came here to seek is; is it sensible if I go on without my mom's blessing? because I've made up my mind. thanks for your comment anyways. highly appreciated. TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN; Please next time don't move my post to home page without permission, because instead of the advice I seek some people are trying to mock me in a sarcastic way. |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by khiaa(f): 10:21am On Apr 12, 2018 |
ariesbull: I read the op's story twice and I was looking for what gave you the idea that he's a gold digger, I can't find it. if he was after her money I don't think he would give a damn about what his mother says or her feelings, he would have married her long ago. He said how much he loves her yet you claim he has no affection for her.SMDH. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by prechbills1(m): 10:24am On Apr 12, 2018 |
4C2215131: hmm,,, khiaa are you residing in the states? |
Re: My Mom Doesn't Want Me To Marry My Fiancee Because She's 5 Years Older Than Me by khiaa(f): 10:25am On Apr 12, 2018 |
[center][/center] 4C2215131: Good, maybe there is a peon of wisdom in you. |
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