prechbills1:


hmm,,, khiaa are you residing in the states?

Yes, I am, that's why I can see things with a different point of view, more clearly if you will.

Bro It's obvious that your mind is made up on this issue from the way you're responding to comment s ....But I still think you should know that when it comes to marriage love and money is not enough. ....There is a way that seem right to a man but the end is destruction. ...Apart from your mum not consenting have you taken time to pray about it? If No, I advise you do so coz only God knows the end from the beginning. ..Experience is the best teacher...However There are some things that are better told than experienced and 'wrong marriage' is one of them

TheUpsetGirl1:
later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

thank you for this comment madam. a bar of Hennessey for you. the boy doesn't know what he's saying. wanted to marry a rich girl at 23,he just wants to be a houseboy for the rest of his life. Gold digger oshi. if the girl later enslave am,she go dey bring different man Bleep inside their bedroom and he no for say anything,after all she's the breadwinner. I dey talk to you o. prechbills1. it may seem blissful now but in the next 5 years,na you go turn to wife and slave. the girl just dey look for someone to enslave. she might be acting submissive now,but its all to get you to marry her. rich ladies always look for a man to enslave

You are looking for escape route after you don chop her belleful. Was your mother not there 3 years ago when you started banging her and eating both her puna and her pochet?
Abeg, give us another story.

fancy4eve:
we re not talkn about culture, we re talking about ethics of lyf. Age is not d problem, assuming he is wealthy nd d lady is older dan him, it will not b an issue, but here d reverse is d case, better don't talk him into it cus his own case is different.

Your logic is.....well you don't have any. He said he has a job, why does he have to be wealthy just to marry his love. If everyone had to be wealthy in order to get married, 99.9% of people in the world would never marry. Yeah it's your culture.

prechbills1:


please I need serious advice. I can't afford to lose her
.not now ,not ever.

You already have a stand bro, u don't need any other advice.
Any advice in opposition to ur stand will be ignored by u so why the talk of advice?
You only need those who will encourage ur stand that's what I'm seeing from ur writeup

prechbills1:


your comment is highly appreciated, this is the best advice I've gotten so far.

now to the bolded post, if you read my post carefully you'll notice that I never said I'm poor!, I've my own money. I have enough resources to sponsor the marriage but she insisted to do that.

Thanks
Oh OK if you have your own money, that's all well and good.. Even better.

But are you ready to marry her as at this period or you are been pressured by her for marriage?
Are you ready for marriage? Cause it's a different to be married and also a different thing to stay married successfully.
Marriage is not like boyfriend and girlfriend. Marriage is more deeper than that.

So ask Yourself , are you sure u want to do this ? Or you want her to wait another one year for you to be ready psychologically.
If you are ready and u know deep down u want to take this huge step? Then please go ahead with her. Thank God your father supports you, later your mum will come around.

Also when married? Let her invest some money in your business, thats if you are into any certain buisness, so you can expand more than u av at the moment.
The expansion will help you a great deal to increase your savings and earnings, thereby when she sees how much u are growing well buisnesswise, she will remain humble in the marriage, while u retain control as the head. Please don't be a dictatorship husband when u marry her, do things as a team, it will earn u more respect, love and dedication from her.

Cause marriage tend to change some men from being loving to becoming Abacha due to external bad advices from his male friends and family. So still maintain this trust and love u both have between u. Cos I know it's because of your character, she's taking this huge step to want to be with you for a lifetime.

Best of luck once again.

4C2215131:


You really think so?!

if na so. There wud be no divorce na

enemyofprogress:
he wants to marry her because of her money while she wants to marry him because he is the only one available. No love at all between them

She got with him when she was 26 years old and she is wealthy, explain to me why/how there are no other men available. Get real. She wants him because he is who she wants.

khiaa:


Yes, I am, that's why I can see things with a different point of view, more clearly if you will.

screenshot this thread. .

if I don't see Salt, Orange, AT&T or Verizon as your carrier..

victorian:







Thanks
Oh OK if you have your own money, that's all well and good.. Even better.

But are you ready to marry her as at this period or you are been pressured by her for marriage?
Are you ready for marriage? Cause it's a different to be married and also a different thing to stay married successfully.
Marriage is not like boyfriend and girlfriend. Marriage is more deeper than that.

So ask Yourself , are you sure u want to do this ? Or you want her to wait another one year for you to be ready psychologically.
If you are ready and u know deep down u want to take this huge step? Then please go ahead with her. Thank God your father supports you, later your mum will come around.

Also when married? Let her invest some money in your business, thats if you are into any certain buisness, so you can expand more than u av at the moment.
The expansion will help you a great deal to increase your savings and earnings, thereby when she sees how much u are growing well buisnesswise, she will remain humble in the marriage, while u retain control as the head. Please don't be a dictatorship husband when u marry her, do things as a team, it will earn u more respect, love and dedication from her.

Cause marriage tend to change some men from being loving to becoming Abacha due to external bad advices from his male friends and family. So still maintain this trust and love u both have between u. Cos I know it's because of your character, she's taking this huge step to want to be with you for a lifetime.

Best of luck once again.

sorry, I'm a rational male.

like I said earlier, I'm not broke.

4FACEADELEKE:
Bro go ahead and marry her if you think she is your kiind of woman.Stop listening to some of this enemies of progress on nairaland,who would jump at the slightest opportunity,if they were in your shoes.Bro know these today that,Nigerians are the greatest hypocrites on earth.Remember when you get married to her,hustle harder so that you can provide for her as well,not just only her providing for both of you.Close your eyes off your to be's wifes wealth and work hard like a street hustler who has nothing to his name.Remember if tomorrow your hustle your way up and become rich,her respect for you will rise to its peak,she will truly be convinced that she indeed made the best decision by marrying you.

God bless you jare

Nigerians are real confirmed hypocrites.

All those ones telling him he shouldn't marry her, they are waiting for him to drop her, so they can come in, and Not marry her but take advantage of her age, use her sexually, clean her bank accounts, then drop her penniless.

Very few Nigerian men value good rich young ladies. Other see rich ladies as plagues and devils. That's why more women are more successful than men. And when God place in the woman's heart to help a guy up to her level. He ends up destroying her and moving on to another lady.

Op should think with his brain and be wise.

prechbills1:


screenshot this thread. .

if I don't see Salt, Orange, T&T or Verizon as your carrier..

lol Do you mean AT&T? Why don't you trust me?

Safiaa:
No. I live in the uk, born and raised and if any man moves into my house with pride I would NEVER respect him. I wouldn’t even date a man who would think of doing that, so that’s different entirely. We could move in together, with you taking up most of the financial bills or I move in to your house. One or the other, and that’s after marriage. Thanks

you live in the UK and you have such mindset.

well I wouldn't expect less from you.
you mean if you move into a man's house, he shouldn't respect you?

all black ladies seem to have fixed mentality

I'm not an alpha male, you work to demand respect. because you're pampering your man doesn't mean you should say this nonsense,
it's better if you don't live in his house then, since he can't live in your house.

And why should he take up most of the financial bills? isn't that supposed to shared equally?

how am I even sure you're living in the Uk.. kindly screenshot this thread,

khiaa:


lol Do you mean AT&T? Why don't you trust me?

I do.. just screenshot this thread

prechbills1:



sorry, I'm a rational male.

like I said earlier, I'm not broke.

I know you are but later in life, you need to step up and u can't always make her pick up the bills in the marriage. And that's the truth.
You need to be up to her status when u guys marry. And by doing so, u need capital to either invest in a business u know won't fail or expand what u have right now.

I know u don't want to appear a gold digger and I believe u are not.

But please in marriage, the husband picks up most of the bills while the wife supports. It won't be ideal if she's the one spending more all the time when u guys are married.
Peter Okoye married Lola omotayo, 10years older than him in age.
Initially when she was single, I think she held a top position in her dad's company. As soon as she got married, she resigned afterwards and became a housewife.

She supports Peter with connections and money, so that his music biz will expand as a solo artist.
He takes cares of most bills in the home . He bought her a brand new jeep.
All these are strategies to make her feel he's capable and can take care of her.
Every woman no matter how rich she is, what to see such in her man as the years in marriage goes by. It trips us, even though we are comfortable. We love it.

So please build your finances up to her level in the marriage.

Tobisky16:


You call "80%" only

In America traditionally it's 100% the responsibility of the woman's family to pay for the wedding, but nowadays some of the couples are splitting the cost of the wedding between themselves.

victorian:







I know you are but later in life, you need to step up and u can't always make her pick up the bills in the marriage. And that's the truth.
You need to be up to her status when u guys marry. And by doing so, u need capital to either invest in a business u know won't fail or expand what u have right now.

I know u don't want to appear a gold digger and I believe u are not.

But please in marriage, the husband picks up most of the bills while the wife supports. It won't be ideal if she's the one spending more all the time when u guys are married.
Peter Okoye married Lola omotayo, 10years older than him in age.
Initially when she was single, I think she held a top position in her dad's company. As soon as she got married, she resigned afterwards and became a housewife.

She supports Peter with connections and money, so that his music biz will expand as a solo artist.
He takes cares of most bills in the home . He bought her a brand new jeep.
All these are strategies to make her feel he's capable and can take care of her.
Every woman no matter how rich she is, what to see such in her man as the years in marriage goes by. It trips us, even though we are comfortable. We love it.

So please build your finances up to her level in the marriage.

oh God

you guys shouldn't make me deactivate my account


I said I'm not broke.
we both are from wealthy families.
you said it's a husband responsibility to take up most bills; sorry, who made that rule?

I'm marrying for love not to gain control.
I've two cars bought with my own cash. The Samsung S9 I'm using now ,she was the one who bought it for me even though I never asked.

guys need to be cared for and pampered sometimes, you know.

I met her in south africa when I was doing my M. Sc.

prechbills1:


I do.. just screenshot this thread

Why are you crying?

BrutusOj:
That boy sounds like a diamond digger actually. It is written all over his post, he never said he loves the lady, he likes her based on benefit

Read it again, he clearly stated that he loves her.

prechbills1:



oh God

you guys shouldn't make me deactivate my account


I said I'm not broke.
we both are from wealthy families.
you said it's a husband responsibility to take up most bills; sorry, who made that rule?

I'm marrying for love not to gain control.
I've two cars bought with my own cash. The Samsung S9 I'm using now ,she was the one who bought it for me even though I never asked.

guys need to be cared for and pampered sometimes, you know.

I met her in south africa when I was doing my M. Sc.

@ the bolded, unfortunately that's one of the number one ways to be valued and appreciated by her more.

Our fathers of old married many wives and took care of their wives and children singlehandedly. That's why divorce rate back then was not much.

Unlike today most young men run away from responsibility or want it shared equally. And boom! The divorce rate is high

Have u asked yourself, why do guys like Davido who has two babymamas, ladies are still tripping over themselves to be with him?
Cause in simple English, he takes care of his babymamas single handedly and kids.


You are rich too, that's good but keep up with your riches and use your riches to expand yourself more. Just have more money that's all.

prechbills1:


you live in the UK and you have such mindset.

well I wouldn't expect less from you.
you mean if you move into a man's house, he shouldn't respect you?

all black ladies seem to have fixed mentality

I'm not an alpha male, you work to demand respect. because you're pampering your man doesn't mean you should say this nonsense,
it's better if you don't live in his house then, since he can't live in your house.

And why should he take up most of the financial bills? isn't that supposed to shared equally?

how am I even sure you're living in the Uk.. kindly screenshot this thread,

ok

And with the Pampering of the husband. She will. Pamper u, or is she not doing so already?

My late dad was pampered well, during this time. God bless his memory, he married 5 wives . Yes 5 women! Paid all their bride price and took great care of everyone with all his 17children. He loved my mum more, cos she knows how to make him feel he's in heaven.
Everyone he took care of that's why all his wives stood by him till old age. None divorced him.. I mean none.

jaxxy:


Ok maybe not UK bt in the US in certain. Men move in with ladies it's not a big deal really. Bills shud be shared not one person doing it all c'mon. Respect for a person shudnt just come because they are capable of paying ur bills pls cos it means anytime dat person can't the respect goes out the window. Lol

well maybe I’m different because living with someone is a big deal. I couldn’t live with a man I’m not married to sorry. And once we move in together, we can share the bills. As long as it’s 80-20. It’s not something everybody can understand but as long as my current partner understands, I’m Gucci.

MILITO12345:
what an elder sees sitting down.....even if u like climb iroko tree .u cant see it o

Untrue. Do you know how many elders have given the wrong advice. Look at your own politicians.

victorian:









@ the bolded, unfortunately that's one of the number one ways to be valued and appreciated by her more.

Our fathers of old married many wives and took care of their wives and children singlehandedly. That's why divorce rate back then was not much.

Unlike today most young men run away from responsibility or want it shared equally. And boom! The divorce rate is high

Have u asked yourself, why do guys like Davido who has two babymamas, ladies are still tripping over themselves to be with him?
Cause in simple English, he takes care of his babymamas single handedly and kids.


You are rich too, that's good but keep up with your riches and use your riches to expand yourself more. Just have more money that's all.

leave me alone. there's nothing wrong in showing your man love by footing his bills and pampering him.

I regret being an African

khiaa:



Untrue. Do you know how many elders have given the wrong advice. Look at your own politicians.

Don't mind him.

Elder that have ruined this country with their insatiable greed and reducing Nigeria to what it is now. Smhhh

khiaa:



Untrue. Do you know how many elders have given the wrong advice. Look at your own politicians.

Don't mind him.

Elders that have ruined this country with their insatiable greed and reducing Nigeria to what it is now. Smhhh

lalasticlala you see what you caused
why did you move this topic to front page? to humiliate me right?

Safiaa:
well maybe I’m different because living with someone is a big deal. I couldn’t live with a man I’m not married to sorry. And once we move in together, we can share the bills. As long as it’s 80-20. It’s not something everybody can understand but as long as my current partner understands, I’m Gucci.

80-20?

is this the gender equality women have been clamouring about?

smh

even UK..

black women though(not all, my fiance doesn't have this mentality)

prechbills1:


leave me alone. there's nothing wrong in showing your man love by footing his bills and pampering him.

I regret being an African

Then u are a gold digger and very selfish.

Be waiting for a woman to continue footing all your bills in marriage. Your eyes go clear in the marriage. Whether u marry 19years old girl or 40years old woman? If she foots the bill in the marriage, just know she will dump your assz at any time, she pleases.
And that's the truth.

You can't run away from your destiny of being a man.
It's not even about being an african

Oyibo rich men spend a fortune on cosmetic surgeries , tummy tuck for their wives, so their wives keep looking young after giving birth. their wives don't work, while the ones who work are just for fashion.
Oyibo men spend alot on vacation trips for their wife and kids.

Do u think Nigerian women or black women love money?

My dear marry Oyibo woman, then your eyes go clear.

If Oyibo woman marry u as a broke man that's different but u are from a wealthy home and u expect her to take care of your bills in marriage?

Lol

Oyo Lo wa!