My brother court marriage isn't bad. Most parents insist court marriage to protect their daughter in her husbands home.

Most men marry and tend to marry more wives.

But with court marriage you can't marry another wife except you divorce the earlier one.

Also husband families can be wicked. In the event their son dies, they tend to take everything their son has from the wife but with court marriage no such access.

If you truly love the girl, I advice you do the court wedding, nothing to fear here at all.

My major worry here is the decision of her parents to pick a date fir you. I sense they have a mission.

Nobody has the power to pick a date for you. Only you have the powers.

My advice, is that you involve your family in the court wedding issue.

Let your family stand by you that you are not ready for it now so it won't be as if you are taken the decision alone.

Believe me, court wedding is very good. It makes marriage sweet. No matter what you do you can't marry another wife except you divorce this one first.

Fear not bro, if you love her and she loves you, go ahead.

Once you marry, try to live very far away from her family and your family too.

Shalom

EreluRoz:
Be mindful of the kind of advise you give concerning marital issues. Some people actually want court wedding to make the marriage bond strong as both party will ensure they work together for the progress of the marriage knowing fully well the implication of the court if their marriage is broken.

Bullshit.

LilNetty:


Thanks for your advice… I can see the red flag as regards controlling me and also taking my stand at the same time am also trying to consider the condition of my Fiance… can you believe they want insist that they will the one to give us the wedding date when we went to for introduction? They got angry when my parent said they will get back to them.

Very possessive family.
Baba this is just the beginning of all these rubbish.
More than this is coming after the marriage, if you guys get married.
Think deeply if you are not comfortably with this their character, better call it quit.
Expect you know you can put them under ur wings

Do people have wedding in the court...what is court wedding? Or you mean Registry? Na wao. Oga do whatever you like with your life, so far you marry and go home.

Smartgeek:
Why you no want court wedding? Do you plan on engaging in bigamy?

bigamy,in the same context with a guy?

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

RUN. ASK THEM WHAT IS THEIR FEAR. THREATHEN THEM WITH LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP IF THEY INSIST ON THEIR CHOICE. LET THEM KNOW THAT IT IS A RED FLAG THAT THEY WILL CONTINUE TO CONTROL THE FAMILY.

They simply want her security. Do the right thing bro.

Put everything on hold get your act together and get your affairs in order. Do not allow yourself to be pressured into doing what you are not ready and comfortable doing.

Confirmedzombie:
My brother court marriage isn't bad. Most parents insist court marriage to protect their daughter in her husbands home.

Most men marry and tend to marry more wives.

But with court marriage you can't marry another wife except you divorce the earlier one.

Also husband families can be wicked. In the event their son dies, they tend to take everything their son has from the wife but with court marriage no such access.

If you truly love the girl, I advice you do the court wedding, nothing to fear here at all.

My major worry here is the decision of her parents to pick a date fir you. I sense they have a mission.

Nobody has the power to pick a date for you. Only you have the powers.

My advice, is that you involve your family in the court wedding issue.

Let your family stand by you that you are not ready for it now so it won't be as if you are taken the decision alone.

Believe me, court wedding is very good. It makes marriage sweet. No matter what you do you can't marry another wife except you divorce this one first.

Fear not bro, if you love her and she loves you, go ahead.

Once you marry, try to live very far away from her family and your family too.

Shalom

YOU CAN MARRY ANOTHER WIFE WITHOUT DIVOURCE IF YOUR AGREE TO IT. WHICH IS ALSO SAME THING UNDER ALL OTHER TYPE OF MARRIAGES

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

you're the man, never let anybody tell you how to marry your wife. It's not a crime to make her a baby mama, especially since you're using pregnancy as an excuse to marry her.

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

Do a pre nuptial agreement if they are insisting on statutory marriage.

And, make sure you solely acquire your property and it should be in your name, whatever property you wish to acquire jointly with her can be in both of you name.

Statutory marriage is another way for ladies to trap a man cox they know men are polygamous in nature and the moment they catch you cheating, they will sue you straight...

What do you have that is at stake Are you ned Nwoko or what 😂

Wainey:
Nothing is wrong with court wedding.
If she divorce you, one office pin she no go see collect, this is not western world where wealth is shared after divorce

False. Stop advising people wrongly based on ignorance.
If she divorced you based on court marriage, she will be entitled to a share of your properties as determined by the judge, based on the years of marriage, your assets acquired during the marriage and her contributions to the marriage.

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

What's your deal against court wedding? If you are worried about your assets, you can sign a prenup.

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

The bolded is the key for me.

It appears she's not really the wife you want but for the pregnancy. You are not even keen on court wedding.

Even common wedding date is causing issues. You can't even put head together with the lady to fix a date. Two grown ass adults o.

Don't do what you will regret because baby is coming. Even the baby won't enjoy it the marriage turns toxic.

Think deep about it. Either way, na your cross to carry like everyone out there.

Good luck!

You are a bad man .. what are you running away from?

If they are strongly requesting for the court wedding, then something is wrong somewhere. It's either they don't trust,they feel insecure for their daughter or maybe perhaps they have had some awful experiences in the past. Whatever reason it is I don't think it's a healthy start for the marriage. My pov take a walk and be responsible for the pregnancy and the child after it arrives

Are you planing to leave the marriage as soon as u entered ? Court wedding or Church wedding does not really determine the happiness of a marriage nor its longevity, you the couples do. And as far as I know, court wedding certificate is the accepted official document to present in case ur family need to journeys out of the country together…. Well, maybe Church wedding certificate is accepted, but I have never seen anyone used that. So left to me, Court wedding is nothing to be scared of, except u don’t really trust the relationship u are entering into.

It doesn't matter if you are a Yoruba person or not, your comment is tribally bias.
And I put it to you, that you not a Yoruba....

Healthrelatedjo:
It's either this guy is wealthy,or they have checked his destiny and they have seen that he will become extremely rich in future.


Yoruba pple they do this thing very well,them go say na to check if they are compatible.

Ps.I am a Yoruba guy.

LilNetty:
At the moment there still a conflict between my family and theirs as regards wedding date. They are insisting that the family of the bride will be the one to pick the wedding date.

Family of the bride has the right to pick date... It is you that will negotiate with them the date that will favor you. They are your in-laws ... You don't have say for now...

This thing is not stubborn head something..

LilNetty:


When they ask me I told them I will do it later after the marriage they said no that they must do all at once and they told me if we won’t be doing it that my wife to be won’t be changing her name.

oga no b curse but with these your few replies I can tell u d marriage won't last

For your mind u go think say na curse but I give u maximum 3 years before conflict of interest will scatter everything

LilNetty:
Please I need your candid advice.

My wedding is coming up in some months and I need your advice. My fiancé and her family are insisting on court wedding which I don’t want to object to. I should have moved on but she pregnant. What can I do?

They don't want u to dump their daughter anyhow 2moro and/or marry another girl in court and claim the other girl is ur legally married wife while their daughter who they suspect u don't really want to marry is not legally married and just a concubine or fake marriage.

They are trying to protect their daughter from a fake or illegal marriage cos of the circumstances..

Please and please my brother stick to your decision,do not allow them to chain you up.Do not go for court wedding.i am talking from experience.i am currently in court for divorce and when am out,I will always advise my son's or anybody against court wedding.it is a TRAP,no benefits in it but an handcurf for men.Traditional wedding is far better my brother.Even with her pregnancy bro,do not agree to court wedding.

LilNetty:


When they ask me I told them I will do it later after the marriage they said no that they must do all at once and they told me if we won’t be doing it that my wife to be won’t be changing her name.

Yes they have every right to say that. The birthed their daughter...

If you love your wife, whole heartedly, do the registry... By then, she is now your wife completely, however you have taken the bull by the horn.

Maybe later in the future, they want their daughter to come visit them, it is you that will tell them the time for her to go see them or not.

They have every reason to request a court wedding. You want to make her a baby mama or what?

Stories where a woman gets pregnant and moves into a man's house with no official marriage but just inlaws meeting inlaws never favours the woman. What will she do when you say you don't like her again or you complain over every little thing just because you want to marry another woman. You throw her under the bus with no loss on your part.

If that lady is wise, court wedding is a must or she should not even move in with you, the Op at all.

She is pregnant, so what? How sure are you that you are responsible for her pregnancy.
If you don't want the registry, STICK TO IT!

LilNetty:
At the moment there still a conflict between my family and theirs as regards wedding date. They are insisting that the family of the bride will be the one to pick the wedding date.

Let them fund it too if you they are to chose the date . But on serious note, what matters is , "Yes I do" irrespective of what any one thinks about the date

What's so special about court marriage? Are u planning to elope after the marriage nii? Court marriage is what gives the most legal backing and protection to the marriage and to the woman.. If she is really the one you want to marry, I don't see any issues with it doing it b4 the trad and white wedding

dont try it

It happens to Anthony
she is carrying another man's child.

Try verify .

Lool at brides family don't have the power to choose a wedding date for you.

Orishirishi.

There's no difference between marriage in the Church and the Court.

Both are marriages under the Act.

Wainey:
Nothing is wrong with court wedding.
If she divorce you, one office pin she no go see collect, this is not western world where wealth is shared after divorce

With the way nigeria is going and embracing any western culture, don't you think laws regarding that might be going through amendments? Let's say in 20 years time. Don't do it