SexyStrawberry:


Cohabiting is very wrong, there is nothing wrong with occasional visits, but she's making a very big mistake, what if tomorrow now u no come marry am again? what will happen? by that time u go don squeeze the living daylight out of her oranges and drilled her well so deep that she will now become chaff to oda prospective suitors! Plz discourage her, not only for her, but for u as well, at least no one would be there to checkmate u, at least u want to groove life small b4 finally settling down, I can understand u.

babe I love u for understanding we guys,ur own no go lost.

emerged01:


hmmmm,not really low self esteem. just that when a woman is in love,they can go any length to prove it. and one thing you need to ask Op,how many years they have been in relationship? it is love not low self esteem.

Being a doormat = low self esteem to me. How can any sane person tolerate being part of a harem? A woman that knows her worth will either make you choose or leave

SUGARBEE:


Have you ever been dumbed before? She's only taking a precautionary method

damn! Who would dump a sweet lil girl like yourself...f*ck that nigga!! Anyways can I be the bin.??

Don't allow her,, and WHAT other games will be checkmated

PunkyVeer:


Ok. What do you need plan B for? Are you that afraid of your own company that there should always be someone waiting in the wings just in case? I find that very odd.

you won't understand,I was just like you till last year,I pray you don't get dumped by someone you love so much and probably placed all your hopes on,cos it will automatically change you mindset toward this shiiiit called relationship.

jonaifame22:
and I'll keep footing th bills for abortion wetin go come remain for my pocket.

Footing the bill or the girl risking not being able to give birth again....

Its Not all about the money

PunkyVeer:


Ok. What do you need plan B for? Are you that afraid of your own company that there should always be someone waiting in the wings just in case? I find that very odd.

As beautiful and classy as you are,are you telling me that you are dating only one guy?

jonaifame22:
u knw it's very risky taking the bull by the horns

The spanish matadors would testify!

Magician1503:


I tell u, I'm still trying to resolve an issue with my friend and his live-in lover for the past three days and I'm getting to bear the brunt of their wahala.

And the bigger wahala is that we live in the same compound. Had to vacate my space for the girl when my paddy won't allow the girl in his room, worst still, the girl no get anywhere to go.

U see now say e no make brain at all

why doesn't she have anywhere to go? where did she come from? what happened to her parents house..,,

Toks2008:


Since my teenage years i have imbibed a culture.

If i dont really want you i will never touch you and this is why im so sexually chaste.

If i dont see u as a lady i can marry i will not even make a pass at you.

This is why my chastity expectation from the lady i will marry might be too unrealistic.

And that is the way it ought to be. You a real man my friend. I learnt my ways from my Grandfather. I saw how he doted on my Grandmother, adored her and I never one day saw him with another woman. He had a saying that he always told to us kids "A vagina is a vagina, if you have seen one, you have seen them all, so stick to the one you have at home"

Just like you, if I cannot hold hands with a woman and proudly introduce her as my wife, I will not even consider the thought of any kind or manner of an affair with her.

Youngpo413:
you won't understand,I was just like you till last year,I pray you don't get dumped by someone you love so much and probably placed all your hopes on,cos it will automatically change you mindset toward this shiiiit called relationship.

I was madly in love once upon a time & the guy did a number on me. Well I was shattered of course & it took me a couple of years to completely move on. During that time I stayed away from relationships & just spent time trying to get to know myself. Bottom line, when you learn to love yourself, nobody can turn your world upside down just because they walked away. That's rubbish! When you take time off relationships after a break up, chances of becoming jaded & bitter really decrease. You become emotionally healthy because you aren't carrying extra baggage because of someone else. You're the boss. You decide your future, not the lousy ex.

jonaifame22:
Would it be wise as we are not married yet to each other, and also my other games will be checkmated by her dwelling with me.

Please, advice me, I love her very much but.......

• It's wrong for both of you to stay together because you are not husband and wife.
• Is there anyway both of you will stay together without engaging in sexual misconduct? 1corinthians 6:18 says flee from fornication
• Will you allow a place in your heart for what God hate? Read James 4:8
• 1corinthians 13:5 says love does not behave indecently. If you truly love her as you said then get married to her legally, if you are not ready then exercise self control which is a fruitage of the spirit. If you truly love her and God then hate what's bad.

SUGARBEE:
I love that babe, she's taking the bull by its horns.. I guess she's trying to avoid you dumping her in future..

Hmmmm, newbee on the forum. Welcome! Abi na another moniker u open again?

jonaifame22:
and I'll keep footing th bills for abortion wetin go come remain for my pocket.

So if it mistakenly happens, u would opt for abortion?? SMH

Youngpo413:
also naija ladies are not reliable,they may dump you at anytime,so tell me how a guy can survive,so the other games will act as a shock absorber,I will advice guys to double or even triple date cos being faithful doesn't pay anymore.

I agree with the bold lettering.

Anytime i tell people of how i remained sexually fateful to one lady for 12years they are always like wtf!

Then i check myself if im normal but how can i be abnormal? Does keeping to God's ordinances make one abnormal?


Yes if not for Christ i'm not a sexually decent guy at all and i would have lost count of how many chics i would have laid and my past experience would have made me become the greatest philanderer on earth but what will it profit me if i lose my soul in hell because of the clueless act of one naive lady out of billions.

As i have always told any lady that cares to know "I am not sexually decent or faithful to any lady because of my love for her because a man can love a lady and still cheats on her with a dog but its because i love Christ and i do not want to grieve the holy spirit or take God's grace for granted"

But for Christ,ladies for suffer in my hands.

B4 u will accept her, are u planning to marry her, are u willing to give anytin she ask, have u plan for ur tomorrow b4 she will comes in. Ladies like that want a man to marry dem nomatter what. Never judge d book by d cover. Coming to stay with u is not a gud idea. By wise my friend

Youngpo413:
As beautiful and classy as you are,are you telling me that you are dating only one guy?

Never been with two men at the same time in my life. I wouldn't know how to handle them. One I must be lying to & that to me is a waste of time. I can't be rehearsing a script for somebody. Too much energy. I like being real with a capital R.

jonaifame22:
Would it be wise as we are not married yet to each other, and also my other games will be checkmated by her dwelling with me.

Please, advice me, I love her very much but.......

hope you are ready to settle down
meaning you are ready to marry
if not don't let her park in.
mine park in with me 2013 now we are married with baby.

PunkyVeer:


I was madly in love once upon a time & the guy did a number on me. Well I was shattered of course & it took me a couple of years to completely move on. During that time I stayed away from relationships & just spent time trying to get to know myself. Bottom line, when you learn to love yourself, nobody can turn your world upside down just because they walked away. That's rubbish! When you take time off relationships after a break up, chances of becoming jaded & bitter really decrease. You become emotionally healthy because you aren't carrying extra baggage because of someone else. You're the boss. You decide your future, not the lousy ex.

rebounds are still good,it keeps ones sane.

izzieman:



And that is the way it ought to be. You a real man my friend. I learnt my ways from my Grandfather. I saw how he doted on my Grandmother, adored her and I never one day saw him with another woman. He had a saying that he always told to us kids "A vagina is a vagina, if you have seen one, you have seen them all, so stick to the one you have at home"

Just like you, if I cannot hold hands with a woman and proudly introduce her as my wife, I will not even consider the thought of any kind or manner of an affair with her.

Lets face it.

The act of philandering is demonic and not just a sinful act.

For crying out loud its the same hole but different casing.

Just as i love the samsung TV as a means of watching aired programs same way another man will prefer lg,or panasonic.

I have my preferred casing for the hole which is all the same and that is WHY I WILL RATHER REMAIN SINGLE THAN SETTLE FOR LESS.

Some guys love slender chics that has a hole while another love big chics that has same hole so for me if my casing is not pleasing to my eyes, i fear that if i try to manage any casing out of desperation, if i ever set my eyes on my preferred casing,i will take a sneak peak.

No be person dey marry all those gorgeous hotties we see? abeg i must get my choice by fire by force.

favoured234:

Hahahahha... I just found a reason why I like my space

jonaifame22:
pls don't insult my gf

Sorry bro, I never meant any harm, am just saying it as it is. If your girl friend is cohabiting with you and you are convinced you need her in your life. My brother please do the needful, but if you are waiting to make money like me, sorry, I mean like Dangote, you might wait forever oh "Abuja marriage" is sometimes dangerous. God will help you to do the rightful.

noblegrex:
I'm available(as a single man)

god will provide you don't worry

Bad idea, Consider your freedom gone with the wind. Although, some responsibilities will be off your shoulder

Youngpo413:
rebounds are still good,it keeps ones sane.

Different strokes I guess. Shrugs.

jonaifame22:
she's very beautiful

Picture or adonbilivit.

From a religious point of view, it's a very bad decision to allow her stay with u. From a social/modern point of view, what is wrong with it? After all, we are in the 21st century, (deceiving ourselves in the name of civilisation) hmmmm, SMH!!! .... But my brother, it seems you even know the right thing to do coz judging from the response you made to most comments here, you knew it's inappropriate...

Moana:
it wasnt small when you were bending, flipping and twisting her over the weekends but the thought of her being there more often has suddenly made the room too small abi she has caught you


Personally i wouldn't let anyone live with me (as a single woman) i love my space and i dont like sharing my toothpaste

That cracked me up big time. Well, i think relationship should be left as such...come and go back.

I don't think that's a nice idea. You would offend yourself, your friends who come around before may not do so often anymore. Have u thought of your family members who visit too, like your mom? In the long run, you both will end up hurting yourselves. If you ask me, I don't like that idea...one bit.

PunkyVeer:


Never been with two men at the same time in my life. I wouldn't know how to handle them. One I must be lying to & that to me is a waste of time. I can't be rehearsing a script for somebody. Too much energy. I like being real with a capital R.

if this is true,KUDOS...moreover,are you a Nigerian?

PunkyVeer:


Different strokes I guess. Shrugs.

yeah different strokes...I will suit myself.