@ Leilah, it wasn't an issue what religion my partner was, the main concern was that he treated me right and was good to me. I was with a Muslim for 5 years before i met my Husband and he was terrible to me and made me very depressed, so after this they just wanted me to be happy and i have been very happy up until now. It is good to hear you are on the better side now , must have been very difficult not having your family's blessing.

@Na2day - Apology accepted, like i said before i am not the same woman, i have been to Nigeria a few times and love it. I have no reason to slate anything to do with Nigeria. I am complaining only about my Husband, this is the first time i have ever spoke about him, as earlier mentioned its mainly been religion i have talked about.

@ Outstrip - If you read my earlier posts i split from my Husband the moment i found out, we no longer live together.

I have taken some of the replies on board and we will be going for councilling - not so we can be together again, but for the sake of the child, so he will not be affected by our situation.

Gemine, Silence you fool!
Im now pressing the ignore button on you!

Femmace, I am Muslim and my Husband is Christian i have spoke to his sister who i am close to and is disgusted in his actions.  My posts maybe irrational or emotional but that is expected with the current situation i am in. I have thought of councilling but i don't think i am at that stage yet, my blood still boils when i think or see him.

@Gamine - you obviously have a perfect life and have never had anything happen to. Well, thank god. But not everything is so clear and goes to plan. Do i know that whilst im a sleep my Husband is cheating? No!
Do you think i would have married someone, knowing that in the future he would cheat? No!
Your post obviously shows you are naive. So i wont bother educating you!
And how do you know that your partner isnt cheating too!!

ula - i appreciate what you say and i think now isn't the time to make a hasty decision, your right he doesn't deserve me. I asked him to leave the house and stay with some friend until i could make a clear decision.

Na2day- I think you must have me confused with another Leyla, ive probably made 10 posts on this forum and the majority regarding Religion. I have nothing against Nigerians! So please get your facts straight, after all i am married to one!

Before he cheated i was also in Hospital in and out for 3 days (baby problem), not once did this man come with me or show concern for his baby. I don't think in any way that i pushed him to cheat, hes just a natural prat!
Ive had a lot of his friends tell me give him a chance he wont do it again, the fact is they don't have to live with him and spend the rest of the life with him, knowing that he has done the unthinkable. Why do men automatically assume that the wife must not be satisfying the Man or it is her fault. Cant it be that the Husband has no Morals and is incapable of talking things through with his partner when problems arise?

Thank you for the level headed comments. To answer some of the questions my Husband and I have been together for 4 years, been through a lot of bad times but then not everything goes smooth. I'm not Nigerian i am from Libya my Husband is Nigerian, i have always had a lot of respect for him and we have never had this problem of cheating before now. It may be that i have a big belly or that i look like a balloon, but appearance isn't the most important thing in life. At least i am fortunate enough to be healthy and carry a baby.
I forgave him the first time as i wanted to give him the chance to do better, but now it has happened again there is no chance i will have him as my Husband he ashamed me, my Family and shows no respect for me at all!!
I'm not a weak woman i run a business 6 days a week and look after my horses in the evening, yet still manage to run the house and have good times. There is no excuse for my Husband to cheat except that he is a fool! The moment he thought about being with another women, he turned his back on me and the baby. He's no Man in my book.
I know no-body is perfect in life and we all make mistakes but most of us learn from them, except for him. I can maybe forgive him in time but i can never be his wife, he broke his vows and the only person he should ask forgiveness is God, not me.
At the moment i am just trying to keep my head up high and keep going, i don't care for another man my focus will be my child. Sorry i could go on more, better stop.

Yes i am angry and confused. To be honest i don't know what to do for the best, but at this moment in time it is best i am on my own. If i wasn't pregnant my decision would be very easy but i don't want the baby to be without a male role model in his life, although plenty of women raise children on the own. See confusion sets in! Maybe i should become a nun.
Its very hard for me to accept him back after forgiving him only 3 weeks ago for the same thing. Life is too short and i don't want to be miserable for all of it.
Has anyone been in the same situation??

thank you for your comments, but he has finally said he slept with a women last night. Once a cheat always a cheat. This man doesn't deserve me I'm far too good for him, to me hes a idiot! I will have plenty of support from my family, I cant ever be with hI'm. What comes around goes around, im sure he will get his come uppance!
I finally know how it feels to have your heart broken, at least a blessing has come out of this i will have a wonderful son.

What do you think to this? 
My Husband was meant to be working last night, he get home this morning everything is fine.  I look in his phone and he has been texting a girl (don't know name) saying whats your address sexy i will be there at 1am.  So, i confront him! giving him the benefit of doubt, stupid me! He says he met 2 girls with his mate and was tempted to meet them later after he had been to the pub, but he never did anything and never went to the address!
Well why ask for the address if he didn't intend on going! Does he think i was born yesterday?!
It wasn't long ago i found other messages on his phone to another girl, which i forgave him for as i am 6 months pregnant and was thinking of the baby! Why do some men do this? I have never cheated always been honest! I feel like he has abused my trust and love i have for him. 

You all wanted to know why white women go for black men, then why did you disregard Bridget 007 comment? White/Black it doesn't matter, people date different races for the same reason you date your own race, when are you going to get that!!!!
I'm soo sick of listening to this kind of crap! Have you nothing better to talk about?
To me it just shows how small minded you all are, If you don't have anything sensible to say i suggest you say nothing!

Well my friend is blind and sometimes tells me her dreams. But she has only recently gone blind, i dont know if a person had been Blind from Birth they may not be able to see their dreams because they have never had a visual image of what things can look like.
But i could be wrong.

@almondpie and numpty heads!

Ye are but little mortal fools, with mashed bananas for brains
Let me educate you.
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Free health care for all-yes!
Nigeria-no!
America-no!

free education for all
free further education
benefits/money for the poor
free money/benefits for the disabled
free money/benefits for the unemployed
free/money benefits for the old

equal opportunities for all, non discrimination laws,
police do not take money from people anywhere!

sooooo many foreigners are always trying to come to england-why do you think

Our housing is far superior-we even give homes to the homeless and guess what they don't have to pay!

We have a permanent supply of electricity-gas, no generators needed here!

we also have free dentists to look after our pearly white 'rabbit teeth'. Our wonderful temperate climate allows us to enjoy the wind blowing through our golden locks-and the sea breezes gently brushing against our sun kissed bronzed and rosy cheeks, even our sun kissed freckles-ahhh

England oh England, how we love you so,

I have one apartment, 5 acres of land, 6 horses, one dog who is gorgeous and has her own clothes and bedroom, stunning car 7.5 tonne lorry for my horse transport with luxury living accommodation inside. Fantastic job, plus own family shop, oh but i now only have to work 16 hours a week, and you call America the land of opportunity?

And i started with nothing!!!!

now don't be haters please, we conquered the world remember, we are great, in our greatness


and to make life perfect, i have a wonderful, gorgeous Nigerian hubby mmmmmmmmm

you may say, he only married you for your money, and i will say, well, i only married him for his body, and boy oh boy, it is good!

but i am am a stunner though!

In answer to the last post.

The same God has not given different messages -no. In fact (it is my opinion) that the message of God in many many cases has been misinterpreted to meet man's own need and requirement.

Religion is man made, lets remembers that.
Here is an example:
A Jehova Witness will not allow him/herself to be given a blood transfusion because they believe that God's word in the Bible states that they must not allow a 'foreign substance' to enter their body. They believe blood to be a 'foreign substance'.
Ask the same Jehovah Witness then if they will eat steak 'underdone' cooked with blood in it and then eat it. They will say yes, they will eat it.
But THAT blood from the cow is entering your body, how can that be allowed in your religion? I have yet to be answered logically.
Here is a prime example of misinterpretation.

This is a huge subject, religion causes wars, hatred and killing-how can we talk of religion as God,s true word? Surely this is not what God expects of us?
I believe we each need to find our own truth, make sense of it and try to live by it.
Religion is supposed to offer us guidance on how to lead a good life.

In respond to another statement from the last post-there can never be a messanger described as a 'mere' messanger.
A messanger is someone who delivers a message and God's word is the most precious of messages than can be delivered.
Unfortunately, it seems to be like a game of 'chinese whispers', where along the years the message is misheard so much until becomes a message quite different fro the original one!

The Torah, Bible and the Quran are all books of God. The one God who is referred to on this forum, please do not be confused as there is only one God.

The message should be that we should learn to love thy neighbour, accept differences, celebrate diversity and practise tolerance.

Lets keep it simple instead of trying to beat each other with words and arguments.

I am not a spokesperson for anyone, i am my own person with my own opinions that is all.

Fortunately i have been brought up by parents who wanted me to develop my own mind and my father was confident to send me to a christian school because he felt it was entirely appropriate to do so and he is a muslim.

The guidance i have recieved has been based on a true understanding of what believe is expected by me from God, as a sister, a neighbour, a friend etc.

My mother is a Christian and she is a good person, my father has never expected her to convert to Islam, why shoud she? She would not be a better person if she were Muslim.

There is no brainwashing in our home.

Davidylan

Firstly i have not insulted you. You will not see a single adjective in my text that describes you in a rude way at all!
I'm not trying to make a difference on this forum, simply i am joining in on a discussion. You are quick to attack somebody and you know nothing of who i am and what i believe in, you are presuming to much. Again, again and again as i have said but you have missed i do not condone killing or the mistreatment of people.

*davidylan

Your post reflects not only that you have misinterpreted my replies, but that you are also being deliberately obtuse and rude. I can respect your opinion and you can respect mine without having to resort to bad manners.

I do not agree with killing, i believe in leading a peaceful life. Can i advise you to re-read my posts carefully instead of reading them and presuming i mean something else!

*khai khai

Your opinions seem to be extreme by nature, that is unfortunate because mine are not!
Again the problem you are talking about is misinterpretation. The Quran also teaches followers to also believe in the bible.

I would like to state that i do not agree with extremism, please do not misunderstand me! I am of a Muslim father and Christian mother, so i have the benefit and privilege of seeing both sides!

*auwal87

Thank you for your reply

Its all gone quiet? me thinks you are all checking your books??  

Davidylan

Of course i do not believe that those who kill innocent civilians in the name of God are a reflection of peaceful Islam. My third point on my post gave reference to this!
To your second point and reply, i do not think we a disagreeing?

I'm new on here, but this caught my eye. In reply to original question, i believe Islam can be a religion of peace if the Quran is understood and interpreted as it should be.
Muslim religion has come after Christianity and to complete and deliver the message that Jesus had already started 500 years prior to Mohamed's message.
When you read the quran there are certain things i must point out.
1. Anything that might harm your body is forbidden i.e that means smoking, drinking, drugs etc.
2. If somebody kills a person by accident the quran says you must not take an eye for an eye but ask for compensation instead and be forgiving.
3 Quran forbids you from ending your life, but it allows you to sacrifice your life in a war situation. Civilians must not be targeted.
lets take the first point for example.
The reason why alcohol is forbidden, is because somebody might say "I'll drink one glass and I'm in control", the only problem is that one glass can lead to another and eventually you may loose control and therefore you could commit a crime. :crazy:
The problem is that in many places around the world people interprate the Muslim religion to suit their own need and not necessarily what the Quran dictates. This can lead to misconceptions and extremism.