All I see here is youthful exuberance, you are in a relationship in which you claim to love your boyfriend, you meet a new guy that you barely know but get carried away by the superficial... I call it superficial because for all you know this guy might be looking all charming because you hardly know him and all his negative attributes and in the same vain, he does not know your negative side as well so both of you cannot say for sure if you will be able to accommodate each others flaws. You will soon find out that all that glitters is not gold and maybe he will too. On the other hand, you and your boyfriend already know yourselves to an extent and can tolerate each other's excesses. I advise you thread cautiously so you don't make a decision you might soon regret. You can mold your boyfriend to become a better person while the new guy might turn out to be a monster. However, in the end, it is your call... it wouldn't matter what anyone of us will say here, you will still go ahead to do what you will do so my last words to you will be goodluck as life itself is a risk... you win some, you loose some. Cheers.

A reputable Company based in Lekki Phase 1, Lagos urgently requires the services of the following:

1) Chef
2) Cooks
3) Managers
4) Supervisors
5) Bakers/Pastry Cooks
6) Kitchen Assistant
7) Bar man
cool Cleaners
9) Utility Staff
10) Bike Delivery Man.

To Apply:
Applicants must have a minimum of 2 years cognate experience and above in their respective fields.

If your experience fits any of the above, kindly send your CV with a cover letter to: gainsvilleltd@yahoo.com or submit your CV at the address below:
The General Manager,
Gainsville Limited
92A Ojo Lane, Dolphin Estate,
Ikoyi, Lagos

A reputable Company based in Lekki Phase 1, Lagos urgently requires the services of the following:

1) Chef
2) Cooks
3) Managers
4) Supervisors
5) Bakers/Pastry Cooks
6) Kitchen Assistant
7) Bar man
Cleaners
9) Utility Staff
10) Bike Delivery Man.

To Apply:
Applicants must have a minimum of 2 years cognate experience and above in their respective fields.

If your experience fits any of the above, kindly send your CV with a cover letter to: gainsvilleltd@yahoo.com or submit your CV at the address below:
The General Manager,
Gainsville Limited
92A Ojo Lane, Dolphin Estate,
Ikoyi, Lagos

STEP 1: Drop False information
STEP 2: Wait for it to go viral
STEP 3: Collect your money
STEP 4: Apologies

CilicMarin:
STEP 1: Drop False information
STEP 2: Wait for it to go viral
STEP 3: Apologize

Useless pigs!

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You are the lazy youth for assuming we did not Read. I did read the whole piece, and the context does not justify the quote.

- Buhari says he believes boko haram is restrained to Sambisa forest.
- he however read in Newspapers that Boko haram controls parts of the Country.
- Buhari says he DOUBTS those reports are true.

What we are saying is that, as a C in C, Buhari should be in position to assert authoritatively that they do control or not in facts parts of the territory.

- As a matter of fact it has been consistently published and documented that some towns are controlled by Boko Haram agents.

For Lacking accurate information about his own country, and for not being able to have objective and proper facts, we are justified to think that Nigeria is not lead by Buhari. Either it is on auto pilot, or it is in the hand of a cabal with their own objectives.

[I believe his statement that Boko Haram has been confined to the Sambisa forest was a categorical one. Not in anyway ambiguous. I guess reading is one thing, comprehending is another, the nigerian youths really need to wake up I tell you]

Lazy Nigerian youths either cannot read or they have a major issue with comprehension. These same youths are the same people talking about taking over from the older generation. You have a story in front of you, you are too lazy to read it but you go ahead to advertise your stupidity by commenting total rubbish. It's not likely this crop of youths can even pass their exams not to talk of making anything good out of their lives. #lazynigerianyouths

The Nigerian Police are the worst armed robbers in the world. Very unprofessional, very mean and vindictive. They see themselves as Lord's over the citizens whom they are supposed to be protecting. They see Nigerians as their cash cows. Very useless people. They can rope in an innocent man just because he refused to dance to their tune. The Nigerian Police is a curse to Nigerians. It is one the vices you have to deal with as a citizen of Nigeria. It should be scrapped. We are better off without them

In my own case, after my NYSC, I was lucky to get a Toyota Corolla car as a gift from my elder sister which I immediately started using to do kabu kabu, it was not an easy experience because there were days when the police will stop me and collect almost all the money I made for one reason or the other and there were bad days when I made nothing. Thereafter, I got a casual job in a Company that is into satellite television as a store keeper, carrying decoders from point A to B all day, hiding from friends and school mates who already had good jobs and who come there to transact business because of the nature of the job... it was a pure labourers job. Seeing fellow graduates like you in the same Company being treated like kings while you are being treated like a nobody, fellow B.sc holders looking down on you and treating you as if you are not in their class. One day, I got fed up when someone disrespected me, and left the job, went into partnership with one of the decoder sellers and started selling decoders, also opened a video club by the side and was renting movies. After a while, the decoder business parked up and I had to sell off the video club because it could no longer pay the bills with the support of the decoder business. Went back to a full scale job search... finally secured a 45k a month paying marketing job with a very difficult MD as my direct boss, worked there for close to a year, had some disagreements with my boss and he asked me to resign. Thereafter, went without job for about 3 months before getting my current job in 2009 as the General Manager of the Company with a 6 figure pay and a 2005 Toyota Camry as an official car which the Company later wrote off to me and which I sold and bought a 2007 Camry. Still thanking God and looking forward to better days ahead. Such an inspiring thread. Keep hope alive and keep keepin'on.

I am not Ibo, neither am I Yoruba... but for whatever it is worth, the Ibos should know that they cannot gang up against their host; a lot of people are getting it wrong... Dis issue for the Igbos is not about the candidates, whether Jimmy Agbaje or Ambode, it is about the party under which they are contesting. The Igbos tend to see the PDP as an Igbo party and APC as Yoruba party which explains the sentiments by the Oba which of course every right thinking person including myself has condemned. But the fact still remains that the Igbo man has continued to vote PDP in all the Igbo states irrespective of the candidate and nobody else apart from the Igbos themselves determines who becomes Governor in their state. This same issue which the Oba is being criticised about also happens in the Ibo land where non indigenes are being coerced to vote for their preferred party or else can somebody tell me how they are able to return the number of votes they return for PDP each time which usually negates the reality of the non indigene votes on ground? So it is really not about Ibo votes for PDP or Yoruba votes for APC, it should be about the right candidate based on individual conviction. However, the Igbos should understand that the reason they have the population in Lagos dat gives such voting advantage to them is because the Yorubas and by extension the APC which has been the ruling party for 16 years has made their land conducive for them to live, conduct their businesses and prosper. Consequently, my advise to the Igbos going forward is to as much as possible look beyond the election day. What happens after they go all out to vote for PDP and APC ends up wining the elections? Do they think that there will be no consequences

The APC and indeed all Nigerians must be vigilant at this time and must continue to insist on JEGA because the PDP has shown Nigerians that they cannot be trusted at all. What with all the scheming going on, first it was PVCS, second it was Security, third was JEGA and then no use of card readers, no use of PVC etc. It is obvious they are looking for every possible means to compromise the elections. Nigeria is bigger than the ambition of any man or party... all Nigerians are asking for is a free and fair election. Sai Buhari.

Big lie... fake news, take a look at the source; how come other national dailies have not carried this same news? live news ko, stale news ni.

Big lie... it is unfortunate that people have sold their conscience, it is no longer about the common good of Nigerians, people are only interested in taking their own share of the 21 billion campaign fund of the PDP and they are ready to do anything as long as it gives them an opportunity to kiss poverty goodbye. For the records, this election is between the masses and those who have impoverished Nigerians over the years... it is obvious that they won't let Nigeria go without putting up a fight but what is frustrating is seeing young people who cannot read between the lines. incidentally, even our so called pastors are part of this cabal... the only language they understand is money. Consequently, they have mortgaged out collective future for a mess of porridge while we continue to follow them sheepishly. To all the youths, the time to liberate ourselves is now... vote for change! Vote Buhari/Osibanjo.

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@Poster, there's nothing wrong with you if what you have said does not include condoning violence, as there are quite a number of women who do not like weak men and cannot stand them, this gives them a sense of security and creates some kind of leadership for them by their men. However, it could also have a psychological side to it, that brings me to this question: do you enjoy it when such men get violent and inflict some pain on you if yes, where you violated or abused as a child or did you live with someone who was abused while you were a child? all dis questions will be helpful in determining whether you will require psychological help or not. Finally, for those of you who find it very easy to abuse or insult people in need of genuine advice, you are worst than such people whom you criticize and you are plain hypocrites, i believe dat silence is golden... if you cannot be part of a solution, why add to the problem?

@Poster

This is very simple, just stay out late consecutively and if she makes an issue out of it, tell her you don't have any reason to return home early when she will be busy watching her program and will most likely not have time for you. Tell her you will adjust when you are sure she will be there for you. And if this doesn't work, let me know, i will help you figure out another strategy.

Best of luck!!!

@Toboski
Thanks for the wonderful piece of advice. Please is it that that my fiancee's mom does not want the wedding to take place or she just dislikes me because my fiancee keeps telling me what she has been saying about me like-She doesn't think I love her, it is because of the prospects she has and a whole lot of uncomplimentary remarks about me.
I really want to enjoy my marriage and not a mother in law running my home for me. I scolded my fiance the first time she did it and yet she went back to disclose my discussions with her again. I was also tempted to tell my own mom who said I should stop the wedding plans. i am so confused at the moment.


@Poster, it has nothing to do with how her mum feels towards you as a person, i am sure your fiancee is some sort of a meal ticket for her mum, and she has succeded in brainwashing her because of the obvious benefits she gets from her. She now sees you as a threat. My opinion is that she will rather her daughter marries somebody who is much more comfortable than you are or she dosn't marry. It is likely that she tried convincing her daughter from marrying you and she insisted on going ahead; so the only other alternative is to create a kind of distrust by creating an impression in your fiances heart that you are not for real, to enable her maintain her hold.
What you need to do now, is to let your wife understand that you are aware of everything her mother is trying to do and to confront her with the naked truth about the that her mother has had her own life and marriage, whatever she makes out of hers is entirely left to her, if she fails in her marriage, her mother will not be able to fill in the vaccuum; its a matter of choice, but you must do a lot of talking to her. There's a very good chance of changing things even after the marriage through communication as long as there's love. For now, try to plan your wedding within your budget and lay less emphasis on the issue of her contribution but she has to be ready to support you in this regard.

@Poster, are you sure you don't have a bad breath or body odour, confront your friends and ask them to tell you the truth, these things constitute a very big turn off. Once you discover the truth, quickly seek professional help. Goodluck.

@ Poster, its rather unfortunate that your wife to be does not seem to understand the importance of confidentiality in marriage, this trend of discussing issues that affects both of you directly with her mum is a very dangerous one and must be dealt with before entering the marriage proper or else your marriage stands the chance of coming under very serious treat after your wedding because your mother-in-law will definitely continue to interfare with every aspect of your marriage.
I think the key word here is trust; it is very important that both of you build a very high level of trust between yourselves, that way you can prevent interference from third party. Finance is a very serious issue in marriage, When two people become husband and wife, the Bible says two have become one, in most cases, two become one in everything except in their finances; and dats where a lot of couple get it wrong because in most cases, this leads to dis-trust between couple. While i was dating my wife, i made a lot of sacrifices financially and got her to understand that her happiness was paramount, we shared without holding back and this got her infected because she became equally very free with me in terms of her finances; she trusted me totally; anything that is between the two of us remained between us, in fact during our dating days, even until now she hardly keeps any money of her own, even though she works. We are so open to each other that we maintain a common account which belongs to me, the only thing she knows is our ATM pin no and i had to personally ensure that she has that information because she did not appear to be interested. By understanding, when we collect our salaries, we make out a budget and settle all important issues and proceed to safe the rest. During our wedding, we deed things according to the money available to us, not necessarily taking note of who was doing what. However, coming back to your issue, all you need to do, is to take charge of your relationship, decide which way you want your wife to conduct her herself and have a heart to heart talk with her; am sure she will listen to you as long as your relationship is driven by love. Talking about the bride price, 300k is crazy high for a bride price, as for the wedding gown, both of you should be able to agree, you must not necessarily buy a wedding gown that she will wear for just a day, you can rent one, thats what a lot of people do this days, my wife and I rented one for our wedding and she had the priviledge of being the first to wear that particular gown. I wish you goodluck as you proceed on your wedlock.

This would have been a very good system i.e. if the Inec officials are sincere enough to ensure that that there are no multiple registration and registered under-aged voters but the real challenge will be with the actual voting, voters can be easily bought and supervised to vote for specific candidates, so the man with the fattest bank account will most likely emerge.

Me and my family and friends living in Ogudu - Ojota axis, BB anytime.

BB all the way; Sai Buhari! PDP must go!!

There's nothing wrong with helping your husband or wife to be if you are in a position to do so, but the last thing anybody should fall for is blackmail, they always come back, it is not the kind of foundation that anyone wants to build a marriage on, tell her not to start what she cannot finish, a word is enough for the wise.

your story is quite touching, it's not easy to suffer a heartbreak, it could be a harrowing experience but i tell you there's is always something better in the future, she certainly does not belong to you and the earlier she goes the better for you becos you are too good for her. take heart and move on and quickly look for someone to replace her, dat way you will get over it faster.

@ Poster, you obviously are a very materialistic person, no offence, but sometimes when you give people an impression that they mean so much to you, they tend to want to put you to the test which i think she did but you sure failed it, if she actually mean't that much to you, you would have stayed long enough to know wether she was actually serious about the request or just teasing but in my opinion, i think she was joking because she couldn't have just met a guy and think that the guy will buy her a car just like that, and if she really wanted to know the kind of person you are, now is the time for her to take a dive and look elsewhere cos she obviously can't get anything serious with you.