posakosa:

If he doesn't respond, Kill Him!

posakosa:

James Bassey, instead of saying I need a break, he did all of the following to me :

He raped me
He sent (sexually explicit text messages I sent to him) to my mom and her co-workers
He beat me
He cheated on me
He stole from me
He lied
He hang up on me
He talked about me and attempted to disgrace me
He would call me while fucking his new girlfriend.


What I will do to him ? Only time will tell.

When you break up with a HUMAN BEING, BE NICE, What FATHERS do to women, Sons will do it to your daughters and the cycle of evil continues.

I plan to destroy James Bassey. I now carry a gun.

oh dear posakosa, honestly like me i would have wished 2 do sumthin evil 2 him too, to pay back but i got sum advices here and my mind has changed. i think it is wise 2 do the same for ur sanity. not for him, but for u.



@post, best way is to be real and straight forward instead of leading one on and punishing d person. say it, i don't want u anymore or i'm not feeling you again or something.

tonella:

dats wat dey are all about.findin thru luv aint easy,

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-294524.0.html

Guyz Guyz (heartbreak)

charles316:

@poster,
leave d boy alone jor and take out ur frustration on urself.jump in d lagoon.

who is this one what r u doing here? Stay off! if u've gotten nothing tangible to say.

U welcome dear. Just ignore him

Nikky dear, ignore him. people can do all sorts for attention. I had advised you remove ur picture because u don't know wht next might happen, maybe using ur pic outside nairaland for something evil and more dangerous as we can see his heart is dangerous.

Haba nautillus, i'm moving on.I had already said the urge to revenge has subsided, thanks to the advices given here n nairaland,i'm taking each day now.


Thanks you all.

Nikky dear did you see my post i had written earlier. i guess it has been removed but anyways, i suggested u remove ur picture because u don't know what gaggi could do with it else where outside nairaland, as we have seen, his heart is wicked and dangerous. u r a pretty girl that's y he did such 4 attention. my advice.

Leave Nikky alone whoever this is. gaggi in disguise. it's not by force or maybe it might not even be him. who knows

Tudór:

The moderators CAN DO NOTHING, he's broken NO RULES!
The best they can do for you is MOVE IT TO THE JOKE SECTION.

Come off it. tudor you know he was rude. simple as that, whether it is her pic or not. he got it from her profile.

cold:

Which Cold is that because i'm getting mixed messages here,abeg i no fit shout.

lol, didn't even see this. R u tall, light skinned, drive a range rover sports or more over tell me some of ur favorite things, let me see if u r even this heartless cold ex of mine

Tudór:

No i cannot see it's nikky23. WE DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE REALLY IS OR WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE.once she published those photos through the world wide web she forfeited her rights to them. Besides nude pics of politicians and celebrities are all over this forum NO ONE ASKED FOR THEIR PERMISSIONThats why uploading a picture is optional. If you choose to upload then you've got to live with the consequence that you have ABSOLUTELY no right to that image.gaggi has EVERY right. The image is free on the internet and he didn't publicly humiliate anyone by calling names.

Like i said birds of the same feather flock together so i can't blame you.



Where are the moderators? they are not doing their jobs.

this same gaggi?? Stop these silly posts of yours and behave like a civilised human being.

FL Gators:

Tell your friends to grow the Bleep up.

Exactly, though dating in some cases do not necessarily mean a committed relationship.

Tudór:

*i'm gonna play devil's advocate here*
You guys are just bitching unnecessarily!
The post was quite funny. Where did gaggi mention Nikky23' s name as the ashawo in question?? She was the one who came and confirmed that she indeed was the subject.
When she uploaded that pic she lost all rights to the image and there's no known registered copyright to that image. Besides how are we sure d pic actually belongs to her?? She could have gotten it from some other website from which Gaggi also copied it and edited for his joke.
The picture was blackeyed so i wonder how people can confidently claim it's nikky23.

No where in the rules of nairaland did it say one cannot joke with a picture. People uplod pictures of celebrities, politicians and pastors defacing and calling them names, where they asked for permission. Few years ago NUDE pics of anita hogan were on this website, people were so happy and went into a frenzy calling her all sorts of names. Nobody thought to ask if it was with her permission. Hon alausa of ogun state NUDE pictures are all over the politics section,did anyone ask his permission.
She decided to publish that photo [if indeed it's really her's] whatever is done with it is out of her juridisction [her name wasn't even mentioned on the O.P].

Gaggi has done NOTHING illegal, he's broken NO RULES deleting his post or banning him would be indiscriminate. The worst that should be done is to move it to the joke section.

u r not blind to see it is her nikky23. stop deceiving urself and supporting such posts. Even if it was to the joke section, it was without her permission. This is a forum, anyone can put their picture up or not, i chose not to by personal choice, she chose to put hers by personal choice. gaggi has no right for such with immoral words. stop supporting evil.

@Poster

I'll say it goes both ways. If you feel in your heart he deserves it and is really broke and won't take you for granted, help him BUT i did the same thing 4 my ex boifriend and what did i get, "Break-up in the worst way and manner"

Whome:

The best revenge is to get over him and have a wonderfully happy life. What goes around comes around and trust me he will get his payback. Although you may never see it with your own eyes, he will get his payback in one way or the other.

Sitting around and seeking out revenge only makes moving on harder for you and leaves you bitter and angry with emotional baggage that you will carry with you from this relationship to the next. Get out there and meet someone new. In fact meet 4 new people. Go out on dates with them even if you think you will only like them as a friend. Dont sleep with any of them just go out and have a nice time and let them help you get back some of the self esteem you will have lost from this prior relationship.

Trust me, it will be hard at first but you sound like you have put alot of physical and emotional energy into this man and now it is time to take care of yourself. And for the future, there is nothing wrong with showing someone you love them and doing things for them but next time let the man do the proving and the wooing. Show him a little of your devotion but then pull back. Dont ever show a man you have totally lost your senses over him. He will value you more if you show him you love him and want him but you dont need him, and you wont be lost without him. Let him be the one that is trying to prove to you that you are the prize. Take care

Yes i did put a lot of energy but i'll heed to ur advices.


Thank you everyone. I'll try for sometime to wait and see how much i'll get over this and be calm.

ibelab:

For me 2years is nothing for u to be total freak out like this. what u say , u pick a guy from the street , give him sheater,later get married to him, for him to have documents to stay in the country and money ,love everthing u can name,, at the end , he still dump u, after 5 or 7years. what u gonna do then?

Sometimes it is not the quantity but quality that matters, 2years might seem short to some people but it seemed long and a lot of emotions and effort in it.

Enockia:

I can only tell u dat vengeance is the lord's nd if u can't wait on him kill him with voodoo

Sometimes waiting on the Lord for justice in this case seems in vain.

posakosa:

Killing is a waste of time. Make him SUFFER.

i'm confused. one minute u say make him suffer, another minute, u tell me to forget.

Maximip:

Would you login into your lovers email, or facebook without their knowledge just to know more about them. I'm not asking if i should cos i already did. And guess what i discovered, that she's still dating her supposed ex and even sending him money. she was also meeting a lot of random guys, sending them her number and saying she was single. I know a lot of you guys will be screaming that its wrong to invade someone's privacy but the truth is that it saves everybody a lot of trouble and time. I guess the US governmet does something similar too for terrorists. It's like a pre-serious-dating check and it worked well.

Yes, i know some others will say you should'nt be with someone if you can't trust them but again, people change and you can't trust anybody. For real. So, would you do the same?

how can u hack into an account, it mite b useful 4 me 2 see or have more ideas y dis heartless bf of mine could brek up wit me.

PERVERT9:

do it by sleeping with all the guys in his place of work plus including the driver and security men there,thereafter come to nairaland and sleep with all the men here

i am not a cheap ho, there r other ways than sleeping around b4 i infect my own self.

Because people don't know how to forgive and endure somethings or some people are just plain selfish!

frank3.16:


i have been in so many relationships and i was hurt in most of them. but again i learnt by experience. just the way we get used to an environment or new cloths, thats how people get used to others around them or with their lovers with time. luckily we are humans we should be active in controlin our enironment and not passive.


yes u gave ur best, u loved, but u neglected ur very self. u concentrated so much of him. in any relatipnship its all about u and not ur partner remember that. if u observed urself, u should have known when its not good for u, when to walk away and seek for the happiness we desire. but u were so busy trying to make him happy, thinking his happiness is ur happiness, well thats not really the truth.

i am in a relationship now and sometimes my girl chokes me with love and i tend to get bored, but i just know i deserve her love, so i teach her how not to choke me with love. how to concentrate on herself for a while and take decisions that chalenges me when i go astry and make me realize how important she is to me, and she does it.

i really dont want to talk much, dont want to bore u with so much talk. but understand that i beleive that how hurt u feel right now is natural. its normal to feel that way because u are human, but instead of continue allowing pain, just realize that u deserve much better than him. he is really truelly not worth all these stress. u need love and not pain. love is out there and love is u.

take some time an concentrate on urself, eat good food, go shopping, apply good makeup, look clean, radiate in brightness, whatch comedy, laugh out, love people, fill ur mind with little appreciation. u will find out that he is not worth it all.
cheers

The words in bold above gave me second thoughts and i kind of agree. I never really saw it whilein the relationship but just after i read it, i thought 4 a while and agree with that.

frank3.16:

I am really sorry to tell u that desperate girls like are are either ugly or think they are ugly.
how can u b in a relationship and not make ur guy desire u. u only made him feel he has the whole of u, therefore u were not worth anything anylonger. u pay his bills and fogive us inconsistencies(bulshit). sometimes being too good to people is a burden for the recievers, especially when they know they are not worth it.

Reveng for what? imagine urself not being inlove with anyone anylonger, does that mean u should be hurt? wont u just want that person to live u alone and stop bothering u? well thats what he wants now.

get the hell out of his life and allow ur self to suffer for his loss for not more than two weeks at worst a month and then move on with ur life.

forgive him and feel free. be happy wit urself and stop over burdening urself with grudges.

learn ur lessons, dont choke people with ur so called love, instead choke them with how special u are. we men like it when special girls love us.

have u eva been in a relationship or loved someone? y do u talk like u haven[t been inone? when u r in a relationship, most things come natural. so did i do wrong by being there for him and not pretending? did i do wrong by always being at his call? i'm not saying i was too good, there were instances i gave it to him, when it was necessary, i was just being myself. if i was too good, do u think i would have confronted him about him going out to a party on valentine's night? no i dont think so. wat type of desire r u talking about? i'm really getting confused. wat's the essence of being in a relationship if u cannot be urself. how did i make him have the whole of me how would u know i choked him with love or how does someone choke one with love?

it is not a matter of still being hooked on him, have u ever been dying in silence, waiting to explode or take revenge. wat he did is COLD after everything, then i'll just move on, while he moves on too just like that? it hurts so bad.

posakosa:

Move on but leave with a big bang!

what kind of bing bang?

galatico:

Life is full of ups and downs, Just move on forget about him, The downfall of a man (woman) is not the end of the world.

i can move on but how can i 4get dis cold blooded man, that has a stone heart?

luxoire:

@poster - no mind the idiot his nemesis will cathc up with him - you too grow some back bone and stop being such a sucker for love!

me i don love well well - infact i don do love kolo!! and i have learnt a valuable lesson - I dont give to any body in any situation if there is any chance that i will be bitter / regret it tomorrow. so when i help any man it is an act of charity to be forgotten after that until he decides to recognise it

move on with your life and leave him to his - he will find what he is looking or and trust me - it wont be pretty!! its hard but take control, delete his number if need be and change yours. let him go and be a parasite to another woman's resources and emotions - good riddance!!

how will u know? is it a crime to love someone and naturally do things for the person? only 4 this same person 2 turn around the most wicked way. whycouldn't he just tell me straigh4ward if he was tired?

posakosa:

I can't speak for the poster because I don't know what happened in your relationship, but if I saw Mr. Bassey today, and shot him to death, Ill have no regrets or remorse, that bastard put me through hell.


But then again, I've also moved on, so no point absolutely.

whi is mr bassey?

Understand wat i am saying lady kool, if not for God, meaning that i don't want to suffer the aftermath which includes law and all, i would have killed him, that's the extent of pain he has caused me. i did not say i would kill him

gloriuss:

hey, i totally understand u and feel that i can relate. To be honest move on, as hard as it is. Think of it this way, the time that ur using to think of revenging him he's most likely NOT even thinking about u! So although it hurts (trust me I know) move on with life and achieve all that uve planned beforehand, and trust me it will be one of those stories that concludes with him bumping into u one day and ur doing better than what he ever expected of u!

p.s guys like this NEVER realise that they wont EVER find such a giving, loving,affectionate girl again!!! they end up deceivin themselves with the chicks that pass them by, but trust me, altho they front, they do look back and regret their actions. By that time it'll be too late 

Im talking from experience! I know for a while ul feel bitter, hurt, betrayed and POSSIBLY silly for giving so much but dont let this mumu change u! Even in the future be as lovely and as giving as u naturally are!

like i sai if not for God, only God, i would have killed this guy and send him to the grave. or better still punish him, paralyse him, let me see how he would live his life. i just cant help thinking just move on, just like that while the wicked one is roaming free.

topup:

Get a better guy. Not a rebound guy, but a man who will love and respect you. He will want to make a mense when you agrue and you won't even really have much to argue about. He will NEVER cheat on you, and will respect your wishes, if anything, he will only leave you if you turn out to be ungrateful or uncaring and not because he wants any excuse to disappear and live the single life.

It's funny how we seem to believe that everything we gave into relationships are wasted because the relationship ends. I don't think that way, I'm happy with the love I gave, the things I shared because it made the relationship worthwhile. I learnt painful lessons from the breakup but I will never deny that whilst I was in the relationship that everything was worth it.

how do i know a better guy? this same shameless guy was so loving and sweet in the beginning while wooing me and i hadn't given anything yet. i know some pple would say there r 2 sides to a story, but from my side, i just minor issues that we settle or more like faults from him, i try to confront, he turns it to me and at the end i'm the one to apologise. it is wasted all i gave because if it wasn't he would not have the damn nerves to b so so cold to break up with me in such way and manner after i found out all he was doing and i still pleaded at the end. damn

u men are very complicated so why did u call her in the first place and u have the nerves 2 call her desperate. spending the weekend could mean just coming to visit u or get to see u and nothin else gosh!!!

Sam Milla:

Very well, This is a complicated one, but since i dont advertise for break-ups,
I suggest that you relax your nerves and your mind first.

He cheated on you but i believe there is Part two of this whole thing.
Anyway, My advice is that you have to totally abandon the plans to harm him.
That could only cause more troubles for you.

When things quieten down a little bit, try to meet with him.
Try to ignore the Valentine party and what happened.
Focus on how much you love him.
Try to convice him that you love him if you love him.

He will eventually come to terms with that attitude.
And believe me , he will love you and start to learn how to stop cheating on you.
If you do anything stupid, i will simply say that your love for him was just that
You either wanted to get married desperately or You wanted to have him all by yourself.

AND,
Try as fast as possible to forget paying his bills,
getting poor so he could get rich and all those things you believe you did in the name of loving him.

part two? how. according to him, reason, she tempted him wat was he doing there in the first place with her in his house? i wasnt stupid but overlooked it for peace. what other side. i am sexy enough to keep him and please him so what else. sacrifice, i have for him, everything u could think of, so what?

bluespice:

damn that dood was cold but u gotta let it go hard as it may sound
i know it will take someone i very very very much respect to tell me to let it go b4 i would
dood will bleed from his hair roots if i have my way
thank God ur not me
so let it go and leave revenge to God (if u believe in him)
or karma if thats wat floats ur boat

and for the love of all things diamond! ur his girlfriend not his momma!
quit picking up his slack
quit paying his bills!!!

very very cold i have stopped after all he had the nerves to break up with me after everything. damn!