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Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 7:14pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
coogar:Okay, I'm sorry dude for the outburst but this your premise makes a comedy of the marriage vows. Don't they count for anything again ? I don't get it. If OP is still in the forefront of those who has express right to that guy then where does the rightful wife stand. So becos the legitimate wife ain't got no kid yet she is disposable right ? You see this kinda suggestion coming from an exposed and educated fellow is just traumatising. Op is a pest in that mans home and she adequately needs to be isolated, quaratined and fumigated. SIMPLES. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by bjcole(m): 7:23pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
oga coogar, its only a fishy brain woman that will melt seeing her Ex lover, so many women dont know what they want, i wil never allow any ex lover becoming a friend 2 my wife, never, except she wants problem in d house, only God knows when these ladies wil wake up, its just all about sex, that what a man thinks abt, may be this one rib thing is what is causing the fish brain mentality i dont knw. what is d assurrance that d Op wil nt sleep wit this guy even when she is married 2 someone else. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by tpia1: 7:26pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
In fact i have to modify my post because the guy is probably anti-condom, in addition to everything else i noticed. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by tpia1: 7:27pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
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Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 7:27pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Okay, I'm sorry dude for the outburst but this your premise makes a comedy of the marriage vows. Don't they count for anything again ? I don't get it. If OP is still in the forefront of those who has express right to that guy then where does the rightful wife stand. sadly, the "rightful" wife is the fall-guy in this case. she was never loved - she was just the available babe used to spite the op! men do this a lot.....the moment they break up with a babe, they are already digging another to spite the ex....girls who allow themselves to be used as a second fiddle should have themselves to blame!
even if she has 20 kids, she was never loved - she was just an experiment to spite the op! lessons have been learnt by both parties now and they want to get back together....too bad for the rightful wife. she took someone else's man in the first instance! the question begs: why would any woman marry a babyfather and not expect this type of situation to develop? marrying a widower is a better option!
lmao @ op is a pest! there's a kid attached and as long as that son lives - the op and her ex would always be together. shyte is yet to even hit the fan......let the son start school with pta meetings, children events, etc that is when you would know women who marry babyfathers open themselves to fat risks! bjcole: oga coogar, its only a fishy brain woman that will melt seeing her Ex lover, so many women dont know what they want, i wil never allow any ex lover becoming a friend 2 my wife, never, except she wants problem in d house, only God knows when these ladies wil wake up, its just all about sex, that what a man thinks abt, may be this one rib thing is what is causing the fish brain mentality i dont knw. what is d assurrance that d Op wil nt sleep wit this guy even when she is married 2 someone else. if you marry a babymomma - her ex(the father of the child) would always come around - and there's nothing you can do about it! did you just say sex is what all men think about? |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 7:34pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
coogar:Words on the marble I'd say. But, what should women do. We all know there is not enough men to go round ? |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 7:42pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
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Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by tpia1: 7:42pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
There are enough men to go around but maybe not enough marriageable men to go around. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 7:43pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Words on the marble I'd say. But, what should women do. We all know there is not enough men to go round ? they should always insist on condoms.....or abstain from sex like my tpia.....tpia and i have been dating for a decade now: no sex! every of my advances have been resisted by her....that's the only solution. the ones who have already fallen to that pit should take heart! chaircover: coogar for all we know the wife at home may not even know that he man has a baby momma or kid. ignorance is not an excuse in court! women shouldn't just jump into marriage and take what men say. whose fault is it that she didn't do her due diligence to dig the history of the man she married?
some women are very good at hiding things too.... so many of them especially in this london left babies in naija and they are still wearing miniskirts n doing tattoos hoping to nail oblivious gullible men. the moral of the story is - find out about your spouse before you walk the aisle! |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by baby124: 7:48pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
OP, If you like, open your thing for the mumu again. Let him deposit 2 and 3 and then go and give wifey 1,2,3. Na today? The problem is yours will be illegitimate while his will be legal. You shortchanged yourself by not getting married to him if that was so important to you. You have a kid for him, that means what exactly? Omo don't dull o, he kept his wedding and engagement from you. Wedding and engagement if in the naija context is not a small deal. Odds are what he is doing with you is a secret too. Anyway, na you get your life. Give yourself brain and RUN, time waits for no man. People never learn from Tuface, you have kids for a man means nada. Matter of fact, the more kids out of wedlock the more likely you would be left holding the bag. ![]() |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 7:54pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Coogar you really are a phenomenom. You mean the legitimate wife is at fault while this 'funky' (for want of better words) poster is a saint ? There is no doubt about it, you must be one of the top contenders for the first black Mister bean character. And thank you baby123, you just saved my life. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 7:54pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
tpia1: There are enough men to go around but maybe not enough marriageable men to go around. define marriageable... Guitarlife: Coogar you really are a phenomenom. You mean the legitimate wife is at fault while this 'funky' (for want of better words) poster is a saint ? There is no doubt about it, you must be one of the top contenders for the first black Mister bean character. she's not a saint - she admitted that in her opening post -something that is very rare in this section so she's honest! the legitimate wife is not necessarily at fault - she's just the fall guy. there's an african adage that says the grass bears the brunt when 2 angry elephants fight! the wife is the grass. ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 7:59pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
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Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 8:02pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
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Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by baby124: 8:02pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Coogar you really are a phenomenom. You mean the legitimate wife is at fault while this 'funky' (for want of better words) poster is a saint ? There is no doubt about it, you must be one of the top contenders for the first black Mister bean character.Don't mind her, her eye never clear. She will soon hear that wifey has 5kids ready to knock her son out when the time for property comes. But all through that time she will be listening to stories about "oh, my wife is a witch she jazzed me, its you I love" (wifey will drop 2). "Oh my wife smells I don't even sleep with her again"(wifey will drop another 2). "Oh, I don't think those kids are mine don't mind her, we are getting divorced"(another3). Lol. Like I said, she's got hee life to live. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 8:04pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
chaircover: people would forever keep secrets of their dark patches.....that's a natural phenomenon. if i go on to make a whöre a housewife then the blame is on my wife? of course, she knows if she told me such there's a tendency i would not marry her - and that's life for you!
fair enough but still - every woman should dig the history of her spouse.....same applies to men. it's a competitive world out there and no one wants to be left out. prostitutës would mask themselves like nuns. drug addicts would pretend to be gentlemen... |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by EfemenaXY: 8:37pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Annie1: Immature games, games, games and more games. They're both as bad as each other. I bet Annie knows the reason behind her ex's separation from his wife. She needs to throw further light on this story... |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Efemena_xy:Efe abeg leave matter for martha jare. You no see say OP don run away. As we ever dependable detective don beam light for her nyansh now she don run comot. This is just too obvious , OP only needs people to help her go about smearing her conciense with a hot iron so she can set about her infamous mission of tearing a happy family apart. OP, I say shame on you *claps over her head* |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by EfemenaXY: 8:53pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
^^ Abeg modify your last sentence jor! You be woman? Why you wan clap over her head like that? ![]() |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 8:57pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: Immature games, games games. she's probably casting a spell on them....... you know - voodoo dolls, pins and fasteners! efe - you should be working for efcc/sss in nigeria! |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by EfemenaXY: 9:02pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
coogar: ![]() ![]() Thanks, but no thanks! ![]() |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 9:04pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: ^^ Abeg modify your last sentence jor!A dose of melodrama wouldn't hurt would it ? Infact it's significant in order to drive home the point. *gives her an empty tin of bournvita and a stone* here you can beat that so you won't be left out. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by armyofone(m): 9:49pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
There is a kid between both of you right? Ask him for upkeep or to increase what he is currently paying and see if he will come near you. Girl, shine ya eyes and don't allow him eat cakes from both side. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Annie1: 9:58pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
@ Coogar .. Thank you so much , u put a big smile on my face ![]() To the ppl that , that have called me names .aka fish brains , hmmmmm if only u knew No , i havent slept With him and I'm not trying to break up their home ..if I was , I won't have started this thread I m very sure the wife knows about his son , he calls him most evenings to speak to him, even before he got married . He skypes him , when he's out of town , he set up a monthly direct debit , I really don't think he's trying to hide anything .. But then who knows |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 10:21pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Annie1: @ Coogar .. Thank you so much , u put a big smile on my faceHeheheee you sef go fear nah. After e don use you shine finish you go talk say dem warn you for NL. The man obviously has no values, he has no ethics, his moral sense of responsibility is nill. How can a man be asking another woman to warm his bed a year into his marriage when he should still be in honeymoon ? He obviously does not have respect for the institution of marriage, he is depraved. The fact that you are attracted to such a skunk shows just how deficient your value system is. Well, marry him. You both deserve each other. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by coogar: 10:28pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Guitarlife: you are taking this rather too personal - why are you so passionate about this story? look around you, this shyte happens all the time! the institution of marriage has been devalued many many moons ago......it's just a piece of paper these days! it's not the op's fault her ex wants to get back with her.... Annie1: @ Coogar .. Thank you so much , u put a big smile on my face don't mind the fish-brains brigade....... it's the way we roll here......batter the posters that are honest enough to admit their guilt and sympathise with the ones who come here to lie! test your ex's loyalty - if he passes the acid tests and he goes ahead to divorce his wife, kindly take the offer for the sake of your child. kids are more balanced with 2 parents in their lives...... |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 11:47pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
@OP You are a woman just like his wife. Never and I repeat never tell him to go get a divorce. If he wants a divorce, he knows how to go about it. Do not get involved. May it not be recorded in a book one day that you asked a married man to divorce his wife. As a Christian, I am against such. He is asking you to give him the go ahead do not give it to him. He has to be responsible for his own actions and make his own decision. Listen, your ex is scared of ending up alone. A man who really wants to divorce his wife will do so because he has to for reasons best known to them and not because You told him to. He wants to eat his cake and have it and its so unfair. Look at him trying to secure a woman before divorcing his wife that is why he is waiting for your go ahead. Stay away from a married man. You have a child. The life I live, I live for God, myself and my kids. The lives my parents live they did for us lest we suffer for their own sins. You have a child, do not rope him into this and if you were my sister, I would be very cross with you. You are not the first to have a child out of wedlock and you will not be the last. You MUST not marry your baby daddy. Stay away from that married man and this coming from a married woman 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 11:54pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
The biggest mistake you will make is marry for the sake of your child. Don't ever make that mistake, marry because you are ready for it, get married because you can handle the challenges that comes with marriage physically mentally emotionally and what not. Marry because you really love the man, no child should grow up in a home where mum and dad despise each other. No child should grow up in a home where peace is lacking. A child deserves a home filled with love and affection. Marry because you see the person worthy enough to be a father to your child. Your child cannot make that decision for you, you've got to make it for you and your son 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 11:54pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
I wish you all the best. |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 12:42am On Nov 24, 2012 |
debrief08: Okay, more complicated than I imagined, hmmmm, I feel sorry for the poor woman you people brought into this mess. Aiyaiya!!! Debrief you are too much! Muah muah muah ....that's the cut short story...poor woman in the middle but who knows ? It might be karma for her too.... Orisirisi!!! Mind games!! 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Kobojunkie: 6:05am On Nov 24, 2012 |
Annie1: My baby daddy more like . This is a good example of why mothers of Africa(blacks especially) need to wake up and start teaching their daughters right. How can any sane individual, raised well by a good mother, post this nonsense? How can any self-respecting individual even consider getting back with someone who is ALREADY MARRIED AND MOVED ON? How can someone be so brainless, and so wicked at the same time, as to consider getting back with someone who dumped her like a piece of dirty rag, went as far as to get married, and now pretends she is the only reason he has to contemplate divorce from a marriage that is not even **3 days old? For all you women who think men get married to get back at you, I say you get off that space dust you are on. No man goes to marry another woman to piss you off. Mentality stable Women don't do it so why would a mentally stable man do it? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by Nobody: 6:16am On Nov 24, 2012 |
@kobo you sounded bery judgmental and very sure of what you are talking about....first of all ..do you know how she was raised? second of all.... he did not dump her...these two idiots are in love, still in love and always in love...I am sorry for the lady caught in this web(who know what she has done in the past...what you sow you reap my people say)) but let all of una just be honest ...I know this is a family forum and everybody is on the married side cos thats the right thing to do blah blah BUT OP is human too...sorry it is what it is...I'd say go get your man and its your choice...My 2cents...Be sure! I repeat be sure the divorce is final before you take this to the next level. I know some people will be very disappointed with this post BUT I am just being realistic! Some people just need to CHILL!! Like for real!! Give her a break joor |
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