MaxInDHouse:


Hmmmmmmmmmm, please who are you that i should follow your instruction?

Respect is reciprocal right and do on to others what you want others to do to you?

I keep your question inside bookmarks

MaxInDHouse:


Are you saying thousands of different religions claiming Christians with contradicting teachings and conflicting doctrines are all at the same time EXERCISING FAITH IN ONE MAN?

Tell me the one man you and your religious organisation exercise faith in?

MaxInDHouse:


Well if thousands of religions are claiming they follow one man yet they're contradicting themselves in their teachings it's either they're all liars or one of them is the only true religion.

I have discovered the one teaching the truth among them that's why i'm teaching what they taught me so if you can't figure out the one that has the truth among them yet claiming they're all following the same man while contradicting themselves it simply means you're of the opinion that there is no truth anywhere!

Simple instruction you cannot follow. That's Do what you were asked first, no way.

Well if thousands of religions are claiming they follow one man yet they're contradicting themselves in their teachings it's either they're all liars or one of them is the only true religion.

The bold is where you want to sit and peddle more lies and manipulations packed into your brains. Following Jesus is different from Jehovah's Witnesses contradicting Deeper life. Spot the difference. True religion is not defined in being a Jehovah’s witness or being a deeper life. Spot the difference.

I have discovered the one teaching the truth among them that's why i'm teaching what they taught me so

I have shown you evidence where they wrote clearly they were teaching lies and members are forced to accept lies as truth and contradicting their very own teachings and doctrines and those of other religious denominations.

so if you can't figure out the one that has the truth among them yet claiming they're all following the same man while contradicting themselves it simply means you're of the opinion that there is no truth anywhere

None of them is the truth. Nowhere did your Bible ever say a religious denomination or organization is the truth. When your religious organization tells you, you are in the truth. It is as good as telling you, you are in their organization. Your religious organization is among the thousands contradicting themselves. I have repeatedly told you the truth is not any religious organization. The Bible you carry never teach any of such. Saying truth is nowhere is denying the air and showing ignorance that you breathe in and out this very moment.

MaxInDHouse:


Please what does it mean to exercise faith in Jesus?

But the righteousness resulting from faith says: “Do not say in your heart, ‘Who will ascend into heaven?’ that is, to bring Christ down, or, ‘Who will descend into the abyss?’ that is, to bring Christ up from the dead.” But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your own mouth and in your own heart”; that is, “the word” of faith, which we are preaching. For if you publicly declare with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and exercise faith in your heart that God raised him up from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one exercises faith for righteousness, but with the mouth one makes public declaration for salvation. For the scripture says: “No one who rests his faith on him will be disappointed.

MaxInDHouse:

So are you saying all churches are teaching lies since they don't teach the same thing and you can't present one that's not lying?

Still asking question. What did you read from the post you are responding to? You have answer already to this question. Now bring back what you read. I want to see it.

Kingluqman:
But I say NO to Oyo-Ogbomosho road.. Na trailer go jam am

Chai that road. The other route is available now abi?

MaxInDHouse:


Do churches with contradicting teachings and conflicting doctrines all believe in the teachings of one man: Jesus?
If so why are they all contradicting themselves?
And why do you think what i'm saying is lies when there is none of the churches agreeing in everything they are teaching?

Na you ran into the below......

Do churches with contradicting teachings and conflicting doctrines all believe in the teachings of one man: Jesus?

John 3:16 answers your question again.

For God loved the world so much that he gave his only-begotten Son, so that everyone exercising faith in him might not be destroyed but have everlasting life.

The above is one of the teaching of Jesus Christ. Do your religious organization and you accept that those you call Christendom believe this or not as Jesus teaching?

If so why are they all contradicting themselves?

For some from the house of Chloʹe have informed me regarding you, my brothers, that there are dissensions among you. What I mean is this, that each one of you says: “I belong to Paul,” “But I to A·polʹlos,” “But I to Ceʹphas,” “But I to Christ.” Is the Christ divided? Paul was not executed on the stake for you, was he? Or were you baptized in the name of Paul?

Since they choose to queue behind men like you and you equally lining up behind men those you refer to as Governing Body

And why do you think what i'm saying is lies when there is none of the churches agreeing in everything they are teaching

This is what we have hammered into your ears and hearing that, people will agree equally on lies and that does not change the fact that they are lying. Your religious organization of +/-8 millions can agree that Tetraoxosulphate (VI) acid is water. It does not make it true that Tetraoxosulphate (VI) acid is water. Agreement on lies does not make it true. Your religious leaders already confirmed that they force you to agree on lies as ONE LINE OF THOUGHT. You are very much aware of that. Your words becomes lies when I showed you whatever you were propagating was contradicting what the scripture you use as base is saying.

MaxInDHouse:


Does all churches teach the same thing?
If not please can you present the only church teaching the truth?
After all you and i know that there are different teachings out there so calling one out of thousands LIES and MANIPULATION makes no sense since each has those believing it yet they aren't teaching the same thing!

Deflection and diversion tactics......

Does all churches teach the same thing?

Reality says they don't. Your religious denomination is part of them.

If not please can you present the only church teaching the truth?

The Bible nowhere tells you the church is the truth. So asking me to present the only church teaching the truth is asking me to join you in your lies and manipulations of the Bible and a means to deflect and divert from the fact that 1914 is not the truth from the Bible. 1914 has nothing to do with the Bible.

After all you and i know that there are different teachings out there

Good

so calling one out of thousands LIES and MANIPULATION makes no sense

No sense to you, not to me.

since each has those believing it yet they aren't teaching the same thing!

Does not change the fact that whatever they teach once it goes contrary to the what is stated in the bible it falls under lies and manipulations of the scriptures and that does not make 1914 correct as well.

MaxInDHouse:

Can you present the truth as agreed upon by all the churches?

At least you see how you were busy contradicting yourself. To your question.......

John 3:16 says....... For God loved the world so much that he gave his only-begotten Son, so that everyone exercising faith in him might not be destroyed but have everlasting life.

Do you as one of Jehovah’s witnesses agree that the above is the truth among the churches of those you call cursed and BASTARDISED Christians?

Pecohub:


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The hand of drug smugglers from Mexico and the drug war with USA

nenergy:

Ikorodu, Lagos. My number is on my profile

Alright.

nenergy:
Follow-come Brand new Samsung AKG type-C earphones and OTG adapter at 6k.

With 2 pairs of extra buds. Originally for Samsung S10, but can be used by any type-C phone

Location?

Evidence that the pay nowadays cannot go past first two weeks of every month

AkinwaleJJ:


It's not easy to come across people like you!

Just for self glorification of your religious organization he knows has its own failings and failures

AkinwaleJJ:


Do you really know what it means to be saved?

Well it's difficult because salvation belongs to those who have one quality that's rare in this world, in fact 90% of all those who has lived on this planet don't have that quality and whoever doesn't have that quality can never be saved even if the person live and sleep under the same roof with Jesus!

Jesus died because of a quality to save you abi?

The noun prophets and apostles versus the verb prophets and apostles

MaxInDHouse:
Right from inception the requirement for salvation has always been the same:

RECOGNIZING THE CHANNEL GOD IS USING TO SAVE!

As imperfect humans whose situation is never determined by his own will God gave us all the same opportunity but then only the humble can recognize that there is a way open for those who desire to be saved immediately they will pay whatever it costs to seize such an opportunity.

During the time of Noah all living humans back then realized that something needs to be done otherwise mankind is heading towards self destruction but no one knows the way out.

Prior to Noah a man named Enoch started speaking boldly against all the atrocities being committed back then but since his life was in danger due to the perpetrators of evil God took Enoch away he became lifeless by God's will and God buried him {Genesis 5:24} no one could find him so they forgot Enoch while his name is written in God's memory book! Hebrews 11:5

But God made a way out for mankind to continue living on the planet He created for them {Psalms 115:16} that's why He called Noah and instructed him on what to do.

So imagine yourself in Noah's day when you also feel something needs to be done but Noah started telling you things that seems impossible will you humbly reason with Noah?

Read it against the lies and manipulations packed up there...

For we were SAVED in this hope; but hope that is seen is not hope, for when a man sees a thing, does he hope for it? Romans 8:24

He SAVED us and called us with a holy calling, not because of our works, but because of his own purpose and undeserved kindness. This was given to us in connection with Christ Jesus before times long ago 2Timothy 1:9

MaxInDHouse:
Let's say you are among those who also feels bad about the situation of things back then so you should be among the righteous since you also hate what is bad but then what can make you follow Noah's idea?

According to God's word Noah was declared a RIGHTEOUS PREACHER {2Peter 2:5} this means others back then also preached against badness but only Noah had God's backing so it will be difficult for someone who is a preacher against badness to see what Noah was saying as the only means of salvation!

Noah had three sons who were married at the time which means Noah's in-laws and his son's in-laws were among those destroyed. Has it ever come across your mind how Noah must have felt when entering into that Ark?
Think of his Uncles, Aunties, Cousins, Friends not to talk of his in-laws and his son's in-laws!

Could Noah have married a woman whose parents and families were all wicked?

Surely not!

So why did all these people lose out?

Jesus said:

"just as it occurred in the days of Noah, so it will be in the days of the Son of man: they were eating, they were drinking, men were marrying, women were being given in marriage until that day when Noah entered into the ark, and the Flood came and destroyed them all." Luke 17:26-27

So what was the reward why they failed to join Noah in the Ark?

Well they failed to be Humble!

This is the same reason why some in the first century were declared 'SAVED' because they recognized the only means of salvation and stick to the channel God was using so even though they committed sin after becoming members of the house of faith they will recover because they are still in the spiritual hospital where all the sick are attended to for them to get well. So their recovery may be fast or slow but as long as they stay for treatment they will be healed.

So they aren't leaving rather they remain humble always tuning to the only channel of salvation.

That's why they were declared SAVED even when they're still alive and they can still commit grievous sin due to their imperfect state they will never ever live the hospital! Matthew 9:12-13

Read it against the lies and manipulations you packed here

For we were SAVED in this hope; but hope that is seen is not hope, for when a man sees a thing, does he hope for it? Romans 8:24

He SAVED us and called us with a holy calling, not because of our works, but because of his own purpose and undeserved kindness. This was given to us in connection with Christ Jesus before times long ago 2Timothy 1:9

johnw47:


lost false jw mad max

intelligence officer, you think a world war means all nations of the earth are at war
in 1914 it was far far far less than all nations

and the united states entered in 1917

a world war is an international conflict that involves most or all of the world's major powers

He always want to advance lies and manipulations then dump it on the Bible as teachings of the Bible

MaxInDHouse:


Jesus was talking about how he will reign as king and the end of badness so his disciples asked him:

"Tell us, when will these things be, and what will be the sign of your presence and of the conclusion of the system of things?"

Jesus responded:

“Look out that nobody misleads you, for many will come on the basis of my name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and will mislead many. You are going to hear of wars and reports of wars. See that you are not alarmed, for these things must take place, but the end is not yet. “For nation will rise against nation and kingdom against kingdom, and there will be food shortages and earthquakes in one place after another. All these things are a beginning of pangs of distress." Matthew 24:4-8

It was in the year 1914 that countless religions sprang up claiming they're Christians they have contradicting teachings and conflicting doctrines so most people were confused as to figure out which of them belongs to Christ who foretold that his own disciples will have the same like line of thought {John 17:22} but with the situation of things from 1914 many were lost in thought as to how Christianity should be!

The first world war broke out in the year 1914 and never has such occur that all the nations of the earth should be involved in war at the same time!


Starting from the year 1914 food shortages started not because of drought or infertility of the soil rather it's due to politics as most nations began diverting their resources into the production of destructive devices and using huge amount of money to maintain their army at the expense of agriculture: production of food!

Earthquakes has been recorded in history but not as frequent as what we have since the year 1914 and just as Jesus said all these are the beginning of pangs of distress! Matthew 24:8

Most importantly is the work an organization known today as JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES started doing after 1914 till today. This group has been working round the clock to gather faithful and obedient humans throughout the earth teaching them to observe all the things the Prince of Peace {Isaiah 9:6} commanded them to teach {Matthew 28:19-20} and many people from the nations have learned to settle their disparities peacefully among themselves, divert their resources into production of food and information materials, stop producing, buying, selling and using of weapons and vow never to raise weapons against their fellow man {Isaiah 2:2-4; Micah 4:1-3} so while others are still busy fighting and killing their neighbors due to politics and racism {Revelations 6:3-4} Jehovah's Witnesses are disarming millions teaching them to LOVE their neighbours as themselves {Mark 12:31} LOVE their fellow believers as Jesus loves {John 13:34-35} and LOVE, bless even pray for their enemies {Luke 6:27-28} all these began since 1914 till today! Matthew 24:14

So there is scriptural evidence that the last days of this wicked system of things began in the year 1914.

Thanks for commenting, God bless you and may you have PEACE!

Stop reading lies and manipulations into the scriptures. 1914 has nothing to do with Jesus Christ starting to rule. All those Matthew 24:4-8 has nothing to do with 1914.

Jesus was talking about how he will reign as king and the end of badness so his disciples asked him:

Lies and manipulations. Jesus was not talking about how he will rule as kings and the end of badness. Read the account based on content and context.

Now as Jesus was departing from the temple, his disciples approached to show him the buildings of the temple. In response he said to them: “Do you not see all these things? Truly I say to you, by no means will a stone be left here upon a stone and not be thrown down.”While he was sitting on the Mount of Olives, the disciples approached him privately, saying: “Tell us, when will these things be, and what will be the sign of your presence and of the conclusion of the system of things?”


Read it in content and context. Stop manipulating the scriptures because you were taught to do so.

So there is scriptural evidence that the last days of this wicked system of things began in the year 1914.

There is zero, I mean next to nothing evidence that the last days began in 1914. Since Jehovah’s witnesses cannot explain

These people are, in fact, not drunk, as you suppose, for it is the third hour of the day. 16 On the contrary, this is what was said through the prophet Joel: 17 ‘“And in the last days,” God says, “I will pour out some of my spirit on every sort of flesh, and your sons and your daughters will prophesy and your young men will see visions and your old men will dream dreams,

What last days was Peter talking about here?

The one that started in 33 C. E or 1914. Which one

2 Timothy 3:1 But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. In content and context was Paul prophesying about the future here or reminding Timothy of current and present realities of his time?


Your religious publications didn't believe the last days started in 1914 before year 1914. They believed it was the year everything will be packed up by God. Stop advancing lies and manipulations of the scripture. The Bible you carry and it's content has nothing to do with 1914.

Thanks for commenting

Good you know your lies and manipulations are exposed and you are thankful for that

God bless you and may you have PEACE!

Same tongue ushers abuses, curse and blessings. You are not learning yet. Thanks for the offer of peace. I didn't tell you I am looking for one

Jesus final words......

When they had assembled, they asked him: “Lord, are you restoring the kingdom to Israel at this time” He said to them: “It does not belong to you to know the times or seasons that the Father has placed in his own jurisdiction.

Stop reading lies and manipulations into the Bible. Jesus didn't start ruling in 1914 and last days didn't start in 1914.

AkinwaleJJ:


We are in the 21st century says everyone but going by what we do pen down it's still 2024 not 2124.
Abeg how come everyone agreed that it's the 21st century when we are still counting 2000+ and not 2100+?

Simple....... first century more like (first hundred years) = 1 to 100. It is not until we complete 1 to 100 before we say we are in the first century or we are in the first hundred years, while we are still in year 1,2,3,4,5,6...........54 we are already in the first century, the first hundred years. By the time we get to 100 we have completed the first century and starting the second century. Which means year, 101, 102,103,104,105 CE is the second century not first century.


I hope you get the mathematics well.

cc: MaxInDHouse

madridguy:
I am sure there is more to this....The refinery contributed to our suffering today as a nation. I still don't understand how an individual will got so much forex with that ridiculous exchange rate.

Dangote don hold Nigeria for blokos.

The sooner we realise the man we see is the image presented to as DANGOTE and that what constitute DANGOTE goes beyond this image the better we understand the dynamics behind DANGOTE

The Dangote holding us for blokos as you typed in your post goes beyond that picture

Aemmyjah:
Johnw47

If you have a son this year, 2024
By 2025, how many years old is your son? 1 year old or 2 year old?

Remember that 2024 and 2025 are 2 separate distinct years

If you marry this year, 2024, how many years anniversary will it be in 2028?
Let us count, 2024, 2025, 2026, 2027, 2028. Does that mean you will celebrate your 5th marriage anniversary in 2028 if you were to marry this year?

Pls answer this question

Should you need further breakdown. When Aemmyjah gives birth to his first son today 1st of January, 2024. This very day start the first year of that child and won't conclude until 31st of December 2024, January 1st 2025 marks the start of the second year


Which means year 1 is 2024, year 2 is 2025, year 3 is 2026

So when Aemmyjah and MaxInDHouse got married 31st October, 2022 your first wedding anniversary or year ends on the 30th of October 2023, the start of your second anniversary is on the 31st of October, 2023. Should you choose to celebrate on 31st October, 2023 you are celebrating your first that just ended not the second anniversary which is starting that very day.

johnw47:






oh duh very dum lost false jw mad max

if we penned down 2124 that would be 24 years into the 22nd century, not the 21st



because dum false jw, 2000+ is 21st century, 2100+ is 22 century
false jw's lack of education sure shows



really 2024 is 24 years into the 21 century

and regarding what aemmy said above, in his confusion he switched from wedding to birthday,
but that doesn't change anything
the anniversary of a son's birth, commonly called birthday
is not any day after his birth, but is yearly, just like a wedding anniversary is
he is one year old after a year has past, not before


and truly dum and confused false jw's:


1Co 14:33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints



false jw, you always getting banned for breaking forum rules,
you then use other accounts

maxindhouse is banned then soon after maximus692 is banned
now you r on akinwaleJJ

you r lawless just like the devil and end time beast, of course

Should they need further breakdown. When Aemmyjah gives birth to his first son today 1st of January, 2024. This very day start the first year of that child and won't conclude until 31st of December 2024, January 1st 2025 marks the start of the second year


Which means year 1 is 2024, year 2 is 2025, year 3 is 2026

So when Aemmyjah and MaxInDHouse got married 31st October, 2022 your first wedding anniversary or year ends on the 30th of October 2023, the start of your second anniversary is on the 31st of October, 2023. Should you choose to celebrate on 31st October, 2023 you are celebrating your first that just ended not the second anniversary which is starting that very day

MaxInDHouse:


Jesus began ruling in heaven as king in the year 1914!

No scriptural backing for those lies and manipulations packed into your brains.

pneumaticos:
Second one should be men from broken home

For real
This issue goes on both side
It's isn't just a case of ladies
The men can be worse of since they serve as the foundation of a new home
A man from a broken home will surfer a lady ,but it's not often seen ..as there is a cover of deception since he is a man

You can easily detect a lady from a broken home
It's hard to tell of a man from broken homes
The huge divorce rate in the southwest should serve as a statistic for this
And before
Anyone speaks
I am a man
And also from the southwest , it's something I have been checking for years

The problem of a society starts from it's precepts
The carriers and maintener of this precepts are the, men
Where the men goes ,so the family ,the community, and the nation at large goes

The write up looks more like the mothers, wives and the ladies are the cause of broken homes and hence marrying any lady from broken home is a disaster waiting to happen.


We like chasing shadows while abandoning realities. I see it as a means to advance the stigmatisation of those(especially ladies looking forward to getting married) and grow up in a broken homes due to circumstances beyond their control.

barKehinde:
The world today is full of stress, violence, unfaithfulness & mistrust. We are yet to locate the root of our problems as nation or as families in a nation.

The Yorubas has a proverbial saying when they notice the bending load that a lame man carries on his head and they question the lame why the load he carried bends. The Lame man reveled as he responds wondering why the person look only at the head that carried the load and not at his legs that carried everything. This connotes that many of the issues we are having in the world today have its roots in faulty family relationship and in faulty marriages to be specific.

As a Lawyer haven handled several divorce and separation cases I have come to realize that 95% of marital dissolution cases that happened, when you check the couple’s background you will notice that either of the couple’s parents had divorced too. Thus, those who came from a broken home will one day end up with a broken home by terminating their marital vows abruptly too. Where it didn’t happen either of the couple may die or ended up with ill health while enduring a toxic relationship.

Looking at facts and forensic evidence obtained during dissolution of marriages in court, I have observed that women who came from broken homes were largely the cause of their broken marriages in this modern times. I know of several cases where girls from broken homes with very bad temperament have harmed themselves, hurt their husbands and wounded the hearts of their children and at the end their homes were not only broken but severely damaged. Some of them dont even know what a good marriage is like, and they do not know how to achieve one.

I have observed overtime that ladies from broken homes are less disciplined compared to those from regular homes. They are sexually loose, they see relationships in different ways, its either they are too harsh to their man or they are just simply too vulnerable. I have a friend whose wife's parents are divorced. The wife comes from a family of six children and she is the third. The first two that got married (both girls) got divorced in less than 3 years. I always pray for that friend because I know what he is already going through. His wife just doesn't know how to enjoy her marriage. Little issues escalate into war big time, little argument will cause their house to be engulfed in flames, she told me one day that she had vowed not to take any slight rubbish from any man long before she married, my mouth opened so wide that I could not close for several minutes. She has a career like her mother and believes if her mother could take care of 6 children alone, she definitely can take care of two alone. Her mother told her many horrible stuffs about men and blames her father for anything bad that happens. We learnt from close relatives that her mother was so terrible that even if she was driving and a drunkard hit her car, the mother will say it is her father’s fault.

I am not saying girls from broken home cannot have good marriages, no, not at all, the idea is that, you should be extremely careful when it is time to choose your wife. The truth is that Ladies from broken homes could be extremely bitter about men and about the institution of marriage too! They may decide to take out all their frustrations and longtime abuse on you!

Girls from broken homes are quick to get angry, atimes they put up confrontational and defensive attitudes at work, in church, and even in their marital homes. They can become paranoid because they had suffered some psychological damages which makes them to withdraw at the snap of a finger. It is not their fault it is what they had grew up with that had conditioned them to live thereafter. Hence young men who have reached a marriageable age I want to advise you to look out for these significant signs before you decide on which girl to marry.
I will start with the 8 reasons why a young man should never marry a woman from a broken home:

1. A woman from a broken home may not have had the privileges of fathers and mothers love and care during her childhood. Many of them may have ended up in the custody of their fathers even when their fathers do not have the time and materials needed to take care of them. As such the children ended up with grandfathers, grandmothers, uncle, aunty and/or niece who will not give them adequate care needed to expose the children to the atmosphere and concept of love.

Thus, some of these girls grew up under intense and painful moments where they experienced all forms of abuse and psychological torture. I heard the sad story of a young girl who was burnt with hot iron rod severally and her buttock defaced in the process of casting out the evil spirit of ogbanje (water spirit) from her life. The truth is that some of the girls that had lived with their divorced mothers, you cannot underestimate the kind of filth the mother would have told their daughters about men in general.

2. Ladies from broken homes do have emotional issues and attachment problems. Children exposed to high levels of conflict or inconsistency might develop difficulties in regulating their emotions, leading to constant mood swings, sudden outbursts, or difficulties in coping with stress. When such become your wife you may not understand the reason behind her unexpected mood swings. Imagine it if you can, a woman you are laughing with just now and within seconds she is frowning and wearing a rebellious look. A moment she was a good wife you were proud of and another seconds she become hateful, despiteful and distanced herself from you. As the husband you will say ‘Darling any issue?’, hope you are okay and shockingly she replied I am fine just leave me alone, I want to be by myself for some time. You will be wondering what you have done wrong to her.

3. Ladies from broken families do face academic and business challenges. The truth is that emotional distress can translate to a lack of focus in school, which can result in lower academic achievements and reduced future opportunities. They are not averse to risk taking, they abhor anything that will swing them off their feet. They will never long for anything that will challenge them (because of fear of failure and because people may blame them for failing) hence they neither become successful in business nor in leading people in corporate environment.

4. Ladies from broken homes find it difficult to express love, to understand love and to feel loved. This is because they have trust issues because of long-time abuse. The truth is in the fact that people they have trusted in the past have abused them. Though their abusers have long gone away from them or do not have the capacity or where wither to abuse them again, but they will take the moment (unfortunately of their marriage to you) as an opportunity to take revenge for the years of their abuse indirectly on you. You will be wondering why your wife takes joy in doing what she is doing to you despite all that you are doing for her. The truth is that she is not the problem but the years she had been abused physically & psychologically had taken a great toll on the good side of your wife and now she has developed a thick skin always ready to fight back at a very wrong moment and with a very wrong person. If you are married to such a woman, you will constantly endure your marriage, but you will never enjoy it.

5. Ladies from broken homes do struggle with feelings of worthlessness or blame themselves for their personal and/or family’s woes. The years of abuse and the imposing status of their former abusers had impacted negatively on their psyche and can lead to low self-esteem and self-worth, affecting their relationships and professional life in adulthood. When such woman becomes your wife communicating with her or with you will be extremely difficult. It is either you are not listening to her enough or that you do not give heeds to her words/advise because she is worthless or nothing to you. In some cases when you address a word of caution to her she will certainly mis-interpret as an insult. This can be worse if it happened when closer or distance relatives are there. Some married women had thought of committing suicide because of such incidence.

6. Ladies from broken homes focuses on defending all of their actions and at protecting what they think they can loose. Imagine when your wife woke up in the morning instead of doing something useful but direct all of her strength and energy at mundane and unprofitable issues just to proof to you her self worth. Ladies from a broken homes can nag from morning and throughout the day just to proof a point, just to proof that you don’t love them, just to proof that they are right and just to proof that they are making sense. Instead of understanding the psychology of their behaviours they believed that everything about them is worthless and people around them have formed their opinion about them already. They are rigid about their opinion and insistence even though it can cost them their lives.

7. Women from broken homes are full of fears, they are full of envy and are completely jealous. Infact one area that scared me most is the area of fear and jealousy. They can be jealous of their father if he is too close to their husband. They can be jealous of their mothers, sisters or aunt if any of them are somehow close to their spouse. They can be jealous of their children and even their husband in certain aspect of life achievements this is the most dangerous aspect of their life.

8. Ladies from broken homes do not believe in any man pledges of love towards them no matter the extent the husband goes in showing them love. The experience that led to their parent separations and their leanings towards their mummies have poisoned their hearts towards not believing in man’s pledge of love towards them. Till the man died he has a secret wife and secret children outside their marriage.

INCASE YOU MARRY A LADY FROM A BROKEN HOMES

It has been established that the surest way to ill health and sudden death is by living under the same roof with a jealous, envious and nagging woman. Where these three aforementioned traits are the hallmarks of your wife’s personal qualities then the husband of such a wife must be living in hell while living on earth.
Proverbs 27:15-16 New Living Translation (NLT): A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.

Proverbs 21:9 “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a nagging wife”. This bible verse clearly states that it is better to live on the rooftop of a house than to live in the same house with a nagging and/or quarrelsome wife.

If you have married a woman from a broken home you must get knowledge first. God says in the bible that my people perished because of lack of knowledge. There are signs you will see to know this woman problem is not ordinary it is as a result of her upbringing and the evil she has experienced during her childhood so she needed help and probably God Almighty has brought her to you to help her out of these problems by bringing her to you as your wife. You that will solve the problem for her must know about the problem first. This is why I advise you get knowledge first.

I was surprised by the post of Toke Makinwa on social media recently where she expressed her regret about the mistake of not managing her first marriage well and it crashed. From the content of her recent post one can infer that the beautiful lady will surely do things differently if she ever had opportunity to be reconciled with her ex-husband. As at the time the heat was on she believed then that all her actions before the marriage crashed were in order. I have seen Ladies regretting the moments when they maltreated their husbands, if you are an erratic wife engaging in idiotic and hurting behaviors that are detrimental to having a good marital home take time to read this piece, change and begin to do things differently before it is too late.

The truth is that these categories of wives also needed the support of their husband because they don’t know what they are doing now which they will surely regret later. For husband to be able to help such women they must acquire knowledge of whom their wives are and the environment where they came from then the husband will be able to help their wives in such moments.

You must have knowledge of the problems. When you see your wife exhibiting some or any of these personality traits:

Communication & Trust Issues: Individuals from broken families may have trust issues and difficulties with communicating acceptably well with their spouses. They might struggle to open up about their feelings or trust others easily. Be patient and understanding and allow them to open up at their own pace.
Emotional Display: Growing up in a broken family can leave emotional scars. Be aware that your wife may have unresolved emotional issues or trauma related to her family background. Encourage open and honest communication about her feelings and experience.
Boundaries and Independence: People from broken families may have had to navigate complex family dynamics and boundaries at a very young age. Respect their need for space and independence and be supportive of their boundaries. Where it is necessary separate from them for sometimes until they are able to see the negative impacts of their behaviours on their marriage.
Insecurities and Self-Esteem: Individuals from broken families may struggle with insecurities and low self-esteem due to their family experiences. They have the tendency to blame everyone for their failures and misfortunes (even their children for the reasons they do not succeed in life because they gave all their times and meagre resources towards their children educational pursuits and future growth whereas the mental torture and abuse they were exposed to during the time of conflicts in their parent homes have damaged their academic/business viabilities and doggedness required in making academic and/or business success in life. If you notice this traits in your wife kindly offer her reassurance, support, and validation to help her build her self-confidence.
Conflict Resolution Skills: Growing up in a broken family environment can impact one's conflict resolution skills. When ladies from broken homes had issues with anyone, they create more problems in their attempt to resolve such conflicts. This is because they do not have conflict management skills thus instead of settling a matter, they further fuel the conflict. As husband to such a woman you must be patient and understanding in the time of conflicts, and work together with her to find healthy ways to resolve disagreements when they occured. However, if you find out that your wife is not the understanding type (one that do not know that her emotional problems were as a result of her background) and her tantrums constantly make you sick please walk away, separate from her for sometimes or rather give her a very long space.
Attachment Style: The attachment style in relationships of Ladies from broken homes are influenced by their family background. Such women may have avoidant or anxious attachment styles that can affect how they approach relationships. Understanding their attachment style can help you navigate your relationship more effectively with them. In some cases husband that married an emotionally damaged woman from a broken homes have successfully managed the situations by finding work for such woman. If you are well placed, find her a good job in a company owned by family or friends where you have influence that can prevent severe action being taken against her when she unknowingly manifested the broken home traits at work. However, before she start to work in that familiar place please use your influence to let the CEO know who your wife is and why you want that job for her and why she must be protected at all cost so that whatever she do in the company will be tolerated and will not be used to humiliate her making her to be more virulent at home. Such engagement opportunities will enhance her management skill and improve on her attachment style.
Support System: Ladies from broken homes needed more encouragement and support from families and friends, or a therapist a times. Having a strong support system can help them navigate the challenges that come with their family background.
Completely estranged from their family: Ladies from broken homes have issues with almost everyone in their immediate or extended families. This is so common among 85% of married men or women who came from a dysfunctional family. The first step as husband if you notice this traits in your wife is to talk her into forgiving everyone who had hurts her in the past no matter whom they are. Relationship expert have come to the reality of the fact that as long as woman do not forgive members of her immediately families she will never forgive you because your are somehow part of her family by extension and she love them more you and you are second to them no matter what. Relationship experts have also realized that when you get a woman reconciled with her families it will be a gateway to peace in your marital homes. If you are married to a lady from a broken home constantly keep in touch with her brothers, her aunties, her uncle and her distant cousins whom she had frosty relationship with and attempted to reconcile them there will be peace in your home.

Remember that everyone is unique, and our experiences and responses to our family background varies. It's essential to approach the relationship with empathy, respect, and open communication to build a healthy and supportive connection.


Barister M. E Kehinde

How do you define a broken home as it applies to this write up?