I dont think that its necessary to fall when ur Pastor lays hands.
Sometimes, the Pastor does push u sha.

I always thought that even after the introduction - then we can start the koko of the matter.
Oga o me i have definitely thought like a sinner.

I was always under the intention that when u have the introduction, traditional, then u are married.

All my Life - Kci and Jojo

joshjosh:

nice one my people at their very best. well done you all. may God remember your good seeds in your time of need.

adeboo and co you guys are gems.
@
adeboo you have good head on your shoulders. if you were near me, i would drag you to the registry even against your will.

i have always wondered why it is Nigerian women that becomes other Nigerian women wahala in relationships. if they are not there as wicked mother in-laws/outlaws & sister in-laws/outlaws, they come as girl friends and 2nd and 3rd wives. why?

God bless you all for a job well done

Thank God that she is sorted out.
Thanks sha - drag to a registry against ma will? Lol.
That would be hilarious - drag me khe?How do u know whether i wouldnt go willingly. Lol.

What can i do - am a lover not a fighter - what joy would i have if someone separated from their husband cause am hoping for a happy home one day.

For one woman to come and scatter ma home - God forbid, God will help her after i have patiently waited. no way, won ti po to (they never plenty reach).

Well that should depend on both parties.
I have seen people date for less than 6 months and are still married till today.

So i dont think time is an essence here.
However, knowing someone for a while helps cause then u can know a bit about them.

@ Adeboo: Sorry to hear about your experiences, but remember, not all men are like that, so continue to be you, and always say what you feel!


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Thank u jare my brotha.
I am still myself and i couldnt change even if change slapped me in the backside.

Oga o this sounds like a Maury show.

Well, if i was the dad - i would really just move out cause looking at the kids would be constant reminders.

And if i was the mother, i would just move to America and start my life all over.

For 14 years and he didnt know?
Thats hard to believe.

wELL, I have always slept on the outside of the bed and i am willing to compromise if i am gonna be compensated accordingly.

Yes i was married - and the reason we split is another story for the books.
But thank God u are good - like they say a problem shared is a problem halved.

I believe in attraction at first sight.

Cause how could u love someone u dont know and have never spoken to - so i believe in attraction at first sight.

oGA O WE HAVE PLENTY OF HEARTBREAKERS IN THE HOUSE.

Ok let me see, well there are people i have promised to call back and i didnt.
There are people that i have used and abused but i am seriously sorry.

But dont worry sha, what has gone around has come around - i have learnt the error of my ways and u dont even need to stress urself in saying that there is karma - dont worry, karma has already bit me in the arse.

No Way Hose!

Because i know my men, when u end up sleeping with the man and not enjoying it, when ma guy gets better, he will use the same thing to insult me. I really do not think, i would want to o.

God will heal him.

I could have sworn that this thread was already in motion.

Well it depends on how enlightened the person is.
If they are really enlightened and they know whats going on in the world, they are able to contribute intelligently to conversations, then and only then would i consider it.

top_kin:

Its rily a dificlt one. It will be height of temptation really but I don't just think it right. It's rily not a healthy way to start a marriage. Once u make up your mind to marry u should summon all your strength to always control urslf in sch situation. Its not just the best

EXATICACALY!
Rightly said.

Oga o.
I really dont see what the holabaloo is about Angie's lips.

Its all good sha, i just thank God that i have lips of ma own.

adeboo:

Its a difficult one.
I don't think i would cause i would be too guilt ridden and its just not a healthy way to start a marriage.
At this stage in ma life, i don't really want to take risks cause its just too risky.

This drama!
The fact that i would be guilt ridden.

supercunt:

how about would you sleep with a man on your wedding eve?

I personally wouldnt because i do not need all that drama.

Girl am so happy for u o.
Thank God. - u better not say this marriage doent interest u any longer, spit that thought out.
Now u just know him better - u have just learnt something else about him that u can avoid if u dont want drama.
I told u that men are big babies.

Girl am so happy for u o - journey mercies as u go ok?
May u come back to us on this site in one piece.

And maybe we will even help u celebrate the birth of Atinuke with this trip u are going to in Nija?

Its a difficult one.
I dont think i would cause i would be too guilt ridden and its just not a healthy way to start a marriage.
At this stage in ma life, i dont really wanna take risks cause its just too risky.

If he wont leave her for u then that should telll u something.
He dont want you.

Its hard to do but girl, u just got to. Why must u waste ur time on him when he obviously is getting on with his.

Girl u are welcome.
Thats what i said, u know him and what he can do and how good he has been to u in the past so u know the best thing to do is maybe try what ur Mum said.
I know that he is hurting and he will get over it - like i said, go to nija and do all the wifey things required for u to do.
But let him know that if he isnt talking to ya you are gonna stay in ur family home o.

Girl, maybe u should try and do what ur mum suggests and see if that works.

I hope he comes round quick time before it gets too late.

chidipupay:

Have u guys turned here to blind datin section, I would prefer pasuma

Pasuma for what?

Girl - all am gonna say is keep ur eyes and ears open cause u know it just seems really dodgy.
There is always one drama after the other with these men.

You can never be too trusting cause i dont know what to say. If i were in that situation, i would definately do more investigating, i wouldnt go by what he alone says.

Cause i wanna have a legacy left in this world when i die.
I also want to see what ma offsprings will look like.

pannyman:

Look shapey, don't open your mouth and beg again. I know how it is. The more you beg the worse it will get. Just watch him. Your laughter was sort of involuntary because of the exaggerated comment in the message sent to your husband. Just keep cool and watch.

Wish you all the best.

But what is she watching out for?

Oga o D-Loaded girl i hear u on the sister in law issue o.
She is like a thorn in ur side.
What does she want - ur blood?

Girl pray hard o cause this girl has smelt the blood and she is coming in for the kill.

I feel so sorry for shapey girl u are gonna be alright.
Just hang in there e go better.

I just pray that u can have some peace in nija o, cause its gonna be hell for u. Just make sure u have someone from ur end there for moral support.