naves:

illnesses like chicken pox can only affect you once in your life. so as a parent or guardian, would you let your child go outside to play if there is a spread of chicken pox or would you lock him or her in doors for their safety. 

do you have a child

na wah for some questions on NL

the husband is a useless human being - so he had money for UK flight and boasting to his friends that he sent to wife to UK to have the kids and now this.

as for this woman - who the heck advised he to take overdose of fertility drugs - as we can see here ignorance is not bliss,

anyway congrats on the birth of the babies - some people are looking for one and she has 5.

As shocking as this story is - are we REALLY that surprised. The way the Nigerian society is built up does not favour women AT ALL.

some people are even opening their uncivilised mouths to say "we don't know the full story" - I laugh out loud in Swahili. In the western world I wonder what story the judge and jury would be told to justify killing ur wife and chopping her up for human pepper soup.

a man cheats - its his wife's fault
he beats his wife - its her fault
he is taking drugs - its her fault
he looses his job - his wife is a witch
he dies - she killed him
she tries to claim what they both worked hard to acquire when he was alive - she is a witch who killed him for his money
no children in the marriage - it is the woman fault


stop saying the man was possessed - he was not!!!! the only mental problem he had was unchecked/undiagnosed and untreated depression

as soon as the society takes domestic violence as a VERY SERIOUS issue then we will be hearing more and more stories like this. I mean come on u only have to read what some men come out with here on NL to know its an issue that is more epidemic than a swine flu outbreak. Everyday a woman is nursing cuts, bruises and broken bones in that country and she is told to "be more submissive" "fast and pray - after all he is ur husband"

the number of men who beat up their pregnant wives and then announce - she had a miscarriage is more common than people know (I hear too many stories)

this woman was trying to ensure her daughter would marry in future "cos who wants a woman from a broken home", anyway i have to go cos duty calls.

May the woman rest in peace and may this man rot in hell where he belongs.

this man probably killed his wife cos he wanted to marry his girlfriend. I'm waiting for part 2 of this story where he says the all too familiar "IT WAS THE DEVIL"

ha ha ha - I have to laugh at the question the poster asked, I haven't read all the replies but I will say this, I think we all have relatives like this auntie, should she stay or go - ask this aunt if her own children won green card lottery if she would advise her OWN children to stay in Nigeria or go to America to get a university education. Before u even wait for the answer she is already at MMA with that said child with probably one way ticket.

Nonsense - why can't enemies of progress realise that the only progress they are stopping is their own - KARMA!!

tom28:

I don already tell the OP make im leave london .E go better if he either relocate to naija or another country to start im life.I no see wetin special for that Uk way dey make una get jungle fever.Una dey spend all una money on that old woman(Queen Elisabeth) and yet u londoners no wan let us see road again wit una london dis and london dat.

i wish bitterness had a cure, chei - uk is bad - nigeria is heaven we don hear!!!

tom28:

Ada when i mentioned Peckham i was trying to say that london is not all that of a paradise.There are lots of poor nigerians in the UK with nothing struggling on a daily basis and there"s nothing for them to show for their long stay in the Uk so what can you say about that?.If the UK is a comfortable place i repeat why is the OP complaining about life in the UK?

there are lots of poor people in the uk - full stop, not just nigerians - are u getting some sort of joy from knowing ur countrymen and women abroad are not "flossing" like u back home or something.

but a poor man in the uk is still better off than a poor man in naija - at least he/she will be treated in hospital for free and not told to drop deposit b4 treatment. i could go on but i will stop.

like i said each to their own

i would have thought my username would give it away as to what part of Nigeria i am from, anyway talking to u tom is like talking to a brick wall.

oh my goodness - u want to go down the crime route - abeg please lets start with what is the number u use to call the police if there is an emergency.

leave it - the poster asked a question and u know what each to their own - where a person wants to live and bring up their kids is a personal choice - but for u to start comparing the kidnap capital if Africa with a developed country is really stretching it

tom28 - STOP USING PECKHAM TO COMPARE A COUNTRY - I doubt every single city or village in nigeria is the same as lekki - stop exposing ur level of reasoning

tom28 - are for real.

is it that you are blind to what the majority of nigerians in nigeria experience on a daily basis.

honestly the way people view life is strange. and if ur using peckham to view the UK - u are only exposing urself in a very bad way. London is one city in the UK and ur using a run down area of london to compare uk and nigeria.

abeg please read up on some vital statistics and then compare, things like infant mortality, how many women die in childbirth, life expectancy to name a few.

I have lived in the UK for close to 3 decades and have never been a victim of crime - however I lived in nigeria last year for a few months - trust me the same ca not be said.

you don't actually need to live in london - to be honest u can cut out a lot of stress by moving out of london -as for parking don't even get me started - u people that live in london are suffering - paying to park in front of ur own house - like WTF!!!

anyway just one thing about moving back home - u say u have 2 kids - have u thought about their education - good private schools are not cheap from what i hear and another thing if they were to come back to the uk for their university education they would need to be here for a while to pay home fees. (don't quote me, as this was the rule a few years ago).

anyway think its best to think about it very hard with ur wife as moving back to nigeria after spending a long time in the UK will not be easy.

good luck

when i go on holiday I usually stay in a hotel, if it pains u so much to have the lights switched off - abeg there are plenty of hotels in London, or don't u know staying with friends and then complaining at the hospitality given is equally "stingy"

as for running gen all night - don't let me fall off my chair laughing - so the noise pollution and fumes are good for your health abi. this is 2011 and u don't think there is anything wrong with a society that can't provide basic electricity for its people. KMT!!!!

i don't know why some people back home get joy from thinking those abroad are suffering, its either some sort reverse inferiority complex or the realisation that things are not that great where u are but to make yourself feel better you put others down.

I believe this story cos I know that a few companies treat their Nigerian staff like this and treat their non-nigerian like God's gift to humanity.

what i don't understand is how people go to work and they haven't been paid, is it that there are no employment contracts anymore. Nah wah o - employment law really needs to be looked into.

I was in tears when that woman from Congo gave her story - trying to rape a 4 year old girl - what kind of animals are allowed to roam this earth.

y the upset about the comment (at heathrow) we all know that any flight coming in from certain countries are checked more vigorously for drugs, not saying its right but if we fixed our country then people wouldn't target Nigerian flights at passport control

very funny video.

u should have started weaning at 4-6 months - 7 months latest if baby was premature.

baby cannot live on milk alone at this age as they need additional vitamins and minerals.

start of with fruit and veg and baby rice and baby cereal. please try not to add any salt or sugar to baby food. hope this helps.

why is this a topic?

the fact that some men here think its ok to hit a woman does not warrant 5 pages of back and forth arguing for and against.

lets call a spade a spade and not an instrument for digging, Nigerian society allows men to hit women and think its ok - trust me not all men who beat their wives/gf's do it cos they have been provoked. I'm sure if a lot of u men knew that your backsides would be thrown in jail, a criminal record or the possibility of losing ur job over beating up ur wife - some of u here claiming its ok would respect yourself and find another way to deal with your issues in the relationship.

ragdollz:

[b]
What makes you think marriage and fatherhood won't settle him down?? [/b]A baby has a way of healing a lot of wounds. He just might be redeemable. If she doesn't try, she'll never know. And guess what? She can always leave if she wants. That's the up side!!! If she doesn't marry him, it'll always be a matter of "what if"??


Besides, she's thirty and pregnant. Not exactly able to be choosy, or what do you think??

Some men cannot be changed by fatherhood or marriage. Just because the woman marries the man it will not mean the man will be a good father, is it not better to have a happy single mom showering love on this child than a depressed mother and uncaring and unsupportive father.

The woman should not marry the man - what is name - she can give the baby his name married or not - see me see trouble o!!

DeeJay20:

Please note the bolded comments. You seem to be still in the euphoric stage of being abroad.

Take it from me, someone that was born abroad, raised abroad and came to Nigeria
as a Teenager. Its was the missing link to the puzzle that 99.9% of Nigerians Born Abroad need.

You are admiring Indians and how they motivate their kids, well you better be ready to
teach your kids Ibo as most Indian kids speak there language and love their culture

Dont be fooled, its the cultural identity and bonding with their cultural roots/family
that helps most Indians, Pakistanies and Asians in General to be successful in education and life.

I read, write and speak Ibo and i am trully thankful that my Father brough me back to Nigeria

I can see the African and Black experience from both sides of the fence and it has made me
a more balanced individual and man.

Not too mention that all my nigerian friends that did not even visit let alone
live in Nigeria look up to me for moral and identity support.

IF you do not send your CHILD to live in Nigeria, the least you can do is Teach her Ibo Langauge
and i mean start speaking to her in Ibo NOW!!!

THIS IS THE BIGGEST RESENTMENT NIGERIANS BORN ABROAD HAVE TOWARDS THEIR PARENTS AND ITS A RESENTMENT
AND SOMETIMES BITTERNESS THAT MOST NIGERIAN KIDS BORN ABROAD HIDE!!!

THE EASIEST WAY TO WATCH YOUR KIDS THAT ARE NOT BORN IN NIGERIA DRIFT AWAY AND BE DISTANT FROM YOU
IS NOT TEACH THEM YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE.

I have a Nigerian friend that lived all his life abroad and only came to Nigeria for Holiday
but he speaks Ibo Fluently becos his parents taught him from birth. The parents are so happy
that they taught all their kids Ibo as it bonded the family and saw them through the
difficult teenage years of the children.

It did the same for me too,

THANK YOU MUM & DAD FOR NOT BEING COWARDS AND INTIMIDATED CHICKENS
LIKE SOME OF THE NIGERIAN PARENTS I KNEW WHO REFUSED TO TEACH THEIR KIDS THEIR NATIVE TONGUE
BECOS THEY WERE BORN ABROAD AND SPOKE WITH A DIFFERENT ACCENT THAN THEM!!!

REMEMBER ADA YOU ARE NOT IN NIGERIA WHERE THE BASIC SOCIAL ENVIROMENT BENDS KIDS TOWARDS
RESPECT AND DISCIPLINE, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO INSTILL IN YOUR KIDS, YOU HAVE TO WORK 200% TO DO
IT AS YOU ARE NOW ABROAD!.BELIEVE YOU ME MY PARENTS WORKED OVERTIME TO MAKE SURE I GREW UP
WITH A SANE LEVEL HEAD, IT WORKED ADA ITS WORKED

THE NUMBER ONE WAY TO DESTROY YOUR KIDS RESPECT FOR YOUR COUNTRY AND IBO CULTURE IS
START TALKING NEGATIVE ABOUT NIGERIA IN FRONT OF THEM!

NUMBER TWO WAY TO GET YOUR KIDS TO DISRESPECT YOU SUBTLELY AND YOUR CULTURE IS TO BE
INTIMIDATED BY THEIR FOREIGN ACCENT AND TRY AND TALK LIKE THEM OR TRY TO BE THEIR PAL
OR APPEASE THEM!!! BAD BAD MOVE IF YOU DO THAT!!!

NUMBER THREE WAY TO GET THEM TO DISRESPECT YOU AND THEIR CULTURE IS WHEN YOU DONT TEACH
THEM HOW TO PRO-NOUNCE THEIR NAMES PROPERLY WITH THE CORRECT IBO INTONATIONS AND ALSO
EXPLAIN TO THEN THE MEANING!!!

THIS IS SOMETHING MY PARENTS NEVER DID AND WHEN BAD NEWS CAME OUT OF NIGERIA,MY PARENTS
ALWAYS REMINDED ME THAT THE ETHNIC GROUPS EXISTED IN NIGERIA BEFORE THE NATION WAS FORMED AND
WILL BE AROUND IRRESPECTIVE OF THE SOCIO-POLITICAL CHANGE REGARDLESS AND THAT THEIR ARE GOOD PEOPLE
IN AND FROM NIGERIA AND WHEN I ASKED THEM TO NAME ME SOME: THEY WOULD SAY US! YOUR PARENTS!
AND IT WOULD ALWAYS BRING A SMILE TO ME FACE (AND A TEAR TO MY EYE JUST THINKING ABOUT IT!)

I KNOW I HAVE SAID ALOT, BUT IT JUST SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK ON!

Thank you, but let us all do what i best for OUR OWN CHILDREN. what works for one might not work for another. Some good points made thou

tpia@:

I'm not saying the mother isnt pretty, before someone bites me, but the daughter resembles abroad pikin.

LMAO - which one is abroad pickin again, chalay!!

playmode:

You took the words out of my mind.Almost every Nigerian male i meet these days is a Chief or  a prince.Honestly it is so annoying.South Africans make fun of us Nigerians here.One of my SA friends once jockingly told me that he believes all N50 million Nigerians come from a royal family.Even the Nigerian quack pastors refer to themselves as Dr .

The other day i was at the Nigerian embassy to renew my passport and this clueless  started preaching even though we were told to remain silent.After his sermon a lady asked him what his name was and if he had a ministry,he replied in his own words " I am Dr Evangelist Micheal okonkwo of the blessing Light ministries INTERNATIONAL" . I immediately burst out in to laughter and everybody started staring at me like i was crazy.I just couldn't help it,the guy was so ridiculous.One look at him and i could tell he was just a guy-man pastor,his sermon was total crap and made no sense whatsoever.


Even when i go to the Nigerian restaurant where i normally get my weekly dose of Nigerian food, i see a lot of these uneducated riff raffs walking from their car into the restaurant with the protruding bellies while their minions trailing them are hailing them as thus "chief ,chairman, otunba ,Alhaji ,dangote ,ezego,abiola ,Doctor,Attorney,maga must pay,igwe, regional coordinator.They me sick to my stomach because they sound so silly and mentally underdeveloped.

I believe it stems from poor upbringing and inferiority complex. Most Nigerians feel that if they have not attached a title to their name they won't appear important to other people.

A Simple example of this ridiculous mentality is the way the Nigerian president is intorduced as compared to the way The US president is inroduce to the public.

In the white House when they are introducing  obama ,the announcer simply says: Ladies and Gentlmen ,the president of the United States ,Barack Obama

In Aso rock or Abuja the story is the different ,the announcer will say: Ladies and gentlemen ,honorable distinguished member of the senate, distinguished members of the ruling party,foreign dignitaries ,members of the press and viewers at home ,i present to you the grand commander of the federal republic,Guardian of the niger ,commander in chief of the armed forces, ggg,ccc,vvv, ttt, ftt,professor ,dr ,President Ebele Azikwe Goodluck Jonathan.

This bullsh*t to the bone.Why can we just keep it simple,why the carnival?  

I can't stop laughing cos it is sooooooooooo true

personally i prefer this style - classy, simple but elegant. U can actually dress simple and also be sexy.

People can wear what they want so no naija women bashing abeg but I personally prefer simple dressing and natural make up. There is a way of wearing make up that just enhances what God gave you.

Bawss1:

But seriously is there really such a thing as an ugly baby?

abi o,

does the poster think its easy to give birth - I don't know how anyone can call a newborn baby ugly - just ask God for forgiveness cos that is just simply wrong on so many levels

pat ti to:

Kate look so beautiful,how i wish i am in her shoes right now,you all will be bowing down to me now.Fame is so sweet and powerful:wishing them the very best together as one.

i don't think anyone is bowing down to anyone - its 2011 my dear. people may curtsy to the queen out of tradition and respect but I think thats it.

i'm sooooooooooooo loving her dress, William picked well

mojounited:

Kate looks gorgeous but errrm, she nor get man[b]chest[/b]er jor

tacky

@ chaircover - I know but i'm glad u said it. It does start from day one cos when madam wants to start acting up she corrects herself when she hears mummy's voice tell her off.

I wish them well - and yes I am watching it.

2 young people marrying for love, its so sweet. I wish them well and hope God blesses them with beautiful and healthy children.

If people want to spend millions on their wedding let them - o jarre life is too short to be asking such question - are u expecting a future king of england to buy his suit in primark for his wedding. Does anyone question the rich who spend millions on their wedding in nigerian high society.