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My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by lily145: 10:40am On May 20, 2011 |
I live in London, sincerely relocating from nigeria to this place has not been easy for me, Because my husband comes from work and puts all the frustration he has at work on me. He nags for everything. Its scary for me to go out with him because for every sentence i make in public, he is so concerned with my pronounciations that I cant boldly talk when he is there. For him everyday comes with a new sickening attitude. He comes back from work nowadays complaining that bringing me to the UK is the biggest mistake he made in life. Please people, what do you think I can do, atleast there are no kids involved right now. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by biglawks(m): 10:56am On May 20, 2011 |
Just keep praying for him and try to be more submissive, prayer changes things. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by MMM2(m): 10:57am On May 20, 2011 |
op yes, kill him and marry anoda husband. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Dyt(f): 11:01am On May 20, 2011 |
Lol @topic |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by BABE3: 11:03am On May 20, 2011 |
No kill person o. Tomorrow is the D-day abeg. Just endure for 24 more hrs. ![]() Seriously though, If it's his work that's making him nag, pls is it by force to live in London? Se dandan ni won fi n fase ni? Se oran wa n be ni? Before I drop any sensible advice, what do you while he's acting up? Do you join him in the act or you just chill ? |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 11:05am On May 20, 2011 |
Misbehave! thats what you need to do. Misbehave badly. He's just trying to pick out every little fault. Give him something big to think/talk about. ![]() Kidding. But seriously, what is the problem here? ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by sey2(m): 11:07am On May 20, 2011 |
@poster try to be sumissive to your husband killing him cant stop the issue.are you working?if not please try to start to keep you bussy. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by tboy1(m): 11:12am On May 20, 2011 |
lily, 145: If you know 100% that all his bad attitude has nothing to do with your own behaviour/attitude/laziness etc. If this is the case and it's all his fault, speak to him and let him know how u feel. If he does not change and you have something good back home in nigeria e.g Good job. You should move back there before it is too late |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by jaybee3(m): 11:33am On May 20, 2011 |
Are you a sit at home wife? You have to open your heart out to him though by making him understand how his various nagging and complaints are making you feel low on confidence. PS: Thread moved to Family section where you can get good quality advice |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by r231(m): 11:38am On May 20, 2011 |
kill him quick and see the diff between Metropolitan police and Nigerian police why don't you just tell him how you feel and sometimes work can be stressful too so you have to help him |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by lily145: 11:41am On May 20, 2011 |
@Jaybee, I am a sit at home wife, though I am processing my docs to enable me work. Then I am working on my accent because my accent is certainly not the best. I certainly aint perfect, but he is not making it any easier. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Blazay(m): 11:51am On May 20, 2011 |
It looks like you understand his problems pretty much. The reason it is always a good thing to marry from Nigeria if you live in Nigeria. Most of the men and women who live abroad are damaged goods psycho-socially. Especially if they have lived abroad of over 5 years after struggling for 'kpali' and so on. You have 2 options. 1. Play his therapist and make him a better person by 'lovingly' putting up with his abusive nature while allowing him to go through 'rehab' with your help. Or, 2. Just get your residency and your children ASAP. . . then bail out of the marriage or relationship, If you are over 30. . . please, don't go nowhere. The next one will be even worse. I could NEVER dream of marrying a man who has lived abroad. . . MOST are psychotic and extremely abusive. I could never tolerate those from ANY one. The problem I have with MOST Nigerian men who go home to get married. Instead of pampering and nurturing their new brides. . . the become worse than "Conan the Barbarian". . . ."Tarzan of the Jungle" and "Deji of Akure" combined. Like I have stated. . .you have 2 options depending on how old you are and/or how much being married/staying married means to you. Killing him is not an option(even as a joke), for he is already cursed! If he dies. . .the curse transfereth unto thee! May your God forbid! |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by cantell(m): 11:51am On May 20, 2011 |
@Op, Get a job. If you do that, he'll have no reason to complain. He's frustrated cos he's probably the one footing all the bills at home. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by jaybee3(m): 11:57am On May 20, 2011 |
lily, 145:Some men usually get stressed out when they see their woman sitting her behind at home all day watching all sort of TV whereas the other half is stressing his butt out (regardless of the situation either being ur choice or not). I appreciate you not having sorted out your papers and i'm not guessing that's the reason why he acts up all the time but all these things do add up. Question is do you want your relationship to work? If yes then surely you should be asking for things to do so as to change the current situation. As per the accent, it's something that's difficult to change especially when one is already an adult. you can however improve your communications skills by taking on short communication skills whilst you are still at home. You can also try making sure he doesn't come home seeing you watching nollywood or being on the phone acting like you don't care. At the end of the day though, he doesn't have a right to be treating you that way but i'm sure dis dude is someone u once loved vice versa so look for solutions rather than calling it quits 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by obowunmi(m): 12:40pm On May 20, 2011 |
@ OP: don't kill him. Find a job, share the financial responsibilities with him OR get your papers and leave him because the nagging may escalate. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by meexteriox(m): 12:46pm On May 20, 2011 |
[center]As unto the bow the cord is, So unto the man is woman, Though she bends him, she obeys, Though she draws him, yet she follows, Useless each without the other.[/center] 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 12:57pm On May 20, 2011 |
My dear whatever you do pleaseee do not start making babies. If you don't mind,how old are you? |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 1:02pm On May 20, 2011 |
BTW work on that fear. You deserve better |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 1:11pm On May 20, 2011 |
A man marries a wife from naija and takes her to london he knws very well of her accent and how long it will take to process her paper b4 she can work, mnths into d marriage he is insulting her and putting the fear of the devil into her. That man is mean Pls do not rush into babies world.be patient and tell him hw he is hurting u but of u wnt to watch nolluywood or watever pls feel free.Y should u be acting like a lil kid caught stealing when ur hubby is at home. Abeg enjoy he sef shld grw up no one forced him to marry u. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by kodewrita(m): 1:25pm On May 20, 2011 |
@meexteriox. I am so copying that. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Seun(m): 1:27pm On May 20, 2011 |
kodewrita:Well the idea is obviously attractive to a man. Who doesn't want a happy slave who thinks she's in control? |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by kodewrita(m): 1:28pm On May 20, 2011 |
@seun lol. thats not my reason oh. I just love the poetry. lol. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Seun(m): 1:29pm On May 20, 2011 |
kodewrita:Ok ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by agabaI23(m): 1:39pm On May 20, 2011 |
andromida:Exactly my thought. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by harakiri(m): 1:59pm On May 20, 2011 |
Another reason why getting married is the dumbest decision a man can ever make. She says he "nags" but didn't say why. She has already made up her mind to divorce him and all she wants is reassurance that she's doing the "right thing" hence the reason why she informed the public that THERE ARE NO KIDS INVOLVED. This is a lady that must have promised eternal love and loyalty but now that she has "arrived", she's suddenly discovered she has "her life" to live and is looking for every excuse to break the marriage. I sincerely hope all the pathetic wimps on nairaland who intend bringing "wives" from Nigeria are reading this. When will men ever learn? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Blazay(m): 2:03pm On May 20, 2011 |
Here comes "Mr. Bitter Kola-wale"! |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by 10cirenoh: 2:09pm On May 20, 2011 |
Try working on how to get a job on your own, NO MAN WANTS A LEECH for a woman. |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 2:20pm On May 20, 2011 |
harakiri: Are we reading the same post ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 2:21pm On May 20, 2011 |
lily, 145: This here is another example of how insensitive man can be . . . If he wanted a clean, oyinbo girl, why did he have to go all the way to Naija to import one? He wants to eat his cake and have it. Tufiakwa! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by TeeJay6(m): 2:31pm On May 20, 2011 |
poster, the sulky man is just stressed out that he is carrying the financial burden of the family all by himself. Once you get out of the house he won't have much to bleat about, infact you sef wont have time for his whinging not after an 8hr shift and another torturous journey courtesy of Transport For London. In the mean time speak to him and let him know how you feel and if that dont work tell him you'd be closing the "shop" till his attitude changes, that should make him sit up ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by tboy1(m): 2:48pm On May 20, 2011 |
harakiri: You're not making any sense 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Nobody: 2:50pm On May 20, 2011 |
I can't believe people are asking her to 'get a job' . . . as if that will stop the man from being an insensitive prick! ![]() As if it's in anyway her fault that her husband is an a55! @ Poster My advice . . . Yes, get a job, and the dump his sorry a55! ![]() ![]() |
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