Outstrip:

I do not have to come from a polygamous family to understand that the man FAILED woefully as a father. You obviously are purposely closing your eyes to the facts. Even the old man admitted to it so what is your point. Give me a break with this nonsense. People like you justify silly things in the name of tradition or culture. Did I say he should allow the man starve? I said the father is not repentant. That is the problem I have with you africans. You did something wrong but rather than say you were wrong and fix the problem, you feel too big to do it. Being the father does not automatically absolve him from the things he did. When you feel bad about something you apologize and you do not apologize with a "but" in it. That is wrong. When you say I helped my son but did not see him for twelve years and besides the reason why I could not take care of him financially is because of all the wives and children I chose to have you pretty much are slapping the person in the face. I don't know your situation and frankly I don't even care to know. I am glad you were able to forgive your father. It is always better to forgive. It heals your soul. Wonderful for you.
The only thing that this man has done by talking about this is show the type of person he is. He is an older person and it is possible that people talked him into it. The fact that his son makes millions does not mean that his father should live that way even if they were in good terms. Sorry that is not how life is. Please do not use polygamy to excuse away people's failures. It is because of things like this that you see young men in their 40's still carrying on this tradition and ruining lives. Michael was lucky that he got a contract to play ball. Had he not had the contract he might have ended up being an armed robber or doing 419 and this same father might be the same one saying "I knew that woman and her children would end up nowhere". It happens all the time.

I think everyone will agree that it is wrong of many of our elders having many kids that their income can not cater for, but why did you overlook the bit that bothers on the man being the one that went all the way to send him to school and kick start his football career? We could never know if he would have turn out to be what he is today if the old man hasn't done what he did then.

Outstrip:

You are saying for humanity's sake but his father feels that he deserves it simply because he donated spermatozoa. I still say the man is unrepentant. If Michael wants to do it because he wants to then fine. I will not judge him. I was not there when he had to watch his mother hustle and struggle to make ends meet for 5 children. The father is going to the public trying to make a son look bad after spending most of the child's childhood making him feel like a reject. The man should show some humility. I am thinking that they offered him some money to tell the story. The man just does not get it and at this age I don't think he ever will. Good luck to them.

@Outstrip
You are a typical woman who always look at issues from one angle alone. Will you tell me that if you have all the cash that Michael Essien has and you have an uncle who live in the same condition as this man you wont bother to help? You also seem to forget the part that state that the man was the one going round with the boy to kick start his career.
This is a common ocurrence in a polygamous home where the wifes justle for the husbands attention, most of the wifes will say anthing to discredit the man. You need to have come from a polygamous background to understand what is going on. In my early years i can't really remember what my dad did for me but my mum will never let me neglect the man as i have come to understand that there is much to learn from the elders. It is not always about money or the posh life, what about his inner sorrow of seing the man that donated the so called spermatozza? What about his identity as an Essien? Can he change that?

@poster
i will denounce myself at any point of danger not to talk of my religon. if some scumbag put a gun to my head and ask are you not that akanbi guy that live down the road? i will go wasn't me. lol. i will even deny everything and everybody that i know just to get intimacy from a girl not to talk about point of death.

I prefer naija go to the world cup and loose than allowing all this glory hunters who are looking to reap where they did not sowbe in the team. what was he think before? did he forget he was born in warri? or maybe he thought he was from stockport road or something. What will happen to those who have been playing all this while? He should just forget about playing for Nigeria because when the country needs him he wasnt there.

Hi Guys
I have been following this tread for a while and i need a bit of advice, presently i work as a software developer in the UK and also studying for an MBA at the moment. My preferred situation will be to move back home after the MBA, now the question is do i need to get a scm certification to be able to work as a supply chain manager or i can apply with my MBA as there is a scm module in it?

@Tippy Top
For an answer ask the likes of Gani Fawehinmi, Dipo Dina, Funsho Williams, Bola Ige, Alfred Rewane, and most importantly Ribadu and El-Rufai and who will know the reason many people are not ready to make any more sacrifice.

FL Gators:



No, I work for Geico

Thought you work for Allstate. Geico is taking all Allstate customers this days.

Hi All
I have a 3 years experience in IT Project management and just got an MBA, looking to move back home, which sector will you good people recommend i applay to?

@FL-GATORS
Do you work for Allstate insurance company? i work for the same company incase you wondering why i asked.

@Thoniaslim
I can die for you.

The issue raised by the poster is something that happens on a daily basis, i have had experiences in that regard but when it keeps happening on a regular basis then one begins to wonder if nigerians are the only ones involved in fraudulent activities.
I used to work in a call center a couple of years ago in the uk and a colleague who happens to be a naija guy always get calls hunged up on him when it gets to the credit card part. The guy can not fake accent hence it was easy to know he is a nigerian.
I think it easy for some people to say there is no big deal about it but when being a nigerian start being a block on your ambition then you realise how serious this is.
Fraud is a big thing in nigeria and the number of nigerians involved in fraudulent acts is not by no means small.
Infact 419 and yahoo yahooism is like a prominent economic sector in nigeria as the number of operators and perpetrators is increasing at an alarming rate.
Imaging being warning about getting calls from nigerians trying to make orders with stolen cards and the next 2 calls you get are from nigerians placing orders with cards that doesnt bear their name.

Some funny things people in nigeria will ask for money to do:

1) I need to pay my school fees.
2) I need to pay my kids school fees.
3) I need to pay my rent.
4) I need to pay for my child christening.
5) My girlfriend is pregnant i need money for an abortion.
6) Can you buy me man united jersy, the champions league one.
7) Can you get me the latest i-phone or ipod.
Can you get me 10 tm lewin shirt.
9) I need a sony laptop with web cam.
10) I need money for girlfriends birthday.

Those are the one's i can remember.
People need to realise it takes alot to survive in the western world.

What i have enjoyed most from living in the uk is the quality of life. You do things at your own pace(thats if you cut your coat according to your size). Am thinking of going back home one day but that day is not now.
There is too much insecurity in terms of life and property. One guy i know whent back home two years ago to start some business, he was killed by armed robbers after 9 months because he was driving a big car.
My advice to any one moving back to naija is make sure you sort out your papers first so that if things turn ugly to can bail fast.

@ABZ
Well mate pray never to meet some women. If you witness frustration you will run.
Adultery is not good but some people get frustrted to the point of seeking succour in the lap of a female friend.

@ttalks and Sososimple
Can you consider this 2 situstions and tell which will be more appealing to God:

1) Helping to pay the bills of a non believer who needs a life saving operation, or

2) Paying the school fees of a fellow christian in his final year in the university?

The greatest danger a man can cause himself is self deceit. Which bush u come from?

Anyone heard about the kaduna mafia or the northern oligarchy?

And!

Thats one of the reasons brodas dont want to bring there wifes and girl friends with them when they move abroad. Some of our women tend to turn into something else when they leave the shores of this country.

@TPIAH
Is that some form of encouragement to the women or what? no nookies on the side ahter marriage full stop.

This story happened in ireland about two years ago,
The husband happened to be a socialite and he was at a party poking some fun at a guy not knowing that the guy is the one helping out his wifey on the private side. The wife helper got so annoyed with what the husband was saying that he went to his car and fetch his cam corder and play it to everyone present, on seeing the scenes the husband collapse and fainted. The worst part of the scenes was when the helper was shaving the privates of the man's wife. The guy has not been seen in town since.

If this happened to anyone of you guys what will you do?

What a lucky guy, do u know what they say about bedding blood sistas? he will never die, ko ni ku lae lae.

My guy just waka jeje comfort for that relationship, if u no wan make someone else they share ur intelligent babe with u. Or u never hear once debe always debe.

There are too many hypocrites on here, especially some of the guys. If some grown up feel he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and decide to have extral curricula activities, what then concern you.
Many folks here do the same thing they are condemning. Well naija people sha!

From what i have learn about the female specie from nigeria, the kind of love you get is dependent on the size of your pocket.
Small pocket little love, Large pocket unlimited love

This is not a new thing with nigerian girls, why in the first place did she have to lie about the identity of the not to be uncle.
My guy many brothers have gone through this same situation and you know what they did? they moved on.

it's sure funny. people with such business knows there clients and they have a small number to pull from not coming on internet forum to advertise there service.
Do u think if am a money bag and want to seek such service i will subscribe to this kind of service?

@Easybaby

y laughing?

You know!!! maybe the chicks no dey give dem cookie again, lol

Then guys need to re-strategise.