Ebony-Silk:

Another advice to my fellow women.
Finish school and have a stable job before marrying any "charmer".

Don't depend on any man for whatsoever.
Make sure the house is in both your names, the car that you drive is in your name, and that the account is in both your names.

Abi ooooooooooooo Can't even trust your own husband nowadays.

DaPhoenix:

She was surviving before she got married to him right? Unless he learns to be an adult, acknowledge and apologize for his wrongdoing, she will raise her child in a home where the child wouldn't witness his/her mother being used as a punching bag all in the name to distill respect.

LOL.  If it was that easy why is she here seeking your advice?   This is not just "another" relationship.  This is a marriage, so approach it as one.  For better or worse means just that.  Granted abuse is wrong.  Unless you are telling the man to surrender his manhood and be used as a verbal punching bag.

Women will never be totally satisfied with egalitarianism. They are far too used to the idea of men taking control. That's why they have these expectations of men treating them like royal queens.

Oyinda, maybe she deserted her family when she chose to marry him.

DaPhoenix:

Then we are long overdue for a gender reform.

In Nigeria?? Where a man can have 10 women under his roof as wives??
U must be dreaming.

C2H5OH:

surrender his manhood and be used as a verbal punching bag.

Really? Are men really that weak? "Verbal Punching Bag"?? WoW.

Nairaland prostitutes in action!!   , Keep rendering bad advice to the poor lady

@tpia

  Lol
 
If the man was sorely provoked, which I think he was, I can convincingly argue his case before a judge such that he gets a reduced sentence for the hitting.

Must this thread turn into a fight?
Tope is not in the Romance section yet?

pls keep my name outta ur mouth

you're pregnant?  :oHe slapped you? twice?   You want to apologise?  
I would have left for my parents house same day.  

PurestBoy:

Nairaland prostitutes in action!! , Keep rendering bad advice to the poor lady

You sure know them dont you?

a jury would ask for your blood Criz

C2H5OH:

LOL.  If it was that easy why is she here seeking your advice?   This is not just "another" relationship.  This is a marriage, so approach it as one.  For better or worse means just that.  Granted abuse is wrong.  Unless you are telling the man to surrender his manhood and be used as a verbal punching bag.

She is asking for advice because she like many people need a push before they do what they know is right. She never verbally abused him until he hit her and if she did, he should have VERBALLY abused her back if that will help. All she said was, darling you might want to consider taking a bath and out of nowhere, he rains slaps on her.

~Sauron~:

In Nigeria?? Where a man can have 10 women under his roof as wives??
U must be dreaming.

We have a Black president in the US . . . anything is possible. Heck, one day, we'll have a female Nigerian president.

spoilt:

you're pregnant?  :oHe slapped you? twice?   You want to apologise?  
I would have left for my parents house same day.  

But noooooo. . . . . according to these men here once you are married your source is your husband and have no ties to your husband.  

LOL!!!

spoilt:

you're pregnant? :oHe slapped you? twice? You want to apologise?
I would have left for my parents house same day.

That's what some men advice.

Those are husband and fathers of the future Maybe be husband to your children

onyinye2:

Really? Are men really that weak? "Verbal Punching Bag"?? WoW.

Yes. . . . . . .U don't want to give Nigerian women an inch. . . . . .they are going to take a mile.

onyinye2:

Abi ooooooooooooo Can't even trust your own husband nowadays.

I can't blame some men sometimes.
The way some women throw themselves at useless men.
Easy catch eh

Cristalz:

@tpia

Lol

If the man was sorely provoked, which I think he was, I can convincingly argue his case before a judge such that he gets a reduced sentence for the hitting.

provoked by being told to 'baff'? I go die oh!

DaPhoenix:

We have a Black president in the US . . . anything is possible. Heck, one day, we'll have a female Nigerian president.

Stop comparing Nigeria to the USA. There's a universe of difference between the two.

DaPhoenix:

She is asking for advice because she like many people need a push before they do what they know is right. She never verbally abused him until he hit her and if she did, he should have VERBALLY abused her back if that will help. All she said was, darling you might want to consider taking a bath and out of nowhere, he rains slaps on her.

The only right I see here is something that is being delayed:  Finding a way to put an end to the currently ongoing silence that pervades their relationship.
I am not sold on that speculation that she said "darling, you might want to consider a bath".   Bullshit. This woman is not a deranged being.  She would not have married this man if he was a monster.  This is the same man that vowed never to lay his finger on a woman.  She must have done or said something absolutely disastrous.

Rofl. . . pretenders full NL sha
awon lolshi dede

Woman: Oh wow, something smells.

Man: I wonder o, oya, come darling, let's get it on tonight

Woman: It smells like a dead rat

Man: Nothing jor, I'm feeling horney, come on now

Woman: Bbay, could you plz take a bath

Man: Watchu say? *slap*. Who are you? Who are you? *slap*

oloshi i mean

~Sauron~:

Yes. . . . . . .U don't want to give Nigerian women an inch. . . . . .they are going to take a mile.

Then go marry someone else. In fact go and marry a white girl and hit.  See you run for your life after Jimmy Bob and Redneck Jr. come after you.

~Sauron~:

Stop comparing Nigeria to the USA. There's a universe of difference between the two.

More like light years.

Ebony-Silk:

I can't blame some men sometimes.
The way some women throw themselves at useless men.
Easy catch eh

As soon as I hear a guy say "I want to be your everything. . . . " Shizzzz I'm out ASAP!

C2H5OH:

The only right I see here is something that is being delayed:  Finding a way to put an end to the currently ongoing silence that pervades their relationship.
I am not sold on that speculation that she said "darling, you might want to consider a bath".   Bullshit. This woman is not a deranged being.  She would not have married this man if he was a monster.  This is the same man that vowed never to lay his finger on a woman.  She must have done or said something absolutely disastrous.

Chris Brown said so too and what did he do??

C2H5OH:

The only right I see here is something that is being delayed:  Finding a way to put an end to the currently ongoing silence that pervades their relationship.
I am not sold on that speculation that she said "darling, you might want to consider a bath".   Bullshit. This woman is not a deranged being.  She would not have married this man if he was a monster.  This is the same man that vowed never to lay his finger on a woman.  She must have done or said something absolutely disastrous.

She already said herself she was rather insulting. So what? You still have to exercise self control. No matter how much your spouse pushes you , you dont have to resort to violence. After all men have been known to play mumu to their bosses in  the office and even kneel down when told to do so without slapping them.  

onyinye2:

Then go marry someone else. In fact go and marry a white girl and hit.  See you run for your life after Jimmy Bob and Redneck Jr. come after you.

White gurl ke??
The Naija gurls i am running from are the ones copying white women and u still want me to marry a white woman??

C2H5OH:

This is the same man that vowed never to lay his finger on a woman.  She must have done or said something absolutely disastrous.

She musta taken the piss.

tope2000:

pls keep my name outta ur mouth

Whose mouth??

Exactly!  Was he or was he not pushed?  I heard the lady initiated the contact.  People don't just suddenly become violent without propulsion.  Am I advocating for both forms of violence? No! But they should both be held accountable.

~Sauron~:

Stop comparing Nigeria to the USA. There's a universe of difference between the two.

Does that mean we remain with our backward beliefs and not strive to move with the rest of the world?

Ebony-Silk:

Woman: Oh wow, something smells.

Man: I wonder o, oya, come darling, let's get it on tonight

Woman: It smells like a dead rat

Man: Nothing jor, I'm feeling horney, come on now

Woman: Bbay, could you plz take a bath

Man: Watchu say? *slap*. Who are you? Who are you? *slap*

Nsogbu dikwa gi!!

Who are you? Who are you? ------ Onyinye

~Sauron~:

White gurl ke??
The Naija gurls i am running from are the ones copying white women and u still want me to marry a white woman??

Oka sure mufasa, you have shown me the light.

onyinye2:

As soon as I hear a guy say "I want to be your everything. . . . " Shizzzz I'm out ASAP!

Heard it. Seems like a broken road now.
The funny thing is when they don't even know you enough to be saying those shit.
LMAO. . . .