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 Romance / Dating A Busy Partner by loverealities(f): 6:43pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
People often have this notion that what makes relationships thrive is always spending time together. Every day we see lovestruck duos on social media who travel, eat, and go on exotic adventures hand in hand. They’re all beautiful, but unfortunately, many couples today live miles apart and cannot share in similar activities. Another common obstacle to picture-perfect moments such as these is time itself. Your partner’s full schedule doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Keep the romance flowing with understanding. Here’s the secret to dating a busy partner. Millennials in particular, thrive on full schedules. They chase careers, build businesses, and transfer to new locations on a whim. If you’re one of those people in a relationship with a perpetually busy person, it’s natural to feel left out. These emotions are totally normal, particularly for individuals who crave a lot of togetherness and physical intimacy . So what do you do when your partner asks for a night with the boys? Or what if she cancels your dinner date because of an unscheduled board meeting? Or probably can’t take your call when you really want to talk to them. The first thing you need to remember is to NOT let your time go to waste—use it wisely by living the full life you want, too! Here are several suggestions. => Knowing His Schedule Find out your partner’s schedule. This will let you know when he is truly free and when he needs to be left alone to get on with things.What days and times does he attend school, travel for work or have off-site work related events? When does he have sporting practice, when does he pursue his hobbies or interests? When is he at work? Most of these times are “off limits” for bothering him Find out when his schedule can accommodate your calls or presence. This isn’t just about guesswork; use your common sense, as well as asking him directly about when he doesn’t like to be bothered.Think of reasonable times when he’ll be most likely to answer your call. If he has to get up early in the morning, call him early in the night before he goes to sleep instead of holding him up first thing.Ask him if he has any down time at work/school/college or when he’s doing things that he doesn’t mind you calling or turning up to say hello. Maybe he is free for lunch once a week, or maybe he likes to hear from you at 4pm in the afternoon. But don’t presume; actually ask him for his preferences Avoid prying. When asking him about his schedule, let him know that it’s so that you know when not to bother him. However, if he doesn’t want to tell you what he’s doing every second of the day, avoid an inquisition. He is entitled to some free time without you having to know about it! (Equally, so are you.) => Meet-up with friends. Visit my blog to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/dating-a-busy-partner/
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| Food / Online Cake And Smoothie Class. by loverealities(f): 8:27am On Jul 06, 2020 |
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| Romance / 7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship. by loverealities(f): 8:19am On Jun 16, 2020 |
I have felt unworthy of love for a lot of my life. A common question that replayed in my head during my high school years was: “ Why would anyone be interested in me?” My relationship insecurity made me see problems where they didn’t exist, turning what could have been a successful relationship into a short-lived, dismal failure. Know the feeling? If so, here are 7 ways on how to stop feeling insecure: 1. Stop thinking it is all about you. A self-centered worldview will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist. If your partner doesn’t feel like going out, don’t assume it is because of you when they just as easily could have had a really bad day at work that drained their energy. Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture. Obsessing with hidden meanings is a sure-fire way to miss the point. Don’t berate your partner for being too quiet, or continuously ask, “ What are you thinking?” during every lapse of conversation. An overwhelming urge to fill every second of silence with needless words is a habit of an insecure person. Take your partner’s hand, breathe in, breathe out, and enjoy the silence together. Who says you can’t enjoy simply being with each other without words? 2. Stop psyching yourself out. Your thoughts could be your relationship’s best friend or worst enemy. The quality of your thoughts has a direct effect on the quality of your relationship... Visit my blog with the link below to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/7-ways-to-let-go-of-insecurity-in-your-relationship/
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| Romance / How to deal With Jealousy In Your Relationship. by loverealities(f): 7:32am On Jun 15, 2020 |
Most times we tend to act on our feelings of Jealousy unknowingly without realizing that we are ruining our relationship in the process. There are so many things that can trigger Jealousy and if you’re the jealous type it’s safer to let your partner know so that they can easily avoid those things that might trigger that feeling. Now, It’s not entirely bad to feel jealous sometimes as a matter of fact Jealousy is part of Love, it shows that you care deeply about someone and their action gets to you and it can add a little excitement and zest to the relationship but what is actually bad about Jealousy is allowing it take away the joy and happiness you both share as a couple. The common evolutionary explanation for jealousy is that men fear sexual infidelity as they want to be absolutely certain that their partner is actually theirs. Women, are more concerned with emotional infidelity, and want to make sure that their partner supports , provide and protect them. Today more than ever before, people are afraid of being rejected, not accepted, not being loved and worry about losing people they care for. These feelings of loss are natural. Yet, again, when thoughts and feelings of jealousy are extreme, they stem partially as a result of insecurities. When fear lessens, so does jealousy. Here are some ways to overcome/control Jealousy in your relationship. DON’T ACT ON YOUR FEELINGS. It is hard not to act the way you are feeling. The feeling of jealousy or any other feelings is not the problem, the real trouble starts when you start acting on that jealousy and let it consume you. You can feel the feeling, but do not have to act on it. Remember that your better half is a human being that is actively interacting with the world around him/her. That world contains people of gender that they sexually prefer but that does not mean that they will cheat on you with them. There is a reason why they are in an intimate relationship with you. If they wanted to date other people, they would have done so. So, the next time you feel jealous, accept the feelings, yet change the way you think about the situation and be reasonable and wise. CALM DOWN AND STAY VULNERABLE. Visit my blog with the link below to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/dealing-with-jealousy-in-your-relationship/
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| Romance / How To Escape A Bad Date “nicely” by loverealities(f): 3:32pm On Jun 12, 2020 |
Picture the scene: it’s a first date. You’ve glammed up; teeth buffed to gleaming, skin taut and glowing, eyes a-popping, hair quaffed, doused in alluring scents and… across from you sits your date. They seemed perfectly fine over text, but now they sit before you: slouching like a bag of old spuds, staring seriously at their fingernails, and occasionally twitching. You need to get out. Good lord, you need to get out! Another ‘bad date’ scenario: It’s your second meeting. You got along nicely the first time, shared a kiss on the doorstep, and now you’re taking a stroll through the park. You’re beginning to get more comfortable. You laugh together watching a squirrel. Maybe there are some swans. And then you mention your holiday plans and they, from nowhere, say something breathtakingly annoying and uncalled for which makes you feel really uncomfortable : time to BAIL! How about this: third date. You know what this could mean; they’re making eyes, biting their lower lip at you in what they desperately hope is a sexy fashion. They announce they’re just nipping off to uncork the second bottle of wine. They can’t stop talking about themselves or about sex or what they would want to do to you in bed, all of this in a freakish and annoying manner but then you feel it is natural, it is human! However, once they have left the room: no, it is not okay, it is not acceptable to do that and smile and continue the evening. No. You must flee. Only… how? These points can help you The ‘Truth’ Okay, we’ll start with this one, because it’s not really a method of escaping bad dates, it’s more… well, just being honest. Yes, beauty is truth and truth is beauty, and it’ll set you free and whatnot, but before it sets you free it’ll require you to stare straight into the vacant mug of your boring date and tell them that they are just rubbish and you’re going home. If you have the stomach for it, be my guest. Just don’t say I didn’t warn you. The ‘Phone Call’... Visit my blog with the link below to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/how-to-escape-a-bad-date-nicely/
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| Romance / 5 Things You Can Offer Your Partner. by loverealities(f): 8:32am On Jun 11, 2020 |
Few days ago, I was just scrolling through my news feeds on Facebook and I came across a post that was made in one of the popular Facebook group. The post says, “As a lady, mention 3 things a guy can benefit from dating you.” The post interested my mind and I went to the comment section to see what the ladies have to say. I was baffled with the kind of answers I saw there. I’m sorry to say this, from the comment section, it was very obvious that many ladies have nothing to offer. Some say good sex, good food, peace of mind, company, jokes, etc. The one that really baffled me was the answer of one particular lady. She said she had nothing to offer. I don’t know if she was joking or serious but that was what inspired this write up. Before then, I saw one video of a lady on Instagram ranting that no guy should approach her in this 2020 if he’s not capable and ready to spoil her silly, buy her Peruvian and Brazilian hairs, take her on vacation bla bla bla…and I was like well-done ma. If you cannot take care of yourself, I cannot can. Toxic. Abusive. Destructive. Unhealthy. These aren’t words that we’d want to associate with relationships, yet so many of us have experienced this or are still experiencing this. Why? This is a question I used to ask myself often… I was that girl. The one caught in a string of toxic, abusive, destructive and downright unhealthy relationships. I would commit the same mistakes over and over again, barely aware of the fact that I was the one creating my mess. Simply put, I didn’t know how to have a healthy relationship, but now I do. Let me ask you and I want you to be sincere and honest with yourself. What do you have to offer your partner? As a lady, what can a guy benefit from being in a relationship with you, what can you offer a guy? Is it just sex, food, peace of mind etc? As a guy, what do you have to offer your woman? Think about it. Relationship is supposed to be symbiotic and mutually beneficial. But we have a lot of parasitic people in relationships these days sucking life out of their partners. You’re supposed to benefit from your partner and your partner is supposed to benefit from you. But when you’re the only one benefiting, then you’re a parasite! After years of painful relationships, I found my way out. I’ve discovered what it really takes to attract and maintain healthy relationships. It’s like a veil has been lifted and I can finally see love for what it truly is… Pure, unconditional, uplifting and supportive. Anything less than that is no longer acceptable in my life. Healthy relationships are available to everyone, you just need to know what they require to exist. What are the things you’re supposed to offer your partner? Visit my blog to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/5-things-you-can-offer-your-partner/
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| Literature / Arrested By Love By Bright Daniel : Episode 1 - 5 by loverealities(f): 8:58am On Jun 08, 2020 |
A STORY WRITTEN BY BRIGHT DANIEL Darkness covered everywhere in the land of Obioha. Not even a single star could be seen in the sky talk more of the moon. The screeching of bats from a nearby bush could be heard at this very late hour-12:00am. Daria, the only daughter of Mr and Mrs Alfred stretched awake on her bed to the noise coming from a distant. Due to the darkness of the room, she located where the electric switch is and put it on. Light shone all over the room. One could see a typical local girl’s room; clothes hung on a rope while some on hanger. At another corner was a locker full of books and papers. Her bed was nothing to write home about. Obviously, the room indicated the poor background of her parents. Daria quietly moved towards the door, she wore a gown without a bra. She plate her hair in a local fashion but that didn’t remove an atom of her beauty rather it improved it to molecule added to the attractive fair body complexion. She could hear the noise and shout of a familiar voice then she held her chest. “Austine?” she soliloquized as she went back to her bed. Sooner did she hear the voice again loud and clear, “Please, don’t kill me!” “Austine!” Daria stood up with a speed. She quietly opened the door to avoid waking her parents up. When she got outside, she couldn’t believe the darkness of the atmosphere. Nevertheless, she hurried up into the darkness. Dogs barked, crickets chirp, frogs croaked and most of all, cats purred but Daria kept going. She hastened up and began to run because she couldn’t bear the cry of Austin. As she ran like a blind woman, she stumbled and fell seriously. “My God!” she exclaimed… ** On the other hand at the very resident of Austin, he laid flat on the floor wearing only a boxer and singlet. Before him was a man on mask and black. On his feet were Timber-land boots and on his palms were thick black hand-gloves. He had a sharp sward which he had used on Austin already. One could see blood gushing out from Austin’s arms. “They call me Red” Ebube, the man on mask began. “I guess you must have heard about me coz my fame bread like a bedshirt. Your stubbornness let you into this. You should have cooperated with me peacefully. Now, look at what you’ve done to yourself” he shuffled the sward into it’s shelf and turned. He had a power motorcycle which he climbed heroically and put the key in the ignition. The tyres of the motorcycle is as big as that of vehicles but had wider area. “Crooom, croom” it set on motion and blasted out. ** Daria struggled up without minding the injuries she sustained, so she began to run again. As she ran, she heard the hoot of Owls and croak of toads but these sounds suddenly overcame by the sound of Ebube’s power motorcycle. Hearing that, she hid beside a nearby bush. She could see the ray of light coming from the opposite direction. It drew closer and closer until it passed, then she began to run again. At the resident of Austin, as Austin staggered inside with his hands full of blood, Daria arrived. “Austin?” she called in a low voice standing few meters away. “Daria, what are you doing here?” Austin asked holding his arm. “I heard you shouting that’s why i came” Daria sighted the blood then rushed him. “Oh my God! You are bleeding! What happened?” “I was attacked but Red” “Red? Who’s Red?” “A criminal i guess” “Thank God he didn’t take your life. Let me clean you up” Daria sighted a bucket of water. Austin stared at her as she came back with the bucket and told him to sit down but he refused. “Austin, why? Let me clean you up” Daria stared into his eyes with a clean cloth in her hand. “No, Daria” Austin replied. “But why?” “I’m worried why you came all the way from your house to this place. Have you thought of what your parents will say if they get to know you left your house to my house at this hour of the night?” Visit my blog to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/arrested-by-love-the-best-of-daria-episodes-1-5/
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| Romance / Re: Texting Tips For Long Distance Relationships. by loverealities(f): 5:21am On May 23, 2020 |
IamDavids: Try to keep a positive mindset |
| Romance / Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore. by loverealities(f): 9:07am On May 22, 2020 |
A red flag is a good intuitive image to help you process the feelings you have towards something or someone. At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, “He or she told me who he or she was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.” At first you might want to ignore these feelings probably because you’re so attracted to this person but as time goes on, you’ll realize that there are certain things that you can’t deal with. Let's look at some red flags that you should never ignore. Communication bridges. When someone finds it difficult to talk about issues or express how they feel. Often, when it would seem most important to be open and honest, they distance themselves emotionally, leaving their partner hanging, or having to deal with a situation on their own. Often, whatever is “communicated” is expressed through moodiness, and sometimes the dreaded “silent treatment.”This isn't right at all as the other person keeps on wondering what they might have done wrong or what they would do to get you to open up. Immaturity and Irresponsible Attitude, Unpredictable. Some people have trouble mastering basic life skills—taking care of themselves, managing their finances and personal space, holding onto a job, and making plans for their life and future. Small crises surrounding the way they live their daily life may take up a lot of time and energy. If so, there may be little time and energy left for you and your issues. These people may still be working on growing up. In other words, it may be hard to rely on them for almost anything. Dealing with someone who can barely take care of his or herself is a serious hard work and these kind of people won't give it a second thought when issues arise in a relationship, they will immediately choose the easy way out because that's just how they function. It's best to stay away and allow them grow. Trust Issues. Visit my blog to continue reading... https://loverealities.com/relationship-red-flags-that-shouldnt-be-ignored/
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| Romance / Attracting The Perfect Partner Is All On YOU. by loverealities(f): 8:44am On May 18, 2020 |
Attracting the perfect partner doesn’t necessarily come when you’re going out of your way to look good and stunning, going on dates, hanging out with friends and making sure you’re not sitting duck brooding about your life. Nah, Attraction comes when you sit down to review certain things. Firstly, there’s a reason why you are single at that point in time, whether it’s his/her fault or yours. The first attraction tip is to understand that it’s over and you don’t necessarily need to be with someone else almost immediately but what you need is to be with yourself. Yes! Being Single isn’t a punishment but rather a blessing, why? Because you have all the time you need to build yourself, work on achieving your dreams, take that trip that you’ve always wanted to take, make that hair, get that body shape. This is the first rule of attracting someone. LOVING YOURSELF!!! When you’ve achieved this then it’s easy to know what you want and what you actually deserve... Visit our site to read full article. https://loverealities.com/attracting-the-perfect-partner-is-all-on-you/
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| Romance / Recipe For A Successful Relationship : A Cup Of Intimacy. by loverealities(f): 8:21am On May 12, 2020 |
What is a successful relationship? What does a successful relationship even look like? We may have all wondered these questions at some point in our life. Although communication is one of the key factors in understanding and facilitating connection within the relationship, it is in my opinion, that communication itself can’t sustain a successful relationship or deepen the connection and intimacy entirely. So what’s a successful relationship and what’s the effective recipe to get there? Firstly, you must note that every relationship must have a foundation which is “Friendship” and you would agree with me that without a strong foundation, the house is bound to fall. Therefore the first step to building a successful relationship is by building strong friendship foundation with your partner, this is one of the things that can keep you strong during those days when you're struggling to love each other, during the hard times and temptations, Friendship will keep you going. Another wonderful recipe is a dose of honesty. A relationship where both partners are open and honest with each other, both in feelings too can hardly go wrong... Visit our site to continue reading article https://loverealities.com/recipe-for-a-successful-relationship-a-cup-of-intimacy/
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| Romance / The DOʼS And Don'ts Of Commitment. by loverealities(f): 8:58am On May 04, 2020 |
Do you know that you can trigger a man’s desire to commit to just you? Discover how to create that feeling of “you’re the only woman I want” with these five guidelines. While an initial spark is all it takes for a man to ask you out and crave you sexually, but physical and sexual attraction isn’t enough for him to want to commit to you exclusively. He needs to feel that he can’t wait to make you his and that he can’t stand the thought of seeing you with someone else. Rather than having “the talk” or giving him ultimatums, wouldn’t it be great if you could create that feeling so that he is the one asking you for a commitment? You can if you practice these things I’m about to teach you: DON’T keep bringing up the “commitment” talk. When you feel anxious or worried about where your relationship is headed, it’s hard to resist wanting to know what is on his mind and what he wants from you exactly. But constantly trying to bring up the discussion about commitment feels stressful to him and he tends to feel like he’s been pressured and that will only make him dig in his heels and retreat, even if he was on the verge of committing all on his own. So, no matter how much you’re dying to know what he’s thinking, resist the temptation to bring up this tender topic. DON’T try to talk him into it or convincing him. Visit Love Realities blog to read full article. https://loverealities.com/five-guidelines-that-will-get-him-to-commit
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| Romance / Re: Texting Tips For Long Distance Relationships. by loverealities(f): 4:05am On May 04, 2020 |
NobleDeSage001: Well, certain circumstances will test the bond you share |
| Romance / Re: Texting Tips For Long Distance Relationships. by loverealities(f): 4:04am On May 04, 2020 |
Joelsiver:Thank you |
| Romance / Re: Texting Tips For Long Distance Relationships. by loverealities(f): 4:04am On May 04, 2020 |
sholazy: Thank you |
| Romance / Texting Tips For Long Distance Relationships. by loverealities(f): 8:51am On Apr 29, 2020 |
Texting is the most convenient form of communication in a long distant relationship because everyone pretty much has their phone within arm’s reach all of the time. It’s a private conversation that keeps you connected with your long distance partner all the time. Therefore, it is very important to do it right. You can just drop a good morning text, let them know you are thinking of them, share memes and emojis. HERE ARE SEVEN TEXTING TIPS FOR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU. DON’T GET NEEDY: Don’t text your partner all the time. This may show you off as needy especially if they are not responding as actively as you are. Take time to understand and adjust to both your needs. There is a fine line between asking what you want and demanding them to do what you want. It’s easier when you are both busy with work or business so you only get to text at your free time. You can text them that you are missing them. But don’t get angry if they don’t reply fast enough. Wait for their response before you text some more. Don’t keep fighting with them for not texting back unless you actually feel they are doing it on purpose. Being in different places also mean having different schedules. They must have genuine reasons to not text you back quickly. Understanding them is difficult from a distance but have faith in them. Don’t make them feel that you doubt them. When you are in a challenging situation in a relationship, you constantly evaluate if it is worth the effort. And thus your constant nudging could have a negative effect on your long distance relationship. Learn to build trust and have a little faith in each other. SURPRISE THEM: When you are far away from your partner, it seems like you are losing the flame of the relationship... Visit our site to read full article. http://loverealities.com/texting-tips-for-long-distance-relationships/
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| Romance / Re: Unhealthy Habits That Can Ruin Your Relationship. by loverealities(f): 1:19pm On Apr 27, 2020 |
Nice one... You're on point |
| Romance / Unhealthy Habits That Can Ruin Your Relationship. by loverealities(f): 7:38am On Apr 27, 2020 |
In order to have a healthy thing going on, you’ll both need to make an effort to avoid sh*tty relationship pitfalls. Nobody enjoys discussing hurt feelings, awkward financial topics, future mother-in-laws, or anything else that might bring on that squirm in your chest. But healthy relationships understand that it’s not an option, it’s a requirement. If relationships are going to stand the test of time, they need to leave the door open to almost every conversation imaginable … This requires a deep sense of trust, so work on building that early and often in order to reach this level of openness.” And, while you’re at it, read on for some habits you should definitely avoid. Visit my blog site to read full article. http://loverealities.com/unhealthy-habits-that-can-ruin-your-relationship/
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| Romance / Lockdown And Wedding Palava by loverealities(f): 11:03am On Apr 17, 2020 |
Serious Advice needed here Guys... Traditional Marriage was fixed for 29th of March and Wedding was Fixed for 4th of April, the Traditional marriage was done and Dusted But Wedding could not hold as a result of COVID 19. Now Pastor said the lady must not stay in the manʼs house till after wedding, please advice... Can a man still stay alone and marry his Pillowcases even after Traditional marriage? If you are the girl what will you do in this case, Because the Father said he has given her daughter out in marriage. Visit our blog http://loverealities.com for the best relationship advice and tips, Storylines and lifestyle choices.
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| Romance / Re: Locked Down With Your Spouse? Tips To Stay Sane. by loverealities(f): 1:55am On Apr 17, 2020 |
| Romance / Re: Locked Down With Your Spouse? Tips To Stay Sane. by loverealities(f): 1:55am On Apr 17, 2020 |
Reichel99: Exactly |
| Literature / Burgundy : EPISODE 1 - 3 by loverealities(f): 8:56am On Apr 15, 2020 |
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| Romance / Do You Want A Long Lasting Relationship? Here's What To Do by loverealities(f): 8:05am On Apr 14, 2020 |
It's very possible for you to have long lasting relationship. If others can, then you can have it too. Visit my blog to read full article. http://loverealities.com/do-you-want-a-long-lasting-relationship-heres-what-to-do/[url][/url]
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| Romance / Do You Want A Long Lasting Relationship? Here's What To Do by loverealities(f): 7:51am On Apr 14, 2020 |
It's very possible for you to have long lasting relationship. If others can, then you can have it too. Visit my blog to read full article. http://loverealities.com/do-you-want-a-long-lasting-relationship-heres-what-to-do/[url][/url]
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| Romance / Why Do Guys Measure A Ladyʼs Worth With Her Not Being Materialistic? by loverealities(f): 3:34pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Seriously though... A girl doesn't have to suffer with you to prove she loves you... You might not meet her now that you're broke ... If you're still living in your Father's house, not yet working or still struggling to be stable mbok leave Women and focus on building yourself first... You mustn't struggle with her to know her worth... Someone just said “so when I now make it, one efulefu will come to eat where she did not sow”? Like seriously? What if you're destined to meet after you've made it, wah if she's somewhere struggling too to be on her feet cos she doesn't want to suffer, cos she wants to be a help meet to her husband... It's high time you guys stop measuring a Lady's worth with her not being materialistic... Some of us also want to make our money by ourselves so please focus on building yourself and when the time is right love will come... We all have our spec the same way you have your spec!!! My take is... Ladies be busy with something, don't depend on anybody... Men, if you want to spend on a Lady, do it cos you want to, cos you feel she deserves it, cos you want your girl looking good... Too much expectations is the reason why we end up heartbroken, everybody is different and everybody's destiny isn't the same mbok... Pray to be with someone that understands you that much and appreciate you for who you are... ✌� 1 Share
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| Romance / Locked Down With Your Spouse? Tips To Stay Sane. by loverealities(f): 5:43pm On Apr 09, 2020 |
It's normal for your relationship with a spouse or partner to feel strained, especially if you're spending 24 hours a day together indoors. The Corona virus pandemic is upending everyday life across the globe in myriad ways — and as we work to stop the spread through social distancing, many are locked down with a spouse or significant other. Here are seven tips to manage any unprecedented stress on your relationship — you may even come out of this difficult time stronger than ever. - Give each other some grace. Dealing with disproportionate blowups about small things like laundry piles or overcooked eggs? So are lots of other couples. The pandemic is not a typical situation, and the resulting anxiety and stress means both of you are more likely to snap at times. Try to lower expectations during this temporary period and maintain empathy for one another. “When someone seems upset about something trivial it might not really be about that trivial issue, sometimes it’s best to just let it go. Other times you can simply ask: ‘Are you upset about everything that’s going on?’ It might get the conversation going, when it’s appropriate.’ - Offer and accept apologies easily. While lowering expectations during these weeks can help, annoyances and arguments can pile up if they are routinely not resolved. “These are little deaths in a relationship that can add up to resentment if we don’t have a plan of repair,” Own up to snapping at your spouse and accept their “I’m sorry” when it’s offered. - It's not just about you, talk to each other, do fun things together like playing games, watching movies,cooking, doing some indoor fun competitions like singing or dancing, even taking pictures, these are all ways to bond and make memories and if kids are involved too for the married couples, this is a good time to bond with your kids and get to know them especially the Teens. - Grow your Christian life and spirituality as a couple. You may not have had the time before to pray together and study the Word of God, guess what? This is the perfect time for you both to get closer to God and this is a real relationship goal right here. - Be romantic and Spontaneous. Yea, this time there's no excuse not to give him or her breakfast in bed, there's no excuse not to tell each other how much you love and care for each other, there's no excuse not to show your partner or spouse that you value their presence in your life, so get on with it and renew that spark, reignite that passion and fire that has been burning low for some time. Lastly, please don't add too much weight this period... You both can start a work out session every morning to burn off the extra calories that has accumulated due to the sit at home. Relationships are in a pressure cooker, with spouses not only stuck under the same roof but also dealing with the anxiety and stress of the larger corona virus crisis. “Itʼs so much pressure we’re going through as a culture,” we need to slow down, take a pause and adjust to this new meaning of the relationships in our life.” That might feel challenging right now, but know that you’re not alone and your feelings are normal. It's day 4 of the lock down, the best you can do at this point is to try and enjoy each other's company.
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