@ poster, why funmi hair? Don't mean to be funny but isn't this just a brand name for indian, brazilian and the rest of the human hairs?

I don't really mind as long as he doesn't cry frequently. I had this bf who was a human water fountain. Very annoying. 

sistawoman:

I hate to burst your bubble but the butterflies in the stomach feeling sometimes never go away. That is when you know you are really in love with a person.

I have experienced it first hand, twice in my life.

, and in long term relationships/marriages where this doesn't occur, at least trust, respect and understanding persists. It's good to know this early on in the relationship/marriage.

Funseeka:

How does the system produce sugar mummies? There are so many married women with living husbands that are patronizing great number of gigolos out there. For a pregnant woman on the verge of marriage to go spend night with another man, bought gift, cook for him cum the wee hour Bleep…I think another future SUGAR mummy is in the making. 
@Poster
Love isn’t the driving force in marriage. Trust, understanding & compatibility out ways love; they provide smooth marriage even when the love (not biblical love but the kind we all know and practice) is long gone. You have sympathy on her because of her contributions in your life especially while life was tough on you. Any marriage based on sympathy is the type you manage for life; no satisfaction. I guess but for those contributions in your life you would have long gone; no waste of time talking about giving her a second chance. I wish you well if you insist to stay.

I'm glad you said this cos a lot of people don't know it and hope to feel butterflies in their tummy forever. I have always believed this; that way, I won't get disappointed.

Like I said, I MAY BE WRONG but you trying to monitor her movement; Insisting on picking her call; Checking her text message; replying to the text to get more info and calling him to get even more. It just sounds like it happens all the time. That can be quite offputting for a young girl (she sounds like she may be a lot younger than you cos she was in 100L when you finished university).

You sound a bit possessive sha. I may be wrong though but does she complain about this?

It's unfortunate but I think this guy is going to always have difficulties trusting you. Just because you appeared to have cheated doesn't make you a cheat but with him you may be made to feel like one most of the time. Also, trying to prove yourself all the time can be exhausting. My opinion? Let him go; give yourself time to get over this terrible experience and with time you should meet someone with whom you can start on a clean slate.

chaircover:

My very easy & quick method - Which Hubby asks me to cook for him nearly every day


Ingredients

Most importantly invest in a very good non stick pan

1 - One tin of good quality plum tomatoes
2 - One onion
3 - Two ata rodo (sorry I dont know the English name for this)
4 - One capsicum pepper ( ata nla)
5 - 2 knorr cubes
6 - 2 tomatoes - sliced
7 - 1 small red onion - diced.
8 - Salt
9 - curry powder
10 - Thyme
11 - rosemary
12 - Ground black pepper
13 - bayleaf
14 - sunflower oil
15 - 1 tin of derica tomato puree
16 - Good quality easy cook rice

Put ingredients 1-4 in a food processor and blend. Dont blend too finely. leave it a little bit rough

Place sunflower oil in the pan and place on the cooker until hot.

Add in the blended pepper/plum tomatoes mix first, then add all the other ingredients except the rice.

Let all the ingredients sizzle for a minute or so then add the rinsed rice, add some water to the pot making sure the liquid just about covers the top of the rice.

Turn the heat right down and let it all simmer adding small amounts of water every so often until the rice is cooked.

Simmering the rice is the key to this dish and because you are adding such little water at a time, a thin layer of the rice sticks to the bottom but if you are using a good pot this is not a problem because the burnt layer gives the rice the Naija party rice aroma.
Sorry I haven't pout any measures on the ingredients because I have cooked this dish so many times I dont measure. I just throw things in.

I am actually off to cook it now

I'm really interested in getting that party jollof rice flavour but I've never been able to do it. I've tried letting it get burnt a little but it just ends up tasting burnt and doesn't get the actual taste I'm looking for. Is there any naija caterer on NL

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Are you implying that this is will be a wise move in the long run? It doesn't seem to make sense especially as Sao Tome seems to be faring better than Nigeria. If any government needs help with the socio-economic difficulties of its country it should be the Nigerian government!

To read that this "soft loan" will be interest-free and will be repaid in four to six years even makes it more unbelievable. I will be very shocked if this bid is approved.  

I'm a little confused as to how buying a Bentley will help the Nigerian economy.  

osilekan4u:

I am currently in love with a girl, weve ve been dating for a year now, but our marriage plans is been hampered due to the following

ON HER PART.
Her parents said NO beacuse
1. She's catholic and am Pentecostal
2. She's Anambra and am Abia
3. Her parents is very rich and mine is average.


ON MY OWN PART
My parents said no because
1. She is Anambra
2. Wants me to Wed in Catholic (My Dad is a Pastor in a pentecostal church)
3.Am too Young (Am 25yrs working in a Bank for over 2yrs now)

I had to watch my sister go through the exact same thing three times consecutively; not from my parents but from her exs parents who were all from Anambra. After her experiences, we all in my family decided to stay away from people from Anambra just to avoid being heart broken.

This is one of three not very pleasant stories in the news this week about Nigerians living in Europe.



http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1177032/My-horrific-ordeal-hands-awayday-GP-left-patients-dead.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1176158/Drug-smuggling-Briton-pregnant-IN-Laos-jail--wont-face-firing-squad.html

Why would you want to keep in touch with an ex? What do you stand to gain and more importantly, what does she stand to gain from being friends with you?

bridget007:

@sistawoman, ondo state yea.

I know Leila, i feel like punching myself in the face half the time to bring me to my senses, I just don't know why he seems to be able to always wangle me back. Its not like I can even remember that many happy times and even those happy memories are usually marred with something awful he did or said that marked it.

He's no car at moment and he's keeps telling me he needs a car like I should buy him one!! Ting is I am much better without him in every way, financially, my social life is better as he never wants to go out and I love going out so without him I can spend time with my friends and family. When we are at home all he wants to do is watch football, which I don't mind but ALL the time is annoying.

Hey its cary but a new beginning has to be better than this.

Girl, this is a sad sad story but you need to be strong; not just for yourself but also for your child(ren). Just start saying NO to everything he asks for. Visits, gifts, outings, money etc. I did that with an ex who I never thought I could live without. Even when it hurt me to do so I still said no. You will be surprised what that does to your self confidence. I hope you get yourself out of this mess soon and get your life back on track. No no one is worth being with such a disrespectful and irresponsible man.