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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by 9jatatafo(m): 1:25am On Jul 04, 2015
yiwaldecanta:
Men are useless shameless dogs... Even the riffraff that doesn't deserve you that you settled for....see how he treated you. lesson girl....if you settle for less than you deserve, you get less than you settled for.

Hmmmmm for your mind
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by 9jatatafo(m): 1:26am On Jul 04, 2015
yiwaldecanta:
Men are useless shameless dogs... Even the riffraff that doesn't deserve you that you settled for....see how he treated you. lesson girl....if you settle for less than you deserve, you get less than you settled for.

Hmmmmm for your mind you are now superwoman
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by gaby85(m): 1:26am On Jul 04, 2015
I must admit this is quite a challenging time in your life and that a very tough one. Hey don't let it sweep off your fit, be a strong woman. I know it's not easy right now, but do u remember this situation can get u to be a real woman of substance that will be sought after and envied? When u must have past thru this and come out victorious, u can once in awhile organise marriage seminar for destressed wife to draw from ur wealth of experience to settle their family scores.
My advice for U is don't ever respond with any iota of negative attitude over his mistreat towards u. Never forget the place of prayer and seeking wise counsel from the godly. Remember God cannot place on you heavy load you cannot bear.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Dubemkelly(m): 1:28am On Jul 04, 2015
If it aint working, kindly take a bow, your happiness and safety should be a priority
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by haul: 1:30am On Jul 04, 2015
IndecentStar:
Moral lesson never ever turn an Introvert to an outrovert it will surely backfire
Love your spouse the way u met him
Unless of course u want this kind of problem

Op if a IndecentStar can give you an advice mehnnnn! I don't know what to say ooo,you not fit to be called a responsible woman!

This your moniker ehen! I cut cap ooooo!
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Richiy(f): 1:36am On Jul 04, 2015
What he needs is space. If he throws you out, leave. Take good care of yourself and your kids. He will be back.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Nobody: 1:39am On Jul 04, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:



Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

Hi dear, just read this story and frankly it's pathetic. anyways you rushed into it and hence this lunatic you ended up with. All is not lost, divorce is your only option, i repeat don't take the advice of those out there telling you to be patient or live with this disrespectful monkey!!!

1. he doesn't love or respect you so whats the point?
2. Is it when he degenerates to beating you up you would realize? it will happen if you ignore all these obvious signs are still stay with him


I know you are scared or ashamed of the so called stigma of being a divorcee but i am a man and i would rather see you alive than being emotionally and physically abused by that monster!!!!

listen there are good men who will still marry you, don't be scared honey. take the bold step and walkout on him now!!

Its a shame sha, some of us are here looking for a good wife while some idiots have it and are taking it for granted? life sure is funny
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Clonus: 2:01am On Jul 04, 2015
ihatebuhari:
Kill him
Hate & kill. Are they just what u stand for?
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by ronnyfam(f): 2:05am On Jul 04, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:



Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

Pray !pray !pray you need a serious prayer, if you are not careful, they might try to terminate your life. Go and see any man or woman of God . If you are you can get a detail of this fellowship online and book appointments with the head of the fellowship "daughters of destiny interdominational "
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Aystarz: 2:22am On Jul 04, 2015
uplawal:
Sister,sure he is under serious magic,pray pray pray,but its very good the way you pounced on that silly prostitutes.

Pray? That's sisterlike, but fight? Shuo! Shey na Bible teach that one to sisters as well?
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by freakthingz(m): 2:26am On Jul 04, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:



Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

Story!!!!story!!!!......story!!!!!
Once upon a time!!!!!!!!.........time!!!!!time!!!!!!

Honestly this ya story resemble one i read in literature section
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Toks2008(m): 2:30am On Jul 04, 2015
ConfessionsNgr:



Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

I guess you destroyed your mariage with your own hands.

I may be wrong but i believe that the lady must have made the hubby so insecured by conspicoussly making him feel like a second or third choice.

Men are egocentric and will hardly forget any form of derogatory remarks to them by the woman in their lives.

I happen to have an ex i appreciated so much and for many years i practically did my best and despite setting her up in business i also give her 20k monthly as pocket money which is very very small but was a huge sacrifice by me considering the fact that i was making average of 200k monthly.

the day she complained about lack of money and i told her that im trying my best,she responded by saying how much do i even give her that im sayiing im trying?

That was the day i felt bruised psycologically and till we parted ways that word still haunted me.

As men or women we must be careful of wat we say because i believe this new lady must have made the hubby feel like a king,like he is exactly wwhat she wants while the wige must have made him understand that giving the chance she would never had chose him and it was only a matter of time before the man finally found the woman who wants him as first option even if its not what it seems.

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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Aystarz: 2:35am On Jul 04, 2015
IndecentStar:
Moral lesson never ever turn an Introvert to an outrovert it will surely backfire
Love your spouse the way u met him
Unless of course u want this kind of problem

I think the moral lessons actually are :

1. Marry for love, not for selfish interests or out of pity
2. Don't 'double-court'. That prospective husband of yours just might know about his competitors and may want to get back at you in marriage.
3. Never put a suitor through too much trouble just to get you. Some Ladies can be callous and extremely repulsive towards a suitor they're not attracted to. He might take his pound of flesh should u two ever get together eventually (in either marriage or just dating)
4. Pray and then be sober/watchful. Marriage to him isn't the be-all and end-all. More work still needs to be done in sustaining whatever u two have going together.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by tunde1200(m): 2:36am On Jul 04, 2015
I tire ooo for NL babies.

Ijaya123:
Lots of kids just polluting this thread just for the fun of commenting. Quite irritating.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Aystarz: 2:46am On Jul 04, 2015
islandmoon:
option 1 .
never allow any man to abandon you and turn you into an old cargo!
scare him, by painting the picture for him, act like you don't care , tell him you will not carry any responsibility out of his house, drop the two kids and leave, he will come begging knowing he cant bath and care for the children alone, no girl friend will come to his life seeing him carrying two kids around, they know it will eventually become their responsibility if they marry him, don't ever leave his house with your kids because that will only make him so free and he will become new fresh and free bobo again, occupy him with the kids if he try to kick you out.

dues to social economy problem in the country now, most men have employed that tactic to run from their responsibilities.
they know the woman will carry one with the responsibilities, raising the kids alone! prove him wrong by painting the picture for him, tell him that is what you will do.

option 2
secretly pay tout to keep beating that girl anywhere they see her!


option 3

poison him, hes a wicked man, an ingrate , you shouldn't have opened his eyes, you should have encouraged him to be wearing his oversize old fashion shirts


You go fear advice nau. To think that a woman spewed this garbage!
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Nobody: 3:06am On Jul 04, 2015
abbey621:



Where do I start from? Woman you are the cause of your own misfortune! Yes you heard me right, it is all your fault! Look at the bold words, I'm sure your husband knew you were dating 2 other men at the same time you were dating him, I'm very sure you are not telling the entire story, after kids you've let yourself go, you probably took him for granted as he was such a nice man and this allowed room for another woman. Now you also seem to be a housewife with no source of income other than your husband which means you are a liability more than an asset, I suggest you remain calm, get a job and let your husband see you as a contributor and not a vacuum. Finally issues like this requires strength and calculation, you only have two options: pack and leave or stick it out and hope for the best, no one can tell you what to do but yourself, search deep within and determine if the marriage is worth saving!

Why do we ALWAYS find a way to blame the women?

Where in her posts did she say she was dating them all at the same time? So a woman is forbidden to have more than one suitor at a time?

Where in her post did she say she lost her figure after delivery? And even if this were this case, does that justify his recklessness

Where did she say she had no job, and yet again, how does this affect this situation?

Gosh . . . . I am soooo grateful to God for the man I married. God knows I am not cut out for all this BS in Nigerian marriages!!!

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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Nobody: 3:09am On Jul 04, 2015
teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

And this got 121 like (and counting)

Now I've given up completely on Nigerians!!!

Not everybody was in love with their spouse from day 1 (myself including) . . . . But marriage is a commitment . . . one that requires BOTH parties to give their all.

So now who is the cheater? HE claimed to love her and couldn't live without her, how he treats her like crap . . . . so much for love!!!

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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by bigtt76(f): 3:09am On Jul 04, 2015
Abeg just jejely pack your load and your kids move on dear . Your kids remain your greatest wealth. If you decide to stay back then check yourself.

We women change after child birth and we no more take care to remain sparkling just the way we were before we got married nd gave birth.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by rman: 3:41am On Jul 04, 2015
A woman comes online to describe her own husband as local, shy, old and she married him out of pity because option 1 and 2 were not ready and people are still wondering what went wrong.

What further evidence do you need to realise this woman must have shattered her husbands ego in the marriage and she obviously made it known to the man this is her opinion of him.

I can deduce she will also be controlling.

Dude just realised what it feels like when a woman genuinely cares and she dots all over you irrespective of how you look.

Anyway, the husband erred by rubbing it in in such a manner, he has already won. He should drop all the bitc..es and make the wife know how he likes to be treated. The wife should open up too on the kind of she wants. The atmosphere in that home must be very tense even before cheating started. Both were never true to themselves before now and I believe if they can pull through this, both will live happily ever after.

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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by abbey621(m): 3:47am On Jul 04, 2015
Wedon:


Why do we ALWAYS find a way to blame the women?

Where in her posts did she say she was dating them all at the same time? So a woman is forbidden to have more than one suitor at a time?

Where in her post did she say she lost her figure after delivery? And even if this were this case, does that justify his recklessness

Where did she say she had no job, and yet again, how does this affect this situation?

Gosh . . . . I am soooo grateful to God for the man I married. God knows I am not cut out for all this BS in Nigerian marriages!!!


Learn to read, I purposefully put some words from her posting in bold to highlight the hidden messages within the post. She called herself a loyal housewife with children and based on the way her husband spoke to her about the issue, it doesn't take a genius to figure out who pays the bills. Next, a woman with 3 different suitors definitely gave other guys the impression of availability. This is 9ja, most people don't become suitors without some form of dating or socializing. Finally, she mentioned that the husband was a nice guy and did not change till the birth of the second child, this only points to a drastic change in attraction and appeal. The reason I blamed her is because she lacks self esteem, she's basically a liability and a combination of stress with opportunity is responsible for the man's actions. This is why I mentioned in my post that only her can determine if the marriage is worth saving, most men are weak and succumb easily to female temptations, when the one at home isn't doing her duties then the temptations becomes much more. There's no excuse for the guy's actions, he's a pig but for her to think he just woke up one day and turned into a monster is outright ignorance!

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Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by focus95: 3:57am On Jul 04, 2015
to me wat i wud just very much like u to knw is dat, u sud bear it in mind dat u wil overcome this temptation. dis is challenging moment of yr life, somehw irritating,infuriating. there are two possible things u sud do so as to put dis to an end. 1.) head straight to someone he respects most for complaint,report nd very convincing explanation. after dat he might change for a moment just to respect d person. d behaviour might not hv necessary left him, he can just keep it somewhere and started looking for excuses tru u to pick those things up again. u need to b very very careful at dat time.
2.) After u'v gone to d person he respects most as av stated earlier on for complaint if he doesnt change or he returns back to it then d occassion demands u to pretend as semi-widow. dnt care watever he says, dnt care watever he does, watever d hell he brings home dnt act is if u knew anything let alone accusing d person. all wat u need to do then is to b acting normal. wen h comes bck from work *u r welcome = u r welcome* watever d time he comes bck home never ask wat h wud av been doing so far. cook for him regularly,make the whole house tidy, sweep his entire room,never teach ur children against him. just leave him alone to whatever he does. he gives u food he doesn't dnt care. keep leaving yr life peacefully. I'm telling u in a short moment he wud go on his knee and beg u DAT he has offended u. kos he will just keep wondering the type of woman u r, i bring in girlfriend to sleep wit her she says nothing,whatever i say she doesn't care and alot more. his conscience will nearly kill him, oh maybe u don't knw conscience arrests one than police. pls n pls don't pack out yr loads huh? u will overcome this in Jesus name. and lastly put him in prayer,his heart mostly and his senses. God bless u.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by izzieman: 4:14am On Jul 04, 2015
1. Did you tell your husband that you did not intend to marry him but for the fact that he was the last option for marriage for you as you mentioned above?
2. If you did not, is there a way he could have found out from your friends, phone or email that that was how you felt?
3. Since you say that his response to you always borders on you not wanting him initially, that topic must be eating him out and he wants to show you that he can get what you give to him somewhere else.
4. Do not get me wrong, I think any man who would do that is insecure but if 1 and 2 above are right, then you do have a good part of the blame.
5. You need to have a good talk with him, that yes, you did not think you wanted to marry him because of the age difference but after falling in love with him, he has made you grow up and know that you could not imagine yourself with another husband.
6. They say a woman scorned is dangerous but a man whose ego has been trampled upon can be more dangerous.

Please ponder!
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by NovusHomo(m): 4:27am On Jul 04, 2015
iluvweed:



On point my brother....she f**king married d man outta pity!....F**k this woman!....after marrying him, she realised he his a local rapper.... grin...she then fine-tunned him into a foreign rapper like jay-Z.... grin......The guy now got SWAG! and realises he has been such an old fashioned dumb ass...... grin to have married such a F*UGLY woman....Very funny bro.... grin

Yes, f**k her. The joke is on her, right? She deserves no one's sympathy, the uppity biach.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by mekybabe1: 4:31am On Jul 04, 2015
Do u really know what marriage is? Do u not fear God? U stood at the alter and took marriage vows before him and u think u r smarter than him? Pls be careful! quote author=OTEGA1 post=35457960]This pay back time.The woman should say good by.I am also same situation 2.My wife gamble with me and other guys b4 wedding.Comparing me with some sugar daddies.

Now its good bye 2 her no goings back.i was only an option 4 age.[/quote]
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by oyegbemile(m): 4:34am On Jul 04, 2015
you need to exercise patient because those are the challenge of marriage
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by NovusHomo(m): 4:38am On Jul 04, 2015
Okeikpu:
You married a clown.....deal wt it （・∀・）

No, she did not marry a clown. She married a nice, kind, gentleman. But that wasn't what she was looking for; she confessed that much. So she tried to make him in the image of what she wanted. It was meant to fail. Trying to "uplift" him only made the man attractive to other women, and her less so since she seemed to have a plan to control his life. In short, she created a monster from an easy-going guy. But you are right, she has to live with it. Or get out of it. Either way, I have no sympathy for her type.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by alexlee50: 4:51am On Jul 04, 2015
This is sad and unfortunate, especially when he started picking his girlfriends call in your presence and has gone further to bring them home. A lot of married men have girlfriends but not at the expense of their family. No one drives his wife for another woman. From what you have said, he might perhaps be under a spell. Would advice that you guys seek the intervention and counsel of other experienced members of the family, go for counseling from a professional as well as add prayers
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Meti99(m): 5:07am On Jul 04, 2015
From what u wrote I want to guess u caused it
You used to remind him u neva wanted to marry him in the first place u tot u were smarter

now he shows u how stupid u are
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by ElFenomeno1: 5:07am On Jul 04, 2015
Your husband is a donut ..... and I am not sorry to say
As for you, deal with things.
GOODLUCK
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Nonkit(m): 6:00am On Jul 04, 2015
All I can infer is that you must have been too proud to tell him to his face in the past that you did him a favour by marrying him; that he wasn't your type. He is only trying to punish you for ever disregarding him in the past. I believe that if you show some remorse for all you did to him in the past, he would drop the charges he has got against you and change.
Re: Help! My Husband Is Acting Funny! by Dalby(m): 6:04am On Jul 04, 2015
Tired of acting the man you want him to be. Probably you have been complaining to the high heavens in forcing change. He used to dot on you when you never noticed he was there. He has probably met someone who does on him and loves him for who and what he is and it fun to be dotted on don't you think. Read your intro it tells the whole story!!!

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