Interesting analysis and somewhat smart reactions.I appreciate.
For all the comments talking about being old,kids,time ticking and etc, I am not really keen on being with a lady because of kids.I am looking for a companion.
Kids will grow and walk away.It doesn't matter if I have them at 60 or 80.It's better to have them and give them the best when it is time than to have them at 24.Even a fool can have kids.Is one thing being a father and another being a parent.
The answers that I am looking for are more of a psychological desensitization,and not one based on societal/traditional connotations.

Hey folks,I am worried, Really Really worried.
I do not know why I find it difficult to stay in a relationship for more than 3 months.
I am 35 years old male, someone you could describe perfectly as a 'GOOD IN PAPER GUY' and trying my best to be a 'GOOD IN BED GUY' as I wouldn't consider myself a monster in bed, (I don't even have the strength sef to go more than three rounds,as I always hear brothers brag about going close to 8 rounds before day break).Where do they get the power sef?
I have dated quite a number of beautiful ladies from different races but one thing that has been a recurring issue in all these relationships is that I get so bored easily and end up breaking up the relationship or dumped by them.Don't get me wrong,I frequently choose ladies that fill out my personality, and end up resenting them for the very traits that make them my 'other half', I understand that nobody is perfect, I am not, ,but I have an obvious idea of the kind of lady I'd like to be with.Even when I find 60% of the traits,I easily get bored and end up walking away and seek for a new challenge.
Is it that there is something wrong with me or is it that I am yet to find that special lady that compliments me?Has anybody(Man/Woman) been in this kind of situation before?Have you ever been with somebody and felt that he/she isn't the right one for you?You feel the thrill of the chase and as soon as you get her,loose interest withing a short time?
Please don't yabb or insult me here, All I want is an honest and objective reaction to this issue.You never know,your response could help a brother enjoy a very long lasting relationship.
Thanks.

I was gisting with a friend regarding the above topic and she told me and I quote
'You will never know how fabulous Twenty Something Girls are until you SEE one with the MAN who broke your heart'
Sounds like a valid point to me.However,I'd like to get your honest and objective views on the above comparison.
So folks,Twenty Something Girls/Boys Vs Thirty Something Women/Men! Who do you Prefer? And what are your reasons.

Guys please be mindful of the woman you pick in clubs/roads/ at night.

This is true life story, It happened two nights ago.I never believed it myself until I saw the guy in question.Investigation is still ongoing.

A naija dude from the South West danced and went home with a blonde he met here in a club in Madrid.From what I heard,they had a great time at the strip club and retired to the dude's abode to solemnize their new found affection.It happened that after the initial first round of Kini,dude went to his toilet to clean up,felt kinda dizzy and as if in a trance,rushed back to his room and behold,Blonde had DISAPPEARED and dropped a written note in a language that the Spanish Police are still trying to unravel at the moment.

This sounds unbelievable right, But it is true.Our guy is in the hospital now refusing to go back to his house ever again.And the painful thing is that he had already had sex with this ghost.This is crazy, Am still in shock.

What would you do if you are this Guy?

APICS is much better

Oh those pictures?That's Chinedu Prince of Igboland with his German wife Ivonne.That picture was taken in 2001 in Hamburg.No be small thing, na hustling all the way, But I hear say the babe show the guy pepper, Dude became macho as a result of 24hrs work in this babe, Ife umu nwanyi na - eme,

Yes you are a MUGU.This is the problem with SOME naija men.When you are expected to be a LOVER,you turn into a PROVIDER.There is a huge difference between being a lover and a provider.She wants you to be a Lover,and NO,Just like a typical naija man,you end up buying her phone to win her love.It doesn't work.Now that you have become a provider,that is how you will roll except you make a detour and start being a LOVER,Else she wil leave you when a lover comes in.

@Dre901
Most good companies in Nigeria pay well for fresh starters into what ever industry you find yourself in.

Oil & Gas pays the most, I guess between 2.5m to 4m per year includes benfits

Telecoms will take my second postion between 1.5m to 2m per year depending on the telecomms company.

Banking between 1m to 2m (Oceanic Bank pays the highest of 2m for fresh men)

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Do you consider these as well paid job?

Oil /Gas - N4m which is €24,000/annum Well,not a bad start,
Telecoms -N2 which is €12,000/Annum Freaking Joking with me, that's slavery
Banking - N2 which is €12,000/Annum

Apart from Oil/Gas,is N2 enough to start life in Naija?Just asking because that's what a kitchen Porter or even a security guy makes in europe if not more and it's nothing to write home about.

[b]Supply Chain /Global Logistics Mgt in Europe and America is so huge.I do not know how big it is in Africa especially Nigeria as the environment is not conducive for organisations to invest in,except the oil & Telecoms companies.For now,It's huge in emerging markets like China and India especially in the areas of sourcing and manufacturing.I guess not much is know about this diverse discipline apart fro core Logistics,especially in freight forwarding,export and compliance, Emergence of IT,FMCCG,Retail,Pharmaceuticals,Engineering could open doors for SCM graduates in Africa.

Regarding ERP,not all the companies except the oil and those with global reach can afford to implement that solution across their channels as it is very expensive.To go it alone,makes no sense.You are better off being trained by the org that hires you.

As per certifications, APICS Supply Chain certificate is your best bet as it is recognized worldwide.I doubt if they have an outlet in Nigeria.

Don't give up hope buddy.SCM is the shizzy.Concentrate more on SCM system specialist.Most big and major companies are moving away from physical side of Logistics into IT and integrated based SCM/Logistics.It's all about the systems these days.I have a Masters degree in the field,coming from a business background and enjoying my job as a Channel Logistics Executive in a Telecom company though not in Naija.[/b]

Ladies/Fellas,Lets talk about when we first fell in LOVE,

Fellas,do you still vividly remember some of the most stupid things you've done just to woo that cute babe in your secondary school days?Did it work for you?What was your family's & friends' reactions then?Fast forward to 2011,could you have done better?Where is SHE Now?What music reminds you of HER and the old days?

Ladies,what was it about him that attracted you to him?Did it work for you?What did he do to sweep you off your feet?Fast forward to 2011,where is HE now.What Music reminds you of HIM and the old days?

@QUEENSMITH, 'A man that i can pick up anywhere, why will i now base my life on him! mshew! i have important things to worry about jare!

Hun,any man you can pick up anywhere is not worth his onions.Raise your bar babes, The fact remains that I want to be size 2, that's my desire and if it hurts you,enjoy your fufu.If you are size 14 or 40,it's your cup of tea and you sure will pick your 'any kind of man', Nne biko, quit whining,and spare me all these 'security and insecurity sermons'.Join me and LETS loose weight.Maybe you don't know,the subconscious reason why you dress well or look well everyday is to attract the opposite sex (even if it's not your intention), and to create envy/ disharmony/competition among your mates.All your 'I look good for myself' are just defense mechanism, Wake up and smell the coffee babes,ladies dress their best to attract the best mate.Janet doesn't look her best for Ngozi to admire her or be attracted to her, She looks her best in order to attract the best mate around her.

@Queensmith, I'm going to the gym right away,I am going to eat healthy and you will see me and say wow, check out that sister, 'SHE'S DAMN HOT'! Get in the bus baby else you get thrown under,

@Queensmith, Spare me those sermon sweetie.If you are single,I dare you to not ever bother abt your weight /size as you prepare to wear that wedding dress. , And if you are married with kids,I also dare you to not bother how you look when you look at yourself each morning in the mirror. ;DIt may not be for your man hun,but for your own good.I am sure you do know what am talking about me.Deep inside your heart,with all those important things that you claim you think about,you still want to be a size 4 or 2.

@Queensmith, Trust me sweetheart,over confidence dey worry me!I don't want to deceive myself thinking that My man loves me the way I am,nevertheless,will be conscious just like every other single lady out there,of loosing weight so as to fit perfectly into that wedding dress.

Ponder this,Why do we bother to be size 4 or 2 so as to fit into that wedding dress?It's all visual baby and that is the world we live in.Besides,don't you think it's time for sisters to be health conscious and burn the calories?

Thanks for your kind suggestions anyways.Much appreciated and I guess we are all having fun!

@MOBO 44,, Yea Yea,thanks for reminding me that I eat to much.I guess I didn't see it coming.
By the way please don't judge me,we probably have  a lot in common.
The faces of black sisters that I see here in Naija,UK,The States tell me exactly what WE all eat.Ladies,lets hit the gym and cut out those calories.'MY MAN LOVES ME LIKE THAT' is a myth, He doesn't PERIOD!He's only trying to make you feel good about yourself and wishes in all sincerity that you loose weight,

No girl/man  looks at a person from across the room & says, 'can't wait to learn how beautiful that person's soul/heart­/spirit is'.
We're in the animal kingdom, we want the best the species has to offer.

People look across the room and go, 'that girl/guy is hot;, wow I gotta go talk to her/him, ­,

I have name for women/men that I find to have awesome insides but am not feeling the body, 'A friend',and I have loads of them.I have to be hot for my MAN and as we live in a visually - driven world,I want to be size 2.

Am seeking for the diet to achieve this and that is why am here.

I have to find a diet that would kick me back into dating shape. Because I know that I can't date at size 8. I have to date at size 2.
My people,what is the right diet and size that will put me in dating shape?

BTW,Do Naja men really care about size?

There are two types of men. Those who look at themselves alot in the mirror and work on their abs so people can comment and those that drink beer.
[b]You can't drink beer and have cut abs.
I would never trust a man who doesnt drink beer.

Which man would you prefer?[/b]

When your babe says 'if I was tired of her, no problem, good bye and thanks', That's a sign that she's just not into you and tired of the relationship.Rule number 1,never call and ask her 'WHY' she did not take ur call.That's being NEEDY and unnecessary emotional , Babes hate it in guys.If you mean something to her,she will do everything possible to get back to you, Or what do you think?

@Ms Eve - 'He let me know HE THE MAN and I let him think he is', Hmmmmm,Ms Eve,I like that.That's why am afraid of babes, Men always think that they are smart, living with this 'AM THE MAN' concept but ain't nothing, they don't know that as long as they get naked in front of a woman,they worth nothing anymore to her.She holds the remote and she knows the right button to press.She's still with you because she wants to to,not because of what he says or does.Listen guys,ideally on a first date,it's fine,as the first rule of dating,to pay for her meal, Never go dutch.However,if a woman insists and offers to pay for your meal,just go ahead and oblige her.She knows what she's doing, That you paid for the meal wouldn't make her like you and want to be with you,

Having Lunch with a Colleague and she asked me what kind of person I would want to love and be with, I just said someone not strong enough, Someone not strong enough to LET ME GO.

Folks,now your turn, What kind of person would you want to love and be with?

You guys are even talking about marriage, My own na serious case, , What is wrong with dating,these days?

I got to know a lady online. We exchanged very pleasant e-mail messages, then we talked on the phone, which was even better. We had a lot of common interests, and our personalities were quite similar to each other. We agreed to meet at a given place at a given time. She simply did not turn up, nor did she ever react to my subsequent phone calls or e-mails. There was absolutely no warning or any kind of prior disagreement or signs of brush-off.

Abeg people,is she Mammy Water?Because me I dey fear o.Do many ladies consider it natural to dump someone in this way?