Man-eater:

Anyone who calls another person ugly has a very ugly heart.

Because guys have ***** for brains they actually think they can say who is ugly and who is not.

and you may call me ugly because i'm sticking up for the girls uv decided to abuse but i am very pretty.

Infact i was once the most sought after girl at my uni.

Well, you may be visually appealing, but you have an ugly heart. I guess your own argument just owned you! Anyway, I think I'm one of those $#!~ for brains men: I think you are ugly. Way to stand up for those ugly people by giving us concrete evidence of your [i]one-time [/i]sexual allure.

I actually read a statistical survey that said being good looking does make you happy, along with religion. But intelligence and money make you no more happy. I theorize that social relationships make people happy. Being the smartest guy in the world is unsatisfying if no one is there to tell you you are awesome. Or, maybe it's that people who answered they are good looking are happier people in general. Since to believe you are good looking, you must have received a social cue, the first answer still makes sense. I guess the trick is, always believe that you are good looking, and people seem to have figured that one out quick. It took me longer.

You know, it's thinking like that that made me very unhappy for a long time. In school, I always denied the social fact that some people are just better than others. I denied that some people just are not good football players, some are not good studyers, and some are just not good for anything. I forced myself to believe that no one was better than me, that we were all somehow equal, and it made me very competitive. I thought, it's not that these people are better, it's that they work harder or they come from better homes. So I worked harder and had less fun. In the end, those people were smarter, and they wern't even trying. I still had no friends. I think that if you accept that some people are ugly, you will be a lot happier. Some things in life are just out of reach because you aren't good enough. Jealousy just makes things worse, too.

Do you love your parents?

Well, I was back in the Nam. It was rainy, and my mouth hurt from catching bullets between my teeth. I crouched down deep in the forest, and I heard a barrage of explosions about a mile up the way. It was the middle of the Tet offensive, and I was 3 years old.
     I decided enough was enough. I was going to kill all them VC sons of bitches myself. So, after casuallly slaying a wild elephant (still don't know where it came from) with my bare hands, I picked myself up and headed into the fray. Unfortunatly for my comrades at arms, however, their hero encountered the most beautiful Cambodian hooker whilst making his way to conquer the entire VC army, singlehandedly. Now, at first she was a little shy, wanting to protect my childhood innocence, but all that ended quickly. I slapped her across the face and handed her a wad of money, yelling "ugly whores aren't allowed to have self-respect."
     Then I had my way with her. Unfortunately, whilst I contracted every venereal disease in existance and dodged the VC placed razor blades wedged in the hooker's Instruments (because I was that badass), the Chinamen bastards drove the rest of the American forces in the area back to the South. Now I was all alone and I had no one except for the skanky hooker for support. But, long story short, since I was the best lover she'd ever had (and she was a hooker, remember), she offered to escort me personally back to the American base. It turns out most Cambodian hookers are expert woodsmen.
   
     So, anyway, I think that's how it happened. I was 3, remember, and that's only because I'm so badass I can defy time and travel back to lose my virginity in the most heroic way possible. And 3 year olds have notoriously bad memories.

agreed

WTF seun. A biological argument for why it's okay to cheat now that we have contraceptives? It's not okay to cheat because most people in a relationship are under the impression that the relationship is monagamous, and it makes those people unhappy to have their trust exploited. If you are up front with a woman, and she says you can cheat, then it is not wrong. Swingers do it all the time, and they don't mind.

Dude, never get married, and for God's sake, never have children. It just wouldn't be fair to them. It's not like you would invest time in ensuring a better future for them. You'd be too busy finding other ho's to impregnate.

Well dude, maybe it's because people only come here to complain, but it doesn't seem like we've been missing much. One topic was actually "is love the root of all evil?" I mean, come on. One common theme I've noticed on this site is confusing the concept of "love", like a mother who cares for her infant, with sexual attraction, which is just a hunger for someone's body. Another is exploited trust. Husbands and wives are often reluctant to share a bank account, for fear of betayal. Cheaters catch partners off guard all the time. Dude, this is intense. Maybe it's good we didn't get involved with this earlier. Now we can focus on finding people we can trust. Do what makes you happy, but be careful, man. It seems that a lot of women are no good.

People are all different, and they don't like to change. Is a psychopath like everyone else? After all, people are people.

Ask them if they'd be willing to party. I mean, it's perfectly understandable that you want to do both of them. They look similar, right? It's like the next best thing after twins.  If only you had two joysticks. Damn.

Alright dude, let me explain some genetics. The reason that incest is an almost universal taboo is that almost everyone contains some harmful DNA. The good news is that it is usually recessive. The bad news is that, while these alleles might be very rare among an entire population, they can be quite prevalent within your family. Say your cousin contains 1/16 of all your genes. Now there is a 1/16 chance that your cousin contains any one recessive harmful allele that you have. The two together produce a usually lethal combo. Look at the Eurasain royal families. Hemophilia (makes it hard to stop bleeding) ran rampant in the royal families. The Romanoff heir, Alexander, is famous in history for being afflicted with this condition, and incest (the inbreeding that occured in these royal families) was the cause of his affliction. So, if you totally hit it off, you reduce variability in your bloodline, put your children at greater risk for harmful DNA, and you act against society. As a social creature, that's a bad idea regardless.

Crap! Why does cool stuff like that never happen to me. Sister brings a turbo hott best friend straight to me,

I'm a white guy, and I agree that color is just a characteristic. Culture is a different story, but color is just the concentration of melanin pigments in the skin. I even saw Hindus mentioned as "disgusting". I assume this is because the culture is too different. Just find someone who matches you. There are very white black people and very black white people, and all that seems to hinge on the way they act, on their culture. If you want someone who acts white, find someone who acts white, it doesn't even matter if he's black. Pick someone based on what he is like, not on what he looks like.

Oh, you should probably know that I don't really value my virginity highly. I haven't really heard of a man who does. That would be very counter-societal. I just never really pursued a sexual relationship. Although, I'm still young, obviously, and I'm looking now. But I don't care if a woman wants to keep her virginity. I have been a virgin for 19 years, and I don't think I'll explode if I remain that way a few more. I have other things in my life that make me happy anyway. Call me naive (because I probably am), but I'd rather have a woman who makes me happy with who she is than one who gives me a lot of sex. That way, I won't end up with one of those ridiculus "loveless" marriages.

Don't you have to be in a relationship before you can lose your virginity? I mean. I dunno. I'm a virgin. I don't see any way to get it outside of a relationship other than to find some drunk slut at a party or pay up, and I don't think women would go for either of those. Ha, if a man won't let you continue in a relationship without sex, it means that it is more important for him to have sex in his life than to be with you. Figure it out. He's performing a cost-benefit analysis, and your companionship is too much cost for too little benefit, if you know what I mean. It is entirely possible for a guy to go without sex. Celebacy is a hands-on job (again, if you know what I mean), but it's totally feasible. Virgins can be in relationships, if maintaining virginity is a priority.

It sounds to me that the institution of marriage is flawed at best. The two people are always afraid that the other will leave and take everything? Divorce should be illegal under normal circumstances. Aha! Now that would change the dynamics of marriage.

About this "loveless" marriage. Did you ever stop loving your brother or sister when you grew up? Your father, if he happened to stay (that seems unlikely given the nature of this board). Why should you stop loving your wife? It is a societal flaw that this is possible. I see the bible referenced often. Let me tell you what it is to say that a sheet of paper separates you from a partner and that you are free to indulge elsewhere. It is adultery. But that is human nature, and this is a less than ideal world. It seems to me that in this environment, joint accounts are naive and stupid.

Cheaters never quit! , or was that winners? I f'ing don't remember.

Infactuation is a feeling. Love is a philosophy. If you find yourself wanting to make someone happy because of some reason like "she's a good person and deserves nice things" and not because "she gives me a boner", then you probably love her. Dude, you love your immediate family in the same way you can love a woman. The concept doesn't change just because you can have sex with her. That's just an added bonus in a sexual relationship. Good lord. I am giving advice and I have zero experience. Screw what I think.

That's so idealistic, and wrong. Some people are ugly because they possess qualities that modern society, through magazines, news, advertising, etc., has deemed unattractive. A century ago in Europe, a little pudge, pale skin, and a large forehead were attractive. I believe this is because these qualities indicated a good pick in some way. Pudge and pale skin indicated wealth, as only the rich women could afford extra food and to stay out of the sun. I dunno about the forehead, but maybe it was a feature commonly occuring in royal lines. Anyway, today, pudge is generally ugly, because that is the prevailing media consensus. Pale skin is nerdy, because only dorks stay inside all day (a tan is pretty). And large foreheads are wierd, because they are too different. The reason make-up is so prevalent is that it allows women to all meet the same attractive ideal. Girls in uniform are statistically more attractive, and if you look different, it is almost certainly not attractive. So the answer is, yes, there is an attractive and an unattractive. These concepts exist for a reason. But if you and your partner are both butt ugly, you will probably be too happy with each other (and too unable to do better) to notice.

Okay, some girls are definately ugly. The cool part is that some guys are equally ugly/unsuccessful. Ugly girls can find love given their standards are not in the sky. Unless she has some kind of feature that makes her appearance absolutely disgusting, there are plenty of people who are just not hott. Plus, some hot girls are too annoying or simple to be interesting.

Your dick in a box.

#1 Cut a hole in a box.
#2 Put your junk in that box
#3 Have her open that box.

There you go. Give her your dick in a box. I saw it on SNL. Works great!

Guys don't think about this shit. I doubt he ever considered whether not telling you would make you unhappy. Don't worry about it.

I think that depends on whether she knew about it. If she knew, then I would be really, really pissed. If not, there are always cocktail treatments. AIDS doesn't have to be a death sentence, if you can foot the medical bill.

Dude, I'm 19 and I have never even kissed a girl, ever. But I'm not unhappy. I have been working to go to a very nice university so I can study to become a doctor. There is plenty of time. But if you want a girlfriend, just go find one. You don't have to be desparate. If media did not make being an 18 year old virgin out to be something strange, you probably wouldn't even care. You definately don't need one precisely this moment. I just now decided that it would be neat to have a girlfriend. So, now I have opened myself to opportunities. I'm on this website to learn about what people in relationships consider. Who says not everything can be learned form a book? Haha, I'm such a nerd.

Just get him comfortable with touch, look him in the eyes, then do it. He'll just pull back if he doesn't want to, and you will have made your intentions clear. But I doubt any moderately confident guy would pull back, unless he can't tell you have a vagina.

No, I am 19, and I have never even kissed anyone. It is only strange if it bothers you. I have been very happy without a girlfriend. If you are unhappy, look for someone. Otherwise, there is plenty of time. Actually, I have been thinking recently about pursuing some kind of relationship, and I came to this site in order to learn what people think about when involved with someone. Who says you can't learn everything from a book? Haha, I'm such a nerd.