vivianc:

First of all, i'm not saying she must marry the guy. All i'm saying is she is an articulated gold digger, thank God her own guy hasn't done anything wrong. Whatever she is feeling now, she felt years ago but she was well articulated. She kept quiet in her first year, second year............until she got a job. Look up for the definition of a gold digger, this is it, period! So stop making excuses for her.

Well, if she is cold hearted enough to deceive a guy into seeing her through school, she can also be cold hearted enough to deal with the consequences of her actions.

That's my take!

Oburu m bu this guy, aga m aku ya ibi, ma obu ukwu aba druxxxxxx, i swear!

Exactly, let her make her decision and deal with the consequences . . .

A 17-year old is not old enough to make a well reasoned calculated gold-digging decision.

In your own case, you had a mother with a conscience who guided you into making the right decision.

In her own case, he mother encouraged her without adequately educating her on the consequences of her actions . . .

Even the law will support her on this . . . . she was a minor when it all started period!

Vure,thank you for giving us something to debate on.

swag queen: Vure,thank you for giving us something to debate on.

Lol

swag queen: Vure,thank you for giving us something to debate on.

Hehehehe.. Una go pay me abi..

@everyone, I cant thank you enough for making me see every every from every corner. Eh I gree, I do mistake.... Una don help me wella.. Ese gan.

Me here, I still dey talk with my God sha.. E go helep me, I no go do mistake.

Im a newbie oo.. Somebody show me around.

vivianc .. your post was MINT!!

@ vure

Give the man a chance abeg, allow yourself to love him before you dump him

Vure:


Hehehehe.. Una go pay me abi..

@everyone, I cant thank you enough for making me see every every from every corner. Eh I gree, I do mistake.... Una don help me wella.. Ese gan.

Me here, I still dey talk with my God sha.. E go helep me, I no go do mistake.

Im a newbie oo.. Somebody show me around.

Good, I happy say you sef accept your fault. All of us dey make mistake so dont beat yourself too much as the thing don happen. Wetin you suppose do now, na to quickly organise family meeting. Join your mama, ur brothers and uncles put for the meeting to follow you beg and to defend you. Invite the man and use God take beg am. Kneel down beg am say you no fit marry am, say make e forgive you. No use forget o, becos hin no go fit forget lailai, just say make hin forgive you. Carry doctor join put for the meeting, because me dey fear say, if you tell am say you no dey do again, the guy wey love you like dat fit get heart attack o. All that money and time no be small thing o. E never even touch you sef, so na investment down the drain for am! E no enjoy anything.

You still dey young and i no go advice you make you enter that kin marriage as you no go dey happy. But no try that kin thing again o. Dat your guy be like better guy so i think say hin go understand. But no try am again o!

Nashville:

Good, I happy say you sef accept your fault. All of us dey make mistake so dont beat yourself too much as the thing don happen. Wetin you suppose do now, na to quickly organise family meeting. Join your mama, ur brothers and uncles put for the meeting to follow you beg and to defend you. Invite the man and use God take beg am. Kneel down beg am say you no fit marry am, say make e forgive you. No use forget o, becos hin no go fit forget lailai, just say make hin forgive you. Carry doctor join put for the meeting, because me dey fear say, if you tell am say you no dey do again, the guy wey love you like dat fit get heart attack o. All that money and time no be small thing o. E never even touch you sef, so na investment down the drain for am! E no enjoy anything.

You still dey young and i no go advice you make you enter that kin marriage as you no go dey happy. But no try that kin thing again o. Dat your guy be like better guy so i think say hin go understand. But no try am again o!

GBAM!

@Nashville

But bros let her give the man a chance now, she will grow to love him if she allows herself..... if that still doesnt work then your advice is the next best thing

Nashville:

Good, I happy say you sef accept your fault. All of us dey make mistake so dont beat yourself too much as the thing don happen. Wetin you suppose do now, na to quickly organise family meeting. Join your mama, ur brothers and uncles put for the meeting to follow you beg and to defend you. Invite the man and use God take beg am. Kneel down beg am say you no fit marry am, say make e forgive you. No use forget o, becos hin no go fit forget lailai, just say make hin forgive you. Carry doctor join put for the meeting, because me dey fear say, if you tell am say you no dey do again, the guy wey love you like dat fit get heart attack o. All that money and time no be small thing o. E never even touch you sef, so na investment down the drain for am! E no enjoy anything.

You still dey young and i no go advice you make you enter that kin marriage as you no go dey happy. But no try that kin thing again o. Dat your guy be like better guy so i think say hin go understand. But no try am again o!

Yes Uncle.

Donxavier: @Nashville

But bros let her give the man a chance now, she will grow to love him if she allows herself..... if that still doesnt work then your advice is the next best thing

Bros, how do you grow to love someone by force? This is a popular 21 yr old girl with lots of time on her hands and you want to tell her love some 32 yr old man by force. Na by force you take love your own wife? The man has proposed, he is looking forward to settling down soon, no need to postpone the evil day, the earlier she lets him know the better. Love no be by force by fire, it should be of a free will.

Nashville:

Bros, how do you grow to love someone by force? This is a popular 21 yr old girl with lots of time on her hands and you want to tell her love some 32 yr old man by force. Na by force you take love your own wife? The man has proposed, he is looking forward to settling down soon, no need to postpone the evil day, the earlier she lets him know the better. Love no be by force by fire, it should be of a free will.

Thank yoooooooooouuuuuuuiuuuuuuu!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nashville:

Bros, how do you grow to love someone by force? This is a popular 21 yr old girl with lots of time on her hands and you want to tell her love some 32 yr old man by force. Na by force you take love your own wife? The man has proposed, he is looking forward to settling down soon, no need to postpone the evil day, the earlier she lets him know the better. Love no be by force by fire, it should be of a free will.

I no talk by force, but she's completely closing her mind to it. If she's willing to give other guys a chance to her heart, nothing wrong in giving the man a chance too

Vure:


Hehehehe.. Una go pay me abi..

@everyone, I cant thank you enough for making me see every every from every corner. Eh I gree, I do mistake.... Una don help me wella.. Ese gan.

Me here, I still dey talk with my God sha.. E go helep me, I no go do mistake.

Im a newbie oo.. Somebody show me around.

Vure:


Yes Uncle.

I like u joor. U get strong spirit & u sabi take advice.
I pray God helps you! Amen

Nashville:

Bros, how do you grow to love someone by force? This is a popular 21 yr old girl with lots of time on her hands and you want to tell her love some 32 yr old man by force. Na by force you take love your own wife? The man has proposed, he is looking forward to settling down soon, no need to postpone the evil day, the earlier she lets him know the better. Love no be by force by fire, it should be of a free will.

Modelling things oo no negative thing there. Lol.

Vure:


Hehehehe.. Una go pay me abi..

@everyone, I cant thank you enough for making me see every every from every corner. Eh I gree, I do mistake.... Una don help me wella.. Ese gan.

Me here, I still dey talk with my God sha.. E go helep me, I no go do mistake.

Im a newbie oo.. Somebody show me around.

Oh look! The words of a cold blooded gold digger!

Not! *rolls eyes*

Welcome jare Vure. Good on you for having such a good spirit (which was obvious from the start if I must say). All the best!

Vure, as you don begin sing God name like national anthem, i'm guessing you are religious now.
You didn't only offend this man, you offended God! What you did was pure wickedness! For every of our actions, whether consciously or not there are consequences!
Yes, every one of us has made mistakes, and trust me we pay for it.
So nne, pls go into your closet and ask God for forgiveness with a constrict heart, cry unto him, let his mercy intercede on your behave. After that, you have to make restitution in any little way you can.
Before God the man is just in his dealings with you, the age difference is no crime. He didn't abuse, molest nor defile you, not even sexually. All he did was love you, and did right by you. He is gonna shed tears, and God understands the language of our tears, and those tears could work against you. That's why you need to appease God first, let him intercede on your behave.

Thank God you did this to a nice man, if not you would be walking around the street a mad lady.

Be careful in your dealings, especially with people and when it comes to matters of the heart. We live in a cruel world!

No one deserves to be toyed with!

Vure:

I don't want to get married to him or anyone else at this stage of my life.

I do like him alot but I cant see me spending the rest of my life with him.

Donxavier:

I no talk by force, but she's completely closing her mind to it. If she's willing to give other guys a chance to her heart, nothing wrong in giving the man a chance too

Don,she don talk say she no love am. Should we try and convince her to "give him a chance"?

vivianc: Vure, as you don begin sing God name like national anthem, i'm guessing you are religious now.
You didn't only offend this man, you offended God! What you did was pure wickedness! For every of our actions, whether consciously or not there are consequences!
Yes, every one of us has made mistakes, and trust me we pay for it.
So nne, pls go into your closet and ask God for forgiveness with a constrict heart, cry unto him, let his mercy intercede on your behave. After that, you have to make restitution in any little way you can.
Before God the man is just in his dealings with you, the age difference is no crime. He didn't abuse, molest nor defile you, not even sexually. All he did was love you, and did right by you. He is gonna shed tears, and God understands the language of our tears, and those tears could work against you. That's why you need to appease God first, let him intercede on your behave.

Thank God you did this to a nice man, if not you would be walking around the street a mad lady.

Be careful in your dealings, especially with people and when it comes to matters of the heart. We live in a cruel world!

No one deserves to be toyed with!

exactly my thoughts. 10 year age difference is nothing. know many couples that have that difference and they are fine. And she's ditching him just to rock life.....hmmmmm I rest my case on this matter.

kreami diva:





Don,she don talk say she no love am. Should we try and convince her to "give him a chance"?

Make she dump am now abi wetin remain again

somethings don't just feel right

Donxavier:

exactly my thoughts. 10 year age difference is nothing. know many couples that have that difference and they are fine. And she's ditching him just to rock life.....hmmmmm I rest my case on this matter.

Yea, and she doesn't see herself spending the rest of her life with him, but she saw herself spending the rest of his money. From yea r1 through final year, NYSC, ...................

How wicked can one be?

Donxavier:

Make she dump am now abi wetin remain again

somethings don't just feel right

It doesnt feel right, but its the right thing to do. You cannot right a wrong with a bigger wrong. Two wrongs dont make a right. The guy will overcome it and will move on to find a woman that loves him and is ready for him. Vure will be punishing him more by marrying him.

vivianc:

Yea, and she doesn't see herself spending the rest of her life with him, but she saw herself spending the rest of his money. From yea r1 through final year, NYSC, ...................

How wicked can one be?

Na so life be o

I'm learning

Nashville:

It doesnt feel right, but its the right thing to do. You cannot right a wrong with a bigger wrong. Two wrongs dont make a right. The guy will overcome it and will move on to find a woman that loves him and is ready for him. Vure will be punishing him more by marrying him.

Honestly, I don't know if I agree with you. It seems she's at the age where she justs wants to explore and enjoy life. After a while her eyes will clear and it would be a case of had i known and all that. If the man had behaved badly, then it's understandable.... i dunno sha

vivianc:

Yea, and she doesn't see herself spending the rest of her life with him, but she saw herself spending the rest of his money. From yea r1 through final year, NYSC, ...................

How wicked can one be?

You ma'am are my conscience.

I understand what you mean..

Vure:


You ma'am are my conscience.

I understand what you mean..

Ok, i'm being too hard on you, I know.

But i'm not mad at you for not marrying the guy, nah. I'm mad at you for leading him on all these years.
Sweetie, why didn't you say something? Maybe in your second year, or third.
I'm sure you had room mates, i know how school scenario is in Nigeria. And i'm sure this man visited you in your hostel or off campus, did you ever tell your friends about him and how you felt about him? Did anyone advise you at all?

This life get as e be o my dear.

Eiyah! Vivian nwanne m is pained. Nne hapu ya ka o gawa else she will marry that guy obi ya anoro ebe ozo!

She should ask for mgbahara mmehie.

vivianc:

Ok, i'm being too hard on you, I know.

But i'm not mad at you for not marrying the guy, nah. I'm mad at you for leading him on all these years.
Sweetie, why didn't you say something? Maybe in your second year, or third.
I'm sure you had room mates, i know how school scenario is in Nigeria. And i'm sure this man visited you in your hostel or off campus, did you ever tell your friends about him and how you felt about him? Did anyone advise you at all?

This life get as e be o my dear.

Honestly, it is very painful. Let your yes be yes in life and your no be no. You don't lead a man on for good five years! God dey shaaa.

kreami diva: Eiyah! Vivian nwanne m is pained. Nne hapu ya ka o gawa else she will marry that guy obi ya anoro ebe ozo!

She should ask for mgbahara mmehie.

Eziokwu m, amaghi onye the guy bu but ana m ebeziri ya akwa. Ihe a wutere m too much. Imana eburu ozu onye ozo, odika ebu ukwu nku.

Ngwanu, ahapugo m ya.

Vure, God will see you through this.

NL is good peoples at times

no be small asking for mgbaghara mmehie

Make una translate una vernacular naaaaaaa