Hello house, please I urgently need help. I have US interview 2mw and just discovered I don't have my appointment page at hand. Is there any way I can retrieve it from their website so as to print out again.

Kindly assist urgently. Thank you

It's quite a pity, wish him speedy recovery. Don Jazzy is not Enebeli's son, I don't think they are even related in any way.

A lot of pple here don't seem to understand the koko of the matter. The issue is not being a drop out but the deception. There are key things in relationship pple should be open about. For pete's sake, we are not talking abt beans being his favourite food only to find out it's actually foofoo  , we are talking abt a crucial aspectof d rship.

Agreed, education doesn't necessary make a person though in most cases, it lays the foundation. The crucial aspect is the guys attitude & what exactly are his long term plans esp. as it concerns earning money and catering for d family. In Nigeria, we are always quick to go spiritual; PRAY. Yes, I concur but faith without good works is nothing. The right step is changing the man's attitude as well as pray.

The wife should show understanding & support but shouldn't take it upon herself to shoulder the responsibility alone. It will make the guy relent the more.

All the best

@Jenny, am aware he had a relationship within the 5 years, I meant that I believed when he said he doesn't have any relationship at the moment. Am not there to see things for myself, we can only build the relationship on trust you know. Unfortunately I tried to secure US visa but was denied.

Be rest assured that am a lady with sense of worth who only want to critically assess the situation before taking a decision. I didn't want to take hasty or rash decision which might be figuratively throwing away the baby with the bath water, which is why am sampling opinion here.

Thank you all for the adviice so far and be assured that with God on my side, I will conquer the situation.

@Ola, it's amazing how you asked questions & provided the best possible that will suit ur point. If a lady sleeping with a man automatically makes me a LovePeddler (in your dictionary), then it applies vice versa. It takes two to tango, rememberm

Like I said before, we had major strain along the while we were apart which was more or less like a break. I told him about my relationship during this perios & he equally opened up to me. So that's not an issue at all.

There is no running out of option iin this case as I made a decision to keep other prospective guys at bay cos I believed there was no point stringing anyone along(since I & my guy were already talking marriage) and of course he is from my tribe, same state actually.

I have never funded him in any way as he has never depended on me for anything not even for a day, he is simply not those kind of men. As a matter of fact, he has never asked how much I earn or what I do with my money. So all ur assumptions doesn't come to play, all the same thanks for ur contribution.

Thanks all for the response so far. @Ify I had a heart to heart discussion with him yesternite & I told him to spell things out in clear terms, I didn't mince words in letting him know how I felt & the need to know what I am actually doing. He said he still wants the relationship but didn't tell me what d marriage plans are.

As for having a relationship there, I can't say 100% but I believe him as he said he doesn't have any cos as CC said, trust & communication is key in LDR.

@Ifyalways the guy is 32yrs old. I know he is using Iphone but not necessarily that he told me as at d time he bought it. I really want to get married which is why I am bothered.

I've tried to make him understand that its never the same for a man & a woman. He can afford to give himself time but I don't have that same luxury. Since we got back together again, I've not had any other relationship cos I don't want to get distracted. This was why I asked him to let me in on his plans, at least I deserve to know since am supposedly part of the plan but he was not forthcoming except that we should work on ourselves and pray. My question still remains for how long more?

Hello peeps, I have been a passive member of this forum but presently, I am seriously confused about my relationship which is why I am posting this topic to sample opinions.

I have been in my relationship for 8 years now long before my boyfriend travelled abroad 5 years ago. The distance and some other factors played a role in between those years we were apart, so we had some major strains. Recently, we got back together fully cos we realised we still had it going for each other. he came back December and met my people with promise that his people will come later to kick off the formalities to marriage.

Things didn't go as he intended because there was a job strain and I really tried to understand with him while praying that God will intervene in the job situation which was a clog in the wheel. God answered that prayer and I broached the issue again cos am really not getting any younger. We agreed that the people were going to come during the muslim holiday(bearing in mind that I work in Lagos but am from East so it's an ample opportunity).

Along the line, we got talking about some stuff and the issue of the i am using came up. I told him and he got pissed that I didn't hint it to him before then. I apologised though it really wasn't intentional not telling him. As at the time I had it, we were having a little issue so there was no conducive time to tell him about it. Things ended on a sad note that day even after I apologised. He said he wanted me to tell him every minute details and since I didn't tell him about that, he believed there are some other stuff i might not be telling him. I was planning to visit Uk which he was aware of except that I didn't tell anybody not even my family when i submitted until I got the visa. I wanted to surprise all of them with the good news including him, unfortunately, he didn't take it that way as he referred to it when the  issue came up, that I hide things from him. Because of this he said we have to put a hold on the marriage arrangement.

I took it as he said cos I don't like pushing people to do what they don't really feel inclined to do. I asked him yesterday to be honest and tell me if he still feels we have a future together and he said yes. I wanted to find out what his long term plan as regards 'US' is and he is not giving me straight answer. All he keeps saying is that we need to work on ourselves and pray. All well and good to me cos even in marriage people still work on themselves. But giving me blanket answer without a clear cut plan or time frame didn't sit well with me which I told him. At the end of the day, he still didn't give a direct answer to that.

I am actually writing all these to get third party opinion and I need mature answer which is partly why I am posting this in the family section. Kindly advise please.

Note: I am a 30 years old lady working in a bank

@CyberG I really don't understand what your stress is. Get off ur high horse about being in America & meeting 'Americanized' Nigerian girls, as if we care. You are just so pathetic to think all Nigerian girls in America fall under the classification u posted. Please spare the poster and drop an advice, if you don't anything worthwile to say then take a chill pill.

@poster, see this situation as a blessing in disguise. You can never tell what would have been, so cheer up and live your life.

mama-gee:

In your own dozing world of "Follow me" "I follow you" comic strip.

Cristiano ronaldo dos santos Aveiro is the world's best player and the 2011 European golden shoe winner.

How can messi be the best when he has the two best midfielders in the planet feeding him the ball?

Even in today's game iniesta gave him the assist to his goal. . .WPOFY my butt!

To be the best in the world, you have to start with being the best in your team, until messi proves himself in another club or without xavi and iniesta I'll be the first to claim it without an iota of doubt in my mind.

Quit hating and face facts, there's no point being sentimental. I thought football is all about team work and if Messi is fortunate to have good players feeding him ball which works to his advantage, it doesn't undermine the fact that he is good. Some players might not be skilled to convert such opportunities, you know. Be sensible for once even if you have to pretend to be.

Tmoni:

not read other peoples comments but if its a joint account, i want to believe it will need joint signatures in order for mone to be withdrawn from the account??

i stand to be corrected

@Tmoni
Joint account doesn't necessarily mean both signatories must sign. It depends on the signing instruction agreed upon on opening the account wich could be 'either to sign' or 'both to sign'. So the posters story is still in order.

@poster, you wear the shoes and know where it hurts most. I'll just advice that you look well before you leap.

I hardly post on threads but I am forced to do so because of Love123's comments. It is beyond my comprehension how a mortal being can be so void of compassion. Who are you to judge your fellow human, are you perfect in your ways. We all know people engage in various occultic practices for one material/wordly gain or the other but that doesn't warrant you to point accusing fingers at people you don't know.

People die everyday through different means one of which is accident. A celebrity falling victim to our despicable roads is no different from others, it only becomes news because of the victims 'status'. You mentioned hollywood/foreign celebrities not dieing so often but you forgot to mention that they operate in a more structured environment where most of the basic amenities are pretty much on point.

You do have a right to air your views but I've got good news for you; God is not man and His ways are different. If God were to judge man from your viewpoint, I bet you that we all would be gone including your 'santimonous' self. So please desist from such utterances and leave judgemnt for the ultimate judge, GOD

Having said this, I pray that God grant repose to the dead. Adieu CD John

I have been following the thread and I would like to know how it turned out.

The family in question happens to be a friend to my colleague. When i first heard the news from my colleague, I shared the same sentiment that there could be so many twist to the story; the nanny could have been kidnapped as well or she missed direction to the house, not necessarily kidnapping.

But I was made to understand that the nanny left on her own will; no one sent her on an errand or something. She was not more than two weeks old with the family as at the time of the incident and what compounds the whole issue is the fact that she was brought in through an agency, quite sad

My colleague confirmed that a ransom has been requested for to the tune of 100 million naira . So presently, I believe they are in the bargaining process. We can only hope and pray for the well being of the child who is still very tender (wonder what they are feeding him). Also, I feel for the mother who must be close to going mad cause it is a very traumatic situation.

Let's all keep our fingers crossed as we remember the family in prayers. It is well

Am still not able to connect to glo 3g with the mtn modem. I've inserted the sim in the phone and tried to activate for a bundle plan but am still lost in the track. I spoke with a glo staff and she said the sim has to be provisioned to be able to browse and this takes 48 hrs. Also considering that the recharge for the bundle plan doesn't include the *123* and the #, how then can i recharge for the Always min bundle plan before inserting into my modem.

Awaiting your helpful response.

Thanks once again. I've used the code to unlock and I've done the needful as regards APN etc. When do I get to use the flash code? I want to use Glo sim on the modem, how do I get to choose the bundle of my choice with MTN's bundle plan still indicating on the bundle plan?

Aint u a sweetheart, puskin. Thanks a bunch

Hello people, am loving the brotherly love being displayed here, keep it up. Can someone please help me to unlock my modem:

E156G
IMEI: 357133037241971

I would really appreciate a timely response. Thanks

Is it proper for a man to angrily tell his parent's in laws that he won't step in to their house again over an argument between his wife and her siblings. The siblings' in question do not stay at home any longer, everyone came around for a family occasion to return to their various places later. The parents in law were not in any way involved in the shouting fit to warrant such utterance. Bearing in mind that the house in question is the parents in laws home and not the so called offenders house(i.e. the wife's siblings), was it right for the man to make such statement. If you are the parents in law, what will you do in this situation?

@ Papabrowne
You most obviously exhibited your ignorance talking about COT and all what not. Do u think that is the only profitable aspect of banking transactions, what happened to pool income generated on the deposits etc. Whatever analysis u made doesn't justify paying a graduate such meagre salary putting into consideration so many factors the poster enumerated.
Whatever the case maybe, let us face the facts and call a spade by its name, most employers are capitalising on the high level of unemployment in the country. And this kind of treatment is meted out on the low leveled staff 'cos those at the higher positions practically doesn't contribute much, yet they line their pockets with huge salaries, benefits even mago mago contracts.
God is our only strength.

[e be like say u don meet another guy?? otherwise,where is the support for a partner who is down? why dont you visit him instead of always waiting for his calls.He might just need re-assuring that you will stand by him despite the current problems]

I am not seeing any other guy rather I have been very steadfast. There is no way I haven't tried to reassure him that am always there for him and that is why it freaks me that he treats me the way he does. If I, as a lady, am willing to stick around through thick and thin, at least I expect him to reciprocate love and care. Each time I try to tell him that I still need emotional encouragement at least to carry on, he freaks out saying that I should try and understand the situation. I am also human and I have my own problems too that I might need to share with my loved one (that is one of the prerequisite of a r/ship). When I am emotionally down, office wahala and the rest of them, I also need a listening ear, soothing voice and loving touch. But how can I get this when I can't really access him. It takes two to tangle.

I've always been supportive of him but i started feeling used when his calls started being synonymous with demands. When he doesnt call for days and i enquire, he will say he doesn't have enough airtime but whenever he has any demand to make, he calls or if there is enough airtime, he beeps my phone or sends MTN flash. I now wonder why wont he do same thing if he really thinks about me and wants us to talk.

I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and it started out right until the economic recession started having its toll on my bf, that notwithstanding, I supported him emotionally, financially and otherwise. But he started withdrawing, calls or chats me less frequent than usual which he attributed to his financial stress and I tried to understand though wasn't easy. We both stay in the same town but might not see for a month or two. At a point i started getting drained emotionally but I still kept faith with the hope of a "better tomorrow". It got to a point that i was making more of the contacts and anytime he initiates a call, it is mostly always for one financial request or the other. I started feeling used though he kept professing love, that he was only just troubled etc. The high point was yesterday when I received his call after a couple of days and it turned out to be financial request again. The situation was a crucial one though not necessarily a "do or die" affair, I had the money but I didnt want to give in to his request this time around. I started feeling guilty later on and wished I had assisted (though one mind kept telling me it was a good decision). Pls babes/guys in the house, what would u have done in my situation?

I have a married friend whose little female cousin was living with. Sometime last year, the husband processed UK and American visa for the whole family including the cousin. Unfortunately the cousin was denied UK visa but granted US visa but there was a challenge as to how the cousin was to travel to US alone considering they had to travel thru UK and she wasn’t granted UK visa (she is 11 years old and opted to stay back as she couldn’t imagine travelling that distance alone). After much deliberation, they decided that she should stay back and travel with them next time as the US visa was for 2 years. But the relatives abroad had other plans of bringing the girl to stay permanently without prior or proper notification of the principal characters: expecting the passport to be given to them. To cut a long story short, my friend didn’t respond as she wasn't told on a one on one basis, (was more of a back plan without giving them due respect). The relatives felt it was only normal as elders that their wish should be respected and they felt insulted when their request wasn't heeded. It got to a point that they had to involve policemen and lawyers claiming the passport was seized and so on, even insinuating that if it meant the couple losing their jobs to get the little girls passport from them, that won’t be a problem. It really baffled everyone that things could go as far that especially considering that all the while the little girl was at the parents house, nothing much was done to help only for a "do or die" approach to be used when an opportunity was presented by someone else. What do you guys think or make out of this situation?