One thing I observed with Africans both at home and in the developed world is that there are not organized and don't keep to time. So whether developed or undeveloped, I think we have this common problem.

payless: It is a no brainer for me. Give me electricity, security, and good roads with no dust.

It might not be straight forward as you think after all even though Europe is developed there are a lot of people who don't want to go there. Russia for example.

There are other things. Don't dismiss with a wave of hand. I guess you know less of the developed world.

You need to think deep.

At times I look at the African continent and wonder what is wrong with the black man? From Cairo to Johannesburg and from Dakar to Mogadishu the story is all the same.

Wars, famine, Corruption, dictatorship, Bribery, Ethnic cleansing, general backwardness etc. if the continent was as developed as Europe or Asia, I think our African brothers especially the African Americans who were taken as slaves will gladly return to any country of their choice and acquire the citizenship just as we are doing now and settle there. But since this is not the case, the choose to remain there.

What are your thoughts?

Because as single men, they did not have self control. Marriage doesn't change a man with no self control.

Goshen360: I'm sorry, only #1 & 2 or perphap with #3 matter most to the early church. The rest in the list are business methods adopted from the world.

that's right and also availability of fine girls.

Do we still have values? No we do not. Corruption in Nigeria is from top to bottom. The people shouting about the corrupt leaders are themselves very very corrupt.

How many people look at the background of others? Background I mean what they stand for? How many people can say they honest men or women, men or women of integrity etc A worker that signs an earlier time on the time book, a boss who inflates monies at the office only to get a kick back afterwards, a man or woman who cheats on his or her husband or wife for money, a man who has to sleep with a woman before giving her a job, police who takes bribe to arrest an innocent person, a common man who cannot get justice in the law court etc

Mehn... It's sad. We have no values. People only respect you if you are rich no minding the source of your money.

[quote author=retalee3][/quote] it's funny for you to say you want to see whether I have those qualities. It means you are not even sure of yourself.

D royal: Hi, faboloustic . I hardly see posts like yours on NL. I read and digested ur posts and hmmm. I am a christain and I believe in doing what the bible says, Although its not easy. I would like to know you better if you dont mind.

no problem, you are welcome.

yetseyi: @Op I had 2 re-read ur manifesto
I must say I wz impreseed with d serz xtain part. U hardly find guys d@ are serz xtains dis days. Esp guys d@ want 2 abstain frm premartial sex. hmmm

thank you very much, it's not been easy but I'm striving.

Tuso: 4 me when dealing with a woman
Conquer her sexually..Bleep am well well
Conquer her emotionally..make her lust after u
Conquer her mentally..always hve de upper mind
But luv n cherish her
And she will be urs..but if u want 2 keep her 4ever..improve on dis 3 everyday
U won't even hve 2 spend

that's emotional slavery that's not what I want

Arsenate: here's one of them. Op, run. Run for your life.

lertee: OP,your right up is very deep and eye opening but I need to state that all you wrote are somehow close to being perfect or rather perfect,can you get a perfect being?
You described your attributes which is ok by a good judgement but then,you didn't state your bad side,you refuse to tell us what you do that makes these ladies leave,you didn't put the kind of women you have been dating.
See if you need to get married and you keep going for a lady who is not ready mentally,no matter how nice you are to her,she won't stay with you.
There are good women out there,it all depends on where you meet them or the types you move with.


Go for women and not girls

thank you, I will agree that I may not perfect but it hard when you deal with girls who cannot distinguish a real man from the rest, and who also cannot encourage you on your weak points. Like I said, my last date woke up the following day after we had spoken the previous day and that was it; till today I do not know what I did wrong or didn't do.

I think if a girl decides what she wants fine, if it's money, then go for it, if it's a man of integrity fine, and remember in rare cases you will have all these in one pack.

A man can be rich but he is not honest, a guy can be okay, can take care of your basic needs and you are happy.

PvtParts: OP no offence but the first few lines of your first post made you sound like a self conceited a33hole.

Because no one understands you doesn't make you an artist.

What do you mean? Don't use offensive words on people you do not know.

Zeebah23:
I am not your type of christian.

hmmm... Okay

Zeebah23: . I was going to say i will marry you until i saw this. keep searching Bro, she's out there and i hope you find her soon.

and what is wrong with that if you are a Christian. I need someone that can strengthen me when I'm down.

sexkillz: That doesn't make her a bad choice really. People are different, but the truth is that if a lady shows such level of care to kids who aren't hers, animals and plants some deem inconsequential, you can only imagine how caring she'll be to her man. If kids irritate you, chances are that you get irritated at the slightest provocation.

very well said. Some girls do not care at all whether kids, other people or even animals. Like I said, a girl who cares about other people, feels sad when she hears bad news about the misfortune of others is best bro.

Because such a lady will not break your heart with careless abandon. She will be sad. Even if the relationship has to end, it won't be a 'fatal' break up

bravolyk: so what kind of reply are u looking forward to get from this ur write up?

I'm just saying what's on my mind

chineloSA:

Ok, congratulations on your awesomeness.

Pheeeewwwww.

demelza: We know where this is going.
Just drop your number.

Wrong bro., that's not the essence of the thread. Thank you

I want to marry a girl who knows what marriage is all about, a woman who loves God and wants to abide by what the Bible says even if she is the only one left out, a woman who loves people and feel others pains, because a woman who does not like others will never like you, a woman who can inspire me for greater heights. A woman who has not had too much pre marital sex; a virgin preferable because I want to enjoy sex in marriage after abstaining for a long time. To add to that ladies that have much pre-marital sex find it tiring in marriage because they have had enough and probably might have fulfilled her fantasies . Haha... Again, some ladies think if they marry a rich guy that is it, oh how wrong you are my dear, if you cannot help him sustain his wealth, another lady outside will, so sit up and learn how to work in a team.

My success today cannot be attributed to having a lady in my life who encouraged me except my mum who I cherish so much, some left me when I needed them the most. The last one woke up one day and stopped calling me even though we spoke the previous day; and that was it, she never answered my calls or even told me what the problem was. Guess what? As usual, she is back! Hehe..

Funny enough, girls seems to appreciate me now, claiming how much they love me and how much of a 'perfect' husband i'll be. I have come a long way, and it will take a smart, intelligent, homely and hardworking girl to have me.

I have finally decided to pour out my heart because it is so heavy for me to carry. I am a bachelor in my late twenties. I am very hardworking, a principled man, honest, a man of integrity and above all I'm a christian to the core. Physically I'll say I am very handsome, 6ft 3in in height and well built. You might wonder why I'm taking time to describe myself. Despite all these features and attributes I have not been able to sustain a relationship, maybe I have been meeting the wrong sets of girls all my life.

In all my relationships, I have always been the victim of heartbreaks. Don't get me wrong, I do not know what girls these days look for. Things have changed I must say, major of our ladies do not really care for men with my qualities. Oh how wrong have I been. I see that girls prefer a guy that is not straightforward, will always cheat and lie to them etc. The sad thing is that all the girls i have dated at some point always come back to plead and tell me how sorry they are and will want us to get back together again, I don't know what they have seen in other guys that made them realize they had a 'good man'.I would say I am not a weak guy but a guy who does what is right and cares for people's emotions.

I want to stick to what the Bible says, I have made few mistakes in the past because I compromised and made the girls in question to be happy, Oh how wrong I was . Since then I have decided not to compromise again, if I cannot find a girl who is a christian to the core, who cares for people's feelings, then I choose to be on my own.