2tek: SUMMARY:

20-24 - They think they're doing you a favour

25 -30 - They know you're doing them a favour

31 - 39 - The Lord is my Shepherd, I Shall Not Want

40 - above- GOD unto U I commit my spirit

acidtalk: *coughs and then sip a glass of water*

18months to settle down you say?
Now let's set your priorities straight and that of the lady in question.

The average Nigerian familt wants their daughter to get married after her first degree. The only two exceptions in this case are; The lady gets pregnant and her people are ashamed of her giving birth to the baby in their home or she is from an almost below average home (poor family background) as such they want her to go so that they can feed (minus one mouth) less mouth.

Secondaly most girls in this age bracket are not in anyway desperate to get married. They still see themselves as beauty queens because they sometimes get as much as 5-10 toasters everyday because of their youthful nature. This will make them assume they will remain 'hot cake' for ever and think there will always be that suitor waiting to get married to them whenever they are ready.

Except for few families which still nuture their female children, its almost common for most ladies within that age range to learn basic home chores in their boyfriend's place.

Though not in all cases, but if you are one who cares a lot about financial management and knowledge, most young ladies in that age bracket might not fit in. The want to get the latest phone, gadget, hand bag and fashion accessories to meet up with their peers. If you are not one of those guys that spend frivolously on a lady when it isn't relevant, she might term you stingy as won't consider settling down with you because she rarely knows what is the difference between necessity and wants.

Above all Intelligence, if you are a serous minded and fast thinker, it might be an hill task finding a lady that will match your intelligence. I am not talking of knowing latest music, movie or celebrity gist. I am talking of beneficial reasoning.

If you don't mind the above, then you can stick with them and groom them with patience. Otherwise maybe you should stick with the law of nature that "the older the wine, the better it taste".

tEsLim: You must be prepared to wear tin skin tight jeans and dress like wizkid or iceprince with backpack. well just kidding there are matured ones. Age isn't really maturity know that all women come with individual problems. take your time search. dont be in a rush. you can fidn good ones in that age group too. Depends on the home she comes from. Well you know what it is if you meet a girl at show/rave/club and expect her to change because you wan marry. unless a girl that have decided to step up on her own. Though sometimes if you are good at nuturing.. well you can start grooming a wify from that age. else you wait and date older girls that have seen hell in the hands of other guys and now have cooled down and ready to get things right. the ball is in your court. but women at their prime will usually think they have several options. thats why the youngies will run mouth etc. it takes a mature man to hold it down. young or old babe there is a thin line between them. woman na woman. even your mumsy na just little difference. if you hang out well enough with your dad and you talk to him a lot you will know.

Haven't you heard your dad say "This woman don come with her own again"

Saint Chukz: i don't really know why i may be having this thought, but i get the feeling you are a relationship expert/counsellor. Are you one..?

Julieccentric: H

You seem to be frustrated..I am 22 yrs of age & all my suitors have always been in their late 3o's.So you expect that I jump @ them..What were they doing since?busy breaking the hearts of babes.Whether togo gals are better than SA gals or naija gals na u sabi.I am gonna settle down @ 24 and that is if the person am dating now can stand my issues. Abi is it by force to marry?

sashaa: I must say am surprised at the comments on this thread. I always thought early twenties are the ideal ages that guys go for. Ok o. Am 26, so y aint i hooked yet?
*wide grin*

xyloxloto: [/b]

sorry my dear marriage will soon become by force to you when the time comes infact you will seek you MAY not see

Michky: You're nt hooked yet becos you're always locked up in your bedroom browsing nairaland, and watching home videos. Plus ur character could be putting a lot of folks off. Just saying.

Michky: You're nt hooked yet becos you're always locked up in your bedroom browsing nairaland, and watching home videos. Plus ur character could be putting a lot of folks off. Just saying.

munky: my current gf is 21 and am 27. this relationship has had its own ups and down. not been easy at all. at dis age most girls dont see any man as their future husband or life partner. so you really need patience and self control.

acidtalk: *coughs and then sip a glass of water*

18months to settle down you say?
Now let's set your priorities straight and that of the lady in question.

The average Nigerian familt wants their daughter to get married after her first degree. The only two exceptions in this case are; The lady gets pregnant and her people are ashamed of her giving birth to the baby in their home or she is from an almost below average home (poor family background) as such they want her to go so that they can feed (minus one mouth) less mouth.

Secondaly most girls in this age bracket are not in anyway desperate to get married. They still see themselves as beauty queens because they sometimes get as much as 5-10 toasters everyday because of their youthful nature. This will make them assume they will remain 'hot cake' for ever and think there will always be that suitor waiting to get married to them whenever they are ready.

Except for few families which still nuture their female children, its almost common for most ladies within that age range to learn basic home chores in their boyfriend's place.

Though not in all cases, but if you are one who cares a lot about financial management and knowledge, most young ladies in that age bracket might not fit in. The want to get the latest phone, gadget, hand bag and fashion accessories to meet up with their peers. If you are not one of those guys that spend frivolously on a lady when it isn't relevant, she might term you stingy as won't consider settling down with you because she rarely knows what is the difference between necessity and wants.

Above all Intelligence, if you are a serous minded and fast thinker, it might be an hill task finding a lady that will match your intelligence. I am not talking of knowing latest music, movie or celebrity gist. I am talking of beneficial reasoning.

If you don't mind the above, then you can stick with them and groom them with patience. Otherwise maybe you should stick with the law of nature that "the older the wine, the better it taste".

Sijo01:

there are some early twenties dat more cool headed and also kno wat dey want more dan some late twenties......in others words, maturity is not defined by age.

Piro4rl: DONT TAKE HER SERIOUS RATHER LET HER BE THE ONE TO TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP MORE SERIOUSLY.

bashr8: can you summersault in the bedroom ? wouldnt it be easier if you just joined a circus

overkill®:
There's absolutely nothing wrong in dating a girl in her early 20s. I got married at 21 and I'm very happy and fullfilled! Age is just a number!

Idowuogbo: ^ Wots d issue?

pauloman:


[b]I agree with u a 100% [/b]but such are very very few no thanks to the poverty level and the breakdown of the family unit

12 inches!:



70 LIKES....ISN'T THAT A. NAIRALAND RECORD....I think I should jot this down.

pauloman:


My gal frend is only 20,graduating next month frm the university,a hottie n i mean a real hottie like a 9/10 rating,tall,chocolate color,slim ,intelligent ,model figured ,a fair enof churchy type not a religious fanatic or SU,well groomed in home made activities. Though she exhibits some attitudes atimes but not to d extreme. Did i mention that she is still a virgin too. I am engaged to her already n we are getting married soon. Oh and im in my early 30s and she is madly in love with me.


I would say i prefer her to an old late 20s gal whom sometimes could be a very hard nut to crack wen it comes to relating because some of them believe they have seen it all so wat do u want to tell them or do to them that they havent seen before. They also pretend a lot.

So poster the answer is stick to wat ur comfortable with n wat works for u.

12 inches!:



70 LIKES....ISN'T THAT A. NAIRALAND RECORD....I think I should jot this down.

pendo89: The problem at times with NL is that people give advice based on the bad experiences only.
We live out the good,those that succeeded.
Nway.its a mindset.

ledafaze: Guys (Male and Female),

If I should refer this to a friend, someone will reply saying I should just paint myself straight...

I need your advice here... I am a single guy in his late twenties and I truly believe in having at least a relationship that will be up to 18 months. Lately, my interests has been in ladies of early twenties... Like 20, 21, 22 and I rarely have taste for the older ones.

I need advice from others that have gone through this about going into it or not. Will they be matured enough to go into a serious relationship despite the fact that they might have finished Higher College / University?

911!

Julieccentric:

funny buh scary!

xyloxloto: [/b]
bros sorry it does not work that way , can you vouch for her as she is now?

safeLove:
Congrats! But, are you also in love with her or you are just with her because of the PHYSICAL qualities you just listed? Please don't come back to NL with the topic "help my girlfriend is getting fat. I want out"..#amjustsaying#

pauloman:


Scary u say? Better start working onn ur issues gal b4 its too late !!!

foyeks2001:


So women are now left-overs...am sure u have sister,aunties and am sure u r gonna have enuf female children...mtchewww