This is the point, we need to differentiate between the man-woman and husband-wife paradigm. No woman is inferior to a man but a wife should submit to her husband because he is the head of the home.

Finally ehn, everybody(Femme) here just dey yarn rubbish. We all know what happens at home. " Honey can i have my food now? Thank you."

Duke_Nija: Finally ehn, everybody(Femme) here just dey yarn rubbish. We all know what happens at home. " Honey can i have my food now? Thank you."

You just proved the point, lol!

" Honey can i have my food now? Thank you."

Anything less may result in the wife giving him an earful on the proper way to address her. Lol. The man is the head of the home and should lead with love.

queensmith, get yourself in the kitchen i want to eat, and when you through i will have your arse

taryour:

u realy got me laffing here. Let me explain to u well, this account by d name taryour was formerly used by my cousin who is male since i ad a little problem opening a new account for myself i decided to use his snc he was no longer intrested in d account,all i did was change d sex from M to F. As u would av noticed dat post as been there snc years back,so y not check d recent post from ,my fear of dilevery n downwards. But if u still think oderwise dat am male den goodluck to u ooo.

I love u girl.lol.

Tayour na wah 4 you o! So u intend to raise your daughters believing they are not equal to their brothers? My dear women are EQUAL to every man she meets where ever they are. We are to submit to our husband not to every man you see on the road. I was raised mostly by my father(I lost my Mum when i was really young) and he raised us all equal. Everybody cooked, everybody changed light bulbs, everybody washed dishes, everybody fixed pumping machine. My father told me, he would educate me to any level i want to empower me so no man will treat me anyhow. I will raise my children the same. I am to submit to my husband and he is to love me as he loves himself. I will not subit to the man on the street, not only am I equal to them, i am even better! Yes o, feminine power.
You tell me I'm not equal to a man so he shd earn more? Or you think its cool that as a woman I cannot post bail? Get some self esteem woman and pick urself out of that gutter.

As is common with women when arguing everyone forgot the main theme of the poster's message and is harping on the one misconstrued opinion among the many she put up there. I bow fr una.

queensmith:

By your own admission we are not equal, you are inferior to me. I don't have to respect you since you are below me. i am your master and you are the doggy

even this egbo sniffing rabid dog thinks someone else is her dog? wsne
i see she is consumed with the desire to be master. Sorry boo, until you can urinate without squatting or spilling it all over your legs, keep dreaming

OP, MTFBWY. Your head dey there!

@Kevin you obviously didn't read the other comments and the poster's message well. The poster's message raised other questions that others are addressing. Of course some went off tangent but I can only say to have discretion and see the main points raised (there's no need for the sexist remark). Start with the title of the thread.

ijebabe: @Kevin you obviously didn't read the other comments and the poster's message well. The poster's message raised other questions that others are addressing. Of course some went off tangent but I can only say to have discretion and see the main points raised (there's no need for the sexist remark). Start with the title of the thread.

you vultures were quick to devour her, she meant it in terms of marriage, free her jor

taryour: Impossible!! A Man & A Woman Can Never & Will Never Be Equal.

Many times, I have heard some women claiming equality with men. Its a sin and we cant reverse God words that A MAN IS THE HEAD OF A WOMAN. It is only an insane woman that will claim equality with her husband. No reason whatsoever makes us equal.

As mothers do we intend training our female children into believing they are equal to their brothers and the male they meet in life?

Sorry were you hallucinating when you wrote this past part of your post? Seriously I should be bowing down for any man I meet on the street for the sole fact that they have a penis and I don't?

The Bible spoke about the roles of the spouses (MARRIAGE MY DEAR). Wetin you come dey yarn for here?

You being married doesn't make you a guru. With or without a ring, you remain a dumbass, really. Because you don see one prick settle with, you think you have gained the authority to speak rubbish. There are many feminists and non who are having better and happier marriages than you, yet they have enough common sense to shut up when they don't have anything meaningful to say.

Supposedly my mom gives birth again now, as old as I am, because say the pikin na male, make I come dey kneel down dey greet am abi? Stop smoking cheap weed, in fact don't smoke at all.

Rubbish!

Women takes it easy with OP. She started the thread with the aim of teaching you ladies the need to learn to be submissive to your husbands in particular and yes men in general (when the need arises).

If you have a girl that has been allowed to yell at and punch her brothers, do you think she will not try the same with her husband? Of course, a boy would know better not to lay a hand on his sister and if he does, would get punished under our culture. So, take the best of OP's advice and moderate the rest she might not have expressed in the best way possible.

Let's face it, most of you castigating OP are submissive to your husbands, that is why you have a relatively smooth marriage. You don't want the unmarried ones to start giving "attitude" to their (prospective) husbands. Let us stay calm here.

michelin89:

Sorry were you hallucinating when you wrote this past part of your post? Seriously I should be bowing down for any man I meet on the street for the sole fact that they have a penis and I don't?

The Bible spoke about the roles of the spouses (MARRIAGE MY DEAR). Wetin you come dey yarn for here?

You being married doesn't make you a guru. With or without a ring, you remain a dumbass, really. Because you don see one prick settle with, you think you have gained the authority to speak rubbish. There are many feminists and non who are having better and happier marriages than you, yet they have enough common sense to shut up when they don't have anything meaningful to say.

Supposedly my mom gives birth again now, as old as I am, because say the pikin na male, make I come dey kneel down dey greet am abi? Stop smoking cheap weed, in fact don't smoke at all.

Rubbish!

It is not like that. However, when that newborn hypothetical baby brother of yours reaches a certain age, you hand over somethings to him to handle, not because you are stupid but because that is the way things work best. Nobody will need to tell him when to run to big sister for help when he needs it!

ROTFLMAO @ Michelin tyre's post.

Worst off was trying to tell us To treat our daughters like they are inferior. If them send you, tell them say you no see me. Mumu

ijebabe: @Kevin you obviously didn't read the other comments and the poster's message well. The poster's message raised other questions that others are addressing. Of course some went off tangent but I can only say to have discretion and see the main points raised (there's no need for the sexist remark). Start with the title of the thread.

I will repeat again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with the poster's opinion, except the last sentence if taken literally. And you all know it. The theme of the message is clear and in the right place so you all should stop with the castigation. We all know what she meant - it applies to marriage ultimately, so let's stop pretending like we are trying to correct the poster when it is in fact a case of 'we have found a prey and are teneciously holding it by the neck and won't let go.'
Check out the first few replies. They understood the message and replied in like manner until rokiatu pointed out the last sentence of the post and everyone joined in the butchering. Just spare us the preaching.
Btw, I am deliberately sexist only to half-brained confused feminists who deny the natural order of things cos of their insecurities. Feminism has outlived its purpose cos most modern societal laws are based on equity and recognize to err in favor of the woman and child. We are no longer in the stone ages, cmon!

@ maclatunji, none of the women here are saying we shudn't be submissive to our husbands, we are all saying that in a marriage the woman is neither superior nor inferior to the man, effort is needed from both sides to make it work.
@ Op I feel sad for you children, I remember back in high school there was a boy whose parents had brought him up to feel superior to girls, once the teacher leaves class, he'll say no girl shud open her mouth and talk, not even whisper, we cudn't even laff, woe betide you, and you open ur mouth, he'll get up and beat you.
Even when we reported to teachers, they'll flog him and he'll come back and beat us again, this continued till one day, a girl got up and gave him the beating of his life after then he cooled down.
OP, imagine if you continue this girls are inferior crap, and your daughter grows to become a minister in future, while your son is struggling in life, do you think your son will want to ask for help from someone he feels is inferior.
I think you'll just be sowing seeds of discord in your children.

steph7: @ maclatunji, none of the women here are saying we shudn't be submissive to our husbands, we are all saying that in a marriage the woman is neither superior nor inferior to the man, effort is needed from both sides to make it work.
@ Op I feel sad for you children, I remember back in high school there was a boy whose parents had brought him up to feel superior to girls, once the teacher leaves class, he'll say no girl shud open her mouth and talk, not even whisper, we cudn't even laff, woe betide you, and you open ur mouth, he'll get up and beat you.
Even when we reported to teachers, they'll flog him and he'll come back and beat us again, this continued till one day, a girl got up and gave him the beating of his life after then he cooled down.
OP, imagine if you continue this girls are inferior crap, and your daughter grows to become a minister in future, while your son is struggling in life, do you think your son will want to ask for help from someone he feels is inferior.
I think you'll just be sowing seeds of discord in your children.

Are you sure that girl was not me?

I grew up among Nigerians. While women are breaking their heads over being respectful to men, these same men don't give a hoot about being respectful to women.

For what women do and what they are, they should be treated and revered as queens. But then you'll see a man calling a woman prostitute and all sorts of names, while he has a mother at home and in that same place, some women will join hands with him to insult her. Na woman wan kill herself because she wan marry man. But they don't care about respecting their fellow women, nor do men about respecting their female counterparts.

I respect those who respect me; because if you say for Naija u wan dey respect pigs and dogs, they'll treat you worse than a pig and a dog. Just my two cents.

@jenny kadry, its not you, you're too old to be the girl.

michelin89: I grew up among Nigerians. While women are breaking their heads over being respectful to men, these same men don't give a hoot about being respectful to women.

For what women do and what they are, they should be treated and revered as queens. But then you'll see a man calling a woman prostitute and all sorts of names, while he has a mother at home and in that same place, some women will join hands with him to insult her. Na woman wan kill herself because she wan marry man. But they don't care about respecting their fellow women, nor do men about respecting their female counterparts.

I respect those who respect me; because if you say for Naija u wan dey respect pigs and dogs, they'll treat you worse than a pig and a dog. Just my two cents.

This is the most incoherent post I have read today. Calm down, I guess you ladies are on the offensive because you don't want ridicule to come your way (which is right and natural). However, the means to achieve that is not trying to become men or stop being women. I know you are not doing that- right? Just keep it at the back of your mind though.

LMAO Steph7, your "woe betide you" line just took me back to high school

I remember my friends and I were caught once during one of our "fly fence escapades" and the teacher that caught us was our Sports teacher and he only caught us because one stoopid girl got caught in the fence and couldn't jump down Anyways when they lined us up in the principal's office for our punishment, this same male teacher was fuming, like you could see the anger was going to rip him apart. After a few minutes he turned to us and was like . . . . " You people never attend our sport events because you(he pointed to me)said you have ulcer and it affects you when you run(yea one of my numerous lies) pointed to another friend of mine and was like "You because you said you have some leg disability, he kept going on and on because there were 6 of us and then all of a sudden we heard him say "How did you people even do it? how did yous climb that high fence? woe betide yous if I don't see yous doing something for your sport house"

Kevin_II:
I will repeat again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with the poster's opinion, except the last sentence if taken literally. And you all know it. The theme of the message is clear and in the right place so you all should stop with the castigation. We all know what she meant - it applies to marriage ultimately, so let's stop pretending like we are trying to correct the poster when it is in fact a case of 'we have found a prey and are teneciously holding it by the neck and won't let go.'
Check out the first few replies. They understood the message and replied in like manner until rokiatu pointed out the last sentence of the post and everyone joined in the butchering. Just spare us the preaching.
Btw, I am deliberately sexist only to half-brained confused feminists who deny the natural order of things cos of their insecurities. Feminism has outlived its purpose cos most modern societal laws are based on equity and recognize to err in favor of the woman and child. We are no longer in the stone ages, cmon!

While trying to be objective and clear headed, you are making the matter worse than it is. My comments are for the public to see so please point out where (as you put it) I 'tenaciously' attacked the 'prey' and 'joined in the butchering'. If there is nothing in my comments that suggest this then what is all the back and forth about?

maclatunji:

This is the most incoherent post I have read today. Calm down, I guess you ladies are on the offensive because you don't want ridicule to come your way (which is right and natural). However, the means to achieve that is not trying to become men or stop being women. I know you are not doing that- right? Just keep it at the back of your mind though.

I'm not being incoherent, but speaking the truth. The way women are obsessed with this male respect of a thing, I don't see women making the same effort to be respectful to other women, nor do I say men stressing other men to be respectful to women.

steph7: @jenny kadry, its not you, you're too old to be the girl.

Hold it there ma. Are you trying to remind me that I just turned 64? Stop it right now

I am still sexy naaa . Singing LMFAO's I'm sexy and I know it

michelin89:

I'm not being incoherent, but speaking the truth. The way women are obsessed with this male respect of a thing, I don't see women making the same effort to be respectful to other women, nor do I say men stressing other men to be respectful to women.

MICHELIN YOU DISAPPOINT ME, SMDH

michelin89:

I'm not being incoherent, but speaking the truth. The way women are obsessed with this male respect of a thing, I don't see women making the same effort to be respectful to other women, nor do I say men stressing other men to be respectful to women.

If it will make you feel better, we will start stressing it, just don't go and fall our hand like Jenny and her friends felled the hand of their male sports teacher who was being such a considerate gentleman until "the fence" episode.

I totally believe that there is no reason for a woman to feel inferior to her male counterparts. It is only religion that will brainwash its female adherents into believing that they are lesser human beings than their male counterparts, that is one of the most ridiculous propositions ever made. Most (if not all) achievements by males have been equalled (if not surpassed) by females. It takes religion for a supposedly normal human being to make these kinds of ridiculous, and baseless insinuations!

jennykadry: LMAO Steph7, your "woe betide you" line just took me back to high school

I remember my friends and I were caught once during one of our "fly fence escapades" and the teacher that caught us was our Sports teacher and he only caught us because one stoopid girl got caught in the fence and couldn't jump down Anyways when they lined us up in the principal's office for our punishment, this same male teacher was fuming, like you could see the anger was going to rip him apart. After a few minutes he turned to us and was like . . . . " You people never attend our sport events because you(he pointed to me)said you have ulcer and it affects you when you run(yea one of my numerous lies) pointed to another friend of mine and was like "You because you said you have some leg disability, he kept going on and on because there were 6 of us and then all of a sudden we heard him say "How did you people even do it? how did yous climb that high fence? woe betide yous if I don't see yous doing something for your sport house"

I tot it was only my high school that people used to lie to avoid sports. The choice illness was knee pain, that's when I even heard of juvenile arthritis. The irony of it all was that everyone wanted to be sports club, so they could lazy about since there was only one coach and he couldn't watch everyone, so that when we used to do our bf/gf runs

claremont: I totally believe that there is no reason for a woman to feel inferior to her male counterparts. It is only religion that will brainwash its female adherents into believing that they are lesser human beings than their male counterparts, that is one of the most ridiculous propositions ever made. Most (if not all) achievements by males have been equalled (if not surpassed) by females. It takes religion for a supposedly normal human being to make these kinds of ridiculous, and baseless insinuations!

we know your type, now run along

A man is a man and a woman is a woman. There are certain things that women can do that man can't and vice versa. Based on this premise, I'd say no one is superior to the other. However a man should be accorded the respect a man deserves from a woman and a woman too should be accorded her own respect as well. For example, a girl should be the one to cook in the house and serve the boy even if the boy is her junior; similarly a boy should be the one to do all the manual and energy sapping work in the house even if he has a girl that he seniors.

Conclusively, a man is the boss over his wife but that does not make her his slave. They are to love and respect each other mutually. The man should love and adore his wife while his wife should be submissive to him. This is my own opinion.

ijebabe:

While trying to be objective and clear headed, you are making the matter worse than it is. My comments are for the public to see so please point out where (as you put it) I 'tenaciously' attacked the 'prey' and 'joined in the butchering'. If there is nothing in my comments that suggest this then what is all the back and forth about?

babe, I was not referring to your comment in particular. You said 'you obviously didn't read the other posts and the poster's message well' and that was what I was addressing. Nothing do you, matter of fact I'm in complete agreement with your first post up there.