1. can't control my craziness

2. I'm not brilliant

3. I'm waiting for my future husband to break up with his current girlfriend

4. I'm not handsome

5. I'm ugly

6. I'm enjoying my bachelorhood

7. I'm not ready and don't want to be liability to someone's son

8. I don't scam

9. My girlfriend and I fight every week

10. I'm a nice guy and not ready to change

11. I don't have 6 packs

12. I don't want to knee for any man

13. I'm not ready

14. Jesus was single all his life and went to heaven

15. I don't have beards

16. I don't want heartbreak

17. I'm not ready to settle down

18. I don't have a car

19. I can't be committed to one person

20. I don't have an Iphone

21. I'm still working on me

22. I have trust issues

23. No one believe I'm single

24. She left me for a rich guy

25. I don't want to waste my sperm

26. Too many feminist

27. No money, money is love

28. Fear of marriage

29. I choose to be single

30. I'm too young

31. I don't go out

32. My genotype is AS and can't get an AA woman

33. I'm stingy

34. I'm shy

35. I'm not able to drag Mr Left to Right

36. Waiting for the God's time

37. Girls don't take me serious

38. I met a girl on the gram, yet to see her real life

39. I fall in love with ladies that has a boyfriend

40. I don't know how to toast a woman

41. I don't have strength to search for women

42. Girls don't take me serious

43. Been single is cool

44. My dad want my elder brother to marry before I do

45. Waiting for my husband

46. The man I want, don't want me

46. I take relationship too serious

47. I'm attracted to unserious men who are not ready for a long term relationship

48. I'm tired of date – sex – breakup cycle

49. I only meet unserious women

50. Most ladies have same issues

51. I want to only date for fun

52. I like the men that don't like me

53. I'm yet to meet the man that 'gets it' and want to work through life with me

54. I'm not emotionally ready for a man

55. My crush disable his DM on Twitter

56. I meet guys who are usually after sex

57. My heart beat faster than normal once I dialed her phone number

58. I spent all days on my laptop

59. I love the tag single

60. I spent too much time working

61. Dating a girl in Lagos is very expensive

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This 30 crazies reasons may be trivial and weird but couples brake up relationship because of it.

1. She told people about the relationship even though she understand you want it be secrete.

2. He was too friendly

3. She has anger issues and get angry easily

4. I was drunk, yet she made me have sex with her on her period, woke up in the morning to see blood on the sheet and my dick.

5. Her dad was a cop

6. He don’t want to talk to your mum

7. She got tired of you, boredom

8. He doesn't like your hairstyle

9. She want to be celibate

10. He's a DJ

11. Her genotype is SS

12. He didn't wish her happy birthday

13. She likes him too much and this make him uncomfortable

14. He says I love you all the time

15. She has bad sex habit

16. He eats too much and yet he's not gaining weight

17. She became a born again christian

18. He didn't help me during exam

19. She want him to do her laundry

20. He didn't send the money she requested

21. She defeats him in a play station FIFA game

22. He's a Muslim and her family only want a christian

23. She needed air, so she can breath without you around

24. He sound like a woman on the phone

25. She's now a feminist and claimed to be woken

26. She texted him with 'lol'

27. Her pastor said they are not meant for each other

28. She accuse you of cheating

29. She didn't flush the toilet

30. She accused you of been a ritualist because you cleaned her cum with tissue paper.

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For a man to be 'friend' with a woman without sex
is asking to suppress his sexual desire and want him
to act like a 'girlfriend' to the woman. This notion
of wanting male to be friends with a female without sexual
desire came from an egalitarian equalism
(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/)
mindset, if male and female are equal and same. Therefore,
they can be perfect friends without sex.

In reality, we have seem how impossible this can be because
men can't just be friend with a woman without sexual tension.
Men would prefer to be 'friends' with a coworker, relatives,
mother, and women they already had sex with...if he's the good ex.

Nothing a woman does without meaning.
Her choice to be 'friend' with a man must benefit her in some way,
it's either she's already sexually attracted to the man or she want
him for attention, validation and provisioning.

If she's sexually attracted, the man has a better chance of getting
sex in the friendship but if her friendship is for the man to offer her attention,
validation and provisioning only,
then the man becomes her surrogate boyfriend.

He's the man that takes care of her emotional responsibilities
and also understand and accepted that she will not reciprocate
him with sex. Basically, the guy takes care of her emotional needs
and the REAL boyfriend takes care of her sexual needs.

It's ordinarily impossible to want a man to suppress his
sexual desire for a woman and just be 'friends'.
The same way it's impossible to expect a woman to
forgoes her desire to marry up, to be with a high value
man that fulfills her emotional desires, provisioning and parental needs....read more=>
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It was in the 17th century the theories of John Locke and Carl Jung that set the tone for today feminism was postulated albeit not entirely to suite the feminine narratives but for understanding gender and egalitarian equalism. It was firstly John Locke blank slate theory of human brain (Tabula Rasa) that created the premise for the assumption of gender as a social construct than biological or human psychological and hormonal changes.

Career Over Family

Women despite hormonal, psychological and emotional makeup are told today they can literally waste their prime years 'to be her self', 'achieve her goal', dating in her twenties is just high school romance and she can basically have fun now and settle for serious relationship in her 30s with a prince charming who will over look her declining beauty, forgive her past life and pretend it was not her fault.

This is good if women accept responsibility of the after effect of this decision, but they never do but to blame men for not man enough of to desire them now with their accomplishment. Some women literally think bagging more degree is equivalent to attraction from a man. In her quest to priorities career over family, a lot of things changes in her body: a declining beauty and feminity, declining fertility capabilities and sexual attraction level.

Women just can't make sexuality decisions like the man because they are not of the same biologically, physically and emotionally, so they optimized hypergamy ensuring they get top 20% of the men but they are currently brainwashed to act and behave like a man with praises like “strong independent woman”, “go girl”,become less agreeable.

Women who have arrived after accomplishing all the 'goals' she was promised promoters of woman supremacy will make her a fulfilled human being usually realized at the tail end of they have been lied to and usually resort to slogans as 'men are scum', 'where are the good men', 'men should shoot their shot'. All this is after realizing they are about to hit the Epiphany phase where attraction level steadily decline and makeup is no longer enough to cover up the wrinkles.

At this stage it become obvious they can't have it all as promised by the feminine imperative, and discover that in the long time men become MEN and women become AUNTIES. She's no longer the sweet, innocent attractive young woman many men orbited around.

Gender Equalism

Carl Jung successfully drew a line of egalitarian equalism of genders from the assumption that everything is learn ny the human brain, all our knowledge is acquired overtime from experience and at birth all human are born with no mental content, the brain is literally a blank slate (Tabular Rasa). It's important to note that this theory was made in the 17th century.

The 20 and 21st century scientific and technological advancement rendered this theory outdated and has helped humans to understand better how the human brain works. The brain of men and women can be more understood with the application of today’s advance technology far more than what this two scientist had access to carry out their research at that time.

However, it was Jung who also postulated that as egalitarian humans we have potential to be masculine and feminine, this is why today we hear the the feminine imperative seek for men to get in touch with their feminine side.



The concept of feminism came from this theories of Carl Jung and John Locke. They both worke hard to proof their theories right at the time. Gender been a social construct as opposed to nature ut it was Carl who made it very obvious the concept of egalitarian equalism that feminism ideology is based on. The quest for equality and more opportunities for women lead to the sexual revolutions of the 1950s and came feminism with sole purpose to install woman supremacy.(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/04/26/the-oxygen-of-feminism/)

Toxic Feminism

This is the now toxic type of feminism, masked as seeking equality between male and females but in reality it's more about seeking for retribution of men for perceived patriarch system of many centuries ago (the one that was broken by the sexual revolution of 1950s) that denied women of many opportunities and install woman supremacy will claiming it's equality. Feminism was never about equality, if it was, it will be called EQUALISM.(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/)

Today women now believe their gender was assigned to them by society and as such they are just equal an being . The idea of gender as a social construct came from the 17th century outdated theory of John Locke. Women brainwashed by third wave feminism to see Gender as not nature but social completely ignored the psychological, hormonal and emotional differences between male and female.

This feminism ideology of today want more than equality, they want to punish men for perceived centuries old wrong to women, use every medium to promote woman supremacy and finally create a future where men are restricted and only limited to what she approved of, where what she says becomes superior than evidence and proof of innocent, where her ego is continually validated by men conditioned by the feminine social primacy.

SexyDenzel:
Some of them
1. You're not a Man: When they want you to do something for them.

2. I only want some one that will love me and not my body.

3. If youre a REAL MAN: hahahahahahahahahaha I pity guys that can't decipher their manipulation.

If you know, you know. No explanation for it.

Many men under the illusion of Disney land fairy tale love get emotionally manipulated easily today by women. They erroneously believe in the south-mate myth that there's a special one for them somewhere and all is required is them to be themselves and overtime the universe will align for them to meet her. The right one.(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/11/11/no-special-one/)

From Friendzone to Lover She Crave to Be With

If you have been in a situation where you ACTUALLY made your intention to date her know yet she friend zoned you claiming she's not ready for relationship. Only for her to be nice to you after 2-3 years of her been away and now a lot has change between both of you. For the man, probably graduated, found a job, owned a business and earning a stable income.

For her she's got pumped and dumped with a baby by the bad guy withing same period, it will be 100% certain she will want to sieve through her friend zone list to see which one of the guys has the ability to provide her social security and care for another mans child. The man who will accept her, forgive all her past wrongful life and pretend that it was not her fault.

If she picked you, she will play nice and wish you well everyday through calls, texts, chat and apply every medium she can get to reach out to you. Don't fall for it, she's emotionally manipulating you because she did the math already and realized you the best fit nice guy to accept her past indiscretions and capable to provide her social security and family.

Any woman who don't see you worthy enough to be the man in her young and attractive years do not deserved you when's getting old with declining attraction. At the time she was young, you wanted to date her but probably you did not make your point very clear enough rather decided to be nice to her believing she will notice your good deeds and date you as a reward for your effort but she friendzoned you.

Picked the 'bad guy' who literally don't treat her nicely like you, got her pregnant and abandoned her. Only now, she realized you were really nice to her back then and want to rekindle that friendship with hope that you will accept her and the baby, after all you're a nice guy who believe in the myth of 'what's your is yours' if it was meant to be, so it will be. She knows you believe in this false cliches and going to use that to get back to you. That’s pure emotional manipulation NOT love or the universe aligning to bring you what's rightly yours.

To be fair to her, sometimes it's not her fault she got pumped and dumped by the bad guy, most guys act nice (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/12/6-things-nice-guy-attract-girl-every-real-man-must-never/) but are sneaky, cunning and too afraid to make their intentions know instead they play nice and offer her gifts, make out time to be with her. She saw them as a 'friend' who agrees with her and friend zoned them. So sometimes most guys put themselves in the position to be emotionally manipulated by a woman.

Getting Old With a Promise of The Ring

Nothing enhance a woman emotional manipulation like the promise of a ring by a man, she will keep up with good behavior, cooks, wash your clothes, give the head and even let you in on her ass. She will compromised herself to make you see her worthy.

Don't be fooled, she will do all this because of the ring and this 'good behavior' will continue to reduce or completely stop after she gets what she wanted. It's all an emotional manipulation because she is either old or all her friends are getting married and the family is putting pressure on her to get married. She's also worried that men are passing her by to hang out with her younger sisters and she's increasingly becoming more irrelevant.

If you happened to be friendzoned by her while she was young and now want to reestablished contact with you, don't accept it, stay away from her because if she don't desire you when she's was young, she doesn't deserve you at your prime and certainly not when she's older now.

Real Good Behavior

Emotional manipulation by a woman happens when she looks forward/expect something from the man, so she keeps doing all the nice things only to stop or change completely after getting it. Good behavior happens ALL THE TIME, she acts it all the time with little or no commitment of a promise made by the man. She is just happy to serve and be of good behavior at all times with her man, if it makes her man happy, she will do it and look forward to be with him and to please him.

In the last few months, especially on Twitter
there's been debate of what masculinity (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/25/masculinity-makes-man-man/)
should be for the man.
Effort also made to make men embrace their feminine side and
see their masculinity has a taboo from the patriarchy society.


Women also feeling their feminine nature makes them seem
weak and embraced their masculine side, so it's expected men
should also embrace their feminine side because it make
them real men. So the false narratives goes.


I have made my position very clear on this issues,
don't want to become feminine. I love my masculinity
whether it's toxic or not, I want to continue to embrace it.
Women should go embrace their natural order of feminity,
everyone is better off in their natural order.


Stay in your lane, do not come to my spot. Masculinity is to the man
as feminity is to the woman. We function and work well in our natural order.


We have also seen how all it's required is for a woman to
say/accused a man of sexual harassment and the hammer
of judgment will mightily fall on the man before trial by any
court to prove him guilty.


All that's needed is what the
woman says and with that his life career is ruined and
integrity destroyed for ever even though it's later
proven that she lied, that doesn’t matter any more.
The man and his career is ruined for life.


It's also appalling to see that a larger number of men
are deeply conditioned to promote the narratives of
the feminine social primacy that, they; like women are
ready to remove fellow men from the equation if it will
make the woman happy.


In their comments and opinions,
there's one common denominator which is in
favor of the feminine imperative, they say it,
implied it and basically think it's the right thing to do.
They now believe owning up to their masculinity is a
taboo except if it's accepted by their feminist princess.


Then there are the men who believe that in the past centuries,
men had it too good and so now it's time to atone for the 'good times'
their fore fathers had by allowing women to invade and take over
the male space and by so doing men compensate
for the past centuries of marginalization the then
women experienced which today women were
never part of and it don’t matter if she's qualified.


Like I illustrated in the Feminism, Egg Freezing, Egg Growing, Equal Pay And The Rest of Us Men,(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/02/09/feminism-egg-freezing-egg-growing-equal-pay-rest-us-men/)
If a woman is qualified, nothing stops her from applying for a job today.
To say because men had it too good for so long and she should be given
chances on a platter is half truth and gender bias.


Today women were never part of the struggle
of what happened centuries ago but are brainwashed
by the feminine imperatives using their main organ of
feminism to believe that the history they were never
part of should be use as a tool or leverage to demand
for what they don't deserved without earning it.


After the sexual revolution of the 1950s, access to
opportunities by women has become easier
than it was many centuries ago. Men must realized that the #MenToo
is not a court like following or another #MeToo version,
it's more of an avenue for men any where in the world to
listen to another man, stand together, help each other
and to understand the ever evolving inter sexual dynamics.


For too long, many men have had their voice stolen,
intentions interpreted in acceptable woman primacy
standard and made to believe their masculinity is toxic
and they should never embrace it, so they had it define for them.

Men need to own their masculinity and never get drunk in
the Main Stream Media or popular culture narratives,
it's who we are, we are not feminine and No. Embracing
your feminine side do not make you a real man.

Accepting your burden of performance,
knowing that it's all on you to provide, secure,
and protect your love ones is your sole responsibility.
Focusing on your self improvement physically,
mentally, socially and using the successful outcome
to care for yourself first and then the people/woman
you truly love makes you a real man.

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Toxic masculinity is interpreted to mean men not embrace
their feminine side, not crying and whining like a woman,
with this narratives it's okay to express your feminine side,
it means you are a real man and when you don't embrace
your feminine side, you become a danger to yourself and society.

This false narratives is massively promoted by popular culture,
main stream media sponsored by the feminine social primacy today.
The feminine imperative want boys/men to emote, think and behave
like a woman and that it's okay not to bottle up your emotions.

The Real Cause of Toxic Masculinity

The truth no one want to talk about is the outcome
of wanting boys/men to embrace their feminine side
created this false concept, the need to reject masculine
behaviors that don't suit the feminine social primacy
narratives and the inability to accept that by allowing
single mothers (whom should not be allowed to raised
boys in the first place alone without a real man figure)
to raise boys to be emotional like they are created this toxicity.

Boys/men raised in this conditions are programmed by
their single mothers (and feminized fathers) to do what
is right in the new book so that they don't end up like their
dead beat father who abandon her.

The boy is taught how
to treat a woman right, use his feminine defined masculinity
to honor women and made to see his own masculinity as evil,
harmful as it brings back the patriarch system and by embracing
it he will treat women poorly, he will be seem as a potential
rapist waiting to happen.

So the boy grows up with this feminine conditioned
narratives to put women on pedestal, make her his
mental point of origin, put her needs before himself,
be available ( so he doesn't end up like his father who
pumped and dumped his mother) and sacrificed his
dreams for her. The feminine social primacy brainwashed
the boy/man to believe doing all this is being a real man!

Feminine Conditioned Masculinity Becomes Toxic Masculinity

Now the young man goes out to the world with all the
'progressive' knowledge from the feminine social primacy
new order book, he treats women nice, does all the chivalry
act, cries to express his emotion to a woman, cries after
failing to accomplish a simple masculine task.

Then he realized after doing all this, follow the new order
book yet he's denied the expected rewarded by the woman,
he's also made to realized that his chivalry, flirtations made
her uncomfortable because she felt violated and the #MeToo
campaigners will come for his career, he's accused and
punished based on what 'she says' not because he was
found guilty by anyone or a competent court.

He realized that being nice couldn’t get him the reward
he was promised to expect as a child by the feminine
social primacy society he grew up in, he taps into his
feminine side that makes him emote and begin to
express his feelings without control like a woman and
goes on a revenge mission destroying everything and
shooting to kill anyone on sight.

The feminine imperative that want men to embrace
their feminine side, cry and emote like a woman created
the monster among men today and then blame it on men
masculinity becoming toxic as the cause of the violent behaviors,
they lied to boys/men that embracing their feminine side, treating
woman nicely, making her his mental point of origin will curb his
violent nature but only for him to grow up and discovered that he
was lied to after doing all he was told without getting the expected rewards.

He gets too emotional about the revelation, pick up a gun
and go on mass shooting after a woman rejected his love
preposition, he can't accept it because he has done all that
is right in the feminine social primacy book.

The feminine imperative with their nature of projecting
blames pushes the fault on the same man they lied to and
tells him it's his toxic masculinity and have the main stream media
promote this false narratives. We see this happening
everyday and many men have bought into this lie!

The feminine social primacy celebrate single mothers as
heroins today and regard fathers as transient being who are
wanted only when needed.

The feminine imperative will celebrate and embrace masculinity
( it's not toxic ) when it's needed to rescue the woman
from dangerous situations, rescuing her from flood, from a
building on fire but masculinity becomes toxic when it's not
interpreted to favor them, when it's not interpreted to suit
the acceptable definition of the feminine imperative.

The man who put himself first and makes his self-improvement
physically, mentally and socially a priority rather a woman
would be tag a misogynist and selfish by the feminine
promoted main stream media.

Boys/men must start to learn from real
strong men how to lead and embrace their
masculinity, it's not toxic as the feminine social
primacy want them to believe, this is the task
before men today who are able to see the lies
massively promoted by the feminine imperative
using very popular authoritative mediums and
this has lead many men to buy into this false
narratives and now taken the easiest way out
of embracing their weakness to accepting who
they are as masculine men because it has been
painted as toxic, and the only masculinity acceptable
is the one that suite the false narratives of the feminine social primacy.

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The concept of the nice guy is that of a man
who makes woman his mental point of origin.
Now been nice is not same as been a good person,
a good person can literally help someone in need of
help irrespective of the gender because it's the right thing to do.

A good man helps a woman without expecting
sexual reward or be seen by the woman to
expect sexual favors from her. No. He does it
because he feels it's the right thing to do.
The nice guy does everything for a woman just
so he can get laid or to be seen by the woman
as worthy of her affection and to be rewarded with her sex.

Origin of the Nice Guy

The nice guy was not born this way but
conditioned by single mother or feminized
parents. Now, the nice guy created by the
mother and a feminized father is taught by his father
that been a shiny knight will get him laid because that's
how he got his mama to say 'yes'.

It was difficult and took
a long time to get his mother to say 'yes' though, and when
she did say 'yes' after many years of his waiting; he knew
she will was the 'one'
(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/11/11/no-special-one/)
and he was right all along.

Single Mother

The nice guy created by the single mother is the vicious type,
he's so conditioned he lost his masculinity before
he knew he even had it.

The conditioning of the boy
by the single mother to put women on a pedestal starts
as early as 5 years old, put women needs above his own,
never work away from a woman, chivalry, open the car
door for her, ladies first, don't make her feel inferior,
make her your number one priority,
treat her nicely and if she want you to wait
after asking her to a date just wait because
she need time to think and trust you enough before going on date with you.

The nice guy is fed lot many of this lies all his life
and the single mother makes sure the boy is raised
and conditioned to behave and emote like a woman
(doing so is the only way he get in touch with his feminine side)
so that he doesn't end up like his dead beat or absent father
who don't know how take care for a woman because he just
pumped and dumped her.

So this nice guy is brainwashed
by the home, the church and society to put women
on a pedestal and hate his own masculinity but embrace
his feminine side.

Now the nice guy is grown and enter the dating world
with this mindset, his inter sexual relationship is colored
by this conditioning and when he see a woman he admires,
he start performing all the nice things, say all the right
words ( never daring or seem offensive), he remembers
her birthdays, buy her flowers and gifts, he thinks he's
lucky for getting her attention, he invite her on a date
and does his best to make it memorable for her even
though he end up making his life miserable on the date.

Rationalization

The nice guy do the thinking process for the woman
he's attracted to by assuming that should he go now to
ask for her number, she may get angry because she's busy,
should he ask her for a date this weekend maybe she will say
no because she's a church programme to attend.

He does all the thinking for her because he doesn't want to
offend her and that will go against what mommy
and the society conditioned him to believe.

He's afraid to ask for sex because she hates premarital sex
and the Pastor preached against it last Sunday, the nice guy
tell himself I'm willing to wait because this is an indication
that she's gentle and an angelic woman worthy of waiting for.

The Hard Fact And Why Nice Guys Get Laid

In this rationalization period by the Nice guy,
the special woman is actually carousing the bad boy coc*k,
and when this asshole is not ready to commit and abandon
her for another woman, then she remembers the nice guy
who has been waiting patiently and doing all the nice things,
he's the christian brother, the loyal friend to listen to her share
her emotional pains.

She comes back to the nice guy, complain
about how men are wicked and then have the nice guy comfort
her and tell her he's not like the other guys, he's different and
the good one who will treat her right if she agree to date him.

Overtime, she start riding the dick of the nice guy and nice guy thinks
he finally got her to say 'yes' after so long and now he has her to himself,
he failed to realized that she's only taken a break from the asshole who
treats her badly and only a matter of time before she returns back to him again.

When this happens the nice guy go violent because he can't control his emotions
and feels that after all he has done, after doing what mommy and society told him
was the right thing to do to get a woman she still left him for an
asshole who treats her like shit!

Women actually hate the nice guy because they know that the
nice guy is not really nice and all he does is in expectation of a
sexual reward. She would like it more if he's man enough to go
for what he want instead of doing it indirectly.

She hates that the nice guy want to trick her to have sex with him
by doing her favors.
She is like, why do all this nice things, why not just tell me what I
want to hear that will massage my ego because I can be your LovePeddler!
She want a man who knows what and how to go for what he want and
not the man she need to tell how to go for what he want.

So it's a big No from the woman because she want you to be man enough
to go for what you want because that is what the asshole bad guy does,
he goes for it and if she rejects he works away and next her, then focus
on another woman and saving himself time and lot more opportunities to
meet other beautiful women.

The nice guy is rooted in the myth of the special one, the fantasy of the soul mate
(http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/11/11/no-special-one/).
There's no soul mate or a special one that require you to just be yourself and
overtime the universe will align and bring you together. This is false,
it's just a creation from a movie narratives.

Women say they want nice guys, this is a lie because they don't
know what they want and the feeling of what they want changes
as their emotional body makeup changes. They want nice guy but fu*ck
the bad guy always because what they say is different from what they will do.
Basically, the act, mannerisms and ways she say it matters a lot than the actual words.

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If you're a regular follower of Main Stream Media and popular culture, you by now what the buzz is about an old divorcee and self proclaim feminist claiming the top spot to become the Princess of feminism’s as she get married into the prestigious royal family of England.

To many, it's a show of modern progression of humanity and display of liberation. A win for the feminine imperatives is modern progression and feminist worldwide want you to know that the modern man should be a feminist. If Prince Harry with an over a century historical background can successfully bridge the gap between the old and the new world order of the British empire by agreeing with the false narratives of the feminine imperatives to marry a 37 years old sexual attraction declining feminist at the time his sexual marketing value is increasing rapidly. Then all modern men should be feminist!

This makes him the symbol of modern man, this is the false narratives promoted right now by the feminine imperatives using their most active organ feminism of turning men into weaklings, men who make women their mental point of origin, men who now behaves, emote, act and think like a woman.

A man marrying an old divorcee feminist is massively immerse in his blue pill conditioning to assumed that doing so set him apart because she's experience. Experience for a woman means the opposite to the value of the man's sexuality, his sexual attraction to the opposite sex is at the peak as he grows old.

At this stage, his experience means he's more confidence, has a higher social value, higher sexual market value, well established in his field of interest. Whereas a woman experience means she has a declining sexual value from too many sexual relationships with men and this increase the continued comparison of her man/husband to the past men (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/04/13/3-reasons-you-need-to-know-the-type-of-men-she-slept-with-and-sexual-past-before-marrying-her/) she had relationship with, this comparison put the man in a state of having to extraordinarily deliver for her own only interest all the time else she will weaponized sex and make him perform certain task before access to the bedroom.

Her experience also means she's old. With old age comes a decline in sexual attraction, as she get past her peak to less peak period of fertility (between 18-31 yrs), old age reduces her chances of fertility.

Today men must realized that the idea of equality is a myth, a man is masculine as to a woman is feminine, this is so that each gender can appreciate their roles and differences. However, today women want to be masculine and want the men to become feminine, as if this is not enough they want both genders to identify as equals.

Men and women are no equals, they are different physiologically, psychologically, emotionally and only function well when each is at their natural order. Masculinity by men is required to accomplish a task, so much as the woman's femininity is required to complete a task but to think they are both equal or can both be equated is the lie of the century.

We have today, the feminine imperatives using all medium to promote their agenda of equalism through popular culture, Main Stream Media, movies, music and so on. Many men are fed this lies through this medium consciously and unconsciously daily and are now brainwashed to think that progression is when both genders are assumed to be equals. That's two different genders with different sexual and emotional dynamics are equal, many men today are so conditioned in this false narratives they now behaves and emote like a woman, traded their masculinity for femininity. The woman is now the new man.

The narratives of egalitarian equalism (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/) has got a new boast and many young men will be brainwashed to believe two different genders can live together equally and no longer the natural order of complimentary which would have keep the union in a happy relationship. The new false order is that men and women can live together through negotiations and therefore come to agreement as exemplified by the Royal wedding... until they can't!

It will be hard to unplugged this men from this mindset, they just have to crash and burn from their experience before agreeing to unplugged (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/12/08/unplugged-inter-sexual-conditioning/). A relationship founded on a false idealization of equality will not stand the test of time and this is why Mergan Markel as a strong self proclaim feminist already to a point understand how far her ideology may go.
This has started to manifest, it was widely reported that her father due to poor health will not walk her through the aisle. Many feminist worldwide assumed she will ask her mother to do the honors – after men and women are equal! But NO!

She knew, when it really matters most, the role of a man/father cannot be equated or replace with a woman, hence she asked the old Prince Charles the father in law to walk her through the aisle because she couldn't get an uncle or brother, a mutual friend to walk her through the aisle. Forget the false narratives by Main Stream Media that her actions and the acceptance by the father in law to walk her is a show that she's welcome into the Royal family and all is well.

No one want to be associated with a feminist except, you identify as a male feminist who will be willing to trade his masculinity for femininity and turn her into the woMAN making the decisions in a negotiated relationship (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/15/2-types-marriage-proposal-modern-women-now-want-men/). This test will be put into action whether she decide to keep her name or hyphen the husband name, and finally reveal if she indeed values career than family which is the major manifesto of feminism, time will tell.

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The pressure is on for the mass ferminization of men, the quest by the feminine social primacy to conditioned men to make woman their mental point of origin and to see their masculinity as a burden society place on them.

80% men today are conditioned to believe in the false equalist egalitarian mindset as promoted by popular culture as a result men suffer in their relationship where social desire are negotiated daily. They believe coming to an agreeable position as equal partners will boast attraction that will kept the relationship going, make the woman put him first and be more open in the bedroom .

They continue in this situation where the woman uses sex as a weapon to get compliance from them and are too afraid to complain because he doesn't want to get her angry and have the feminine conditioned society shame him as an irresponsible partner or a father who deserted his family.

When a woman desire and is attracted to a man, there's no negotiating that genuine desire and doing her bidding will not influence her attraction but kill the attraction and disagreeing with her lead to attraction and genuine desire to want you more.

1. Mental Point Of Origin

As you already know frame is important in a relationship, the frame you begin a relationship with will define the nature of the relationship. Whether it will be you doing everything or walking on egg shell to please her or it's her who live to please you as the boss!

One way to maintain frame (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/08/the-frame/) is making yourself your own mental point of origin by focusing more on your self development and advancement and well being and genuinely care about yourself before anything or anyone else. The life you get out of this 'selfish' attention to yourself will be so interesting that friends and family and those who genuinely care about you will want to be part of.

Putting yourself first come with shit test and name calling, today men who seek for their own self love are shamed as misogynist by the feminine primacy as long your self improvement don't favor them. The man who passed this test and not swayed by it will have women fight to earn a place in his life because she knows your happiness do not come from her rather she's a desire you need to effectively accomplish yourself growth.

2. Your Life Mission

The man who makes accomplishing the task or goal he set for himself his number one priority in life before paying attention to anything or anyone is the man a woman want to have. The man every man want to be like and every woman want to fu*ck.

You must be seen to occupied with work, something that keeps you busy whether it's to lift weight and stay in shape, acquire a new skill, learn a new language etc. If it's your mission to learn a new language then by all means take the lessons before attending to your woman, never make her your priority over your mission. Your mission come first before anything else.

It's true she want your attention and you must give it to her but have time for everything, maintain a balance because if she can't get the attention form you, she will get it elsewhere. Many young men today, makes the mistakes of putting the cart before the horse and invest their time to chase women . They make women their mission in life and fall into the false narratives of the feminine imperatives that a real man is the one who does all things to fulfill the desires of a woman.

Your value increases when you have a mission in life, something you're passionate about and want to accomplish – whether it's to lift to build your muscle, do it so well that anyone will know you're putting in a lot of effort to work on your body. Being able to put in the work increases your value.

3. Ability To Next Her

The ability to next a woman come from a mindset of abundance mentality, even if there's no other woman yet. Nexting a woman who flakes or don't take you serious, want to put you in her frame by making you run around each time she display her emotional tantrums display high value.

This is easier said than done if you're still trap in your blue pill conditioning where you're made to believe in the 'special one', the desired girl that cannot be replace. Blue pill men believe so much in this myth and so afraid that they cannot get any better option should they let this special woman walk away.

This reduces their ability to call her shits when she misbehaves, they will tolerate and accept all the bad behavior and even hope they will change her or she will come around over time. A woman dualistic sexuality is inborn, she already knows the guy she will bang immediately and the guy she will make to wait because he satisfies her long term relationship prospect for a husband.

So when she throws her shit tests or misbehaves, you next her immediately and this is will be painful but it will be best for your mental health and increase your attraction value, your confidence will only increase as you repeat the same act, you approach new girl after nexting the previous and get rejected, then go ahead to approach another one and this time you will do the nexting when she misbehaves. Confidence will only come from repetition.

Now, the regular dating advice you get is women likes a confident man and all you need is to be yourself and be confident. You can only be confidence by doing things over and over again, you will be brave to approach a hot girl if you have done it before, confidence will come knowing this is not a big deal anymore because you have done it before.

To think confidence is something you need to have without making attempt at something first is false hope, the mere fact you tried and failed will help you prepare better next time and from this come confidence.

A man who will focus on his life, knows his happiness come from accomplishing the goals he set for himself will naturally be high value to a woman, he know longer allows himself to be controlled by the emotions of a woman but driven by the desire of conquest.

With his ability to next any woman who flakes (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/18/facebook-twitter-instagram-ego-inflated-pussy-value-woman-shes-busy/) or refuse to show up to a date, he increases his value because he's little time to waste on a woman who refused to show up on a date, he would move on to other important things in his life and focus on his job, his desires.

Men with abundance mentality find it easy to move on because he believes there are a lot of good women out there for him and will be too selfish and myopic of him to think that this one woman is the special one and if he lose her he can't get something better.

The believe she's the one is a blue pill conditioned mindset to make men put women at the center of attraction and make their mission in life secondary.

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Llanthony401:
Look at those "soyboy" in the image you posted. No way am I reading that wall of text if it's coming from a soyboy (You can Google what soyboy means)

LivingFree:
A liar, a thief, and an attempt at manipulation
I don't want to exchange words with you. This is intellectual theft and if it was an academic paper, you would fail on the grounds of plagiarism.

Wow!! Someone must have really hurt you.

I thought my response will make sense to you, maybe mistake was made but it's all about emotions for you.


But who hurt you? Was he an alpha or beta or soy? All I read is you're projecting that ill emotion to me, how come you're reading this Thread, those kind of 'books' for men in the first place? Oh, I know.

Girl you need some smashing, go get it...you're getting too wet for this thread.

You have been on my issue because I make you wet, time to get laid...come back to thank me later for putting you in the mood.

LivingFree:


I never said word for word. I said you are preaching from. You can't find it online because of copyright laws but the reason I know is that I have the books in front of me. You're whole theory, and everything you stand on/ for is from this man's theory or point of view. Down to the Red pill and Beta Males stuff. You have paraphrased his work but it is OBVIOUS it's from his work. You still need to reference him because this isn't your creation.

If you are telling me you have never read or studied from his books or joined any of his online forums etc then you are either a liar or you are a genius who lost a lot of money because this man got to it before you. I lean towards the Liar option.

OK...I get it now, Rollo also inspires me. I still learn from him and MANY others. I see how it connect with me.





Know that there are many writers in the manosphere who share many of this values and as do I. So I don't really think you're doing them any favor to attach this 'theory' to one person point of view.

There's been varied opinions since post war sexual culture but alluding to one fact. I understood it and see how it affected me, applied it and now share how I see fit.

Anyone can do a simple research though from mere studying some areas of Psychology, you can understand and see how this 'theories' work and not necessarily one person point of view.

Thanks for even taken time to look it up and bring me 'accountable' but we both agree it's not false and I can't say my inspiration/write up is from ONE source though.
Thank you!

LivingFree:
Ok... You're preaching from:

'The Rational Male' By: Rollo Tomassi.

You should reference your work... This is intellectual theft. I wonder how long it took you to search for that reply... I will avoid your threads from now because a thief can't be trusted.

Ref: The Rational Male, Volume 2, Preventative Medicine: Equalisim Page 127.

I will look this up, but you should have reproduced the exact word for word here, so everyone can compare. But never mind. You should be happy with yourself now. I reply thread at my own time and did NOT look it up.

LivingFree:
Nice message but the emphasis doesn't need to be on destroying equality and moving back in the evolutionary process. If a man needs someone to be weak in order for him to be strong then... I don't know.

The quest for equality is a myth. You can't equate two different things, many women want equality but look at their life..married/ dating they want/with a man taller, probably richer, superior in some way, can sex & reproduce ( even if she's barren, still want a fertile man). Even though she's 100% opposite of these features. So no! Equality is when things favour women at the detriment of men.

And a woman pluralistic sexual desire (hypergamy) will not make her settle for a man socially lower or equal to her...even though she sing and dance about equality. She will seek for a man higher than her.

"There's a rise in beta males yes but that's because of the 'Alpha' male who abandons his responsibilities."


No that's not true, it's because women in the quest to have it all and achieve their 'goals' get pumped and dumped by the alphas who they prefer more at their party years. And only want the nice guy (husband) when its time for marriage.

This boys grow up with a woman who teaches them how to be 'nice' to woman and not be like their daddy...so they are made to emote, act and think like a woman.

Basically, be nice, wait, sacrifice your goals for her and she will reward you with emotional commitment. Just make her your mental point of origin. They go on rampage after doing all the nice things by the book and she still gave the cookies to the guy who did NOTHING but treat her 'badly'.

To be a man can't mean physical strength alone but strength in all areas. Emotionally weak men beating up everyone that is physically weaker than them can't be the way forward. I get a sense that you want us to go back to the old way of doing things and that's impossible and unaccepted so what's the way forward?

Men are conqueror, they find happiness after a successful conquest. Men who emote are product of feminized fathers and popular culture mother and single mothers who brainwashed boys to believe in the notion of equalism for both sex.

A woman is not man, so she don't need to be masculine, but accept her feminine nature, not waste her most fertile years, know that men and women are different and sexually motivated for different reasons and there is no basis for sexual equality. Know that her sexual attraction declines as she go past her party years and the opposite is true for the man.

Some few years ago, I was stuck in the feminine centric conditioning – the feminization of boys/men started after the sexual revolution of the 1950s because boys/men were seen to be a deformed girl that needed to be fix.

Boys/men behavior or acceptance of their masculinity needed to be explained to him by the feminine imperatives and boys/men were expected to show their masculinity in the feminine conditioned accepted way, the end goal was to make them emote, behave and act like a woman with the hope that making making boys/men behave this way will lead to the false notion of egalitarian equal-ism between both sexes.

More than 80% of men are now in this feminine ( blue pill ) conditioned state of mind, a blue pill man makes it his life ambition to pedestalized, honor women and free himself from the burden of performance by sacrificing his ambition, goals, to see a woman excel with the hope that she will come to like and reward him for his effort by sacrificing her emotional commitment and regular stable sex.

The process of this conditioning is simple, the feminine imperatives are promoted in every medium today using the Main Stream Media MSM, music, movies and popular culture to subconsciously conditioned boys/men that to treat a woman right and make her to like him is to believe in the false notion of equal-ism (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/) where the man and woman are same and equal.

Becoming the Social Justice Warrior

The conditioned man become a social justice warrior on social media and in social gatherings attaching his new found ideology name as male feminist. He makes it his ambition to defend the honor and fight for the woman inclusion in male space gatherings and strongly believes men and women are the same when it comes to sexual dynamics – his motto is “if women do it, men also do it for the same reason”.

Because of his conditioning he cannot bring himself to understand that men and women are very different sexes and what motivate or the goal of a woman sexuality is different from that of a man. His blue pill or feminization makes him believe there are no different and in fact men and women are equal and same.

This mindset was formed over a long period of time, the process started over 60 years ago after the sexual revolution. Many boys/men of that era were brainwashed and subconsciously or consciously conditioned to believe in a false notion of egalitarian equality promoted by popular culture, this men who are now fathers of today together with their wife also a product of the Sisterhood conditioned boys (today fathers and adult male) to believe in this phony equal-ism.

Unplugging boys/men from this blue pill conditioning require a conscious effort by the man and in most cases this only happens after a life changing experience such as been dump by their girlfriend, divorce by the woman they believe was a soul mate, the wife cuckblocking him but involving in cuckoldry while he's made to perform a task before access to sex, the woman weaponized sex to become a reward for his good behavior by doing or acting the way she requested or want.

How to Change The Dynamics

Getting out of this ideology and becoming aware of a woman sexual dynamics and how they seek to use it to manipulate men is a painful Red pill to swallow. The man who desire to unplug and embrace his masculinity must understand that women and men are very different and only complement each other – this means one is strength in the other weakness and vice versa, love each other through an agreement of a symbiotic relationship.

However, the feminine centric conditions the man to believe men and women are equal and same, therefore the difference can be learn. A woman can be masculine to compensate her weakness and can take the place of the man to become a self independent woman (another lie, they only realize later). It's possible for a woman to learn how to fight or suppress her weakness but it's biologically suited that a man is better capable of providing strength to her weaknesses. That role can only be perform perfectly by the man.

The social justice warrior must also accept must also accept the bitter truth that there's no soul mate or the special one somewhere (that ideology is a myth). In his feminine conditioning, he believes all he need is to be himself and be free from the burden of performance, therefore he doesn’t require to be have a good physique, strive harder for success, aspire to acquire more knowledge, set and achieve higher goals.

Basically, the feminine centric want him to become the weaker version of manhood but only to man up to prove his masculinity in areas beneficial to the woman, any actions by him that do not promote or support the feminine imperative is toxic masculinity and he must be cured from it.

Motivation And Outcome

Freedom from the burden of performance and men not making himself his mental point of origin is the motivating factor for social justice warriors SJWs. All he need is to make the woman like him, is for him to agrees with her and believe in the false equal-ism ideology they have conditioned many men to believe in the last 60 years.

The outcome of this conditioning has never been palatable, boys/men raised by single mothers are made to believe they are only important when a woman accept them and approve of who they are. The blue pill conditioned man after satisfying all the feminine society (and his feminized father) conditioned him to believe is good for women acceptance and don't get his desire reward...

This is where he hit the breaking point and a break down which often lead to attack on the woman and other an anti-social behavior to the society, the popular culture will interpret this misdemeanor to mean toxic masculinity that they need to correct by instilling their desirable form of masculinity. It's impossible for the opposite sex to be the one to correct the imperfection of the other because they are physiologically, psychologically, socially different and it takes a man to mentor another man to become a better version of himself. The same way a girl needs her mother.

The feminine social primacy want to take the responsibility to correct masculinity that don't serve their desires by promoting the narratives that boys are deformed girls (boys are potential rapist waiting to happen) so they must help boys become better boys by making them to emote and behave like girls – boys should be allowed to cry because it's a show of their feminine side, all this are parts of the many lies and conditioning process of the feminine imperative.

Embrace Your Identity

Boys/men must embrace their masculinity, it's who they are and it's not toxic. Men achieve goals, set standards, provide and protect, this qualities are what define men but only a man who's unplugged from the feminine conditioning can make himself his mental point of origin – knowing that he need to continue his self growth, love himself, save himself before he can do same for others.

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Feminism has now metamorphosed into a cult of the sisterhood where as a woman it's either you're for or against the ideology, the feminine imperatives find a reason to believe you're acting out by living your life as you please contrary to the standard of the imperatives, the woman will be silence and preyed by the sisterhood.

One the many problem with feminism today is with the feminist that want to impose her version of free choices on other self identified feminist. This ideology claimed to advocate liberation for women, freedom to make choices and believe empowering one gender (female) will lead to equality.

A woman can choose to empower herself without aligning with feminism but she's emotionally suppress and brainwash to believe she need feminism to right the wrongs done by men of her ancestors.

For her to succeed in life, she need to first deal with the patriarch and brainwash young boys to act and think like a woman so that they grow and not become men inheriting the patriarch 'system' that set her back as a woman. This is why we have men behaving and emoting like women today, making it there job to help push the feminine imperatives narratives.

The question today is why do self proclaimed feminist like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie think it's in her place to set the rules of how another self proclaimed feminist like Hilary Clinton should lead her life? Is she the new feminism police? We may not be able to get a logical response because the idea of feminism came in the first place as a result of how a woman feel about her choices.

Her feeling about how Hilary decide to describe herself cannot be understood by any logical means except the false feeling that it project her as a subservient to a man especially when the man is her husband, she will protest less if the man was her boss, when feminist are face with a logical explanation for their actions, they project blame and play the victim card.

Something to Blame

Woman ordinarily never takes responsibility for her actions and it get worse if she's a self proclaimed feminist, rather providing a superior argument instead would project her failure into something else. Her response becomes “I did not get A because the system is still alive”, “I said this because of how the patriarch denied my opportunities in the past”. It's never her fault, something has to be blame.

Her self induced life failure is 'cause' by the patriarch whom today men were not part of, but she's fed the lie that the 'system' is alive and she must make it her life mission to see that 'system' is crushed by seeking to maximally restrict the freedom of men sexuality and maximally have unlimited access to express her sexuality without judgment.

Women are the gateway to sex, if she's to push her agenda forward, she will have to restrict men that agency to force compliance. 80% plus men suffer this fate today and are self identified has male feminist, they have been subconsciously preconditioned to think and act like a woman and will be rewarded by her emotional commitment, all is required is to play nice and become the weaker version of themselves trading their masculinity for femininity.

Victimization

Victim-hood has it root on feelings, feminist feel the patriarch society of the past reduced women to an object, domesticated to a weaker version of humanity but what popular culture fail to remind today women is, how naturally powerful they already are without feminism.

A woman bring another human to this world, she takes care of the children, while husband provide for the entire family. To rear a child and taken care of the family is one the most difficult job in the world but today woman is brainwashed by popular culture of the failed notion of egalitarian equalism to believe she's weaker and men are the problem. She need feminism to muscle up and be able to make more choices like the man. Woman is man.

Today woman is told she can't be that mother or be domesticated anymore, this is the time for her to replace family hours with career, replace the kitchen room with the board room else she's weak, can't make choices. A woman can become whatever she want, software engineer, author, architects, even discover another planet if she want to.

She can be all this without feminism. The only one stopping her is the feminine imperatives who want her so the feminism ideology can continue to thrive. Feminism is the most active arm of the feminine imperatives. She is sold the idea of a Self Independent Woman to be in an island of self sufficiency for the woman but this is a lie, she will only come to discover later.

In the last 60 years of the sexual revolution, the goal as been for the woman to invade the male space and change the narratives to be feminine centered, the only accepted form of masculinity is the defined and accepted form by the feminine imperatives and any attempts for men to act and behave they way that truly reflect their masculinity (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/25/masculinity-makes-man-man/) is suppress and tag misogynist and expressing toxic masculinity. In the fem centric world men are to believe the right way to express their masculinity is thinking, acting, behaving and emoting like a woman.

The bitter truth is the more a woman become more ambitious the less attractive she become and more masculine she look. Before feminism, 5 – 10% of women in their mid 30s was single but after feminism (the world we live today) over 40% of women in their mid 30s are single (America data). It's obvious how feminism is really helping women relegate into spinster doom. Feminism is cancer.

Women should embrace their femininity and not try to be man, you cant' destroy a patriarchy society by trying to become like the man you accused of being the patriarch. Men and women are different, they only complement each other. How can something so different become equal?

This is a logical question, feminist is all about feelings of how a woman believe she was denied opportunities by ancestor patriarchy society and that the 'system' is still much alive, in order words her projection and victim-hood will not end soon and to expect her to take responsibility for her actions or failures is never going to happen.

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It’s sad for it to come to this, for men to unplugged from endemic betalization and societal sexual conditioning. Boys, right from the age of 5 are consciously and subconsciously made to believe they are the shining knights (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/12/6-things-nice-guy-attract-girl-every-real-man-must-never/), the rescuer, the one who have to put his dreams aside, invest his time, sacrifice his goals for the female.

He’s made to believe this is how you show ‘love’ and prove yourself to be man enough. Leading, been in control, provisioning and providing security is what men do, you only do this when it enforce your personal goals NOT when it goes against your believe but still do it because you’re afraid she may not love you anymore or she may stop given you the cookies or she may not be committed to you.

Genuine sexual desires between humans are non negotiable, it can happen under the tree, uncompleted building, behind the window…it does not matter it just happen between people who want it. Sex is transactional for women, if she’s given you, something is expected in return – what that ‘thing‘ will be depend on your sexual precondition and what societies, movies, TV, Feminist and feminized fathers made you believe about the concept of love for the female.

A boy who’s trained to embrace his masculinity (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/25/masculinity-makes-man-man/) and be his own point of origin – put himself first, lead his life, lift, and be so focus on himself that whatever skills/education he acquire be so good at it that everyone love to be part of his interesting life. A woman will find herself lucky to be part of this interesting life.

Men of today need to bring something to the table, you must be interesting, have value that anyone not just woman will want to be part of it. Focus on yourself, only sacrifice for yourself, be so good at it that it drives people crazy to want to be part of your life.

The bitter truth is stories like this will never end because many boys (who are now men of today) are already subconsciously preconditioned by popular culture to aspire to be a woman’s ‘savior‘ and to believe doing so will make her happy, love him and be emotionally committed to him.

This is FALSE. A woman hypergamy don’t care, it doesn’t care how you sacrifice your dreams for her, how you had spill over and got an extra year in school. Hypergamy don’t care. A woman desire to go for a higher mate in her judgment can offer her better social provisioning, security and good gene never consider how nice you are to are.

It doesn’t care how nice you are, sacrificed your dreams for her in the university. To be honest, she didn’t ask to be save and she will not reject when offered. The guy want to because he’s preconditioned by popular culture to believe doing so will make her love him and be committed to a long term relationship or marriage with him.

It never happens, (the only exception is if the man captured her Hypergamous desire) if he forced it to happen, she will resent him and continue to look out for that man who will meet her Hypergamous desire. Start your unplugging (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/12/08/unplugged-inter-sexual-conditioning/)by focusing on yourself, make yourself a priority. Know that all respect is earned and well deserved not even the default respect you give to women.

One undeniable fact is that the Sisterhood () will come together to protect their own, and will also have the many seeking attention men help them promote their narratives. They will fight the man seeking to know a woman past sexual life and wonder how dare this man questioned how many partners or type of men she had sex with, he should know that was her past but she has changed now.

The fact, they rally behind her because they know the clock is tickling on her side and soon she will hit the inevitable biological wall where her sexual attention level and fertility capability rapidly declines that no man will notice her any more.

So women in this declining state cannot and will not allow any man to judge her past party life and random sex with the ‘alpha bad guys‘, after all it was a temporary thing, it just happened!

She also understand that if the ‘nice man’ (beta male http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/12/6-things-nice-guy-attract-girl-every-real-man-must-never/ ) she wants to marry and start a family with, raise children from her previous relationship become aware of how she fuc*ked, then he too may request for similar performance which she is not ready to offer him because he is not like the ‘bad guy‘ she fuc*ked at that time.

If he needs it, he has to earn it because that performance is reserved for the Alpha bad guys.

God be with the beta husband who treats the wife like an angel because he was afraid, ignorant or blindly in romantic fairy tale love to want to know her past sexual performance…if she one day bump into one of the Alpha Exs…It just happened! The best way her hamster will rationalize it.

Women are so afraid of men getting to know their past sexual experience that a man will be punished for trying or even wanting to know about it.

However, it’s important for any man to know his wife to be past sexual experience because the ability or capacity for a woman to build a strong connection with a man reduces with every new man she fu*cked, if she fuc*ked many men it may become very difficult for her to bond to one man as a husband.

Basically, the more lovers a woman had before marriage will determine how high her chances of cheating or divorcing her husband. A study by National Survey for Family Growth in 2002, 2006 – 2010 and 2011 – 2013 for women marrying since the new millennium shows that:

Women with 10 or more sexual partners before marriage were likely to divorce her husband.

Women with 3 – 9 sexual partners before marriage were less likely to divorce than those with 2 partners before marriage.

Women with 0 – 1 partner were least likely to divorce their husband.

Believe it or not, this is very important because every new man a woman slept with has the potential to give her a better sex than the last man. But she would want her husband not to know about her past sexual experience and how they impacted on her if she is to get the man who will take care of her and parent her children with his time and money.

A man must strive by any means necessary to know this past especially from a woman he’s considering to be mother of his children. I wrote about this here (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/24/5-deadly-sexual-habits-reveal-girlfriend-not-wife-material/)

Of course, the popular belief by the feminine imperatives is for the man to look past those past indiscretions and see it as a learning process in her life, she’s still discovering herself but she has changed and it’s not his concern anymore.

The irony is when she divorced the man tomorrow, she’s going to say she’s leaving to go discover what she really want for her life.

1. Right Thing To Do:

Seeking to know a woman past sexual life may not be legally correct but it’s the right thing to do and very important that you can’t just ignore it. It will help you keep a healthy relationship and the risk is too much not knowing even though women never understand, appreciate or empathize with this risk. It’s very important you know or vet her sexual past.

2. Avoid Divorce Not On Your Terms:

Knowing her past sexual life before putting a ring on it, will let you know if she will compare you to her past sexual lovers and if one day she feels you can no longer measure up to her past lovers, she could hit you with divorce papers but knowing her past will let you know whether to put a ring on it in the first place.

3. Protect Yourself:

The common believe that asking her past sexual life is a sign of insecurity and weakness of the man is a complete falsehood. One of the most important decision you must make with the woman you consider to marry is to know her past sexual life because it means you are smart and know what you want.

You simply want to know if you will be the Alpha husband or someone in between or the person she get to compare her past sexual performance with other men while you spend your money, invest time to take care of the children (whom may be from her previous relationships).

Conclusion

To know her past means you have to covertly pick her cues, how she behaves, feels when talking about her past. Draw your conclusions from this behaviors. Some men would just ask her directly, this is good but she will tell you what you want to hear not the honesty you are looking for. http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/04/13/3-reasons-you-need-to-know-the-type-of-men-she-slept-with-and-sexual-past-before-marrying-her/

derrydinny:
why must men think that marriage is what every woman wants? is it a must for every woman to get married? I have noticed every guy on this forum always talking about marriage when ladies are talking about feminism, married women are not the happiest women on earth, infact most of them are struggling in this part of the world. please talk about another thing except marriage, it is becoming boring

You can go ahead to achieve all the 'goals' you set for yourself...you can even discover another Planet if you want to. No one is asking you to marry now.

Feminism is about the woman achieving all, be all, do all, (freedom to cuckoldry) without judgement and then choose to settle later like the man...woman is man.

Go ahead to achieve it!!!

When you're 50 years after achieving everything you want like Kate Mulvey just don't complain when no man notice you! Quietly enjoy your Spinster-doom without regrets!

Despite how easy it has become to get information literally about anything, feminist are unable to understand the ideology of feminism is a result of a brainwashing process from the mass media, schools, workplaces, Twitter, Facebook, instagram, movies and literally everywhere including the male space.

Feminist believe in equality (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/) can't be argued, no matter how much you want them to see the truth that when everyone is equal they will not be happy with the outcome but revolt and express frustration. Feminism is not about equality, but a tool to minimized the sexual freedom of the man while maximizing her sexual freedom without judgment. It's equality when social changes favors women.

Feminism is a demoralization process caused by lack of moral standard and failure to access true traditional information but rather be fed with popular narratives from the mass and social medias, even when you show them a prove that their ideology is a journey of self destruction, they will never believe but call you a misogynist.

The truth only happen to them when they get to the Epiphany phase (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/30/how-equalism-like-feminism-is-keeping-women-in-epiphany-phase-of-her-life/) of their life, a time when attraction and fertility is rapidly declining, then they realized they have been lied to all along. This is the irony of being brainwashed, you never believe anything contrary until you cross the Rubicon where you are about to lose it all.

Feminism came about has a result of how a woman 'feel' and this is why it's hard to logically convince a feminist against her ideology. For her to unplugged and embrace her femininity may require re-framing her feelings about feminism and lead the process of logical discussions.

Men gets older and become more appreciative gradually but for a woman grows and depreciate rapidly, so why would a woman want to waste her small window on an ideology, logically this doesn't make sense. Feminism is about feelings and projection of blame on the man.

"Sometimes I wonder if is not all my father's fault ever since I could talk, he encourage me to hold my head my own  in an argument. Nut little did he know, as he exhorted me to 'get degree' or add yet another language to repertoire, was reducing my chances of getting hitched altogether." Kate Mulvey

Basically, it makes women to fabricate a 'strength' then blame their failure on it and this makes her over value herself. This is what Kate Mulvey is letting everyone knows that she's single at 50 because men think she's too smart. Now intelligence is her 'strength', so she blame her failure to secure a partner on it, this way she will be able to secure the feelings of other women to believe it's not her fault but the man is to be blame. This is how feminism thrive.

Men want supportive, feminine women to inspire him to conquer the world while she watch. It's really simple, men want beauty and submissiveness and doesn't matter your qualification. In fact men don't care how many book you wrote, how many people work under you, how many language you speak or how much money you make.

Intelligence plus femininity is attractive to men but feminism encourages women to become not just intelligence but lead, act and think like a man and kill their 'femininity' (because it makes them look weaker) the one thing men are attracted to, so when no man notice her she turns around to blame men for her self inflicted problem. Men are attracted by looks and femininity, but that looks decline rapidly.

Another irony is feminist think the traditional role of a woman is the one of weakness, subservience but this is false. Wives and mothers are the most powerful people in the society, they bring children to the world, create a family. Family is the cornerstone of civilization.

You will think this is easy for a woman to comprehend but it's not, same way they cannot explain the misguided idea that they are free when they serve their employers but slaves or want equality when they serves their husbands.

Feminism makes women believe serving their employers is freedom but to serve their man or husband is slavery.

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ralphyoung123:
ur topics always make a lot of sense

I'm glad you found it useful.

With the massive promotion of Equalism by the Main Stream Media MSM, Social media, feminine imperatives promoting the ideology of feminism (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/02/02/5-ways-feminism-destroying-nigerian-women/) and women temporary liberation. In all this, the lowest of men is still superior to the highest of women and in many cases the lowest of men get to ban*g the women of 'high standard'. The logic of Equalism come from the brainwashed narrative of woman is man, therefore if a man can wait and have it later so can a woman.

Equalism

The problem women face with this believe is that their sexual market value decline as they get older both in terms of attraction and fertility. So when she decide to 'have it all' and have child bearing at her choosing time,  ready to settle but no man finds her attractive any longer to want to be committed she becomes angry, frustrated and think men are evil for not considering her after she had it all and can take care of herself, especially now she will not be a burden to him, yet they don't consider her.

Her frustration is understood, women never blame themselves for anytime and naturally project and blame their self inflicted failures on men. Male feminist who fall for their sh*it test have come to recognized this frustrating periods of women and want her to know it's not her fault, men not him (he's a nice guy) are just scum. The fact is, it's all her fault and there are many good men, she just left them in her early 20s. Today woman is now very aware of the probability of a frustration period that they go for an insurance by freezing their eggs (if she can afford it).

Epiphany

We are now in the stage where 29-31 years is no longer a frustrating point in the lives of women to deliver babies because of the false hope from being able to freeze her ovum. Women now believe she can wait it out until she meet the 'right guy' to fertilized her frozen eggs and father the kids. In this waiting period she needs to fu*ck, so she fu*cks the 'right guy for right now' and when the 'right guy for right now' is no longer given her that satisfaction and feelings she craves, this is the time she begin to hate men.

The Epiphany phase of a woman may soon become no big deal for the woman who can afford to freeze her eggs. The Epiphany is a phase where she's about to hit the wall as a result of her declining attraction and fertility capability because she was mislead to believe she can use her most attractive and fertile age to do what ever she likes after all she own her body, makes her own money and no one can tell her what to do.

She basically behave like the man by believing she has the same window of opportunity to have a career and also find the right guy when she's ready. And when she gets to that Epiphany stage where she's no longer young, beautiful and attractive as she was 24 years, she start to look for security of her fertility (considering freezing her eggs) and believe that men who are ready to parent her children cannot measure up to her ego inflated sense of social media (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/18/facebook-twitter-instagram-ego-inflated-pussy-value-woman-shes-busy/) ways of life like the guys she hooked up with in her party days.

Reality

A woman of 18 – 25 years is extremely fertile and attractive, a woman of 25 – 30 years is less attractive whereas a woman of 30+ is still hot but decline has started. Make up and packages could hide it from afar but the declining is inevitable. At this Epiphany or declining phase, child bearing become more riskier and in some cases it is through an operation. If you can't afford to freeze your eggs, why do you  seek to be like the man?

I will tell my daughter this.

delishpot:


But if a guy says he can not marry a liability she must have a job or no marriage would you say desire is not negotiable?

A guy can decide what the fu*ck he wants. He goes for what he want.. Men think, then act, if he wants an asset that's what his focus will be.

He doesn't need to 'say'.. (like a feminized man who emote like a woman, acts and thinks like a woman, lack abundant mentality).

He doesn't need to act and think later like a woman. Rather takes his time to think it through and plot his strategy of how to get what he want. (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/03/16/13-things-nigerian-men-must-focus-on-and-have-under-control-before-35/)


Women act and think later. So as to find a way to rationalize it, so they don't feel guilty about what they did.

A woman desire to have sex with a man she's attracted to is non negotiable. She breaks her own rules to be with him.

delishpot:
If a man can want a woman who will share financial responsibility aka household expenses with him, why is it a bad thing for a woman to ask for a man that can share household responsibility aka chores with her?

No one is saying you should not help your woman especially when it come to fatigue or sanitation, when she's REALLY in that condition you know it's you or no one. If you enjoy cooking or whatever, do so because you love it NOT because she asked you to or you are doing it because you DON'T want to offend her or because you will be DENIED the cookie if you refuse.

Desire is NOT negotiable, if someone desire you, they will not place a condition rather they will look forward to that opportunity to enjoy that special moments or feelings you make them feel.

In this present times, men looking to marry a woman must add a new criterion, the potential woman is not brainwashed by social media already, the feminine imperatives (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/09/13/the-feminine-imperative-in-cooperate-world/) using their main language of feminism. I understand if you don't see anything wrong with this young lady's comments, after all we have all been preconditioned to believe for the last 50 years by the feminine imperatives to pedestalized women, this is why some men are quick to say Not All Women Are Like That NAWALD, always wanting to be seen as the nice guy who's different and want to defend her honor.

Women are two things only, an angel and a LovePeddler. The part you trigger of her is what you get, you defending her (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/12/6-things-nice-guy-attract-girl-every-real-man-must-never/)  and wanting everyone to know NAWALD is a display of your blue pill sexual preconditioned orientation of being a white knight to get her reward.

The problem today is many young boys in nursery, primary and secondary schools are also been preconditioned to act and think like a woman, taught to pdestalized women, repressed their masculinity and become emotional, weaker men in the future, school work is channeled to favor the girl child because the feminist believes empowering only the girls is equality. You need to know what the feminine imperatives are teaching young boys in schools before it's too late.

Below is a manifestation of how much damage they have created for the younger women of today:

"I am an 18 year old law student. I am a feminist. I want to get married before I am 20years old..."

This is one of the many superficial contradiction of women, feminist do not get married early, in many cases until they are about to hit the biological wall in fact they are brainwashed to believe they believe they can go for plastic surgery, load a heap of makeup on their face and tell themselves they still got it when they are in their 30s...it just that there are no good men to settle for them

The goal of feminism is to misguide the woman to believe she can have it all, do it all but expect the man to be a jack of all trade and master of some especially the ones that satisfies her id. (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/05/how-did-it-got-this-bad/) 

“I believe that a man should love a woman and do endless things to ensure that she is aware...We will have a timetable sharing the house chores between me and him. From cooking to washing to cleaning of the house...”

A typical self proclaim feminist want equality yet want the man to do 'endless things' for her. Notice she didn't say she will also do endless things for him, doing also would be equality but feminism is not about equality between man and woman but equality for the woman at the detriment of the man.

An ideology that believes empowering that believes empowering one gender (the female gender) is equality. Gentle men, there are male and female genders but feminism believes empowering only the female gender is equality. So what happens to the boy child being molested, raped, deprived privilege by the school teacher who want him to start acting and thinking like a woman.

Feminist cannot think about that, it's about how their feelings and how it's affect her, she acts on this feelings and think later. If she does think about she will realized that seeking for equality is a mirage created by her ever dynamic feelings.

A woman want to date/marry a man taller than her, richer than her, superior than her, good looking with a great body build up, good gene to reproduce and so on. The contradiction here is that she want equality, yet want a man superior to her in at least one area of her life.

No woman ever marry a man lesser than her, if a man don't have money, not tall, not attractive. For her to date you, she must see that you are superior to her in one area. Maybe you're a good cook, superior wisdom and patient to calm her emotional storm and ability to get her pregnant and most importantly you fu*ck her so good.

A woman will never settle for a man equal to her. If she is barren due to medical condition or series of abortion she will still not be looking for an impotent man but a man with capacity to reproduce. Logically, equality will have been for her to look for man with similar medical condition.

If she has limited education, she still want to date/marry educated and more smarter man than her.

Gentle men, where is the equality? Don't throw the equal pay at me unless you're sure her work commensurate with that of a man. I will only agree to that. Reading article, essays, social medial, main screen media MSM, brainwashing you with feminism ideology instead of acquiring skills and be so good at it, be feminine that no one man can ignore you that even as a woman you will be paid more is one of the best thing a woman can do for herself.

“After marriage I want my husband to wait for me to finish school before we can have sex...”

Dear men, always set the frame (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/08/the-frame/) and make sure all factors including the woman in your life is under that frame. Once once you lose that frame, you lost everything already! Sex will be weaponized, she will only reward you after performing a certain task demanded by her. People don't negotiate desires but will always at all times find a way to get what they crave for.

There are lot of things a man need to have handled,  stuffs a man must concentrate his focus on ranging from skill, women, money, strategy and so on. If you are young or still in your 20s these are areas you need to focus your energy on and if older and haven't handle these things yet, it's not too late start after reading this essay.

This is not to make you feel bad about your achievement so far, in fact it's not about your feelings but about your masculinity as a man to take control and do things that can improve your life. Look at yourself and ask what areas do you need to focus more on to make your life better?

The more you focus on this 13 things the better your life will be, if your life is already great, improve on this areas to make your life awesome, maybe you have some natural talents to do some of this things but you can still improve on it. No matter your natural talent or absent of it, every man has an opportunity to improve in each areas of his life.

1. Life Mission Or Purpose:

Every Nigerian men must have a purpose, each man is driven by purpose even though they may not yet know it, with purpose he can move forward when times are good and make a resolution to get something done when things are hard.

With purpose a man is able to choose the mission that will serve his best interest, with a mission he's unstoppable. Every other things Nigerian men need to have under control can't happen without a purpose, purpose gives him the motivation to achieve all other things in his life.

2. Master Pick Up Artistry:

A man must be able to bring new woman into his life, approach her, talk and ask her out on a date and escalate things to sexual intercourse with plenty pretty girls. This skill of meet, date and sleep with women is a sin qua non for every man.

You need to know this things whether you want to spin plates like a perfect bachelor until 50 years or just want one perfect girl at a time to settle down in a long term relationship LTR with to last the rest of your life, you must be able to understand the art of pick up, dates, game, staying attractive and be in control.

You must know that your knowledge of game will make it easier to approach her without analysis paralysis, no fear of rejection or what she would say but knowing that regret for not trying is better than been rejected. You will also be able to unplug yourself from sexual precondition (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/12/08/unplugged-inter-sexual-conditioning/), the false believes that been nice, defending her, liking her profile pictures, offering her unearned compliments, been her yes man will make her attracted to you. Opposite attract, attraction don't come from agreeing with her even especially when it's something you will never accept from anyone. Never compromise and don't fall for her sh*it tests.

Pick up artistry will also help you know how to keep the frame (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/08/the-frame/) and be in control of your relationship, staying attractive and making her to know and believe she can be replace by another woman will make her happy and want to remain with you. Every woman want a man other women want.

But if you loose your frame and make her believe your life depend on her and you can't get another woman like her, you make her to loose respect for you and gradually become the one in control, she will decide to cheat (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/09/24/game-will-cheat/) on you sooner than later and use your/her money to take care of the 'toy boy'.

Whatever your purpose is with women, the ability to meet and be with the prettiest girl is a skill you must have as a man. Every man deserved the best when it comes to women, never tell yourself you need A or B, or she's busy and I will approach at the right time. Game is observing a woman litany of behaviors and using the learned observations to get her open her vaginal for you.

For example when a woman say 'she is busy' (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2018/01/18/facebook-twitter-instagram-ego-inflated-pussy-value-woman-shes-busy/)or say anything at all that's false, her iris move lift or left up. If she's ovulating she's more prone to have sex and you may not need to work harder to get laid. This is just a few of the signs..A man who understands, able to read the signs and carefully applying it in relating to women is Game aware. This also erode the false notion that 80% of men have that they need to have A or B to get a 'hot chick'.

Just going for it is what separate the few 20% of men who get the pretty girls from the remaining 80% of weaker men who offer litany of reasons for not trying to get the girl they assume she is out of his league, fortune favors the brave and perception is reality.

3. Keeping a Woman For Long Term Relationship:

Ability to approach women, getting a date and escalating to your penis in her vagina is half of the skill and not the same as keeping a relationship. You cold be a good pick up artist but lack the skill to keep her for the long run.

There comes a time in a man's life that you may become tired of swooping new girls everyday to your bed and without the skill to keep a woman you may realized that you cannot just also get them into relationship easily. The excitements fades away overtime of been able to pull and bed new girls and you want to move to the next phase of your life.

Many dating books and website, only teach men how to approach and get a woman have sex with them but none teaches him how to keep her, maintain and keep the frame in the relationship. To master how to keep woman in a LTR requires skill,  how you can know if a woman is fit for what you want in a relationship to avoid conflict of interest down the road, escalate the pretty girl you sleep with in the first date into a relationship and make her stick around, maintaining frame in the relationship, meeting her needs including fuc*king her so good (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/12/12/seventeen-commandment-pussy-download-rule-15-exclusive-details/).

4. Money Making Skills:

Every Nigerian man need to have a skill he can exchange for money, something people will pay you for and this is different from your 'education' or 'career'. This two have values but not enough and a man can do without them (some men have certificate locked up). Your job can be taken by Artificial Intelligence or done by other machines, and if your education is theoretical you will have to get a job to earn a living.

A money making skill is something you know how to do and people will pay you for it, this skills could be referred to as 'handwork' like engineering, electricians, carpenters, plumbers, graphic designers, programmers, writers, architects, graphic designers, copywriters etc. Some of this handwork are easier to make money than others.

After high school in 2002, I learned barbing and hairstyling while waiting for admission and after my university in 2010 acquires skill in software and mobile development and also getting trained by the best in the information marketing business, Dr. Sunny Ojeagbase in 2008 IMBW 4, (publisher of Complete Sport and Success Digest newspapers) and in the last 3 years I have been learning more about inter sexual dynamics and basically I blog about my knowledge, truth be told I make more money from my skills building software, website, marketing/funnel sites, mobile development, copy-written, SEO, content creation and social media marketing than my job.

Whatever skill you wish to acquire outside your education and career depend on what you like to do or already doing and how you want to scale it up for the price you want to be paid.

5. Stay Out Of Debt:

As a young Nigerian man in his early twenties, it's okay if you want to invest your money in getting degree or a career certification, learning a skill/handwork because this can set you up for life, because there's no guarantee of a job after getting an educational degree but a learned skill could be another source of income for you.

Spending your money to get what's trending, be everywhere wearing the latest fashion in vague, just basically enjoying yourself without thinking about the financial implications on your future, like the saying “enjoy yourself while are young” as it consequences.

The important thing to know is not get caught up in the young fun moments of your life, when you're in your 30s you need to get a hold of your finance and maintaining a stable budget in order to stay away from debt, this way you will not owe that woman selling in a small kiosk next to your house. Reduce expenses on frivolous things, when you're young you can be forgiven but in your 30s families and friends expect such an enormous responsibility from you and as a man that want to be respected, you must own your life and take responsibility (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/10/25/masculinity-makes-man-man/) for your action no matter the outcome.

6. Develop An Habit:

When you're young, in your twenties you may still fumble and stumble about what you want to do with your life, in your 30s you should have developed an habit to help you get to where you want to be, this habit is how you do or fail to do the things that will take you to the place you want for yourself in life.

You may develop an habit on how often you will be hitting the gym or maybe getting some local tools for workout in your backyard, maybe on working out to reduce your pot belly and body weight, going out regularly to meet new girls, meeting set goals/target on your work, reading self help books that add value to your life.

You need habit to get things done in your life, every man has a willpower but that power is limited and you can easily get distracted but what differentiate strong, stable men who achieve and build their way to the top fast from weak and unstable men who drift away and get little things done are their habits.

Masculine men build their way to the top, they create a system of habit to help them achieve their goal and achieve a lot from life. Weaker men have habits but it's to serve their short term enjoyment and procrastinate over the long term goals.

Every successful man maintain an habit to get them at the top, in hard times habits keep your going because 'old habits die hard', a man must set up new habits on things he want to achieve in life.

7. Need A Tribe:

A Nigerian man in his 30s should at that stage have a very close tribe or group of like minded friends you can talk to regularly, eat with, can count on and rely on. In your twenties your friends may change from time to time, and you may change locations, or even travel abroad, change your hobbies and at the same time all your friends will also change too.

So in your 30s, it's time for you to start building your inner cycle of similar interest of men moving in the same direction or trajectories of accomplishment. Every man needs a tribe to counsel him, back you up when down, steady you in times of severe pressure, and give you a sense of belonging to reassure you the path you are on is worth it.

Every man need other men to keep his sanity in check, it doesn't matter if you're a loner or an introvert, you need another to have your back. You can have a great idea but if you are moving with people not on the same frequency, you will not achieve your potential. Surround yourself with those on the same trajectory with you.

8. Overcome Rejections And Just Take Action:

Many Nigerian men must learn to have the ability to overcome rejection and accept that rejections are better than regret (http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/11/16/isolators-rejection-better-regret/). The fear of approach, procrastination, waiting for the right moment come from the place of fear of been rejected. See a beautiful woman that captures your imagination and would like talk to?

Never worry about what could go wrong or wait for the perfect time to approach, just go ahead and say hello. If you're on a date, why worry about what to say or what could go wrong but take all the time to enjoy yourself and see how she responds.

Why worry if you can perform or come hard when a beautiful girl is lying in your bed, just enjoy the moment and let your body take care of things itself. You can lift that weight, strive harder to accomplish your goal if you're able to overcome rejections and just do what you need to do.
9. Empathy With Other Men:

This is you been able to get inside the head of another man to understand how and what he feels, not to sympathized or feel sorry for him but to see things the way he see things, understand his beliefs without judging him.

Empathy helps a man to understand every one around him, when he see other people accuse or attacks others because of their views or opinions/beliefs, he understand that the real problem is people not showing empathy. He could understand why other men think the way the they think, behave and see things differently.

A man become a superpower if he can develop his empathy to a level where he can understand opposite views to his own without judgment or dismissal of the other person, this will make the world make more sense to him and eliminate the fear many men face today. He is able to see reason with the other person view, and think if he was the other person with the same experience and environment, he would feel or behave the same way.

10. Have a Game Plan or Strategy:

Nigerian men must have a strategy to get things done, some men handle things with full force and go straight to attack their opponent and keep them away from the get-go, some other men take sometime to fortify their position before attacking their opponent and some men do it slowly and gradually eliminate their opponent one piece at a time.

Once you know a man's game plan, you will discover he applies it to his dating, business, learning skills and habit formation, every effective man have a grand strategy he follows in every situations he finds himself. When many men are confuse, the man with a strategy carefully look for ways to apply his strategy to overcome any challenges.

Every strategy works in any situation, the man only need to readjust it to suit the new challenge. Man with a strategy to handle things with full force at the very beginning in dating will want to approach women fast without hesitation, no time for analysis paralysis, he just go ahead and do it. Same strategy can be applied in areas of your life to avoid procrastination. Once you mastered the act of a strategy successfully, you can go ahead to learn other strategies that may be suitable for other areas of your life.

You can learn strategy by reading book that talks about military, war etc. You can also master strategy naturally from experience in the different areas of life like dating, business, career etc. Videos games that require strategy to play are also good way to learn strategies.

11. Learn How To Physically Defend Yourself:

Nigerian men must know how to defend themselves and others when necessary, with great masculine body from physical training you serve as a deterrent to possible attackers who will see you and notice your fighting ability. Physical defense ability makes you confidence of yourself, men respect your body build up and make you look more attractive to women.

You can get a coach at the gym or watch a lot of free videos on Youtube on self defense training and perform the ones you are capable of that suit your body system. For me, working out could help in this area. A man must also learn when not to fight even when provoked, the idea of self defense is for you to defend yourself in danger and not to show your strength by punching anyone who provoked you.

Ego is the problem, do not let your ego get in the way because when you fight you could punch the person in the wrong place and create problem for yourself, always better to walk away when your life is not in danger.

The confidence of knowing that you can hold yourself in a fight and no one can just pound on you in a club just because you're talking to his girl. You are more empowered to go for what you want in any gathering without being too afraid.

12. Look Good With Fashion And Style:

Women dress to appear beautiful but a man dressing is a show of strength, confidence, control and in charge, don't let a woman decide your dressing style or how you dress. The clothes makes the man, your dressing is how you put yourself across to the world. Your clothes don't need to be expensive but you need to be conscious of what you wear because it affect how people perceive you.

Your dressing could form the way people see you as powerful or rich not because you’re wearing an expensive outfit but the choice of clothes you're putting on. It require a skill to know how to put on outfits that have a special effect on the people who see you wear them.

13. Fight And Beat Your Inner Demons:

Many Nigerian men have so many vices like smoking, alcohol addiction, gambling/betting, video games, pornography and some run away from responsibility. They get woman pregnant and run away, if you do crime, you must be ready to do the time. Others take advantage of other people and thrive on their expense.

A man's mission in life must include rising above his vices and become the man he set out to be and not affected by his vices. Your demons may feel good while you are at it, but it limit you and prevent you from achieving any progress acquiring a skill and other things you want to do in life. You may have seen people who could not complete schooling, learning a skill because their vices got in the way.

You may not be able to put off vices away from your life but you can create an environment that reduces your chances of engaging in it. Build an habit that reduce your proximity to your vices, if you smoke and drink a lot, you can stay away or reduce your frequency of visit to the bars or anywhere cigarette and alcohol are sold. No man can reach his full potential with so many burden of vices.

It's a rare freedom for any man to have all this things under control, no one can absolutely have it all, you may have money issues handled and famous yet fail in relationship and be cheated on or have problems that lead to divorce. You may also have a good career but fail to meet the target set for you by your organization and you could be fired any time.

One thing is certain, you have time to figure things out, to get things handled and you don't need to master everything or any one of them but you should have it under control or handled.

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MissJoy29:

A lot of men are confused. Didn't you get the memo?

The only thing a lot of them know how to do best is to bash women.

Yet you're reading an essay written by a man. Just can't handle the truth?

Men should understand women not so to hate/bash them but to love them for whom they truly are. Understanding her superficial contradiction, sexual dynamics etc.

This is the core of my blog www.themencode.com.ng (Only for women who can handle the truth though) it's for men regaining their masculinity, unplugging from preconditioned sexual beliefs and become red pilled and game aware.

KOPT55:


I like your post, it resonates with a part of me that loves women who are able to speak their minds.



I am not a big fan of women who put too much thoughts into what other people want of them.

You know, all these guys that are always harping about women this women that are low-lifers.

A man of substance does not not overly worry himself about women he is not yet married to or dating but a low-lifer will get the most thrill out of bashing women.


Don't mind them because at the end of the day, good or bad everybody's life will pan out the way it was meant to.

KOPT55, She still won't fu*k you!

And this is why => http://www.themencode.com.ng/2017/11/11/no-special-one/