fancy4eve:
Let's get sumtin straight here, wat an elder see siting down, even if u climb d tallest tree, u will not.

my dear I go wit ur mum, we women pretend a lot, a desperado will do all it takes 2 get wat she want, after d marriage u will see her true character. Assuming d reverse is d case, u been rich nd she is not, my dear she will b humble 2 u for d rest of her lyf. Hv seen so many cases dat later end up in divorce all bcus d man does not hv a say in his house nd been use as rag. Pls tink twice b4 going into sumtin u will regret leta.

allow the guy,dem dey tell am now he dey form cee-c i can say my own back.it will soon be clear to him that there is more to life than money.the guy no dey shame,woman go pay 80% and you go bring 20% and you want to have a say in the house....how?we wey dey bring 90% dey hear am sef let alone 20%.a woman will always be a woman that is how God made them. ps if you die in a woman's house they will pass your corpse through the window.

khiaa:


Why are you crying?

just do to prove your integrity

@op if your issue is whether or not you should go ahead without the blessings of your mum and risk your relationship with her

Truly no one can answer that . You are an adult and can do as you please .

You see in Africa children are programmed to obey their parents ... disobedience is believed to attract supernatural dreadful events .

Especially when it comes to choice of marital partner .

Truth be told if everything goes well ...people will wait until it goes south just so they can say ehen I told you so .

If it goes wrong they will say ehen I told you so .

If it goes right they will say ...( Well your guess is as good as mine ).

I now understand were you are coming from .

The decision is yours . Only time can tell .

But one thing is for sure whatever happens ...those who love you will always be there for you .

prechbills1:


80-20?

is this the gender equality women have been clamouring about?

smh

even UK..

black women though(not all, my fiance doesn't have this mentality)

When have I stated anything about gender equality? This is the problem with you men, you think every woman you encounter is a feminist. I’m clearly not nd never will be. Yes I live in the Uk and so what?

Black women this, black women that. But you forgot to mention that you’re a black man who has no atom of shame to carry your big self into another woman’s house to play houseboy. Can you really call yourself a man though? Your fiancé has to be one of the three. Desperate, unattractive or severely lonely. Sorry, because no woman with standards would settle for someone like yourself, just saying.

manikspears:


allow the guy,dem dey tell am now he dey form cee-c i can say my own back.it will soon be clear to him that there is more to life than money.the guy no dey shame,woman go pay 80% and you go bring 20% and you want to have a say in the house....how?we wey dey bring 90% dey hear am sef let alone 20%.a woman will always be a woman that is how God made them. ps if you die in a woman's house they will pass your corpse through the window.

u get bad mouth oh, so na window dem go pass him corpse......I know dat guy is not from d east, na yorubas nd idoma dey behave lyk dis. Enjoy dear while it last

prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.

The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiancee is 5 years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29. My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.

My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.

I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.

in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.

The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.

I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

bro don't marry dat woman

victorian:










Then u are a gold digger and very selfish.

Be waiting for a woman to continue footing all your bills in marriage. Your eyes go clear in the marriage. Whether u marry 19years old girl or 40years old woman? If she foots the bill in the marriage, just know she will dump your assz at any time, she pleases.
And that's the truth.

You can't run away from your destiny of being a man.
It's not even about being an african

Oyibo rich men spend a fortune on cosmetic surgeries , tummy tuck for their wives, so their wives keep looking young after giving birth. their wives don't work, while the ones who work are just for fashion.
Oyibo men spend alot on vacation trips for their wife and kids.

Do u think Nigerian women or black women love money?

My dear marry Oyibo woman, then your eyes go clear.

If Oyibo woman marry u as a broke man that's different but u are from a wealthy home and u expect her to take care of your bills in marriage?

Lol

Oyo Lo wa!

lalasticlala you caused this and you know that.

dear, my fiance and I would be going for court marriage okay.

I'm not a gold digger.

only black people reason this way, I'm not surprised.

there's nothing wrong in a man footing a woman's bills, but you think there's something wrong in my fiance/wife to be footing some of my bills.


she cares for me, same way I care for her.

my birthday is coming soon and I have high expectations!

sorry dear.

JayPeeOham:
Bro It's obvious that your mind is made up on this issue from the way you're responding to comment s ....But I still think you should know that when it comes to marriage love and money is not enough. ....There is a way that seem right to a man but the end is destruction. ...Apart from your mum not consenting have you taken time to pray about it? If No, I advise you do so coz only God knows the end from the beginning. ..Experience is the best teacher...However There are some things that are better told than experienced and 'wrong marriage' is one of them

very obvious ,he is just looking for people to support his is miserable intention

fancy4eve:
u get bad mouth oh, so na window dem go pass him corpse......I know dat guy is not from d east, na yorubas nd idoma dey behave lyk dis. Enjoy dear while it last

my marriage is going to last!

stop wishing me bad please!
I'm from isoko in Delta not Yoruba

prechbills1:



lalasticlala you caused this and you know that.

dear, my fiance and I would be going for court marriage okay.

I'm not a gold digger.

only black people reason this way, I'm not surprised.

there's nothing wrong in a man footing a woman's bills, but you think there's something wrong in my fiance/wife to be footing some of my bills.


she cares for me, same way I care for her.

my birthday is coming soon and I have high expectations!

sorry dear.

I think you should quit now . Just put your phone off and go do something else .


Just go do something else for a couple of hours . Listen to your mentor if you have one .

Stay away from Nairaland for now .

Chill . Relax .

Safiaa:
When have I stated anything about gender equality? This is the problem with you men, you think every woman you encounter is a feminist. I’m clearly not nd never will be. Yes I live in the Uk and so what?

Black women this, black women that. But you forgot to mention that you’re a black man who has no atom of shame to carry your big self into another woman’s house to play houseboy. Can you really call yourself a man though? Your fiancé has to be one of the three. Desperate, unattractive or severely lonely. Sorry, because no woman with standards would settle for someone like yourself, just saying.

only black people especially broke ones reason this way.

my fiance is beautiful, neither is she desperate or lonely.

I was the one who proposed to her, not she proposing to me.

something you don't understand is; wealthy people mingle with people of their standards.

our families have been doing good for a very long time even before her dad was appointed as commissioner of transportation in 2015,while my dad is an SA to the Governor.

actually your opinions don't matter because my fiance is civilized and doesn't have this backwards mentality.

tobianthony:



I think you should quit now . Just put your phone off and go do something else .


Just go do something else for a couple of hours . Listen to your mentor if you have one .

Stay away from Nairaland for now .

Chill . Relax .

this guys want to give me heart attack.

I'll listen to your advice.. I'll ignore all comments

prechbills1:

my marriage will last!

stop wishing me bad please!
I'm from isoko in Delta not Yoruba

Guy as a fellow isoko man ...this your statement and your posts just confirmed a stereotype that most women believe about us .

I urge you to just unplug from the internet .

You won't gain much from the cacophony of comments here.

PM me if you need to talk .

prechbills1:


only black people especially broke ones reason this way.

my fiance is beautiful, neither is she desperate or lonely.

I was the one who proposed to her, not she proposing to me.

something you don't understand is; wealthy people mingle with people of their standards.

our families have been doing good for a very long time even before her dad was appointed as commissioner of transportation in 2015,while my dad is an SA to the Governor.

actually your opinions don't matter because my fiance is civilized and doesn't have this backwards mentality.

Of course you proposed, you want the lifestyle lol. Trap her quickly with pregnancy so you can secure the money bag, you hear . If you’re doing so well, how do you have the audacity to move into a woman’s house? To spend her money, and let her take care of you? Are you a woman? Please carry yourself commot, I could never in my life.

prechbills1:



lalasticlala you caused this and you know that.

dear, my fiance and I would be going for court marriage okay.

I'm not a gold digger.

only black people reason this way, I'm not surprised.

there's nothing wrong in a man footing a woman's bills, but you think there's something wrong in my fiance/wife to be footing some of my bills.


she cares for me, same way I care for her.

my birthday is coming soon and I have high expectations!

sorry dear.

Lol, I didn't say u shouldn't marry her o

I only advised don't expect her to take care of your bills all throughout your life.

Cos if that's your expectations, hmmmmm
Hmmmmmm
Hmmmmmm

Lol, you are in for a bumpy ride later on


She will marry you, she will have kids with you but when she is done and tired of you.

She will simply kick u by the curb , collect her kids and fling you out of her house.

Cause the kids, will then be all that matters and precious to her.

Truth is bitter.. Ogbeni, that's the truth.

Hml in advance. Best of luck .

prechbills1:

she'd only provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage, I'd provide 20.

I don't know why you guys reason this way

Shame on you. You need to get yourself a job, you're with her simply because of her money.
what tribe are you from that you shamelessly moved into a woman's house and you're happy
to admit that she will pay for the wedding, i guess the 20% you intend to contribute is your
presence only.

prechbills1:

my marriage will last!

stop wishing me bad please!
I'm from isoko in Delta not Yoruba

common on, I Neva said it will not ohk, am only gvn u my opinion cus I hv a younger bro lyk u nd if I should get 2 know dat he is tinkn about marriage it will b a No No from me. I know am not d one going into it, but marriage is a life tym stuff nd not relationship

fancy4eve:
u get bad mouth oh, so na window dem go pass him corpse......I know dat guy is not from d east, na yorubas nd idoma dey behave lyk dis. Enjoy dear while it last

never,the boy can't be from yorubaland,his issue would't have gotten to this level..................by the time his yoruba mum gives him a resounding slap he will go back to factory settings ,dont test yoruba mums o,they can make you question who your actual parents are.they were the ones who composed "nobody test me" for MI

prechbills1:



this guys want to give me heart attack.

I'll listen to your advice.. I'll ignore all comments

I think I know who you are. But I will just watch you and observe Lool.

prechbills1:


I saw this mention because I'm not yet asleep, I'm still watching tv.

you read my post carefully, did I say I'm poor or jobless

I wonder who pushed my post to front page because instead of advice, I'm now getting another thing.

if you read that post, there were question marks used for a reason, it was meant to be questions because I don't know you.What caught my attention was you saying your fiancée is rich & she'll be footing 80% of the wedding bills.So I wondered, what will you be taking care of.Now that you clarified you are financially stable, it's your wedding too.What will you be doing while she pays 80%.But you obviously didn't like this.Paul okoye & Lola have a 6 year age difference.She's older.At the end of the day it's between the 2 of you.Sounds like you've been living together already so you know each other to a good extent.

prechbills1:



lalasticlala you caused this and you know that.

dear, my fiance and I would be going for court marriage okay.

I'm not a gold digger.

only black people reason this way, I'm not surprised.

there's nothing wrong in a man footing a woman's bills, but you think there's something wrong in my fiance/wife to be footing some of my bills.


she cares for me, same way I care for her.

my birthday is coming soon and I have high expectations!

sorry dear.

What's funny is the girls seek what you have in your woman in men, yet they call you a gold digger, the men call you a gold digger yet they wish they had a woman who loved them and is rich like yours. It's all about envy, jealousy, and hypocrisy.

TheUpsetGirl1:
later guys will start calling us golddiggers, so what are you guys going to call this one

thief go and marry your mate

oildigger!!
ole, you better go and marry your mate, ,no wonder biacan said you depend on a commissioner's daughter for livelihood.

thief

your name said it all the upset girl. uno get sense at all.

prechbills1:


just do to prove your integrity

You can read my topics and know that I am in the USA, I'm not Nigerian though.

"she is rich, the house we are living belong to her, she has provided 80% things for the marriage,
She has spent on me a lot, I can't afford to leave her "

You sound like a gold digger who is after her money .
Tomorrow you guys will be calling ladies gold diggers.

You may go on with the marriage but if you want to enjoy it, get a job and start paying your bills.
I know why I am telling you this.

FromZeroToHero:
men age like wine while women age like milk. God created Adam first before Eve so a man should be older than the woman. in the next 20 years when she must have finished giving birth she will definitely look far older than you as if she is the one that gave birth to you. secondly for you to move into a woman's house and for her to agree to sponsor the marriage is an error. you will loose your authority and respect as the head of the Family because from the look of things she will still be the one to cater for you after marriage.

Utter lies. My Mum's friend is older than her husband with almost 10 years but you won't know looking at them. The man is late 60s now the woman is in her 70s but she is so feisty looking. She has always been beautiful. So it depends on genes, how she takes care of herself, her health inclusive and the kind of man she is married to.

Nigerians with our of date mentality. President Macon of France married his primary school teacher and today she is his first lady.

Listen Op the ball is in your court. You aren't going to be married to your mother but to someone else. You may meet another lady if you are foolish enough to leave your fiancé but mark my words, you will never meet another who would love you completely the way your fiancé does. Explain to your Mum and if she refused to give her blessings then go ahead. You are now an adult.

Arondizuogu:


Dude there's no regrets. Let her marry someone that lives him and he live her. What if he leaves this lady now and enters an unhappy marriage? Let him marry the girl jare.

love you mean?

manikspears:


allow the guy,dem dey tell am now he dey form cee-c i can say my own back.it will soon be clear to him that there is more to life than money.the guy no dey shame,woman go pay 80% and you go bring 20% and you want to have a say in the house....how?we wey dey bring 90% dey hear am sef let alone 20%.a woman will always be a woman that is how God made them. ps if you die in a woman's house they will pass your corpse through the window.

Bro, this is "matters of the heart" if you can't drop an honest opinion (stating the pros and cons) why not let it slide.
As you can see, he is troubled which is why he asked for help and you are making it worse.

prechbills1:


advice me not insults, when did I say I'm poor?

Did I say you re poor? Your emphasizes was more on the ladies wealth and she's gonna sponsor 80% of the wedding.

Saying you re inexperienced is not an insult. At 24 I believe you know little about life and women.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Some people and their mentality.
Seriously this your advice is not helping.
Her being the breadwinner today or him being the breadwinner tomorrow is not what matters it's how they plan their lives.

Comprehension is a serious problem.

I believe you as a lady should be in a better position to advice him. It's no a mentality issue. It's the reality. We live in a society where the idea is for a man to provide for his family and somehow, this idea has spread across everyone one living in this society. If a woman is the bread winner of a family because of change in the husband's circumstances, eg: loss of job, accident etc, that's understandable. But if a capable man who is able lets his wife become the bread winner of the family he should be ready to let her make the decision he is suppose to make. It is just natural. Someone cannot be feeding you and you'll be telling the person what to do. It's not done. I am only telling him so he knows what he's getting into. I never said it was wrong for him to marry an older and richer woman. Every decision has consequences. He should be aware of the consequences when he's deciding.

lalasticlala delete this thread.

fpeter:


Shame on you. You need to get yourself a job, you're with her simply because of her money.
what tribe are you from that you shamelessly moved into a woman's house and you're happy
to admit that she will pay for the wedding, i guess the 20% you intend to contribute is your
presence only.

shame on you too to admit that you can move into your husband's house.

you better go and work hard and drop this mentality.

men deserve to be pampered

victorian:











Lol, I didn't say u shouldn't marry her o

I only advised don't expect her to take care of your bills all throughout your life.

Cos if that's your expectations, hmmmmm
Hmmmmmm
Hmmmmmm

Lol, you are in for a bumpy ride later on


She will marry you, she will have kids with you but when she is done and tired of you.

She will simply kick u by the curb , collect her kids and fling you out of her house.

Cause the kids, will then be all that matters and precious to her.

Truth is bitter.. Ogbeni, that's the truth.

Hml in advance. Best of luck .

you don't know what you're talking about