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| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by fergie321: 6:52pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
@Inked Nerd - Please don't get me wrong I'm well liberated. I keep my ears to the ground, let me put it in a better way. One of the only reason one grows up thinking or imaging going out with someone outside their culture is if him/her have been badly treated by his/her own kind. I grew up in the city and well vast, most of us have dreams. The dream we have then was just experience of white woman in bed. I can't recollect any mates saying to me they want to marry another culture mainly - white in this case. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by InkedNerd(f): 7:00pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
fergie321: Now let me ask you something, what was it that was so fascinating about white women that you all dreamt of being with them?  |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by afrilocom: 7:59pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
Its a called a comfort zone, we all have out comfort zone until we step out in the "other" world, nothing bad about it  http://afrilo.com |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by joe4christ(m): 8:18pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
Oh boy! If i happen to travel to yankee even if na for one dey, mehn i dey come back to 9ja with a beautiful white lady, good statured "to baaaaaaad gon" I just love white ladies, i just cant quench the desire to have one, immagine an handsome bobo like me marying a beautiful white babe, just immagine how beautiful our children would. I love children, especially the beautiful one. Infact i've finally madeup my mind i'm settling with one. So help me God, |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Nobody: 8:22pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
I think it's only a black man that can handle a black woman effectively. Nigerian men are more authoritative and assertive ( if not the most on this planet). We are also smart and naturally endowed with good sense of humour. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by fergie321: 10:03pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
@Inked Nerd, The something about white women is we have not tasted them before, besides when I was growing -up I read a novel fiction or not I can’t remember because it was a long time. If there is anyone in this forum who remembers please let me know. In it the Nigerian adventurer talked about how much he enjoyed this Sweden’s blond girl in a boat trip, and that he had never had that kind of experience before. I was only 16 that little titular sticked in my head. The other reason was from mates who told me how good they are in bed. So I decided to explore it. When I did I agreed in its totality, they are full of stamina and veracity. I’m not saying I’m going to stay with them. What I’m saying is as good as it last, I will not swap them for a Nigerian girl because they get bored of us easily and if you beat them they will simply take their toto to another black man and tell you about it as well. They don’t know how to lie. With Nigeria girl at least we rough-it together. They have their problems but we can manage it together. Most Nigerian girls problems comes from her family wanting her to come and take-care of her fathers and mothers children battalion they had without her consent. Especially those from Edo, Delta and some Ibo families. Her family who couldn’t afford to send her to University will be demanding she come and send her junior ones to University simply because she is able to flogged herself to Europe. So if you know her problem you will able to manage her better. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Relax101(m): 11:23pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
Inked_Nerd: Sup inked Nerd. Can we start something, anything, everything? hehehehe |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Nobody: 11:30pm On Oct 21, 2011 |
As fascinating as white women are, black is better  |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by namfav(m): 8:27am On Oct 22, 2011 |
why are you so emotional? Inked_Nerd: |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by claremont(m): 10:10am On Oct 22, 2011 |
2buff:What in your own opinion makes black better?! I for one does not consider this issue to be on which colour is better than which. I am a strong advocate of cultural integration, and it just so happens that there is no better way for the black versus white dichotomy to be addressed than for us to date/marry each other. Everyone knows how cute babies born from inter-racial relationships are, it's because even nature favours harmony between the different races. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by fergie321: 12:05pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
@claremont – There is nothing like cultural integrations in culture agenda of the world. If you look carefully you will notice we blacks are the most advocate and practices of inter-culture marriages. Why? We are the only one in cultural realm that marries anything. We marry Indians, Chinese, whites, Japanese, Malaysian, Spanish etc but no other culture in the world advocates and wanting to marry us (Black). Indian marries themselves. They frown at their daughter wanting to marry us they can even kill her. One Indian female close friend of mine once told me that her culture frown at inter culture marriages, she went further to say that they were told if at all they wanted to marry outside their culture they must marry someone lighter than themselves (which means whites). Arab won’t marry us. A friend of mine who lives in Libyan for years said to me if an Arab woman fancies you she follows you far behind to your flat to do the thing she doesn’t want to be seen with you because it will guarantee her family honours death. I’m not saying there are no one-off chances but in general terms why do we want to marry anything? ‘’Claremont’’ mentioned how cute mix races children looks, the fact of the matter is 70 to 80 percent of mixed races don’t believe they are black and most importantly they go their mother’s culture. With 95 percent of inter relationship having the female as the other culture we blacks are the one that looses. I leave the debate to you which of Niaja cultural male that are most likely to marry other cultures and by proud of it, I know whom but I’m not saying noting for now. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by anonymous6(f): 12:25pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
fergie321: Cosign 100%, In the western world most mixed kids who are half black have non-black mothers, most likely white and majority of the time they follow the culture of their mother(regardless if they are treated as black or not), not many are like Obama or Halle Berry that has benefited the african american community but not many mixed race people of that background of Obama's for example follow that path. Plus their marriage patterns connects to it. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by InkedNerd(f): 3:19pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Relax101:  namfav: Ummm, are we not having a discussion here? Besides, on this forum, time and time again I see men always doing the same thing when it comes to women--throwing them under the bus!!! All I did was point out the same ting he was saying Nigerian women do, so how is that me boing "emotional"? Almost everyone on this thread talks and praises these men like the are demigods or that the world as a whole has some insatiable appetite for Nigerian men but somehow, just somehow, no one likes black women or finds them to be desirable in the least sense. joe4christ: Just out of curiosity, children who aren't mixed, are they not beautiful or is it that you believe that a person is beautiful if that they are of mixed heritage? fergie321: Hmmmm, in this comment you say "if you beat them they will simply take their toto to another black man and tell you about it as well" so is the idea of them not being submissive in terms of physical violence is something that you don't like? Because you make it sound like you're saying had you hit a black woman, she'd stay with you and not give her body away to another man. That highlighted portion in particular made me think of Zora Neale Hurston's "Their Eyes Were Watching God", in a portion of the book I recall a group of Black men standing around admiring a biracial woman. In the particular part portion of the book that I am thinking about, these men talked about this woman in manner that was not only racially disturbing but sëxually disturbing as well. One of the men expressed their deep desire to be with this woman due to the fact that she was biracial--he went on to mention her being with a white woman [i.e. biracial] like her was great, because hitting her and hitting a black woman were two different things. He mentioned that hitting her [the biracial woman] would be unlike hitting a black woman because if you hit a black woman, she will defend herself but if you white the white woman, she'd just cry and accept it. With that being said, I understand that as human beings, we have a natural desire to experience what is unknown to us with people [especially black men] but it makes me wonder a lot about black men and their desire for submissiveness in a woman particularly black women. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Cuddlemii: 3:20pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Nymph node: W H A T |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Beync(f): 3:38pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
why do this black naija men suddenly become nicer when they get oyibo girl u see them start doing house chores something that is unpleasant doing when they meet their fellow back |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by aribisala0(m): 3:42pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
inked you make an easy mistake of creating a category "BLACK MEN" for sexuality every individual has a different sexuality and books are quite a different thing from reality. there are gay,bisexual,sadistic,masochistic,fetishistic,cross dressing,transexual etc black men just like there are in other races . some of the more submissive sexuality that is present in black men is often characterized as voodoo etc i.e his wife has bewitched him in short some black men/women are very alike in their sexual behaviour and modern sexuality is very much influenced by pornography as such a lot of younger people of all cultures are experimenting with all kinds of practices that it is really futile to group behaviours as "black" "white" etc |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by sleekch1c(f): 3:43pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
^^because all of them have self esteem issues and are very self-hating.observe their comments here and U̶̲̥̅̊ will understand. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by InkedNerd(f): 4:10pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
aribisala0: How did I create a category for Black men for sexuality. I don't understand what you mean with that line. I never said that all men were the same and yes, I understand that everyone is different but that portion of of the book, and many other parts of it were a reflection that many people, not just in American society, posses when it comes to race relations. If you haven't read the book, I would suggest you read it so you can have an idea of what I'm saying. A lot of Hurston's books are often times a reflection of society, sexuality, and race relations. I didn't just throw in that it of information about the book all for the sake of talking. There was a racial connection that I made with fergie321's comment, the book, and racial perceptions. Although the time period in the book is not the same as today, it still stands to show that such notions were very much alive and well in the minds of not just Black men, but black women as well. And can you please explain what it is that you were trying to say about voodoo? Lastly, yes pörnögraphy has had influences in the sexuality is modern day human beings, but it is nothing new. Pörnögraphy has been around for centuries! It's not something that was recently created, nor was experimentation. People have this general belief that a lot of the sëxual practices that occur today are some kind of new sëxual phenomenon when it reality, that's not the case. The only difference between people of today and people of the past is, that people are more open about it. sleekch1c: I will agree, some of the comments do come across as self hate. I have a friend who's cousin talks about black women like it is a sport. This friend of mine, told me about the way her cousin behaves and to be quite honest, I can't say that I was surprised. She told me of one incident in particular where he met a girl and was talking to her. At some point in time the subject of race came into the conversation and the girl mentioned to the guy that although people mistaken her as a hispanic woman, that she was indeed black. The moment he heard that, he stopped talking to her. Although I was aware that some men behave like this, I tried to give my friend's cousin the benefit of the doubt and thought perhaps she might have said something that rubbed him the wrong way. My friend laughed and told me that the girl did nothing wrong and that that's just how he is. I even went so far as to say maybe he just prefers non-Black women, as before, she said no that he just dislikes black women. I just shrugged it off and moved on from the subject. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by MrsChima1(f): 4:26pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Beync: Strange huh? It is interesting how SOME of them were chauvinistic with their black counterparts and bottom bitches to their white counterparts. Inferior complexity much? Many of them beats their wives/hoes for not cooking meals and cleaning the floor but playing Mr. Clean to the Oyinbo chicks. Fuckery to the fullest. Money make SOME people do things they wouldn't dare otherwise.  |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by InkedNerd(f): 4:34pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Mrs, Chima: LOL @ Mr. Clean. I just had a image of a Black version of the Mr. Clean man on tv  |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by merge(f): 4:51pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Black women understand cultural and race preservation more than black men.Simple as that. Black men are look down upon worldwide. They are the poorest men on earth and get outperformed by other race of men economically. They only way for them to compete with other race of men is physically. Most Black men date outside their race to fulfill their egos and for other race to accept them. They want other people to look at them as their equal. What better, easy, and lazy way to do it than to bring the D-I-C-K out? Its a subconscious and conscious thing they do. But they don't want to do it like real man and fight to be seen equal globally. Run a black country successfully. They are look down upon so that create self-esteem issues. Only his desire being fulfilled at the expense of black women and black children is important to him, He does not know respect is earned but not handled over by sharing your D-I-C-K globally. Despite being look down upon, black women are more likely to believe in the black race and see the potential more than black men. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by sleekch1c(f): 4:54pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
@inkerd, Dat guy is a total scrub.its sad dat our men hate themselves dat much.I hope dat scrub has abandoned his mother too. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by sleekch1c(f): 4:58pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
@merge +100 |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by merge(f): 5:08pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Black men think by bringing their D-I-C-K out globally ( Mr Nondiscriminatory D-I-C-K) that will in return make black women see them as real man. I say loud and clear " I SEE a PUNK B-I-C-T-H" |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by namfav(m): 5:08pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
i hope you dont believe that is true, you know men are not like women, when women talk about other men other then their own they are seen as s!uts with low self esteem in fact women are easier used than men as objects, that is why if you are a women you just have to stand on your own ground, not read much into this or argue with this people who say that Inked_Nerd: |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by InkedNerd(f): 5:12pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
namfav: namfav, what did I say that you thought was incorrect? Could you please elaborate on your comment? sleekch1c: I try not to just jump into things like that which is why I gave him the benefit of the doubt initially when I heard my friend say those things say certain things. When she confirmed that he just dislikes Black women I just a bit nonchalant about it in some ways. As for the his mother, they see is as sad and somewhat disturbing but, what can they really do? |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by namfav(m): 5:36pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
this one is wrong 'I see men always doing the same thing when it comes to women--throwing them under the bus' - most nigerian men are with nigerian women 'no one likes black women or finds them to be desirable in the least sense' - that is false, because if it were true then nigerian men would not be with nigerian women Inked_Nerd: |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by Nobody: 5:38pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
If we're talking serious relationships, then high education and class strata play a role. Countless studies have been done on the subject. Just like you'd hardly see a well educated kennedy with any other than an all-american spouse, same way a comfortable, highly educated black man would more commonly be with a clever black woman of similar class stratum. To these kind of people, culture continuity matters a good deal. Its the footballers and rappers that get it wrong always. Trophy wives. The ordinary black men just keep wishing, patapata get with less desirable white women. Thankfully, black women, regardless of education, are more discerning; hence op's observation. Me, I'd rather an nkiru nerd over a scarlett johansson. |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by MrsChima1(f): 5:38pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Inked_Nerd: Wearing a red, green, black, and gold patterned kufi! |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by MrsChima1(f): 5:46pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
merge: I would say this much, many of them not all of them would compare their "worth" by the girth and length of their kondo and not by the measurements of their cognitive abilities. Every time someone asked a question about what is the difference between black men and other nationalities, majority of them will boastfully narrate about their appendage endowment. Even if many black men are blessed with endowed appendages, they are still on the bottom of the totem pole according to global opinion. Seriously? |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by anonymous6(f): 5:51pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
BoboYekini: I AGREE but I also feel culture plays a role to with high education & class |
| Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Prefer To Date Mostly Nigerian Or Black Men by fergie321: 6:22pm On Oct 22, 2011 |
Hi my sisters I’m not in any way advocating violence against black women, in fact a woman should not stay in any relationships where violence exist. To point this home as matter of fact I do not anyway raise me hands against my daughter. I leave the discipline to me wife. The reason I don’t is not only is against the law but to give her ample confidence that a man must not raise hands on her for life. I can assure you if her father has never beaten her she will never stand for an abuse from a man. If I do she might think is alright for a man to beat-up a woman. I want leave it short that way. A man that beats up his wife because his food not ready is probably uneducated. In a civilised environment that will not stand. We appreciate most our women will not readily call the police for fear of the police killing us (Black men). You know the Caucasians race do not like us, calling their police for a domestic disturbance is an excuse for their Police to twist our neck until we are dead. They have murder so many black men police cells. The Police have soft torch for our women because they are not a threat and they see us (black men) as woman beater. I mentioned in my earlier tread that if you beat-up a white woman she will take her toto to another black man or your friend that frequents your house and tells you later what she has done is to say that this is the only way they knows as payback when they are wronged. Talking about domestic abuse there was a recent study that came not long ago in UK that says ‘’there is an increased number of a men suffering from domestic abuse’’. So is a not only men that perpetuate domestic abuse, women does too. Generally and culturally a black women will not necessary take their toto to someone else for s-ex as a way of relief when she had a row/fight with their partner except she wanted to and mean to leave the relationship. About 99.9% of black normal black women in a relationship cannot have s-ex with their partner and another man outside for long. God have not design them to do so. |
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