There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

What is your fear?

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

Let your parents know. Don't hide it from them. If you ever told her that one of your testicles got removed, but you still ejaculated, should she still remain with you? Ask yourself that question. She'll definitely have fertility issues. Don't let feelings blind you.

Jamahyel:
What is your fear?

That something may go wrong in the future

What would you be telling your parents for? To help you decide if you are making the right decision or to alert them of the probability of never having kids?

It’s your decision to make, not your parents. However, if you think you aren’t doing the right thing and you need someone to talk you out of it, then talking to people who have your best interest at heart is a good idea.

eazzzy1:
What would you be telling your parents for? To help you decide if you are making the right decision or to alert them of the probability of never having kids?

It’s your decision to make, not your parents. However, if you think you aren’t doing the right thing and you need someone to talk you out of it, then talking to people who have your best interest at heart is a good idea.

so would you advise I speak to them about it to know what they think?

Look for a healthy complete lady. It's cheaper and better on the long run. Love will fade be warned

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Exceptional300:
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Brother,why not seek the professional advice of a gynaecologist together with the girl, rather than your parents, though you can still inform them later.
If she ovulates normally,then she would have no problem conceiving.

If there is no blockage.. one ovary, as long as it is healthy, is enough for her..

So no fear anything.

But consult a gynaecologist to be sure tho.

Or better still, get her pregnant while u guys are still dating.

That's if it's ur fear

Don't let her sweet toto blind you to reality; do a thorough investigation before you commit yourself to a lifetime agony.

DonEd:
Or better still, get her pregnant while u guys are still dating.

That's if it's ur fear

I’m seriously thinking of this as well. I don’t want to be caught in any complexities

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

I have a candid advice for you.

For now, stop thinking anything called marriage.

You're still a child.

Op, it's obvious you're not ready for commitment because why are you worried about your parents when you should be worried about yourself.

You're the one who's about to commit and spend the rest of your life to the lady not them.

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

impregnate her before any form of introduction

Exceptional300:
so would you advise I speak to them about it to know what they think?

Discuss it with your parents who have your best interests at heart not necessarily because you are a child that cannot make up your mind as soon will want you to think. Sometimes additional opinions are needed on important issues like this. When the chips are down, is it not these same parents that you expect to be by your side?

You should also seek medical opinion from a gynecologist and also pray about it to know if she's God's choice for you. The girl has been honest on telling you she had PCOS with surgery but that may not be the entire truth. The fact that an ovary was removed showed the PCOS was severe and wasn't responding to any medication or ovary drilling. You definitely need expert medical opinion because there may be post-surgery issues that you need to be aware of.

If you or your parents are wealthy, the inability of your wife to carry a baby may not be an entire deterrent to marriage because you can have surrogates carry baby fertilized by your sperm and your wife's egg. So the babies belong biologically to you and your wife. But such is quite expensive running into millions of Naira per baby.

You are still mummy pet, who isn't mature for marriage.

The situation you are in, is mostly for you, and you are the one to be worry more and not mummy.


If you are panicking of infertility after marriage, why can't you impregnate her before you tie the knot?


Marry or not! Any decision you want to take, you take it without disturbing the peace of ur mama.



If you choose decision not to marry, you let her go first and latter tell ur mummy, the reason you let go of her.( That's how mature guy, who is not teen behaves)

PCOS characterised by the over production of the male hormone androgens by the ovaries, is a common menace to feminine fertility. With it's principal effect of hormonal imbalance comes other traits like irregular periods, anovulation (absence of ovulation) infertilty and even insulin resistance (diabetes)

Generally whilst the probability of conception reduces to half when one ovary is removed conception is often attainable. It could be a little complicated though if the underlying condition to which the ovary was removed isn't properly handled. However because you categorically stated she can ovulate there is a big chance conception wouldn't be a problem..

There is no general rule on how to approach the issue with your family. However if your family is anything like the ones I see on Nollywood movies be sure to have them discourage you or insist on a pregnancy before things advance.. In my opinion though this is an issue for you and your fiancee. Start your union by being the man who makes his own decision..

For any help with PCOS feel free to get in touch.
Dr Ayukebot O Roland PhD
Pharmacognosist
Flavell Medicina Botanica

Just be careful... only love isn't enough for marriage, that's who you'll be spending your entire life with

Mummy's boy learn to keep your relationship private in such a way that your parents are intruders

bros make her pregnant before the marriage... just to b sure

If you truly loved her you won't have that thought of something may go wrong, I don't want to sound like because I am woman, well it's up to you to decide

I might sound a bit ruthless...

In Life, especially these days, don't ever stretch your neck for a spouse / partner male or female.

She wouldn't if the situation was reversed and you have fertility problems.

Pump and Dump her.

I personally know one "useful" girl with PCOS, can't cook, can't clean, she just wants a Prince Charming that will pay all her bills and she contributes nothing.

God forbid. I f*cked her and fled.

I don't understand you, If you tell your parents what will they do about it? Will your mum donate her own for her?

Simply get her pregnant and proceed with the wedding, if she can get pregnant then visit hospital and see what options are available

After all said and done you can make your decision

What are you telling you parents for? Marry her if you wan marry her.

A stitch in time saves nine.
Dont take that risk ,leave her and get another healthy woman that can bear you children .

This are the kind of topic where frozen70 is needed

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

Lol!

Will your parents manage your family for you? Very immature.

Go do research and see if she is really OK. Most Nigerian parents don't care after you have kids. PCOS is more than that. Most Nigerian parents are too selfish... all they want are grandkids. Are you a kid?

Anyway....read this:
https://www.healthline.com/health/pcos-diet#foods-to-avoid

Summary: Diet is the long-term strategy to fix most of these modern diseases. PCOS is mainly a hormonal imbalance caused by modernisation. Our grand parents knew nothing about it.

Let her stay away from sugar for just one month, and you will see more improvement in her. Yes, you didn't say how she is doing presently, but trust me... let her just stay away from sugar... stay away from carb. Just try it. Let her eat organic veggie, meat, milk, and eggs. Just try it. Not those rubbish eggs sold around....not those rubbish milk in cans and packs....

Stay blessed.

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

Let's do it this way.
Try to get her pregnant first before marriage ...
It's easier to walk away if you try couple of years to get her pregnant before marriage....
Don't let her sweet talk you into no sex or no pregnancy before marriage....