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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by franugo(m): 3:39am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

What do you mean by this inane comment

**i must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this**?

Why must your family pastor officiate the naming? Is there a reward that comes to you if he does? The child is bearing your surname, your wife has gone through and is going through so much pain due to CS, how is letting her have her way in this very simple issue something to make you angry? Which kind talk be that?? That time will tell....what will time tell oga? You have no basis to come here expecting us to bash or blame your wife for such a ridiculous reason.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by abuhusna1: 4:17am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:


I'm the one paying the bills of course, yesterday I was angry and told her to buy all the maltina and meat pie then she can call her pastor to officiate the naming. She went silent and started calling me wicked, and heartless. I spent almost 400k on her CS spent 73k on the naming but it's time to make a decision and she want to make it.

During our marriage, her mother refused to appear in the church because I said I won't do court marriage, I saw it on my wife chat with her elder sister, she said her mom said she won't come because I'm thinking rubbish by not doing court marriage. And truly she didn't come.
You married rubbish woman from rubbish family. Both your wife and the mother are manipulators.
You are the head of your home and whatever you say or want should be agreed by your wife even if it doesn't please her but you too dont need to take order from your family regarding your own family. The family you made is bigger than the family that made you

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by frozen70(f): 4:26am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

Sorry about her manipulative attitude
Do you guys attend the same church on Sundays or she goes left and you go right

It seems like you have loose your stand as the husband of the house

Women are very manipulative by nature, this involves all women, especially women of today that wants to drag authority with their husbands

Since you have allowed her to have her way for the naming, make sure you decides the names he will bear then add her own names

During child dedication, make sure it's done in your own church

After this naming, start taking charge of your family unless she has been the one providing for the family, then leave it for her

If you don't take charge, more dramas are coming, that's just women for you.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by lawrenzooo: 4:57am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.
Oga leave this she cry yesterday. Cry no dey kill person.

You attend a church, ask your pastor to come and do naming ceremony. Let her cry blood if she like, she no go die. A woman's tears most times is to manipulate someone.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Leemzyy(f): 5:08am On Jul 19
afribabe:
cause grin
He wan disgrace me,he talk sey na curse
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Leemzyy(f): 5:10am On Jul 19
BABANGBALI:
bros, na curse o, no be course. No let my English teacher Leemzyy cash you o
Lol so this is what i taught you right? its cause not curse, and its catch not cash
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Foodqueen(f): 5:20am On Jul 19
chiefkpokp:
Ur head non correct. It's not natural at all, a man is a man, and he makes the decision not the woman....... The woman enjoyed her right, when both Intro,traditional and white wedding was done on her side, wether church or house, so after marriage, any church the man dey go, authomatically bcoms the church d wife go dey go......



Your mama head no correct
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by TheZeezle(m): 5:28am On Jul 19
Normally Christians are the root of problem we have in Nigeria. Imagine Christians having issues with Christian, husband and wife at that.

BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by NICOGRAVITY: 5:30am On Jul 19
Sir,
I humbly beg you to do the following.
1 Your home need peace and not war. Be guided by the event that's playing out before both of you. All you're seeing is your wife disrespecting you but you're not seeing the fact that you're self sabotaging the very essence of peace, love and grace over your home and family. You're making very strong statements that can destroy your marriage.
We are talking about YOUR WIFE, your love, the mother of your son, your better half, the one that will grow old with you.
I beg you in the name of God to pet her, and don't take her words and behavior at this time for an opportunity to destroy your own marriage. Do you know what it means to be cut open? Remember, everytime you and your son are celebrating your birthday she will be celebrating her CS day.
Love her and praise her.
No Nairaland.com will help you during old age, be guided.
Watch how Joke Silver treats Olu Jacobs, it's because Olu Jacobs treated her with utmost grateful love ❤️, what you sow you will reap.
Love her unconditionally.
Peace not war.
2 why can't both Pastors minister at the naming ceremony? Her Pastor shares the word and the 2 Pastors name the baby and your pastor prays for the family.
3 The devil is deceiving both of you using religion to blind you both. Open your eyes, love your wife unconditionally and make your home a safe place for your lovely son.
Don't start parenting with war.
Look at a man God just blessed and gave a son on his birthday is chasing after something so irrelevant.
A man that should carry his wife like egg.
A man God gave an unusual testimonies and miracles.
Not every woman survives CS.
A MAN THAT SHOULD BE ON HIS KNEES THANKING GOD is now fighting the one he should hold hands together to pray with, celebrate and give glory to God.
Better show a unified front to your family and friends, don't let people advice you evil.
God bless your home in Jesus name amen.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by NICOGRAVITY: 5:32am On Jul 19
Sir,
I humbly beg you to do the following.
1 Your home need peace and not war. Be guided by the event that's playing out before both of you. All you're seeing is your wife disrespecting you but you're not seeing the fact that you're self sabotaging the very essence of peace, love and grace over your home and family. You're making very strong statements that can destroy your marriage.
We are talking about YOUR WIFE, your love, the mother of your son, your better half, the one that will grow old with you.
I beg you in the name of God to pet her, and don't take her words and behavior at this time for an opportunity to destroy your own marriage. Do you know what it means to be cut open? Remember, everytime you and your son are celebrating your birthday she will be celebrating her CS day.
Love her and praise her.
No Nairaland.com will help you during old age, be guided.
Watch how Joke Silver treats Olu Jacobs, it's because Olu Jacobs treated her with utmost grateful love ❤️, what you sow you will reap.
Love her unconditionally.
Peace not war.
2 why can't both Pastors minister at the naming ceremony? Her Pastor shares the word and the 2 Pastors name the baby and your pastor prays for the family.
3 The devil is deceiving both of you using religion to blind you both. Open your eyes, love your wife unconditionally and make your home a safe place for your lovely son.
Don't start parenting with war.
Look at a man God just blessed and gave a son on his birthday is chasing after something so irrelevant.
A man that should carry his wife like egg.
A man God gave an unusual testimonies and miracles.
Not every woman survives CS.
A MAN THAT SHOULD BE ON HIS KNEES THANKING GOD is now fighting the one he should hold hands together to pray with, celebrate and give glory to God.
Better show a unified front to your family and friends, don't let people advice you evil.
God bless your home in Jesus name amen.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by IamAsiri: 5:55am On Jul 19
Oche211:


You still want her to have her way this last time. You are not ready for anything.

If it's me, I will simply tell her I have changed my mind. Let her tell her pastor not to come. That you have made arrangements with your own pastor.
No matter how she disagrees, don't back down. Also, call her father and explain to him and tell him to call both his daughter and their pastor to order.

Tell him your wife has become unreasonable and for all she's done, you aren't comfortable with their pastor coming for the naming.

This is a test to know the family you married into.
Just call her father and tell him to talk to his daughter. In all your discussion with him, insist on not seeing the said pastor in your house on that day.

Again, if it's possible, make sure you take your family far from the church. That's if you can't be firm with this decision

That will be a sheer disrespect of the pastor, which is wrong. The pastor has not wronged him, his wife has.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by IamAsiri: 5:59am On Jul 19
NICOGRAVITY:
Sir,
I humbly beg you to do the following.
1 Your home need peace and not war. Be guided by the event that's playing out before both of you. All you're seeing is your wife disrespecting you but you're not seeing the fact that you're self sabotaging the very essence of peace, love and grace over your home and family. You're making very strong statements that can destroy your marriage.
We are talking about YOUR WIFE, your love, the mother of your son, your better half, the one that will grow old with you.
I beg you in the name of God to pet her, and don't take her words and behavior at this time for an opportunity to destroy your own marriage. Do you know what it means to be cut open? Remember, everytime you and your son are celebrating your birthday she will be celebrating her CS day.
Love her and praise her.
No Nairaland.com will help you during old age, be guided.
Watch how Joke Silver treats Olu Jacobs, it's because Olu Jacobs treated her with utmost grateful love ❤️, what you sow you will reap.
Love her unconditionally.
Peace not war.
2 why can't both Pastors minister at the naming ceremony? Her Pastor shares the word and the 2 Pastors name the baby and your pastor prays for the family.
3 The devil is deceiving both of you using religion to blind you both. Open your eyes, love your wife unconditionally and make your home a safe place for your lovely son.
Don't start parenting with war.
Look at a man God just blessed and gave a son on his birthday is chasing after something so irrelevant.
A man that should carry his wife like egg.
A man God gave an unusual testimonies and miracles.
Not every woman survives CS.
A MAN THAT SHOULD BE ON HIS KNEES THANKING GOD is now fighting the one he should hold hands together to pray with, celebrate and give glory to God.
Better show a unified front to your family and friends, don't let people advice you evil.
God bless your home in Jesus name amen.

Thanks for this advice.
@OP, I am surprised why, just like the man with the above said, both pastors cannot officiate on that day while you use your house as venue.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by lagosrd: 6:04am On Jul 19
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You're not ready to be a father. Stand your ground and let her know that is she insist on her way, let her go give the child to the person that owns it. And tell her that you won't blink an eye. There is something she is not telling you. Don't get used bro.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Standing5(m): 6:05am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.
Ask her for direct reason why it must be that pastor who names the child. Do it calmly to avoid tears and see if she has any good presentable logical reasons. Or is she having a secret with the pastor?
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by heysquare(m): 6:13am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:




It seems I have been too easy and quiet on her, I will do as you say and ban her from going to that church and if she refused, she should pack her load and go back to her parents house, I have really condole enough of her rubbish and tears at any slight arguments.

I paid 396k for her cs operation, and no where my name or surname appeared on the receipt that was given to me, it's her name and her father's name that was on it. This is because after marriage she has not changed her surname to my name, this hurt me a lot because her elder sister that is just a baby mama to her boyfriend has already changed her Facebook sur name to her boyfriend surname. Whereas my wife is still answering her father's name, I have told myself that if she can't think and do this willingly, I will never and ever confront her concerning this.

I have been allowing her to do whatever she want but this, she has over stepped her boundaries, seems I have been too easy on her.
You are too emotional and fall for her blackmail. She adopted crying to get what she wants from you anytime she feels. You need to wake up and stand your feet to claim what belongs to you. As the husband, the pastor of your church should lead the officiating of the naming ceremony while her pastor follow especially giving few time to speak or conduct prayer. Allowing her to have her way, you lost your authority and that means you're not in charge.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by aameyah(f): 6:14am On Jul 19
Pharoah no do pass this one. Truly, men don't evolve.

If truly your wife is your best friend, and part of you, then you both will communicate and come to an agreement, even if it means both pastors coming, or a neutral pastor coming. Rather than this tyranny you are displaying.

You will soon break that home and you will rest. All this your huffing and puffing, your eyes will come down.

The church you are crying about, is this how christ led the church?

The whole Nigerian society keeps degrading. People were crying about end sars and the force deployed on protesting people. But that is the same force most men come up with in their homes. Nigerians deserve their leaders.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by GindoX(m): 6:19am On Jul 19
First and foremost, why una dey go different churches? Immediately una married, you should converter her over to ya Church... That's the way it should be.... That's ya first mistake bro...

But as e be naa, you be Man. Na wetin you talk go stand..... If she wins this time, she go try bigger things later bro.. make your stand and be firm with it... Every woman go through pain and sometimes tear, it has been like that from the begining..

No let this shake you...BE A MAN.. AFFIRM YOUR WORDS AND STAND BY IT.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by SKINDOGGY: 6:22am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

Lol lmao that's all I have to say to you
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by HRMK: 6:25am On Jul 19
the blame is yours!how come your wife is attending a seperate church from yours?its understandable before you got married but she must switch to your church after the wedding!but to keep peace in the home,do naming in your church and thanksging/outing in hers!it could be vice versa too!FROM NOW ON,YOU TWO MUST ATTEND SAME CHURCH!THAT IS YOUR OWN FAMILY CHURCH!PERIOD!!

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by TDIsaac(m): 6:32am On Jul 19
Both pastors can do the naming. Let her pastor do the naming and let your own pastor too do the naming at another time. There is nothing wrong in doing that. It is just double blessings for the baby.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Konquest: 6:37am On Jul 19
FreeStuffsNG:

If you are Yoruba. It's customary to give the honor of naming your first child, especially first grand child, to your father. It doesn't matter whether you both previously agree or not. You will both be grandparents someday too and she will be glad when your son honors you in like manner. That's the only way out now. However, like I stated, don't overthink it now, there's still time after the ceremony. What matters most is the name that makes the birth certificate and the popular one you will call him at home.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by livebullet(m): 6:43am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.

Coming here to complain, suggests you are the wife and she is the husband.
Dey play
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by fattycoolface(m): 6:43am On Jul 19
You have been seeing the symptoms before putting your head.

As for me,let her cry blood,I will be the one to decide who named my child alongside the names I wish the child to bear.Although she may decide to add hers...

Calling her pastor to come and officiate forcefully must be investigated....

I'm the one paying the bills of course, yesterday I was angry and told her to buy all the maltina and meat pie then she can call her pastor to officiate the naming. She went silent and started calling me wicked, and heartless. I spent almost 400k on her CS spent 73k on the naming but it's time to make a decision and she want to make it.

During our marriage, her mother refused to appear in the church because I said I won't do court marriage, I saw it on my wife chat with her elder sister, she said her mom said she won't come because I'm thinking rubbish by not doing court marriage. And truly she didn't come. [/quote]
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by shoskid(m): 6:45am On Jul 19
Dindinrin ni man yi sha, Born through CS and so what, Millions do that daily and still obey their husband. Leave home anytime she started that manipulation crying
1)Stop her from going to that her fucking Church. Gba lohun to le
2)Call that pastor himself that you'll disgrace him if he failed to send your wife away from his church.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by aylive02(m): 6:57am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.
. You're a weakling, man.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Opirlo: 7:08am On Jul 19
U are just a weak man. I see two men living as husband nd wife. This nonsense will not come up at first place if u made it clear after marriage u both are going to one church. I bet u there rubbish will continue as u both attend separate church. Have u asked her if her pastor nd his wife attend separate church? Bro u look like hard man outside but the weakest vessel inside.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 7:08am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

Women and manipulations.....almost 60% of most men got married when they are not ready but is all good anyway , i was also manipulated but am ok with it because it made me to marry and become a better stronger person..

But my brother, that phase has gone, your wife seems like she is still single, let her choose between going to your church permanently or going back to her father's house abeg...

Ask her why did she leave her father's house to come and live with you. It means all things concerning her are now in your abode and you decide whatever and whoever she is to meet...inshort what ever you allow, is what she has to attend to always...

So pls man up, don't allow what you will end up complaining, she has no guts to ever bring her pastor as an interaction with you....

You take every decision in that house, you can allow her go once in a while to her church from an invitation from the elders of thr church not the Pastor pls, no legit Pastor has time to invite any member to his church....

Man up oooh....before she will end up converting you to her church and soon be the Mummy G.O ....

But

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Teymanhenry(f): 7:21am On Jul 19
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

We don't know you nor your wife, but from the story you gave us, if true then your wife is clearly manipulating you. Her former pastor does hold the utmost right to spearhead the naming ceremony of your child. Sometimes a man must take drastic decisions no matter how much his wife will nag or cry. Why is she insisting he takes the ceremony? Why is the decision almost causing you both the marriage? Ask these questions, in fact you can call the pastor yourself and speak with him straight up. That is my counsel, from one married man to another.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Keem25: 7:22am On Jul 19
Pastors and peoples wives

Are like 5&6
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by damilotun: 7:27am On Jul 19
let her go there alone and do her naming by the time she gets there without you two thi gs will happen she will be ashamed that she came aline and her secret will be revealed that she is the one in charge
if youfail to take a serious decision tbis time you might not have other opportunity to correct the error
after she finished her own naming you organise a pastor do do yours shikenna
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by maxiuc(m): 7:29am On Jul 19
The moment I paid your bride price and you come into my house na my church you will go

If that her pastor is wise enough he won't do such thing he will first require the consent of the husband.

My wife calling me wicked and all sorts of names Will even give me More reason not to allow her pastor name the child,oh so because I refuse your pastor naming our child now I have turned into wicked man you are now insulting me because of your pastor.

Oga you should have stood your ground.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Blendy77(f): 7:32am On Jul 19
Gr8mind07:
Bro,it's obvious you have been a victim of her manipulating tactics since courtship .

Whatever the background church of a lady, it is expected the she bids the church bye - bye at the wedding ceremony and follows her husband to his church. This is the reason that marriage is conducted in the lady's church and thanksgiving at the Man's church.

Even her so called Pastor knows this.

I was also wondering same. What sort of woman gets married and remains in her former church. So on Sunday, the man will dress up and go to his church, the woman will dress up and go to her church? The home is already divided. Didn't they discuss all these before marriage? The man better investigate his wife sha cos this is absurd

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