Ujujoan:

Exactly!

Which is why my suggestion to her was to get a job and then dump his sorry a55. That's what I'd do!

It's not that straight forward heheheheheh

jay bee:

It's not that straight forward heheheheheh

It's not that difficult either. IMO.

jay bee:

It's not that straight forward heheheheheh

thank youuuuuuuuuuuuu

Ujujoan:

Exactly!

Which is why my suggestion to her was to get a job and then dump his sorry a55. That's what I'd do!

MADAM. . . . . she can NOT get a job if she don't have PAPERS

which i believe they are still working on

Ujujoan:

Then you, my friend, are sleeping with the enemy . . . Chei, I pity you.

Me and AJ have a mutual agreement its strictly phocking

r231:

thank youuuuuuuuuuuuu


MADAM. . . . . she can NOT get a job if she don't have PAPERS

which i believe they are still working on

She probably thinks it's something that gets granted that easily.
It also appears that either husband doesn't have papers himself or they got married via the back route cos if either of ma intuiton is wrong then the OP should have no working papers worries.

r231:

thank youuuuuuuuuuuuu


MADAM. . . . . she can NOT get a job if she don't have PAPERS

which i believe they are still working on

And yet people are telling her to get a job? I wonder if she's supposed to kill herself to get one.

What I actually mean is for her to stick it out, get her papers, get a job and then walk.

dayokanu:

Me and AJ have a mutual agreement its strictly phocking

Ok, no wahala, let me go and marry JB in jand first, I'll come for you in yankee!

jay bee:

She probably thinks it's something that gets granted that easily.
It also appears that either husband doesn't have papers himself or they got married via the back route cos if either of ma intuiton is wrong then the OP should have working papers worries.

yup

Ujujoan:

And yet people are telling her to get a job? I wonder if she's supposed to kill herself to get one.

What I actually mean is for her to stick it out, get her papers, get a job and then walk.

in dat case she has a long way to go

so she can just man up for now

Ujujoan:

Ok, no wahala, let me go and marry JB in jand first, I'll come for you in yankee!

ehhhhhhh. . . . . . so whats gonna happen to me

Poster please do not get pregnant, that will be the worst mistake of your life at this present time.

Don't know why such men never came my way. . . . Sighs. . . . All these men that think they can tame women with their stupidityyyy.

Tell him to come my way. By the time I am through with his sorry behind,his own accent will change from ''British''  to  ''okokomaiko''  .Nonsense.

Get a job,think of what you wanna do with his behind and act on it. . It's your marriage ,your decision

jennykadry:

Poster please do not get pregnant, that will be the worst mistake of your life at this present time.

Don't know why such men never came my way. . . . Sighs. . . . All these men that think they can tame women with their stupidityyyy.

Tell him to come my way. By the time I am through with his sorry behind,his own accent will change from ''British'' to ''okokomaiko'' .Nonsense.

Get a job,think of what you wanna do with his behind and act on it. . It's your marriage ,your decision

And what of the woman who ignored better judgment for the appeal of London?

OP, take style carry am join NL. by the time dem finish with him he will come home to romance you.

i think life is hard for the guy. that's why i pray to marry real rich soja   like me. by the time work place finish with you, you just come home eat and sleep and no time to open mouth.
girl, just take it easy. get your docs and start working.

So your husband is just nagging for no reason? You have not told us what he nags about. There has to be a reason why he said bringing you to London is his biggest mistake. You have not told us the entire story.

i thought she already said it. frustration at work (oyinbo workplace not funny). stress at work very likely and not enough money

@Dayo

If their relationship was a long distance then there is a probability that the man hid it(nagging behaviour) from her.

What made you think she married him b'cos she wanted to leave for obodo oyibo?

What made you think she had feelings for all the other men that asked her out in Nigeria?

She might have truly loved this man with or without his residence permit.

So you saying ''london'' was the reason why she married him is way too assuming or better stll conclusive.

I'm mobile, can't quote you

r231:

yup

in dat case she has a long way to go

so she can just man up for now


ehhhhhhh. . . . . . so whats gonna happen to me

Shey am already ur second wife na.

Obviously the man has some serious issues complaining about her accent. Did he not marry a Nigerian. I bet he even corrects her with a think accent too. "Gerraway from hia you dis woman. You cannot even say warra correctly" SMH

Outstrip:

Obviously the man has some serious issues complaining about her accent. Did he not marry a Nigerian. I bet he even corrects her with a think accent too. "Gerraway from hia you dis woman. You cannot even say warra correctly" SMH

This accent thing dey vex me. Abi him no come know she get accent she marry am? It is only Nigerians that worry about accent. Inferiority! What is more important is correct English pronunciation not accent.

The Indian accent is horrible, russia not the best, Italy musical, French and yet no one from there tries to change his accent. they are only interested in pronouncing the word correctly.

Una taya me o. He don even knock the babe sotee she aggree say her accent get k-leg.

Very soon she will saying inni inni?

agabaI23:

This accent thing dey vex me. Abi him no come know she get accent she marry am? It is only Nigerians that worry about accent. Inferiority! What is more important is correct English pronunciation not accent.

The Indian accent is horrible, russia not the best, Italy musical, French and yet no one from there tries to change his accent. they are only interested in pronouncing the word correctly.

Una taya me o. He don even knock the babe sotee she aggree say her accent get k-leg.

Very soon she will saying inni inni?

Which one is inni LOL

Outstrip:

Which one is inni LOL

Inni =innit= isn't it?

jennykadry:

@Dayo

If their relationship was a long distance then there is a probability that the man hid it(nagging behaviour) from her.

What made you think she married him b'cos she wanted to leave for obodo oyibo?

What made you think she had feelings for all the other men that asked her out in Nigeria?

She might have truly loved this man with or without his residence permit.

So you saying ''london'' was the reason why she married him is way too assuming or better stll conclusive.

I'm mobile, can't quote you

Jenny there relationship was long distance but wasnt the guy showing some of these traits before they got married?

I said that because most ppl men and women stomach anything just to get to Ilu Oyinbo.

Of course as a lady many guys in Naija would be scoping her and she would be doing shakara cos her husband dey Obodo oyinbo

I know a guy who pointedly told the Naija babe that he has a live-in baby momma here and she still no mind

armyofone:

OP, take style carry am join NL. by the time dem finish with him he will come home to romance you.

i think life is hard for the guy. that's why i pray to marry real rich soja like me. by the time work place finish with you, you just come home eat and sleep and no time to open mouth.
girl, just take it easy. get your docs and start working.

You mean by the time you return from your army work, you go don tire to have 5 rounds of marathon sex?

I no gree oooo

armyofone:

i thought she already said it. frustration at work (oyinbo workplace not funny). stress at work very likely and not enough money

So na work frustration dey make the man regret say hin bring am come london? abeg!!! There is more to this story. I won't be surprised if the guy is mad because she does not take care of the home despite the fact that she's not working,

@ poster,
               Theres a saying something like , the true measure of a person is not how they act when things are good but how they handle things when times are tuff.
He  should see you as his oasis of love and comfort from the stresses in life.
You should be a team, not you being treated as a problem and burden as if youre not in this together.
There is nothing wrong if you  have an accent.So what! How is that a problem to your husband.I dont get it.

If this is happening now,then it is likely showing you what to expect in the future.Its a big red flag!!!

Genius100:

So na work frustration dey make the man regret say hin bring am come london? abeg!!! There is more to this story. I won't be surprised if the guy is mad because she does not take care of the home despite the fact that she's not working,

I did not read that the husband was nagging because of the care of the home.

Dayo the fact that other women do it does not make her one of them. You keep talking about men approaching her in naija and she turning them down and I asked you: do you know if she had true feelings for them?

I am saying this b'cos my eldest sister got married @ the age of 22 to a man in the states. This is someone that refused schooling overseas b'cos she liked Nigeria. According to her,occasional holidays was fine with her but living there was like''no way'' to her. Nothing my parents said back then would make her change her mind. She had ''Lagos Big boys'' (I will not mention names) pursuing her like no man's business. When I mean big boys , I mean those ones that can send you to obodo oyibo every 2wks if you so want it. The one she fell for amongst them was a guy that came home during xmas from the US. His humility according to her, was the reason she fell for him. This dude back then no even ''reach'' the level of the other dudes wey propose to her.

What am I saying? Most of Our ladies that got married to obodo oyibo did it out of love.

Men can be silly sometimes. Some of The men that go back home do it because they need women they can ''lord'' over or boss around. Someone they can flex their muscles for. What this guy is doing to her is what me I will call ''emotional psychology'' , he is building the thought of '' You cannot survive without me no matter how hard you try'' in her head and she is falling for it.

My own is ,she shouldn't get pregnant at all for now

Blazay:

Here comes "Mr. Bitter Kola-wale"!

Oh! i thought i was the only one who saw the Mr Bitter
Someone has a problem and request dat we seggest wat she' l do,
Mr Bitter is here and there always spewing his paranoiac life.
Na woman curse am? Haba!

sorry lady just bear with him

dump him

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@poster
I'm just reading this now and hope advice would be of any help to you
i understand how you must be feeling,no one wants to join her husband and have to go thru all this
you seem to have gotten so many advice already,some visible and some just out of anger
but remember that you will be the one to make the decision,you alone will thank or regret whatever path taken
I advise you to be calm and clear headed,even though this is not what you bargained for,but London or Nigeria the problem might still have been there
now you have to make a good thing out of a bad situation
instead of looking outwards, look into your marriage see the things that you didn't notice before
what really is happening that is making your husband speak out of frustration?
is it financial?
is it boredom?
or is it just your presence?
try not to argue with him, just be the wife you dreamt of being and watch and pray.
pls get in touch if you need to@toyinzz@yahoo.co.uk

but pls don't become another Nigerian divorce static, be strong and prayerful
may God be with you

i

@Poster, sorry to hear you are going through all this, it cannot be easy.

Firstly, you will need to sit him down and talk. Find out why he seems unhappy. You never know he might open up and tell you. It sounds to me that he might be having issues at work. Discuss it with him, and make him understand that you will be prepared to help him in anyway you could. I dont understand that loads of people are currently under pressure at work with the present economic climate, that can sometimes give job insecurity, which can be borne out in such acts. So talk to him. Profer solutions such as you taking up a job to assist, so he can feel he has options. Believe me if work was the problem, this is likely to work.

Now on the fear of you not conducting yourself properly in public, in most cases this might be the case if there is great difference between both ages and you both dont share same interest, thus one feeling smarter than the other. If that is the case, you might need to show more interest in his likes, and thus have something common to talk about.

Just my 2 cents. Hope it makes sense and helps

Women and their  WAHALA.

After pressuring your husband to bring you to UK, now you want to divorce him because he nags.

DON'T YOU KNOW HE NAGS BEFORE?

Immediately some people toes touch western land they start misbehaving.

Well you can divorce him, he will get himself another woman while you come back to 9ija .