Nonso definitely more handsome compared to the other two, but
jim Iyke is more attractive, he has the bad boy image most women
go for  .  Ramsey's cool too and probably better looking than Jim Iyke
but Jim still remains the more attractive of the three.

What's so fake about jim iyke - he is in fact one of the best actors I know, completely
comfortable on set and brings life out of any character. Nkiru may be a villager, but she is
ok on set too and she is definitely not ugly unless the word has found a new meaning.
Now Emeka Ike is FAKE - big star as he is he occassionaly glimpses into the camera - quite annoying.

Sleeping around in offices does not happen only between secretries
and bosses, it is across the board. The only reason why the boss secretary
affair is so glaring is probably because of the fact that the 2 are always together
and rumours and assumptions around them are easy to develop. Otherwise I know
that many secretaries are self respecting women who dont indulge in such relations.

Against. Too much gossip and majority of the
relationships never lead to anything permanent - just short-term flings

babadee:

she needs to get shagged(not by her cuz0), just might end the crush thing!
had a crush like that and solved it by shagging other chics, lol

Are You together!!


This problem is a result of the strict upbringing that most parents take to, thinking
it will help their girls when all it does in enstrange them from a normal life and its ups and downs
that they should experience as they grow up. Your sister will certainly outgrow this attraction
as soon as she starts meeting and interracting with other men apart from family members.

@ poster

A lot of what Seun said is sound advice. But the age of your husband matters
also since at a certain age men seem to go off certain things - its called mid-life
crisis which they suffer more than us women. Its a time of reflection and self-assessment
and confusion. Just affirm him and let him know you love him no matter what - if this
is the case.

I see your view point. Unfortunately, we'll never
really know the real circumstance except what the poster
said, we can only wish her well.

The unfortunate thing is that such sad scenes happen mainly in
Africa south of the Sahara and north of the Limpopo because of the 'me
first' mentality of our leaders who have a bottomless pit appetite for wealth
while thinking nothing of the citizens.  Look at Zimbabwe, Congo, Somalia,
and many other African countries, it is just pathetic.

Our leaders would rather work with westerners to exploit natural resources for
their own gain than use modern technology and employ local labour and know-how
for the good of all.  aaah! the whole thing just breaks my heart.

@soundmind
This mentality you describe is not just in Nigeria, but in evey African country save
for maybe south Africa and the north African countires, but with the imminent appointment of
Zuma in south Africa with his track record, they may soon join the rest of us!

@Romeo

:oWhat's so foolish about it? The fact that you don't understand it
or the fact that you don't agree with it and does that make it foolish
or just diagreeable to you?!

I reiterate that it is if he'll have her cos there are no guarantees in life
about anything, though it would be good if she marries him.

ewooooooooooo!
ah! ah! hisssssssssssssss. so the shoe is on the other
side eh! And the responses from the guys in the house na waooooo!
mmmmmh this has made my day. Am not a sadist, but aaah! Feels good
to watch the guys squirm!

DOG! ^{now he is my ex husband}

^{almost gets flattened by bblack at the door as she zooms off}

It should be no different with any girl domestic worker or not are they
not all women. Why the wahala over this particular one. marry am off
to culprit if he'll have her.

NO YOU CAN'T. PERVERT

jkpretty:

Cool when its still mere jealousy, annoying & pissing when it becomes possessiveness.

ABSOLUTELY!

Love evokes jealousy for sure, but when it goes overboard, it can be quite annoying.

I dont know whether men are so different from each other.
Just be yourself dont change yourself to suit him and dont try to
change him to suit you. You should get along fine as long as you
love and respect each other.

The lady in question is now home safe and sound thank God.
Apparently the Sudan Government saw the good sense to
PARDON her.

Vipi Bimkubwa,

There is that much that one can take in a marriage, beyond which
you are doing yourself a dis-service.  Where there is no Love, Respect and Faithfulness
that marriage can only fail because the three are the foundation stones of marriage.
Evaluate your situation well, pray and then make the right decisions for yourself and
you will know if it is the right decision, like someone said, your gut feeling will help you out.
I wish you well my sister.

As for being submissive, submission only comes with love. It is very easy to submit to a loving
and caring husband but the opposite of submission is rebellion, which is what comes when a husband
is unloving, unfaithful and disrespectful. There can be no submission in the absence of love - do not be deceived.

queeneli:

hi all i am Elizabeth from the Gambia i'm new here. but to me i love ini edo, genevieve, stella damasus, choima and oge okoye they're beautiful

Hi Queeneli, welcome to Nairaland.

Genevieve
Dakore
Omot
Ini/Rita
Kate Henshaw

Pat Attah, he is too much!

jiddah:

what is the big deal?

the big deal is that hollywood is producing movies that nollywood would not have produced in the 20 years if they keep at the pace and stupidity that they are moving and workin on. and of course they aree mere mortals with better skills and with an urge to improve whatever they are doing, look in the nigerian "context" Gene is a good actress lets just leave her at home(nollywood) than wish her to get to hollywood because she aint going anyway cept ghana(maybe to shoot another video.

and who do you think they will cast her with? Nicole Kidman? Charlize theron?,or halle Berry?

give me a break!

Obviously you did not get what I was insinuating and came out fighting without verifiction of facts.
Let me disseminate it to you slowly.

All those people you named Nicole, Charlize, Halle Berry etc etc - is it that they fell from heaven acting.
Did they not start somewhere like eveyone else.  And the hollywood you are boasting of producting super movies, did they start with those super movies that nollywood cannot produce - did they not start with movies like charlie chaplin which are neither here nor there today.  How old is hollywood and how old is nollywood.  Are you God that you should predict what would happen 20 years from today!!!?

I insist that Genevieve can make it in Hollywood and not just her, but every other person who is good at what they do and are willing to learn given the chance. Am proud of what we have - if you are not, then take the break you asked for anot stop being a pain!

@topic

It really is pathetic whatever happens to women when their husbands die.
I only know of one lady who stood at the door of her house with a machete and
dared any of her husbands relative to touch even a pin in her house an luckily she
got away with it.  But the majority of women really suffer from jealous village relatives
who have always eyed whatever you have without lifting a finger to get their own, always
praying for the day their brother will die so that they can get everything.  

The craziest thing is that they'll come for those things whether your husband bought
them or you from your clothes shop or job.There should be a lawagainst it!.

No, adultery cannot help your marriage, but talking to your
wife will. Unless she has pregnancy related pyschological problems
(which are quite common) she should be able to understand your
predicament. See a doctor if necessary. Good luck.

Yes, ladies are obsessed with Naija movies na crime!?
The reason is simply that one can relate very well with what
is happening on the screen to the point of remembering a relationship
gone sour and sympathising with the person on screen.

I watched 'The Games Men Play' and YES I admit, I was glued
to the screen, if I was cooking food would have burnt cos, which woman
who has ever suffered an unfaithful husband would not have sympathzed with
Jim Iykes wife, Jombo, or which girl who has been conned by a married man would
not have found kindred spirit with Dakore? Such are the things that keep ladies
watching these movies - you find yourself in them somehow. Men will not understand.

Gene is good - hell very good as an actress. Given the chance
she can make it in hollywood, bollywood and all the other woods on God's
earth. After all all those actors in hollywood are they not mere mortals
like everyone else. So whats the big deal!

No you did not steal anyone from anybody
Yes marry her if you see fit and we wish you wellooo!
Love is an elusive thing and when you find it, dont let small
things interfere - go for it.

@9ja4eva
girl, you sound like a broken record - but your are rightooo Genny for life!!

REALLY! GIT OUTTA HERE!!!

Its in the upbringing. Most men are brought up to lord it over the
women right from home. Girls are taught to respect their brothers
What dear brother says goes etc. He comes home late from lazing around with
friends and the sister (or mother ) must wake up and give him his food - like he has no legs and
hands to get it himself and of course this goes on into marriage. Yes Naija men can
be pretty insensitive - they were brought up that way!!

@Xgate you've aired my sentiments exactly!

@poster

Why a male friend.  Are you on a mission to make your husband
jealous and stop his wayward ways.  I can tell you right here and
now that it will not work, it will only worsen an already bad situation.

It seems to me that you a in denial of your real intentions in looking for
a male friend, you convince yourself that it is just so that you can talk, but
what will happen when your husband has not touched you for weeks like
you said and you are alone with your male 'friend'.  mmmh I really wonder 

Aknadu:

It is a conventional truth that xtian girls tend to be more civilized than there muslim counterparts

What do you mean?

@Shayo02
You are right. This thread should have read NON-MUSLIM GIRLS and not CHRISTIAN GIRLS.The fact that one is not a Muslim, Hindu, Budhist etc, does not make them Christian. A Christian
man/woman is one who believes in Christ and is therefore LIKE Christ. Most of the so called Christians girls
referred to in this thread are just secular people who are not adherants of any particular religion.

Good luck to her, I wish her every happiness in her marriage
and God's imense blessings.

As for the gold digging, we could all use some gold to dig, and if
she's found some well, good for her!

Asking for advice is not bad in itself so long as you have a
prior opinion of your own which you just want to weigh against
those of your friends. But gossiping with your friends about
your escapades with your BF/GF is totally unacceptable, private
should remain private.